FabSwingers.com forum: Loss of confidence

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hay I've been back on here now for the past 2/3 weeks and struggling to get a meet with girls. As before I left I didn't really have a problem.

So had a slight confidence knock. Not sure if I'm not what the girls on here are looking for or not. Any advice would be welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 26 get out on the town and pull a girl like i did back in the day before the internet

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I dont think there are many girls on here though. Most are doing their homework or watching the voice??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think there are many girls on here though. Most are doing their homework or watching the voice??"

This made me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its like waiting for a bus on here you wait for ages and 3 turn up at once. The same for meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't get hung up on here bud , go out have a night out with your chums

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Just don't get hung up on here bud , go out have a night out with your chums

That is what I dont understand about youngsters nowadays, why be on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience is the key lol"

You tell him Shag. Patience and haribo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your 26 get out on the town and pull a girl like i did back in the day before the internet"

Can't say that to the young ones on here, they don't like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your 26 get out on the town and pull a girl like i did back in the day before the internet"
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That's a wee bit patronising old man!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Well, it's Saturday night, so you could go to a bar instead of being on fab and then in the bar, get on fab and then do the 'who is near' thing. That works a treat....

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Just don't get hung up on here bud , go out have a night out with your chums

That is what I dont understand about youngsters nowadays, why be on here?"

i used to think similarly but when you look at it if a guy or gal is combining both the web type meets and how we did it 'back in the day' then its just another option and fair play to them..

when its just the net i think it is a bit weird maybe ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't rely on here for your confidence.

No idea what you're doing wrong but guys often leave here then think they can pop back into my life like i still have time for them, and it often doesn't work out that way coz i've replaced them or lost interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience is the key lol

You tell him Shag. Patience and haribo!

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That is right lol and the haribos is for the weekends, them cola bottles mmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

I donlt understand this attitude that youngsters should be out on the pull in pubs and clubs. Not everyone likes that scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't think it's condescending. To us oldies it still seems funny for young single people to rely on a website to pull.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

I donlt understand this attitude that youngsters should be out on the pull in pubs and clubs. Not everyone likes that scene "

I didn't do the pub or club scene when I was that age. I stuck to socialising with friends, family and work mates ... I think you have to cultivate and build a solid foundation of these things around you first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest mate women will want what they wanted last time you were on.

Attraction

Mentally stimulating

Sense of humour

And the thought that it will be mutually beneficial sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was more interested in having a laugh and being with mates in my 20s

I didn't really go out on the pull until later in life

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Never question yourself, sell your strengths and remember, it's a shag.....

welcome and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of time , 2-3 weeks isn't long. Get along to a social near you, if you can and that'll get you chatting to others. Don't you have contacts from those you meant before too?

I find its like waiting for a bus here - no-one that takes your fancy comes along for ages, then they all appear at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't think it's condescending. To us oldies it still seems funny for young single people to rely on a website to pull."

Why not older single people?.. They have just the same opportunity to go down the pub on the pull don't they?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I dont think there are many girls on here though. Most are doing their homework or watching the voice??"

How did you know what I was doing?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

That is exactly what I was thinking. Why would a 40 year old man be on here instead of out on the pull in a bar?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

This

You've got a better chance of finding someone who shares your sexual kinks/interests on here than on a random night out.

If I were to suggest certain things to people I randomly met in a bar, I'd probably get called a weirdo and told to naff off.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

I donlt understand this attitude that youngsters should be out on the pull in pubs and clubs. Not everyone likes that scene "

I'd have been overjoyed if I'd found this scene in my early twenties!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Sometimes that happens like others have said sit down join the flirting on the forums, have a search and have some haribo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi thanks for sticking up for me. Your right age has nothing to do with being on this site. My ex cheated on me so my confidence was already knocked. I was made to feel like I wasn't good enough to be with anyone so found it hard too meet girls on nights out so this was my way of meeting. Sad I know but that's life lol

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was more interested in having a laugh and being with mates in my 20s

I didn't really go out on the pull until later in life"

Not everyone is like you though. I've met some lovely and very interesting under 30s on here. They want what old men want,the site isn't exclusive to old people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

I donlt understand this attitude that youngsters should be out on the pull in pubs and clubs. Not everyone likes that scene

I'd have been overjoyed if I'd found this scene in my early twenties!

