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By *rtemisia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

If this is included in a message I get, it makes me not want to respond even if I was going to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Tend to delete and move on tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do as you're told woman! Pfft!

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By *rtemisia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich


"Do as you're told woman! Pfft!

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Yes Sir!!!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'd rather you'd respond indecently

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Unsurprisingly it's not a scenario us blokes tend to have to make a decision about

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"If this is included in a message I get, it makes me not want to respond even if I was going to! "

It's like being part of the Rebel Alliance, ain't it just?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Yep I'm with you,especially if I have that I'm not meeting at the mo and they still message. Hate being told what to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just laugh and think "uh-oh, a 'nice guy'"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is usually written by someone who is totally unsuitable anyway so I never bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete,next!!

The song 'you don't own me' is playing in my mind ~ Don't tell me what to do.......!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Desperation.... Never attractive...

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl

I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do men seriously put that in messages?!

Omg. Well, their loss. Makes it even stranger why I don't get messages back then!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just laugh and think "uh-oh, a 'nice guy'""

A nice guy?

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We find it very off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just laugh and think "uh-oh, a 'nice guy'"

A nice guy? "

Self-proclaimed "nice-guy".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Nice+Guy+Syndrome

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye "

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly?

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"I just laugh and think "uh-oh, a 'nice guy'"

A nice guy?

Self-proclaimed "nice-guy"."

what's wrong with nice guys Someone got to like them lol

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly?"

I declined because she was a very very big girl and her message was desperate how it came across .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to all first mails because I think it's rude not to.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly? I declined because she was a very very big girl and her message was desperate how it came across . "

Oh ok,you just lost me a bit,which doesn't take much I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly?"

A man is surely entitled to decline for any reason he wishes, just as women and couples are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's disrespectful from the start.

Who would want to respond to someone like that...

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly?

A man is surely entitled to decline for any reason he wishes, just as women and couples are "

Of course they are,I knew someone would misunderstand my reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must say I do get fed up of those sort of messages. I think out of all the messages I've had probably a handful of them were polite and respectful and made an effort. Those messages deserve a reply. Others just get ignored.If I replied to all I wouldn't get no sleep. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always respond to nicely written messages. Comments like that do not go in the nice pile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not one for doing as I'm told...

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yeah.... No one gets to decide on how "decent" I am based on whether or not I reply to messages...

I reply to all messages I receive but that's cos I don't get that many, and I have the time.

I don't think people who don't reply to all messages are rude though. I think we're all allowed to deal with messages in our own way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not one for doing as I'm told..."

Snap...only when I'm naked

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I'm not one for doing as I'm told..."

Do not let me fuck you. Ever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not one for doing as I'm told...

Snap...only when I'm naked "

That's when I'm even less likely....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not one for doing as I'm told...

Do not let me fuck you. Ever!"

I see what you did there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just sounds desperate! Probably is....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always respond to nicely written messages. Comments like that do not go in the nice pile. "

Totally agree. If someones taken the time to be polite and write a respectful message it deserves to be responded to whether they're what you're looking for or not. Manners cost nothing. But I do understand that some ladies on here are inundated and cant possibly respond to every message they get. Doesn't give anyone the right to be abusive or forceful though. Little bit of respect goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never do what I'm told .Some messages are just rude and not worth a response .Seems to be alot of deluded idiots in the north east ,think I need to move or leave .

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By *ssexcokMan
over a year ago

southend

Its nice to get a responses even if no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always respond to nicely written messages. Comments like that do not go in the nice pile.

Totally agree. If someones taken the time to be polite and write a respectful message it deserves to be responded to whether they're what you're looking for or not. Manners cost nothing. But I do understand that some ladies on here are inundated and cant possibly respond to every message they get. Doesn't give anyone the right to be abusive or forceful though. Little bit of respect goes a long way."

See, to me, it's common courtesy to send a face pic with a first message if they don't have any in public on their profile so no matter how polite the message is, if there's no face pic attached, I don't think I should have to reply.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"If this is included in a message I get, it makes me not want to respond even if I was going to! "

If its in the profile somewhere I don't even open the message.

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"Yeah.... No one gets to decide on how "decent" I am based on whether or not I reply to messages...

I reply to all messages I receive but that's cos I don't get that many, and I have the time.

I don't think people who don't reply to all messages are rude though. I think we're all allowed to deal with messages in our own way."

Just looked at your pics you should flooded with messages

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I like responsive ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always respond to nicely written messages. Comments like that do not go in the nice pile.

Totally agree. If someones taken the time to be polite and write a respectful message it deserves to be responded to whether they're what you're looking for or not. Manners cost nothing. But I do understand that some ladies on here are inundated and cant possibly respond to every message they get. Doesn't give anyone the right to be abusive or forceful though. Little bit of respect goes a long way.

