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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many people have met someone who's profile pic shows the person looking what you'd consider attractive and worth meeting up! only to find out when you meet up with them that they look alot different?? it's only happened to me once but didn't really ruin the evening!! it just took me by suprise plus i didn't really say anything about it to them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps that's what comes of meeting people based, entirely, on how they look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all my pictures are old.. im really 50 and these were taken in my early 20's hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have found that people generally look better in the flesh.

Photos give us an indication of what someone looks like but its not an exact science.

I've looked at photos of myself before and thought "who the fuck is that?...oh me!"

not a hideous pic + benefit of the doubt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many people have met someone who's profile pic shows the person looking what you'd consider attractive and worth meeting up! only to find out when you meet up with them that they look alot different?? it's only happened to me once but didn't really ruin the evening!! it just took me by suprise plus i didn't really say anything about it to them!! "
we were invited to a party not long back , the hostess opened the door and we didn,t recognise her,3 dress sizes bigger and we had trouble stepping over her and leaving as soon as the fun started..not a fair thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

twice its happened to me - one bloke hadnt opened his mouth to smile in his pic (he had no teeth) and the other had pics of him when he was a fit young athelete (10 years ago)

they were both nice blokes but as they werent "as advertised", they were sent packing lol

however, twice in 10 years is quite good going really isnt it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have found that people generally look better in the flesh.

Photos give us an indication of what someone looks like but its not an exact science.

I've looked at photos of myself before and thought "who the fuck is that?...oh me!"

not a hideous pic + benefit of the doubt "

i look far better in pictures than i do in the flesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps that's what comes of meeting people based, entirely, on how they look "

so you would hump a festering unwashed 20 stone ugly lass...as she had brains?

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By *im halpertMan
over a year ago

redditch

I take awful pictures im not at all photogenic !and its true I have had friends meet men for the first time and their original pics were from 1985 !but someone could be beautiful looking but boring and self obsessed when you get to know them!and Im talking from experience here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look great in the dark

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I once was chatted with a man in his 40s and seemed very nice. Saw his photos which was a nice pic and when he turned up it was very clear that the picture of him was when was in his early 30s as he was later 40s now.

It was a massive shock. He stepped out of the car and the first thing i noticed was his shoes. The he had beige trousers and a beige shirt and a jacket, but please dont get me started on the jacket. He Wasnt smiling in the pic but it seemed like he had lost all his front teeth since the picture was taken.

I mailed him afrer to say i thought it bad he was deceiving people like that with his photo.

I saw him on the same site 2 years later and he still had the same pic on.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"Perhaps that's what comes of meeting people based, entirely, on how they look

so you would hump a festering unwashed 20 stone ugly lass...as she had brains?"

Mmmmmmmmmm xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one really springs to mind...and that's because he was really awful. His pic showed him looking like a younger Robert Redford...the reality a cross between Bruce Forsythe and Albert Steptoe.

I wasn't amused. If he'd posted what he really looked like I wouldn't have met him...he just wasn't attractive to me at all...his zoot suit and the fact he was bloody boring didn't help his case either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh my

this does happen

we met a cpl in ;a hotel lounge once who were at least 10 years older than their pics they sent us

when we pointed that out they got very defensive and said 'why shouldnt they as they still enjoyed swinging - and - you wouldnt meet us otherwise'

sad as it was a nice evening but it would still have been a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps that's what comes of meeting people based, entirely, on how they look

so you would hump a festering unwashed 20 stone ugly lass...as she had brains?"

'Ugly' would be an objective thing...weight is not an issue...'unwashed and festering' are just ridiculous things to say. As for 'brains' then...absolutely!...hope that's cleared it up for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once was chatted with a man in his 40s and seemed very nice. Saw his photos which was a nice pic and when he turned up it was very clear that the picture of him was when was in his early 30s as he was later 40s now.

It was a massive shock. He stepped out of the car and the first thing i noticed was his shoes. The he had beige trousers and a beige shirt and a jacket, but please dont get me started on the jacket. He Wasnt smiling in the pic but it seemed like he had lost all his front teeth since the picture was taken.

I mailed him afrer to say i thought it bad he was deceiving people like that with his photo.

I saw him on the same site 2 years later and he still had the same pic on."

we would have told him w didnt request his dad and chased him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps that's what comes of meeting people based, entirely, on how they look

so you would hump a festering unwashed 20 stone ugly lass...as she had brains?"

i do have feeling ya know *sobs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once was chatted with a man in his 40s and seemed very nice. Saw his photos which was a nice pic and when he turned up it was very clear that the picture of him was when was in his early 30s as he was later 40s now.

It was a massive shock. He stepped out of the car and the first thing i noticed was his shoes. The he had beige trousers and a beige shirt and a jacket, but please dont get me started on the jacket. He Wasnt smiling in the pic but it seemed like he had lost all his front teeth since the picture was taken.