Although I probably wouldn't have lasted as long as I have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

I donlt understand this attitude that youngsters should be out on the pull in pubs and clubs. Not everyone likes that scene "

It also belies a massive lack of understanding that for single people in their 20s and early 30s using the internet to look for sex is completely normal and completely mainstream.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most things have moved on to the inter web. Take Peterborough nearly all the night clubs have gone pubs are shutting down and town is dead. I do miss the good old days x

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Hi thanks for sticking up for me. Your right age has nothing to do with being on this site. My ex cheated on me so my confidence was already knocked. I was made to feel like I wasn't good enough to be with anyone so found it hard too meet girls on nights out so this was my way of meeting. Sad I know but that's life lol

Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

Op, I hear that to some extent and I used fab as a single fem to meet men to get sex until I was ready for a relationship, in many ways this gave me time to rebuild me and keep them at arms length. You must understand where it is and what you are doing, though, and not treat it as anything more than that. I didn't know at the time that was what I was doing, although I knew I didn't want anyone in my life. I met some really good friends here and when I was ready I met my OH here, but only when I felt I was ready. It took me over seven years to be ready for the relationship again. Now, where is the darn full stop? (that was for the punctuation police, btw)

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

I donlt understand this attitude that youngsters should be out on the pull in pubs and clubs. Not everyone likes that scene

It also belies a massive lack of understanding that for single people in their 20s and early 30s using the internet to look for sex is completely normal and completely mainstream. "

If I had the internet in my early 20's I'd have been a much better swinger I think!

And a total slut!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't think it's condescending. To us oldies it still seems funny for young single people to rely on a website to pull."

The internet wasnt around when yourselfs was younger other you might have done the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

Never explain to anyone.. Especially on here!.. Like vultures sometimes after fresh blood..

Everyone is entitled to be on here.. Equally.. No matter the reason... Don't take anything personally... And grow a thick skin..

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

I donlt understand this attitude that youngsters should be out on the pull in pubs and clubs. Not everyone likes that scene

It also belies a massive lack of understanding that for single people in their 20s and early 30s using the internet to look for sex is completely normal and completely mainstream.

If I had the internet in my early 20's I'd have been a much better swinger I think!

And a total slut!

The Victorian times were tough

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

I donlt understand this attitude that youngsters should be out on the pull in pubs and clubs. Not everyone likes that scene

It also belies a massive lack of understanding that for single people in their 20s and early 30s using the internet to look for sex is completely normal and completely mainstream.

If I had the internet in my early 20's I'd have been a much better swinger I think!

And a total slut!

The Victorian times were tough

Hahaha!! Weren't they though?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did someone call me old earlier in this thread!!...im hurt

I do suppose i am old to a 20 year old,i'll take it on my chins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did someone call me old earlier in this thread!!...im hurt

I do suppose i am old to a 20 year old,i'll take it on my chins

Sorry!

Kiss it better?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Why do people feel the need to be so condescending?..

What's the difference between.. a single man in his 40's or 50's.. Or a single man in his 20's.. Being on here?

I donlt understand this attitude that youngsters should be out on the pull in pubs and clubs. Not everyone likes that scene "

I suggested the best of both worlds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just don't get hung up on here bud , go out have a night out with your chums

Good advice this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you

"Never question yourself, sell your strengths and remember, it's a shag.....

welcome and good luck"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you I Will try and be more patient and take on what you said xxx

"Plenty of time , 2-3 weeks isn't long. Get along to a social near you, if you can and that'll get you chatting to others. Don't you have contacts from those you meant before too?

I find its like waiting for a bus here - no-one that takes your fancy comes along for ages, then they all appear at the same time. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most things have moved on to the inter web. Take Peterborough nearly all the night clubs have gone pubs are shutting down and town is dead. I do miss the good old days x"

Before the ghost town?

Band won't play no more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did someone call me old earlier in this thread!!...im hurt

I do suppose i am old to a 20 year old,i'll take it on my chins

Sorry!

Kiss it better?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to everyone for your advice. Really appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't think it's condescending. To us oldies it still seems funny for young single people to rely on a website to pull.

The internet wasnt around when yourselfs was younger other you might have done the same

No. I'd have been,as I was, out and having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

patience and time is the way

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