See, to me, it's common courtesy to send a face pic with a first message if they don't have any in public on their profile so no matter how polite the message is, if there's no face pic attached, I don't think I should have to reply."

Agree!

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly? I declined because she was a very very big girl and her message was desperate how it came across .

Oh ok,you just lost me a bit,which doesn't take much I know"

it would be like me asking you if you would get with a fat guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys put that in a message!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh so that's where I'm going wrong and there's me thinking its cause I'm old

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly? I declined because she was a very very big girl and her message was desperate how it came across .

Oh ok,you just lost me a bit,which doesn't take much I know it would be like me asking you if you would get with a fat guy? "

To me it just sounded like you declined her because she gave you her number

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"I'm not one for doing as I'm told..."
I never done what I'm told rebel toothed end

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples


"If this is included in a message I get, it makes me not want to respond even if I was going to! "

Completely this.

On the whole, I tend to reply to most messages I get. It's only the ones that have blatantly not read my profile or are obviously cut and paste that I don't

But when I see this in a message, instantly turns me off, even if I would have been interested in meeting, I won't if this us in a message as it just stinks of entitlement to me

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong


"Yep I'm with you,especially if I have that I'm not meeting at the mo and they still message. Hate being told what to do "

I have this and sometimes ask them which bit of I'm not meeting do they not understand, obviously I'm not meeting anyone new at the moment doesn't apply to them!!!!

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly? I declined because she was a very very big girl and her message was desperate how it came across .

Oh ok,you just lost me a bit,which doesn't take much I know it would be like me asking you if you would get with a fat guy?

To me it just sounded like you declined her because she gave you her number "

no I declined because she was a little to big and I like intelligent woman .just wasn't for me basically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often decline women. I'm not allowing myself to play with them at this present time

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly? I declined because she was a very very big girl and her message was desperate how it came across .

Oh ok,you just lost me a bit,which doesn't take much I know it would be like me asking you if you would get with a fat guy?

To me it just sounded like you declined her because she gave you her number no I declined because she was a little to big and I like intelligent woman .just wasn't for me basically "

Ok,but what's that got to do with the original post?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"If this is included in a message I get, it makes me not want to respond even if I was going to! "

Same here. If it's in their profile it has the same effect. If they say "manners cost nothing", they are almost guaranteed I won't reply.

I hate being told what to do at the best of times and being told I must use my time to reply, when they CHOSE to use their time to message me, hacks me off.

It also means that unless I specifically block them, they can still bother me in future, even if I put my mail filters on again.

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly? I declined because she was a very very big girl and her message was desperate how it came across .

Oh ok,you just lost me a bit,which doesn't take much I know it would be like me asking you if you would get with a fat guy?

To me it just sounded like you declined her because she gave you her number no I declined because she was a little to big and I like intelligent woman .just wasn't for me basically

Ok,but what's that got to do with the original post? "

it has a lot to do with the question because I still chatted to the girl and had the decency to respond and ive still got messages what haven't been read for men that's ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly? I declined because she was a very very big girl and her message was desperate how it came across .

Oh ok,you just lost me a bit,which doesn't take much I know it would be like me asking you if you would get with a fat guy?

To me it just sounded like you declined her because she gave you her number no I declined because she was a little to big and I like intelligent woman .just wasn't for me basically

Ok,but what's that got to do with the original post? it has a lot to do with the question because I still chatted to the girl and had the decency to respond and ive still got messages what haven't been read for men that's ok

"

If her message or profile didn't say you should respond even with a no thanks, it has nothing to do with the OP.

Because you CHOSE to reply to a message doesn't mean anyone can tell another person they should reply. It's an individual CHOICE about how someone uses their own time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be nice just to get a message

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel."

I respond to people who have the decency to read my profile and only message me if they fit what I'm looking for.

My profile is clear, for example, that I won't meet smokers. It says it twice.

I feel absolutely no guilt over deleting messages from smokers because they were rude to not read or to ignore my profile and waste my time with a message they should know is unwelcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel.

I respond to people who have the decency to read my profile and only message me if they fit what I'm looking for.

My profile is clear, for example, that I won't meet smokers. It says it twice.

I feel absolutely no guilt over deleting messages from smokers because they were rude to not read or to ignore my profile and waste my time with a message they should know is unwelcome."

I respond to everyone,I'm the kind of person who does that. And I respond politely with no malice or sense of entitlement. I'm not entitled to anything just because I'm a woman

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"I've been deleted a few times just sending a message asking to chat don't send my life story in a text and then first couple of days on here some girl give me her mob number after the 2nd message and I declined the offer .ok ladies so how do us men approach you fabulous ladies with a good message to catch your eye

Run that by me again,some girl gave you her mobile number after chatting and you declined,why did you decline exactly? I declined because she was a very very big girl and her message was desperate how it came across .

