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Holding a grudge

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are you one to hold a grudge or let it slide?

I'm at a mates and one guy who doesn't really like me over something petty. He looked at me like I'm nothing.

I've tried to make conversation but got nothing.

He's ten years older than me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

throw him out have no dealings

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Try and rise above it..easier said than done but makes you the bigger man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not prepared to waste my energy holding grudges. People who do always seem right miserable bastards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pull his pants down and suck his bell end ........sorted .

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't hold grudges, times change and so do people.

I met some people the other week who were still full of hatred for their exes and I thought how sad that they were letting the past eat them up so much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"throw him out have no dealings"

It's not my flat and I'm not a guy who likes conflict over nothing.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It depends what you mean by a grudge.

There are a few people I want nothing to do with in my life. In all cases my reasons are good enough for me. I just ignore them.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

One of my weak points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pull his pants down and suck his bell end ........sorted ."

yeah....that would work, i'm sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pull his pants down and suck his bell end ........sorted ."

I Don't swing that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hold it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"throw him out have no dealings

It's not my flat and I'm not a guy who likes conflict over nothing."

Treat it as nothing, in that case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I him hold it never let go and stew on it never forgive and forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if i am or not.

If i don't like someone i won't bother with them but i don't let them get to me either or think about them.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont hold grudges i just take those people out my life where possible. Piss me off and i dont bother with them again

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"I don't hold grudges, times change and so do people.

I met some people the other week who were still full of hatred for their exes and I thought how sad that they were letting the past eat them up so much."

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Life's too short, you are never going to get on with everyone so no point in trying. Best to let it slide. Ignoring him like he doesn't exist often works both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hold grudges as such but my memory is really good so I never forget what people have done or said to me, even minor things so they are treated in exactly the same way or spoke to the same way as they have done to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"throw him out have no dealings

It's not my flat and I'm not a guy who likes conflict over nothing.

Treat it as nothing, in that case. "

I am. He, on The hand, isn't.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

A woman i have known a long time never stops having to mention the fact that her ex husband cheated on her and spent most of their money on another much younger woman.

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Cars have bumpers, pencils have rubbers, computers have backspace, people make mistakes. So if someone admits the mistake and apologizes or if someone accepts our apologie if we have made a mistake then we can try to go from there. However it sounds like this guy will not let it lie. We would say, NEVER BE FAKE, if they are being funny then do not lower yourself to their level. They are human, they say hi, say hi back and keep conversation short as possible. However if he is being like that then just keep away as much as possible when possible, makes life easier. We all like an easy life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to forgive. I've never cut anyone out of my life. Everyone makes mistakes. There are a number of people who have hurt me through their actions in different ways in the past. However I have always found that I can forgive them for their part in it, even if they can't forgive me for my part. I prefer reconciliation to antagonism and would always prefer to make my peace with them. I thankfully don't experience bitterness if I do my part.

That said there are a few people who prefer to cut me out of their life, but that's their choice. There are plenty of things about me to dislike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How long's the grudge been going on for? He might just need a little time to get over whatever pissed him off, or he might just be someone who doesn't back down ever and is gonna make your time living with him really uncomfortable until you leave.

Idk him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cars have bumpers, pencils have rubbers, computers have backspace, people make mistakes. So if someone admits the mistake and apologizes or if someone accepts our apologie if we have made a mistake then we can try to go from there. However it sounds like this guy will not let it lie. We would say, NEVER BE FAKE, if they are being funny then do not lower yourself to their level. They are human, they say hi, say hi back and keep conversation short as possible. However if he is being like that then just keep away as much as possible when possible, makes life easier. We all like an easy life."

I'm just not letting him bring me down.

I'm just having fun and not letting him bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cars have bumpers, pencils have rubbers, computers have backspace, people make mistakes. So if someone admits the mistake and apologizes or if someone accepts our apologie if we have made a mistake then we can try to go from there. However it sounds like this guy will not let it lie. We would say, NEVER BE FAKE, if they are being funny then do not lower yourself to their level. They are human, they say hi, say hi back and keep conversation short as possible. However if he is being like that then just keep away as much as possible when possible, makes life easier. We all like an easy life.

I'm just not letting him bring me down.

I'm just having fun and not letting him bother me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't hold grudges, times change and so do people.

I met some people the other week who were still full of hatred for their exes and I thought how sad that they were letting the past eat them up so much."

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Depends on the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people probably hold a grudge because they believe it gets back at the person when in most cases the person doesn't even know or care that they have done/said something wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on what the grudge is...

... there is a difference between a grudge because they stole your favourite Jackie poster and a grudge because they murdered your favourite kitten.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I'm not prepared to waste my energy holding grudges. People who do always seem right miserable bastards."

This!

And life is too short to waste my time with people who have grudges. I'd rather be with people I like and who like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't be bothered to deal with people who take the p@ss or are self entitled. If that's holding a grudge so be it. As the saying goes fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.

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