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One night stand..why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone like myself find it strange when you have obvious chemistry with someone and enjoy great sex only to find they have no intention of meeting again, without giving any explanation? It has happened only once to me but I always think if something is obviously so enjoyable to both parties why not have second helpings?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone like myself find it strange when you have obvious chemistry with someone and enjoy great sex only to find they have no intention of meeting again, without giving any explanation? It has happened only once to me but I always think if something is obviously so enjoyable to both parties why not have second helpings?!"

Variety is the spice of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll be hard pushed to fathom the reasons of others..They are many and varied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fear/worry over it becoming more?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone like myself find it strange when you have obvious chemistry with someone and enjoy great sex only to find they have no intention of meeting again, without giving any explanation? It has happened only once to me but I always think if something is obviously so enjoyable to both parties why not have second helpings?!

Variety is the spice of life "

I've been using paprika

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I've not been into 1 nighters since my 20s but hey each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe fear of getting a knockback?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone like myself find it strange when you have obvious chemistry with someone and enjoy great sex only to find they have no intention of meeting again, without giving any explanation? It has happened only once to me but I always think if something is obviously so enjoyable to both parties why not have second helpings?!

Variety is the spice of life

I've been using paprika "

Ouch !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's not your best meet ever and you have no problem finding better meets then you will drift off towards those better meets.

That's how i work anyway.

Had some great meets, hot meets, meets where i'd love to fuck that guy every day, and ok meets which i did enjoy but don't wanna see them again because they i know i can have better meets than those and do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they weren't that into you to see you again

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Does anyone like myself find it strange when you have obvious chemistry with someone and enjoy great sex only to find they have no intention of meeting again, without giving any explanation? It has happened only once to me but I always think if something is obviously so enjoyable to both parties why not have second helpings?!"

It's how some people like to play why do you find it strange and feel an explanation is owed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone like myself find it strange when you have obvious chemistry with someone and enjoy great sex only to find they have no intention of meeting again, without giving any explanation? It has happened only once to me but I always think if something is obviously so enjoyable to both parties why not have second helpings?!"

Many people enjoy anonymous sexual interaction without any sort of emotion connection - it's extremely common in this world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I liked someone enough then I would like to meet them as often as possible, it's not always about sex, I like to be social too, and have found my perfect combination of the 2 by going to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By meeting more often , there is the fact that it may become more than NSA .

It may become boring .

The initial lust of the first meet may never be matched .

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think with some guys anyway they like to think they're still able to get any woman they like. And when they have they are looking for the next one.

I said some remember!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A great one off is better than a few mediocre meets.

Sarah

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

For me I only ever think it's a one off when meeting on here....if there is more than one meet then that's a bonus

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

That's just like me not being able to unerstand why people only want one fb when they can have !oads.

I love repeat meets and having semi regular guys no one guy is ever going to fulfil every part of me.

I must admit I've not had that many meets recently that have only been one offs.

But you can meet someone have a bloody great meet everything goes well. Never to see or here from each other again.

Your just left with a knowing smile.

I did have one of those last week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a few one nighters i quickly found out that sex gets better the more you meet someone. When you explore what each other likes and then you think about wanting to do that or repeat a good move when you see them again.

But for some its just about the initial fuck. Once theyve "had" the person they dont care.

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By *heclitmaster84Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Not kean on one offs but I'd tell the person before hand if it was just going be a one off xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not kean on one offs but I'd tell the person before hand if it was just going be a one off xx"

How exactly would you word that ?

Before you met , or during the meet ?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Not kean on one offs but I'd tell the person before hand if it was just going be a one off xx

How exactly would you word that ?

Before you met , or during the meet ?"

Fancy just 1 fuck

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

What I don't like is people promising the people the world just to get in their knickers....stay off the bullshit and just be honest

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By *heclitmaster84Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield


"Not kean on one offs but I'd tell the person before hand if it was just going be a one off xx

How exactly would you word that ?

Before you met , or during the meet ?"
when we meet or when talking find out what there looking for x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few one nighters i quickly found out that sex gets better the more you meet someone. When you explore what each other likes and then you think about wanting to do that or repeat a good move when you see them again.

