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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I dont quite understand this programme, people hate their bodies but pose naked on live tv in front of millions of people? I've seen some where come the crunch, they had to be cajoled into posing naked but surely when they sign up, they know they will have to do that? Why sign up for something when you are not really sure?? Seems very similar to Embarrassing Illnesses but in reverse

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

it about confidence building and finding ways to mke your wobbly bits work for you.

of course they know how it all works but they wanna be on the telly lol

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Gok Wan is a GOD among men.

If more guys watched the programme they'd have a WAY better idea of how women perceive themselves.

The way that guy can make women change the way the feel about themselves and present themselves to the outside world is little short of a miracle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes i know that but surely one has to have confidence in the first place, though i guess maybe a boost up that last step on the ladder lol

Wonder how many contracts the get then

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By *ne ShotMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Gok Wan is a GOD among men.

If more guys watched the programme they'd have a WAY better idea of how women perceive themselves.

The way that guy can make women change the way the feel about themselves and present themselves to the outside world is little short of a miracle.

"
wouldnt they get arrested though for indecent exposure

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Gok Wan is a GOD among men.

If more guys watched the programme they'd have a WAY better idea of how women perceive themselves.

The way that guy can make women change the way the feel about themselves and present themselves to the outside world is little short of a miracle.

"

I think he is great too but he would have to work harder on me after years of abuse, a 30 mins programme wouldnt be enough for me, then again id never go on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ladies who chose to be in the programme have to find the courage to confront their insecurities.

It is refreshing to see them started off as mousey drap looking beings, to be turned into self-confident swans as they dared to step out of their comfort zones and be guided by Gok to try new things!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Gok Wan is a GOD among men.

If more guys watched the programme they'd have a WAY better idea of how women perceive themselves.

The way that guy can make women change the way the feel about themselves and present themselves to the outside world is little short of a miracle.

I think he is great too but he would have to work harder on me after years of abuse, a 30 mins programme wouldnt be enough for me, then again id never go on it"

I don't work in the worlds of either Tv or the meeja, but i'm pretty sure it isnt in 'real time'...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The ladies who chose to be in the programme have to find the courage to confront their insecurities.

It is refreshing to see them started off as mousey drap looking beings, to be turned into self-confident swans as they dared to step out of their comfort zones and be guided by Gok to try new things!

"

Yes isnt it just, going to chams for my first time, was enough a big step for me, being on tv, a whole different kettle of fish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great program I love it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Joining a paid site looking for NSA fun was the huddle for me over a year ago, the rest is history as they say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe there is a finacial incentive for those who take part in shows such as these ?

The embarassing bodies is the one that makes us laugh the most - folks with the most hideous of things wrong with them, won't go to see their GP, but will flash their puss filled bits and bobs on national TV ...

Apart from prority treatment at private clinics that most of us could never afford in a month of Sundays, they must get paid to take part

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Gok is an amazing man, the way he makes the ladies (and blokes) feel about themselves by the end of the program is wonderful.

Give him a knighthhood, I'd love to see him say 'thanks girlfriend' to the Queen!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I have never watched it..i saw a trailer that was enough for me......i agree with Pearl....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Gok Wan is a GOD among men.

If more guys watched the programme they'd have a WAY better idea of how women perceive themselves.

The way that guy can make women change the way the feel about themselves and present themselves to the outside world is little short of a miracle.

wouldnt they get arrested though for indecent exposure

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What is indecent exposure??? I suspect they have permission when they do outside shots

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By *ne ShotMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Gok Wan is a GOD among men.

If more guys watched the programme they'd have a WAY better idea of how women perceive themselves.

The way that guy can make women change the way the feel about themselves and present themselves to the outside world is little short of a miracle.

wouldnt they get arrested though for indecent exposure

What is indecent exposure??? I suspect they have permission when they do outside shots"

just kidding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like Gok, saw one show he did and it was a guy who had issues about being naked, hated his body for being so thin. Gok made him over, yes, but it's how he managed to get this guy to like his own body, be comfortable with it, that really impressed me.

