FabSwingers.com forum: Couple want to seduce a vanilla friend

By *anccpl OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

Any ideas on how we could start the ball rolling? Any experience of the same?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think you first need to find out if the person wants to be seduction. A seduction deduction, if you will.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I think you first need to find out if the person wants to be seduction. A seduction deduction, if you will. "

Seducted even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any ideas on how we could start the ball rolling? Any experience of the same? "
get the vanilla ice cream off of him first then off you go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you first need to find out if the person wants to be seduction. A seduction deduction, if you will.

Seducted even

Do you mean _educed?

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By *anccpl OP Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

Seduction deduction. Love it!

He's a she btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proceed with caution. Your unicorn fantasy might not be hers, and you risk changing and ruining your friendship. What's more important to you?

If you go for it I hope it works, that would be awesome

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I think you first need to find out if the person wants to be seduction. A seduction deduction, if you will.

Seducted even

Do you mean _educed?

Oh for Christ sake yes!!! I've been using the wrong words all morning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you first need to find out if the person wants to be seduction. A seduction deduction, if you will.

Seducted even

Do you mean _educed?

Oh for Christ sake yes!!! I've been using the wrong words all morning! "

lol "Seducted!" Brilliant!! That tickled me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seduction deduction. Love it!

He's a she btw

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oh a she ,that's why you use that terrible label "vanilla" because she hasn't opened up to you about her fantasies trouble with gaining a sexual friend you may lose a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just day to her "guess which one of us wants to fuck you, and here's a clue, you can't get it wrong" just make sure there is nothing for her to trip over as she bolts for the door lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing worse than predatory Swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing worse than predatory Swingers.

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hehe does that translate to sex pests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing worse than predatory Swingers.

Apart from predatory pedophiles, that's much worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm soooo stealing seducted

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I think you first need to find out if the person wants to be seduction. A seduction deduction, if you will.

Seducted even

Do you mean _educed?

I've nothing to do with this!

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I think you first need to find out if the person wants to be seduction. A seduction deduction, if you will.

Seducted even

Do you mean _educed?

I've nothing to do with this!

Although, I wish I had called myself Seducted now.

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By *hocmanxMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Any ideas on how we could start the ball rolling? Any experience of the same? "

Make it fun by playing something like Twister. And suggest "making it interesting" by removing an item of clothing everytime you fail.

Or play truth or dare etc.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

It could spoil a friendship leave well alone it happened to us a bit of flirting one night got out of hand.

We tried to put it down to drink but she was not having any off it in the light of the day

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By *hocmanxMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"It could spoil a friendship leave well alone it happened to us a bit of flirting one night got out of hand.

We tried to put it down to drink but she was not having any off it in the light of the day "

I agree completely I've actually seen a little fun ruin friendships. There's always a chance they will develop deeper feelings (especially if you give her a bloody good seeing to

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

we had this with a vanilla girl, ex work colleague who had realised we had a relationship and was very intrigued. We both had texts frequently off her saying she'd like to meet up with us and quite flirty. So we met up at Xmas and she announced that she was pregnant again (unplanned) and we've never seen her again sadly. But was very exciting when it was a " that might happen " situation. good lukc OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing worse than predatory Swingers.

unless the person has made it clear that they may be interested then I totally agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing worse than predatory Swingers.

unless the person has made it clear that they may be interested then I totally agree with this.

Have to agree with this .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won't know if a person is willing to do this if you don't ask. My friend,although she knows I'm very open minded and I've known her for 25 years,had no idea if I was into women and started a conversation about giving woman oral and 3 somes with her boyfriend. She said she wanted to do it,I said I would try it,she arranged it and we did it a few times. I didn't feel like prey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You won't know if a person is willing to do this if you don't ask. My friend,although she knows I'm very open minded and I've known her for 25 years,had no idea if I was into women and started a conversation about giving woman oral and 3 somes with her boyfriend. She said she wanted to do it,I said I would try it,she arranged it and we did it a few times. I didn't feel like prey."

That's what I mean , if she wants to try it then the op should go for it .

There will still be a risk of losing her friendship though .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also if you think you need alcohol to seduce them (and I accept that's an assumption on my part) then you are deliberately influencing their liklihood to consent. But that's not seducing anyone, at best it's taking advantage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, attempting to seduce a friend would tell me that my kicks are more important to me than the friendship.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get your female half to have too tell her she was asked to join a couple for a threesome and say I wasn't sure if I was offended or turned on what would you do at least then you'll get an idea of she's open to the general idea

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Nothing worse than predatory Swingers.

unless the person has made it clear that they may be interested then I totally agree with this.

And me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to find out 1st if they're up for being _educed.

Wasn't a friend but a couple I met on holiday many years ago & befriended did this one evening and it was really akward as I didn't fancy them. Ruined the holiday friendship too as i feel they took advantage of the dynamics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need to find out 1st if they're up for being _educed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on how the subject is brought up. In your case it seemed quite natural.

I know I'm probably focusing too much on the word 'seduce' but to me that seems a bit creepy. (I'm not suggesting the OP is creepy, just the implied situation.) Much like the situation that Roxi described. If it makes someone uncomfortable then I think it's wrong.

Brought up carefully in a conversation and being respectful of how the other person/ people respond, would be different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is all a bit predatory isn't it? This person is meant to be your friend, and you're discussing with strangers on the Internet how you're going to lure her into bed?

Seems a bit unsavoury if you ask me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I probably come across as a right frigid old bat on here... But.. It just seems to me that sometimes because on here we can be quite open talking about sex and swinging etc, it can be easy to forget that some people 'outside' the swinging world might not be quite so open to discussing sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I probably come across as a right frigid old bat on here... But.. It just seems to me that sometimes because on here we can be quite open talking about sex and swinging etc, it can be easy to forget that some people 'outside' the swinging world might not be quite so open to discussing sex.

Exactly. Most people don't even consider these things, and to imagine your friends talking about you as a conquest doesn't feel very nice.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I agree except about the frigid old bat bit...you aren't d

Broadening things out a bit (I'm not referring to the op here). I do notice among some swingers an attitude that "vanilla" (how I hate that word in this context) people are missing out and need to be introduced to the wonderful world of casual sex with multiple partners or more usually girl on girl sex. Then I see threads bemoaning the lack of meets or suitable meets and my head explodes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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you don't come across as frigid far from it ,your humour is like mine misunderstood sometimes and yes I agree many especially women don't like discussing sex openly and if a friend ,they could lose that friend ,what's more important a friend or sex ,I know what my answer is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree except about the frigid old bat bit...you aren't d

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"Any ideas on how we could start the ball rolling? Any experience of the same? "

Im assuming this is a woman. First. Does she know you swing. If not you could let her know you do and see the reaction...are we tslking about a single..she will need to fancy one of you a bit... and its a matter of "have you ever wondered what it might be like to...etc etc". Or you could do what Sally Bowles told Fritz... "you could pounce, darling".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was somewhat _educed into my first threesome, but I was already attracted to them both, he & I had discussed it and so had he & she separately, but I already knew they were into swinging, but I wasn't on here at that stage.

I think that depending on dynamics it could work. But if it's cold calling on someone who's not into swinging or something similar then it's a bit grim.

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