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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi.

I'm a youngish lad struggling to identify himself in this world.

For years I've been questioning my sexuality thinking I'm one way then another. I've recently just split from a relationship with my ex gf who knew I had been with guys and did state that I was bi to her, however I still struggle with the concept myself.

I find it hard to speak to anyone about my sexuality and feel that I'm wrong and naughty to be bi and that I should choose between one and the other. However when in a relationship I'm seem to crave the the sexual opposite. I'm of with a guy I want a women etc.

There also doesn't seem much lit about being a bi guy and everyone just talks about the female POV which is frustrating.

Any help/advice would be greatly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't torture yourself trying to understand why you feel the way you do.....

My advice is embrace who you are because what you are is far less important ...

Enjoy the excitement and diversity of exploration while its still fresh because as time goes by you can never recapture those moments in quite the same way....

Good luck.... and don't sweat the small stuff....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi.

I'm a youngish lad struggling to identify himself in this world.

For years I've been questioning my sexuality thinking I'm one way then another. I've recently just split from a relationship with my ex gf who knew I had been with guys and did state that I was bi to her, however I still struggle with the concept myself.

I find it hard to speak to anyone about my sexuality and feel that I'm wrong and naughty to be bi and that I should choose between one and the other. However when in a relationship I'm seem to crave the the sexual opposite. I'm of with a guy I want a women etc.

There also doesn't seem much lit about being a bi guy and everyone just talks about the female POV which is frustrating.

Any help/advice would be greatly appreciated "
just be yourself and be happy with yourself in life

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"I wouldn't torture yourself trying to understand why you feel the way you do.....

My advice is embrace who you are because what you are is far less important ...

Enjoy the excitement and diversity of exploration while its still fresh because as time goes by you can never recapture those moments in quite the same way....

Good luck.... and don't sweat the small stuff.... "

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That all seems great advice and yet I have no confidence in my self to go out an do anything about it.

I joined this site hoping to meet women and couples really ao I could explore and play yet all I get is push backs, I realise thats going to happen but surely not this many it's been every message ao far

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By *outhessex14Man
over a year ago

basildon

Don't kick yourself about it, nothing wrong with being bisexual, I myself do class myself as bi but never really tell anyone in public like friends as none of their business unless asked.

Just see what you enjoy be it wanting a relationship or just sexual contact with a guy and do what suits you, again don't beat yourself about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That all seems great advice and yet I have no confidence in my self to go out an do anything about it.

I joined this site hoping to meet women and couples really ao I could explore and play yet all I get is push backs, I realise thats going to happen but surely not this many it's been every message ao far "

None of us has the right to entitlement...

We all face the same challenges.....

Learn to adjust your expectations in line with the reality of being yet another single guy on here.....

It will happen..... but sometimes you have to wait....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some people follow the thought that ones sexuality is on a spectrum from totally heterosexual to totally homosexual and that people can move up and down the spectrum at varies points and for various lengths of time in their lives. Might make it easier to manage your point of view.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

It depends if you crave cock or a relationship with a man. When I want the former, I just go to the sauna or see a guy who lives in a flat opposite to me.

Women hold much more for me than a guy ever could.

It's a hard choice, but ultimately the decision is yours and maturity will help you decide.

Good luck OP,there are women who will tolerate both

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Bi mmf is good fun. Just sayin.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bi mmf is good fun. Just sayin..... "

It is...your right

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bi mmf is good fun. Just sayin..... "

Somthing I've always wanted to try just a question of finding people of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That all seems great advice and yet I have no confidence in my self to go out an do anything about it.

I joined this site hoping to meet women and couples really ao I could explore and play yet all I get is push backs, I realise thats going to happen but surely not this many it's been every message ao far "

This happens to straight guys on here as well.

This site will probably not help with any confidence issues because men, although appreciated by most, tend to be loads of them on here.

You probably could explore your bi side more on here though and find guys to chat with about stuff that's bothering you.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

If you were nearer us we would reply to your message.

If you feel you want the other sex while with someone then you just haven't met the right person yet. Carry on having fun and dont commit yourself to a relationship until you've decided what's right for you

X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you were nearer us we would reply to your message.

If you feel you want the other sex while with someone then you just haven't met the right person yet. Carry on having fun and dont commit yourself to a relationship until you've decided what's right for you

X"

Thanks just a shame about distance. But if I you ever find yourself near the south West look me up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do they Bi socials? Seen plenty of club nights but a social night would be good for those who fancy chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are a youbg cute chap, enjoy yourself whilst you can.

Many many women love a bi partner. I really enjoyed sharing my ex with other men.

Whilst you can, find a few friends who are as open as you...try bi male mmf....attend bi nights where you get the best of both worlds.

And most of all...

ENJOY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people follow the thought that ones sexuality is on a spectrum from totally heterosexual to totally homosexual and that people can move up and down the spectrum at varies points and for various lengths of time in their lives. Might make it easier to manage your point of view. "

Very refreshing

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Bi mmf is good fun. Just sayin.....

It is...your right "

An mmmf would be even more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bi mmf is good fun. Just sayin.....

It is...your right

An mmmf would be even more fun "

Often is if you just keep addin' letters mmffftvtsffmmfts

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Bi mmf is good fun. Just sayin.....

It is...your right

An mmmf would be even more fun

Often is if you just keep addin' letters mmffftvtsffmmfts "

As long as I can wear ma AC/DC t-shirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bi mmf is good fun. Just sayin.....

It is...your right

An mmmf would be even more fun

Often is if you just keep addin' letters mmffftvtsffmmfts

As long as I can wear ma AC/DC t-shirt "

For a bit but no promises as to how long it'll stay on

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