FabSwingers.com forum: Could you easily leave this lifestyle

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just a little question, we see so many people leave here, then come back.

Could you just stop being a swinger anytime you liked or would you find it hard?

We are not sure to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am part of the furniture here lol.

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester

"I am part of the furniture here lol."
. You most certainly are shag, and if you left we would have haribo withdrawal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not part of any "lifestyle".

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

I think it is the forum banter that keeps folk coming back..... and of course the delectable sex treats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a way of supplementing my sex life, so I swing in, or swing out, when the mood suits. I don't consider it a 'lifestyle', with little interest in clubs, or group scenarios.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Could I leave fab then yes. Could I stop being a swinger then know. If you are classing swimging as being your way of thinking and ideas on sex and relationships ass apposed to must the acts of having sex.

I've thought this way all my life. It's not something I could just switch off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a swinger but there's nothing better to go to than here, imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're not part of any "lifestyle"."

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a lifestyle choice for me it's a means to an end. If I couldn't walk away at anytime then it would be an addiction, which for me wouldn't be good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've left twice and come back for a third time .

Could we stop ?

I doubt it .

But so what ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is the forum banter that keeps folk coming back..... and of course the delectable sex treats

Exactly!

The forums csn be fun, I spend most of my free time during the day reading and laughing at comments, also have some discussions with friends old and new.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am part of the furniture here lol.. You most certainly are shag, and if you left we would have haribo withdrawal

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That is right and haribos is our favourite sweet as well, so would need extra supply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that it's an attitude to sex rather than the actual sex that means for me I'll always be a part of something that's a bit different to the norm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could easily leave this lifestyle anytime.

I'm pretty close to it now as it holds very little appeal to me now anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it is the forum banter that keeps folk coming back..... and of course the delectable sex treats

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We're not part of any "lifestyle".

Same. "
Did not mean to offend anyone, maybe should of worded it better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're not part of any "lifestyle".

Same. Did not mean to offend anyone, maybe should of worded it better

I'm not offended. Just answering the question.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

No I think I would get bored and feel I was missing out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I could, meets aren't happening for me at the moment,not for want of trying! So it's just the forums that keep me here. Although, saying that I would miss the craziness that is the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I could, meets aren't happening for me at the moment,not for want of trying! So it's just the forums that keep me here. Although, saying that I would miss the craziness that is the forums.

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I think this is the answer we would give too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy, I think being here is more about interacting with people. I'd like to think I might do that anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could happily leave it forever although I would miss the banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're not part of any "lifestyle".

Same. Did not mean to offend anyone, maybe should of worded it better

I'm not offended. Just answering the question.

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv spoke to a few people on here who have never been in the forums

Hey um their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We took a break trying to save money for our house purchase and whilst it was quite easy to take a break we did miss it. Hence we are back! I don't think we could ever fully leave the lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep!! Once I met ads (from here) I gave up the moment I met with him, the same for him

G x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm not currently meeting and having only met two people on here I do think I'm more of a wannabe swinger than an actual swinger so on the meeting side I probably could.

But.. I love talking to people and the forums way to much to leave fab.. I've made a few friends on here that I like to keep in touch with and my life wouldn't be the same without face pic Friday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I'm not currently meeting and having only met two people on here I do think I'm more of a wannabe swinger than an actual swinger so on the meeting side I probably could.

But.. I love talking to people and the forums way to much to leave fab.. I've made a few friends on here that I like to keep in touch with and my life wouldn't be the same without face pic Friday

Face pic friday is the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very easily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the time being it works and fits with my life away from fab.....when that changes...one adapts.

Depends on if it becomes your everyday reality.

I see it as an add on and when I need to deattach I do.

My attitude towards women, morals, respect and all that is still the same. I'm no different on here than one is in real life....just certain things are best kept with people who understand each other.

Each to there own....live and let live! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Iv spoke to a few people on here who have never been in the forums

Hey um their loss"
yeah we know a few too and agree their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums

The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums

The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes

Are you answering a different thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I'm not currently meeting and having only met two people on here I do think I'm more of a wannabe swinger than an actual swinger so on the meeting side I probably could.

But.. I love talking to people and the forums way to much to leave fab.. I've made a few friends on here that I like to keep in touch with and my life wouldn't be the same without face pic Friday

Face pic friday is the best

It is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would leave if my partner wanted to, and vice versa, but at the moment we're enjoying it too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums

The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes

Are you answering a different thread? "

No the forums have been mentioned in this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we talking about the forums or meeting people from the internet for sex? I can give up both but I enjoy both so I'm here and other places getting my end away and chatting

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

I don't see this as a " lifestyle";

But in many people's definition I am not a " swinger";

I just have several sexual partners , and some casual ones;

Fab is amusing; and a source of occasional additional sex partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums

The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes

Are you answering a different thread?

No the forums have been mentioned in this thread "

Oh right,I got confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I'd have no trouble giving it all up and pretty much have. Hubby and i were struggling to find something that suited us both so now I'm only here to dip into the forums now and then.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums

The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes

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I used to be on another site that had forums and was at a very small social and was talking to one of the guys and he said you surprise me I thought you where going to be completly stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums

The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes

I used to be on another site that had forums and was at a very small social and was talking to one of the guys and he said you surprise me I thought you where going to be completly stupid

He had you down to a T then

Don't laugh. ....it will hurt your ribs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah having spent most of my adult life married n V anillia I'm not sure I could go back infact I really wanna throw myself in sweeper hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums

The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes

Only sometimes?