I mailed him afrer to say i thought it bad he was deceiving people like that with his photo.

I saw him on the same site 2 years later and he still had the same pic on."

Isn't that look 'de rigueur' in Norfolk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps that's what comes of meeting people based, entirely, on how they look

so you would hump a festering unwashed 20 stone ugly lass...as she had brains?

'Ugly' would be an objective thing...weight is not an issue...'unwashed and festering' are just ridiculous things to say. As for 'brains' then...absolutely!...hope that's cleared it up for you!"

go for it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Quote from the film liar liar!!

Jim Carey's son: My teacher tells me beauty is on the inside.

Jim Carey: That's just something ugly people say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quote from the film liar liar!!

Jim Carey's son: My teacher tells me beauty is on the inside.

Jim Carey: That's just something ugly people say.

"

yeah,some are ugly inside too

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By *ertnbeckyCouple
over a year ago

oldham

only happened once we met a couple she went on site as 29 and i think she was 20 years ago needless to say we left them and went home as we dont like liars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quote from the film liar liar!!

Jim Carey's son: My teacher tells me beauty is on the inside.

Jim Carey: That's just something ugly people say.

yeah,some are ugly inside too"

i think the op is refering to attraction in the first instance before mr condecending piped up indicating shallowness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quote from the film liar liar!!

Jim Carey's son: My teacher tells me beauty is on the inside.

Jim Carey: That's just something ugly people say.

yeah,some are ugly inside too

i think the op is refering to attraction in the first instance before mr condecending piped up indicating shallowness "

How sweet that you are able to speak for yourself, the OP, and others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive got to admit, when i meet people i usually dont have the person in a ghost costume stood next to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive got to admit, when i meet people i usually dont have the person in a ghost costume stood next to me."

We assumed that you had just blotted out the actual winner of the Dermot O'Leary lookylikey comp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive got to admit, when i meet people i usually dont have the person in a ghost costume stood next to me.

We assumed that you had just blotted out the actual winner of the Dermot O'Leary lookylikey comp. "

why do people keep calling me that?

its all ive had off anyone since i grew my hair.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Never.

We use cam to show faces on so we get no surprises and neither do they.

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By *Y MAN n MECouple
over a year ago

FIFE

Oh yes been there and got the tee shirt.... pis looked yummy we really were looking forward to meeting.. only to be sorely disappointed on looks,personality and performance but what do you do when caught out like this???

SO what do you do??? report them for not being what they say or look like? just haven't got the heart to voice opinion to the person in question, but when they say they are meeting a mutual friend what do you do? tell the mfriend they're not going to get what they see on profile?

it is such a dilemma....agree that alot actually look better in the flesh though...

we've done the cam thing and find guys just want to put on a sex show and then never meet in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with ruggers I cam with all my meets beforehand that way I know what I'm getting and so do they did have some funny ones in the early days but I've got older and wiser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics can't tell you if they stink though. I met a guy extremely good looking, beautifully dressed but he stank to high heaven of BO. Not nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with ruggers I cam with all my meets beforehand that way I know what I'm getting and so do they did have some funny ones in the early days but I've got older and wiser "

Yeah I ask to cam on msn or on here its a better indication than a pic - and I now tel the anecdote about the stinky man when chatting to them!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

got a lovely pic of a very handsome guy, was moody black and white, very stylish...

should have noticed the ration book in his hand tho..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pics can't tell you if they stink though. I met a guy extremely good looking, beautifully dressed but he stank to high heaven of BO. Not nice. "

There should be a scratch and sniff system on your cam

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


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we've done the cam thing and find guys just want to put on a sex show and then never meet in person.

"

We make it plain at the start that we won't play on cam for them, so if they ask or hint for it after that then we just tell them we are not interested in a meet now.

Same as if when you ask them how they are after saying hello and they reply with "horny" then we stop the chat until another time. We are not into chatting just so they can get their rocks off for the night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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we've done the cam thing and find guys just want to put on a sex show and then never meet in person.

We make it plain at the start that we won't play on cam for them, so if they ask or hint for it after that then we just tell them we are not interested in a meet now.

Same as if when you ask them how they are after saying hello and they reply with "horny" then we stop the chat until another time. We are not into chatting just so they can get their rocks off for the night. "

You dont have to play on cam just turn on cams to show each others face... I talk to loads of friends on skype I would faint if any of them started masturbating lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Exactly what we do, just show face and body shape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been doing it all wrong then I just can't resist playing but I'm a tart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics are difficult, I have several pics in my private gallery and ones not uploaded to Fabs all taken within 6 months of each other and I look different in all of them, some I look my age , some younger and some older, so when I send pics I send a mixture of all explaining that they are all recent and let the recipient make up their own mind, as I do not have cam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I have said before, trying to match avatars/pics to people is great fun when attending social events!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I have said before, trying to match avatars/pics to people is great fun when attending social events! "

just look for the smiley looky likey and there I am

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