I had issues with my own body with mastectomy scars and a scar from hip to hip.

A visit to a club and FAB changed all that for me.

I was fortunate to meet a swinger who genuinely saw the beauty inside, regardless of the packaging, who helped me confront how I saw myself.

Not one swinger has made comment on my physical flaws but enjoyed my body, my person.

I really do believe shows like Gok's are about the mental makeover that he brings about as well the physical one.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

breath in and hold.. and then click the camera.

breath in and press record for the video version.... and once you turn blue, switch off and breath out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"breath in and hold.. and then click the camera.

breath in and press record for the video version.... and once you turn blue, switch off and breath out."

or wear flesh coloured hold it all in pants

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I dont quite understand this programme, people hate their bodies but pose naked on live tv in front of millions of people? I've seen some where come the crunch, they had to be cajoled into posing naked but surely when they sign up, they know they will have to do that? Why sign up for something when you are not really sure?? Seems very similar to Embarrassing Illnesses but in reverse

"

having known a lady that went on the programme i can tell you that not everyone is initally in on it....

she was put forward by friends, who says she looked fantastic, but she never saw that in herself, so in her case it was very very much a self confidence thing....

after she went on the show, she was a completely different person.... so it does work...

I would love him at some point to do one for men.... the ones he did with disabled ladies was fantastic

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By *ne ShotMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I like Gok, saw one show he did and it was a guy who had issues about being naked, hated his body for being so thin. Gok made him over, yes, but it's how he managed to get this guy to like his own body, be comfortable with it, that really impressed me.

I had issues with my own body with mastectomy scars and a scar from hip to hip.

A visit to a club and FAB changed all that for me.

I was fortunate to meet a swinger who genuinely saw the beauty inside, regardless of the packaging, who helped me confront how I saw myself.

Not one swinger has made comment on my physical flaws but enjoyed my body, my person.

I really do believe shows like Gok's are about the mental makeover that he brings about as well the physical one. "

hear hear laine ,,,i blame the fashion industry mags etc for sewing the mental seed that men only like size zero ladies maybe they were in league with the diet marketing lobby and struck a deal. We all have our own personal tastes and likes myself i like a lady to have curves in all the right places, looking at all my friends wives partners my friends do to. I also find personality is up there with physical attraction to.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"breath in and hold.. and then click the camera.

breath in and press record for the video version.... and once you turn blue, switch off and breath out.

or wear flesh coloured hold it all in pants

"

off to find them and paint my tattoos on xx

cheers for the tip xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like Gok, saw one show he did and it was a guy who had issues about being naked, hated his body for being so thin. Gok made him over, yes, but it's how he managed to get this guy to like his own body, be comfortable with it, that really impressed me.

I had issues with my own body with mastectomy scars and a scar from hip to hip.

A visit to a club and FAB changed all that for me.

I was fortunate to meet a swinger who genuinely saw the beauty inside, regardless of the packaging, who helped me confront how I saw myself.

Not one swinger has made comment on my physical flaws but enjoyed my body, my person.

I really do believe shows like Gok's are about the mental makeover that he brings about as well the physical one.

hear hear laine ,,,i blame the fashion industry mags etc for sewing the mental seed that men only like size zero ladies maybe they were in league with the diet marketing lobby and struck a deal. We all have our own personal tastes and likes myself i like a lady to have curves in all the right places, looking at all my friends wives partners my friends do to. I also find personality is up there with physical attraction to. "

hence some of us strive to be slim, flat toned stomachs not flabby yukky mummy ones

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By *ne ShotMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I like Gok, saw one show he did and it was a guy who had issues about being naked, hated his body for being so thin. Gok made him over, yes, but it's how he managed to get this guy to like his own body, be comfortable with it, that really impressed me.

I had issues with my own body with mastectomy scars and a scar from hip to hip.

A visit to a club and FAB changed all that for me.

I was fortunate to meet a swinger who genuinely saw the beauty inside, regardless of the packaging, who helped me confront how I saw myself.