I find the swinging world outside the forums is very very different.

In a good way.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

No problem, I could walk away and never look back

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Yes I believe I can.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I often wonder if im getting too old for all this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you just stop being a swinger anytime you liked or would you find it hard?"

I'm not a swinger, but:

Could I easily stop having sex? No.

Could I stop using Fab for sex? Yes.

Could I stop using Fab forums? With difficulty

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Obviously it would be nice to share this side of things but it is a bit niche and quite a few girls wouldn't be interested I reckon. So I would give Fab and clubs if I met someone special.

But whilst I'm single, Its nice to get out, meet people and have some fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you just stop being a swinger anytime you liked or would you find it hard?

I'm not a swinger, but:

Could I easily stop having sex? No.

Could I stop using Fab for sex? Yes.

Could I stop using Fab forums? With difficulty

This would be for me also. Well said TT!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't ! I crave disappointment! And here is where i get my fix...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id miss the forums the most but i doubt i would have sex again if i left. Ive contemplated it though.

Not meeting atm and may leave in the next few weeks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you just stop being a swinger anytime you liked or would you find it hard?

I'm not a swinger, but:

Could I easily stop having sex? No.

Could I stop using Fab for sex? Yes.

Could I stop using Fab forums? With difficulty

This

I have thought about leaving a few times, I live alone and don't go out much so just using the forums to relieve the boredom, I have had a few things going on which has stopped me going the gym and once that is sorted I will take some time off the site and get on with my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id miss the forums the most but i doubt i would have sex again if i left. Ive contemplated it though.

Not meeting atm and may leave in the next few weeks xx"

I would miss you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id miss the forums the most but i doubt i would have sex again if i left. Ive contemplated it though.

Not meeting atm and may leave in the next few weeks xx

I would miss you."

Awww thanks clem means alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel swinging defines who I am.....it's nothing more than a means to and end for me...

It's simply a device that allows me to continue having a sex life which in other circumstances would not have been a necessary consideration.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id miss the forums the most but i doubt i would have sex again if i left. Ive contemplated it though.

Not meeting atm and may leave in the next few weeks xx

I would miss you."

So would we

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums

The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes

Only sometimes?

I find the swinging world outside the forums is very very different.

In a good way."

Absolutely agree ....

Outside the forums people meet people and have fun .

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I don't see this as a " lifestyle";

But in many people's definition I am not a " swinger";

I just have several sexual partners , and some casual ones;

Fab is amusing; and a source of occasional additional sex partners."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could. If Will and I split, I would walk away, without a backwards glance.

As a single fem I found it fun to start with. As a couple it is a lot more fun (for me anyway!). Although to be honest, considering it's how we met, we don't play with others that often.

I think the thing I would miss most would be the clubs

Can't speak for Will, but this has been part of his life longer than I have - so I doubt it.

Sara

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just sticking on the forums topic, If I didn't use the forums or they didn't have one I would of left by now, I cant remember the last time someone contacted me or replied to a message from outside the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up the lifestyle before Xmas. Never gone so long having one sexual partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had my own kinky fella then u wouldn't see me for dust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I had my own kinky fella then u wouldn't see me for dust "

This for me too!! Now to try and find Mr Elusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id miss the forums the most but i doubt i would have sex again if i left. Ive contemplated it though.

Not meeting atm and may leave in the next few weeks xx

I would miss you.

So would we "

Thankyou from you guys too . Real life keeps occuring lol. Atm theres no point cause i cant see myself staying away xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've left and come back can't do vanilla relationships do I guess I'm here for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now looking for someone to share this lifestyle with. Going to clubs and socials enjoy kestrels and a like

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

For me it is not a life style as it does not affect any other parts of my life - would I like to leave it behind? Not at all. I just think there is a lot more to life than swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes very easily and we are. It was ok to begin with but like most things in life once you do it to much the excitement goes out of it. We also think it can spice up your relationship but if you do it to much we think it could also kill a relationship

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

I'd easily and happily leave it behind for someone I thought was worth it. Sex has as much or as little emotional meaning as you want, but that meaning can be subject to change throughout your life.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Yes very easily and we are. It was ok to begin with but like most things in life once you do it to much the excitement goes out of it. We also think it can spice up your relationship but if you do it to much we think it could also kill a relationship "
I think you are right - it can negatively affect a relationship, especially if one partner is more into it than the other.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I'd easily and happily leave it behind for someone I thought was worth it. Sex has as much or as little emotional meaning as you want, but that meaning can be subject to change throughout your life. "
Also very true. Just looked at your profile and was so surprised at your age as you sound so wise (Not meant in a patronising way!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't, I enjoy the social side and couldn't never sleep with just one person. I'm not programmed that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums are a great distraction from normal life sometimes.

We have litte breaks but always come back! We are going to try having a big break from the Summer and if we don't miss it we wouldn't come back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very easy to leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy to leave the site just 1 click & puff acc is gone lol

Leave the lifestyle however, hmm been so much fun, so might be but harder if I'm honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a break yes. Leave forever,probably not. I like it and would miss the clubs and the people and enjoy playing with a variety of people likeminded. Leave Fab easily, yes we could as we don't really use it much for new meets anyway. Not sure what hubby thinks but probably same.

Doll x

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I have done everything I wanted to do and at the moment I have a great friend who I trust and we push a few boundaries together, so yes I could leave and I nearly did a while ago but i enjoy the forum too much to press the delete button

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't know, I don't think I could handle monogamy

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