Oh ok,you just lost me a bit,which doesn't take much I know it would be like me asking you if you would get with a fat guy?

To me it just sounded like you declined her because she gave you her number no I declined because she was a little to big and I like intelligent woman .just wasn't for me basically

Ok,but what's that got to do with the original post? it has a lot to do with the question because I still chatted to the girl and had the decency to respond and ive still got messages what haven't been read for men that's ok

If her message or profile didn't say you should respond even with a no thanks, it has nothing to do with the OP.

Because you CHOSE to reply to a message doesn't mean anyone can tell another person they should reply. It's an individual CHOICE about how someone uses their own time."

I'm. Not to bothered whether I get a reply at least I've made the effort to iniate chat sometimes it comes across wrong that's for me to work on it

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel.

I respond to people who have the decency to read my profile and only message me if they fit what I'm looking for.

My profile is clear, for example, that I won't meet smokers. It says it twice.

I feel absolutely no guilt over deleting messages from smokers because they were rude to not read or to ignore my profile and waste my time with a message they should know is unwelcome.

I respond to everyone,I'm the kind of person who does that. And I respond politely with no malice or sense of entitlement. I'm not entitled to anything just because I'm a woman "

Good for you. I don't feel entitled to anything either, because I'm a woman or otherwise.

However, I spent a lot of time writing a profile which will clearly show some men that I'm not interested in them, and they message anyway, expecting a reply, that's their entitlement, not mine.

I think not reading/ignoring a profile and messaging anyway is rude. I put the time into it to tell them what I'm looking for.

Guys often claim that they've put time into a message so they deserve a reply. Yet they don't feel the time I put into my profile means they should read and pay attention to it? Why are their time and their words more important than mine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its nice to get a responses even if no thanks "

I used to do this then I got why .

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Its nice to get a responses even if no thanks

I used to do this then I got why . "

And "well you're ugly and fat anyway and should be grateful for the attention".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just reply to who I feel like... Same as they message who they feel like

But I never reply to anyone who tells me to.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

If someone puts this I guess they assume I wasn't going to reply so I grant their wish.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"If someone puts this I guess they assume I wasn't going to reply so I grant their wish."

Maybe I'll start replying. Verbally. It doesn't say it has to be by message.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"If this is included in a message I get, it makes me not want to respond even if I was going to! "

Yup, not a fan of being told what to do, unless I'm in bed

How about folk have the decency to read ladies profiles, that would be a good start...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"If someone puts this I guess they assume I wasn't going to reply so I grant their wish.

Maybe I'll start replying. Verbally. It doesn't say it has to be by message."

Some people write that they'd love to hear back either way and I think that's a better way of putting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reply to all first mails because I think it's rude not to."

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If they haven't sussed out that I'm decent, they're too stupid for me to meet.

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By *anklerMan
over a year ago

Suffolk


"If they haven't sussed out that I'm decent, they're too stupid for me to meet."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id see red too - and not answer just to piss them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel.

"

My profile says what I don't like so if I get a message asking me if I want something I've specifically said I don't like, I feel no guilt in not replying.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel."

I know how it feels. I've had several messages deleted without reply. I survived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile says not meeting so im taking great pleasure in deleting without a polite no thanks. If they comment on how interesting it makes me sound i take great pleasure in asking which part interested them lol.

In person i am the queen of polite. But here it very much depends on my mood. And no i dont feel guilty after all its no like "hi" or "nice tits" was them going to a lot of effort. Or some crude variation of giving me a good banging --- after all whats polite about that?

Interestingly since ive stopped meeting i get a lot more messages...

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"If this is included in a message I get, it makes me not want to respond even if I was going to!

Yup, not a fan of being told what to do, unless I'm in bed

How about folk have the decency to read ladies profiles, that would be a good start... "

I always read profile then I know wether to message

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel.

I know how it feels. I've had several messages deleted without reply. I survived."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel.

I know how it feels. I've had several messages deleted without reply. I survived."

Surely it's all part of being on here?

I've never had a reply to a first message

Shit happens I just take it as they didn't like me and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If this is included in a message I get, it makes me not want to respond even if I was going to! "

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel.

I know how it feels. I've had several messages deleted without reply. I survived.

Surely it's all part of being on here?

I've never had a reply to a first message

Shit happens I just take it as they didn't like me and move on "

I just checked you out naughtynymphos and you pretty hot as for me im fucked a girl told me yesterday that my eyebrows are scary lol

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By *rtemisia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

Cheating on his Mrs in this case, and then telling me to reply because it is the polite thing to do. The polite thing to do is not to cheat on your wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel.