Not one swinger has made comment on my physical flaws but enjoyed my body, my person.

I really do believe shows like Gok's are about the mental makeover that he brings about as well the physical one.

hear hear laine ,,,i blame the fashion industry mags etc for sewing the mental seed that men only like size zero ladies maybe they were in league with the diet marketing lobby and struck a deal. We all have our own personal tastes and likes myself i like a lady to have curves in all the right places, looking at all my friends wives partners my friends do to. I also find personality is up there with physical attraction to.

hence some of us strive to be slim, flat toned stomachs not flabby yukky mummy ones

"

Yep and now there trying it on with the men and mens grooming personally im at peace with my crows nest keeps me warm on a winters evening when the duvet slips of lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Gok is brilliant and he certainly does know womens bodies.

It is about facing insecurity.

Swinging did that for me, and also taking photographs of myself, sexy, naughty, provocative photographs, ok I fiddle with a soft focus lens and have good lighting, but thats what every photographer does anyway, even to the most beautiful slim woman out there.

Thats why I have so many photographs of me on my profile, not because I think Im gorgeous and im conceited and "up my own arse", its cos the photographs make me feel good about myself and thats the most important thing.

Its all about the confidence......

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By *Y MAN n MECouple
over a year ago

FIFE

"Gok Wan is a GOD among men.

If more guys watched the programme they'd have a WAY better idea of how women perceive themselves.

The way that guy can make women change the way the feel about themselves and present themselves to the outside world is little short of a miracle.

"

YOU watch it then? getting in touch with your femenine side are you ?/

more guys should take note hey girls?xx

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By *ne ShotMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Everybody is who they are we can not be anything else.Didnt someone once sing "you have to be yourself you cant be nothing else."

In terms of insecurities we all have them but what i find helps is i know others have them to. Was a young woman i use to chat with she in my and other mens eyes was gorgeous except she did not think so herself,,,, she was insecure about her boobs to point of saving for a boob job. Dunno if i ever managed to talk her out of it.

Theres more to us all than mere body parts. Why do we get so suckered into believeing what the fashion industry tell us ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Everybody is who they are we can not be anything else.Didnt someone once sing "you have to be yourself you cant be nothing else."

In terms of insecurities we all have them but what i find helps is i know others have them to. Was a young woman i use to chat with she in my and other mens eyes was gorgeous except she did not think so herself,,,, she was insecure about her boobs to point of saving for a boob job. Dunno if i ever managed to talk her out of it.

Theres more to us all than mere body parts. Why do we get so suckered into believeing what the fashion industry tell us ?

"

Because since time began, slim women have always been used to sell clothes, make up etc, cars, even in porn magazines, and it will be a long time before some of the fashion people will use ordinary women of size 12 and upwards

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By *hi-John69Man
over a year ago

chichester

how to look good naked

I keep my clothes on, looks much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not the most confident person.. So Master gets me to get others to take photos.. although naked is reserved just for Master..

but I agree with those that have said that this programme is all about building someones confidence in their body image.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never fails to bring a tear to my eye! I think watching the process of people blossoming is inspiring and very beautiful and anyone who can do that gets my vote.

Despite being a big girl I have usually felt fairly confident physically. But like a lot of people, I have had phases of feeling less than gorgeous often as a result of other issues in my life. Swinging amongst other things has certainly helped me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the reason Gok's programmes are so popular is because its feel-good TV, he makes the subjects feel positive and therefore happy endings, so its warm and fuzzy feelings he creates, without being patronizing!

And having been through weight problems himself, he has empathy, but he is a realist. The ladies are usually focusing on their dislikes, and he teaches them, and consequently us, to focus on our good points and minimise the focus on the (perceived) bad points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all well and good people saying that more guys should take notice of Gok.

The one main difference with Gok and the guys on here is............Gok has no interest in getting into these womens knickers, well......maybe only to wear them.

The average Joe on here can say many positive things to a woman with low confidence, whether its true or not she'll still think he's saying them just to get a shag!

R

XX

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its all well and good people saying that more guys should take notice of Gok.