But for some its just about the initial fuck. Once theyve "had" the person they dont care."

Exactly this

I like to play with a few people, those that I have played with have been people I have got to know first, im not into a shag n go without even knowing the person.

If I liked the play on the first time, then I would like to go back for more

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"What I don't like is people promising the people the world just to get in their knickers....stay off the bullshit and just be honest "

I swear I will be back

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I have repeat meets mostly. One off`s have tended to be my choice - mainly because the guy was just not interesting enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree with many of the comments. I do feel that in essence this site is about variety and for me personally I would not want to be ever pinned down to one man. But if the sex is awesome then yes I would want second helpings!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I don't like is people promising the people the world just to get in their knickers....stay off the bullshit and just be honest "

If they are size 14 I will fit in them, any smaller and It would be a struggle to stay in

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

This happened to me. - Unbelievably inventive and horny build up of messages,amazing girl, amazing body, and fucking, got on like a house on fire, said she loved it, and again via text after she got home. Mentioned she could only meet once every few weeks or so because of work, which i was fine with. Seemed really sweet, genuine, depraved, and on the same wavelength. Then silence..

It was the not knowing why which most got to me. Even if things had changed in the interim and she'd gotten a steady bloke, just a couple of sentences would have been fine. But noo...!


"Does anyone like myself find it strange when you have obvious chemistry with someone and enjoy great sex only to find they have no intention of meeting again, without giving any explanation? It has happened only once to me but I always think if something is obviously so enjoyable to both parties why not have second helpings?!

It's how some people like to play why do you find it strange and feel an explanation is owed?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone like myself find it strange when you have obvious chemistry with someone and enjoy great sex only to find they have no intention of meeting again, without giving any explanation? It has happened only once to me but I always think if something is obviously so enjoyable to both parties why not have second helpings?!"
yes I find it strange to but hey it seems we are in the minority

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"What I don't like is people promising the people the world just to get in their knickers....stay off the bullshit and just be honest "
couldn't agree more, just bloody tell me want you want I can either say yes or no

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Indeed!


"What I don't like is people promising the people the world just to get in their knickers....stay off the bullshit and just be honest couldn't agree more, just bloody tell me want you want I can either say yes or no"

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By *heclitmaster84Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield


"What I don't like is people promising the people the world just to get in their knickers....stay off the bullshit and just be honest couldn't agree more, just bloody tell me want you want I can either say yes or no"
So true x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Things that make me not meet a guy are over the top compliments. Pay me a nice normal compliment but don't start being ridiculous about it.

Making me promises, why would they make me promise I have no bloody interest in them. I don't want anything from them that warrents them making me a promise so the guys that think ott compliments and making promises are away I go a woman's knickers it won't be mine they will be getting into.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't find it strange, it is what I look for.

Now that doesn't infer there is anything wrong with the person, that the sex wasn't good and or any other assumed issue.

I have enjoyed the meet, I hope they have and I no longer want to meet again.

That is the basis of my NSA need

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

from my experience, a 2nd/3rd meet sometimes blurs the NSA, note sometimes.

I don't want to blur those lines as I have spent 10 years watching people misread signals, declaring their confusions in chat/forums, ranting about people misleading them and other similar outrage.

so, I like everything I do to be the most transparent and authentic.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Does anyone like myself find it strange when you have obvious chemistry with someone and enjoy great sex only to find they have no intention of meeting again, without giving any explanation? It has happened only once to me but I always think if something is obviously so enjoyable to both parties why not have second helpings?!

Variety is the spice of life "

kindred spirits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By meeting more often , there is the fact that it may become more than NSA .

It may become boring .

The initial lust of the first meet may never be matched .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's as varied as the people on here are. But I think it's best to take NSA sex just one meet at a time. Don't plan any further than that. He may have ties, an illness, family or career priorities, over and above sex.

And he may have tried no strings sex and decided it's not for him, preferring dating instead.

I treat it all like life, just one step at a time. Assume people will be very different to you and thus you won't bond with most for regular fun. If repeat meets are essential, change your approach from the start.

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