I know how it feels. I've had several messages deleted without reply. I survived.

Surely it's all part of being on here?

I've never had a reply to a first message

Shit happens I just take it as they didn't like me and move on I just checked you out naughtynymphos and you pretty hot as for me im fucked a girl told me yesterday that my eyebrows are scary lol "

Pluck 'em.

Sorry I meant 'fuck 'em'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel.

I know how it feels. I've had several messages deleted without reply. I survived.

Surely it's all part of being on here?

I've never had a reply to a first message

Shit happens I just take it as they didn't like me and move on I just checked you out naughtynymphos and you pretty hot as for me im fucked a girl told me yesterday that my eyebrows are scary lol

Pluck 'em.

Sorry I meant 'fuck 'em'. "

no, pluck them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel.

I respond to people who have the decency to read my profile and only message me if they fit what I'm looking for.

My profile is clear, for example, that I won't meet smokers. It says it twice.

I feel absolutely no guilt over deleting messages from smokers because they were rude to not read or to ignore my profile and waste my time with a message they should know is unwelcome.

I respond to everyone,I'm the kind of person who does that. And I respond politely with no malice or sense of entitlement. I'm not entitled to anything just because I'm a woman

Good for you. I don't feel entitled to anything either, because I'm a woman or otherwise.

However, I spent a lot of time writing a profile which will clearly show some men that I'm not interested in them, and they message anyway, expecting a reply, that's their entitlement, not mine.

I think not reading/ignoring a profile and messaging anyway is rude. I put the time into it to tell them what I'm looking for.

Guys often claim that they've put time into a message so they deserve a reply. Yet they don't feel the time I put into my profile means they should read and pay attention to it? Why are their time and their words more important than mine?"

They aren't. I can read something and not get annoyed or arsey,other people can't. I have been in a mischievous mood and sent a sarcastic remark back,which he laughed about. I like positivity and laughter,it's difficult enough when you suffer depression. I don't allow people to affect me,no matter how much time I have put into my profile.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I have the decency to respond. I can empathise with people and understand how it would feel.

I respond to people who have the decency to read my profile and only message me if they fit what I'm looking for.

My profile is clear, for example, that I won't meet smokers. It says it twice.

I feel absolutely no guilt over deleting messages from smokers because they were rude to not read or to ignore my profile and waste my time with a message they should know is unwelcome.

I respond to everyone,I'm the kind of person who does that. And I respond politely with no malice or sense of entitlement. I'm not entitled to anything just because I'm a woman

Good for you. I don't feel entitled to anything either, because I'm a woman or otherwise.

However, I spent a lot of time writing a profile which will clearly show some men that I'm not interested in them, and they message anyway, expecting a reply, that's their entitlement, not mine.

I think not reading/ignoring a profile and messaging anyway is rude. I put the time into it to tell them what I'm looking for.

Guys often claim that they've put time into a message so they deserve a reply. Yet they don't feel the time I put into my profile means they should read and pay attention to it? Why are their time and their words more important than mine?

They aren't. I can read something and not get annoyed or arsey,other people can't. I have been in a mischievous mood and sent a sarcastic remark back,which he laughed about. I like positivity and laughter,it's difficult enough when you suffer depression. I don't allow people to affect me,no matter how much time I have put into my profile. "

It doesn't affect me. I hit delete. Job done. I don't feel bad about it for the reasons given.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's sometimes more decent not to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must be a real headache for women with all the messages lol.

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"Cheating on his Mrs in this case, and then telling me to reply because it is the polite thing to do. The polite thing to do is not to cheat on your wife. "
yep totally agree my wife cheated on me no point being with someone if they cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is polite to reply, i do agree.

but making demands is not polite, trying to shame someone into answering is not polite either.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've replied variously to all messagers and now it's usually to what I can cope with, where they've been decent and not demanding. It's better to not expect a reply here though. If you get one, it's a bonus.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"Cheating on his Mrs in this case, and then telling me to reply because it is the polite thing to do. The polite thing to do is not to cheat on your wife. "

My profile says I won't meet cheaters, so I think it's rude for them to message me and have the cheek to put that they would appreciate a response. why should I bother when you couldn't be arsed to read my profile?!

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl


"it is polite to reply, i do agree.

but making demands is not polite, trying to shame someone into answering is not polite either."

I just reply because il talk to anyone only because I'm new on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it is polite to reply, i do agree.

but making demands is not polite, trying to shame someone into answering is not polite either.

I just reply because il talk to anyone only because I'm new on here ."

i was replying to OP.

yeah chat to whoever, makes no difference, everyone has their way of making this site work for them.

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