The one main difference with Gok and the guys on here is............Gok has no interest in getting into these womens knickers, well......maybe only to wear them.

The average Joe on here can say many positive things to a woman with low confidence, whether its true or not she'll still think he's saying them just to get a shag!

R

XX"

absolutely, hence i wont meet anyone from the other side of the country - they might like the picture of me thats visible for all to see, but might not like the rest so prefer not to disappoint them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually I don't do naked I look better with sexy clothes on with out them I look like a man with makeup and long hair so I'm keeping my bra on with my chicken fillet in my stockings and my panties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually I don't do naked I look better with sexy clothes on with out them I look like a man with makeup and long hair so I'm keeping my bra on with my chicken fillet in my stockings and my panties "

Why do you wear a chicken fillet in your stockings and panties?

R

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Actually I don't do naked I look better with sexy clothes on with out them I look like a man with makeup and long hair so I'm keeping my bra on with my chicken fillet in my stockings and my panties "

Woah there!

A chicken fillet in your panties?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually I don't do naked I look better with sexy clothes on with out them I look like a man with makeup and long hair so I'm keeping my bra on with my chicken fillet in my stockings and my panties

Why do you wear a chicken fillet in your stockings and panties?

R"

Ssshhhhhhhhh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually I don't do naked I look better with sexy clothes on with out them I look like a man with makeup and long hair so I'm keeping my bra on with my chicken fillet in my stockings and my panties

Woah there!

A chicken fillet in your panties?"

Makes my ball bag bigger

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Actually I don't do naked I look better with sexy clothes on with out them I look like a man with makeup and long hair so I'm keeping my bra on with my chicken fillet in my stockings and my panties

Woah there!

A chicken fillet in your panties?

Makes my ball bag bigger"

I do NOT take kindly to being referred to as your 'ball bag'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is, I don't think 'everyone' looks good naked. I really don't think that 'everyone' can. I can't do naked myself because I know I don't look good in the altogether ... and it's not just self-perception or a confidence thing - it's an 'I have eyes in my head' thing. However, to enable me to have fun I simply try to wear some lingerie that covers the bits I don't. The less alluring option is a full burkha.

There is no-way no-how I'd EVER put myself forward to go on that show because there simply aren't enough hours left in my life that would be sufficient to for Gok convince me I could look good in the buff.

PS

I love Gok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with sugar in clubs I've seen some horrible naked sights I think but some fucking clothes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The thing is, I don't think 'everyone' looks good naked. I really don't think that 'everyone' can. I can't do naked myself because I know I don't look good in the altogether ... and it's not just self-perception or a confidence thing - it's an 'I have eyes in my head' thing. However, to enable me to have fun I simply try to wear some lingerie that covers the bits I don't. The less alluring option is a full burkha.

There is no-way no-how I'd EVER put myself forward to go on that show because there simply aren't enough hours left in my life that would be sufficient to for Gok convince me I could look good in the buff.

PS

I love Gok

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With you 100%...apart from the I love Gok part...think he's a twat, but that's just me!

I don't lack confidence at all, I too have eyes in my head and I KNOW I don't look good naked, but it doesn't stop me getting naked as often as I can!

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By *ne ShotMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Its all well and good people saying that more guys should take notice of Gok.

The one main difference with Gok and the guys on here is............Gok has no interest in getting into these womens knickers, well......maybe only to wear them.

The average Joe on here can say many positive things to a woman with low confidence, whether its true or not she'll still think he's saying them just to get a shag!

R

XX"
dammed if you do dammed if you dont men have have insecurites i use to,,when i was younger. ,,,its not just a womans thing,,, I guess i just been proved right in my thinking that should a single guy from here so much as dare say hello in chat its translated as hi fancy a shag, is it now politically incorrect to say hello nice pics you look really nice??

:-

As for looking for a shag well, it is a swingers site, both men and women are not here to play chess or are we ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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With you 100%...apart from the I love Gok part...think he's a twat, but that's just me!

......"

Nah, it ain't just you. Gok's a twat.

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