FabSwingers.com forum: Women must be inundated?

By *he-Hosiery-Gent OP Man
over a year ago

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One new site member said she'd only been joined up for ten minutes, yet, she had over one hundred messages ??

It must be borderline impossible to use the site for some of these ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is what filters are for, it's certainly not impossible to use the site to find what you want, when I joined it was on recommendation so I set all filters up straight away and took my time over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be a little overwhelming when you first join and haven't quite figured out how to use the site features such as the filters.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Never been inundated, ever. Does this mean we're mingers?

or we have filters in place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They should put their filters on then. I once had a photo at the top of hot pics and got over 1000 in a day, I then stopped being such a knob and put more filters on because it's just easier. It's what they're there for and if women choose not to use them then they have no right to complain.

Now I get a grand total of 0 messages unless I've messaged them myself so actually want a reply, and it's great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That is what filters are for, it's certainly not impossible to use the site to find what you want, when I joined it was on recommendation so I set all filters up straight away and took my time over it."

To be fair I'm guessing for some newbies filters are not the first thing they think of and I guess they find out from experience whether to apply them!

I don't *quite* get the mentality to insta-message a newbie with a 'welcome to the site' message - I can sort of see that they might think they're being friendly and welcoming but I guess they don't factor in its just them and 99 others doing exactly the same thing. To me, if I was on the receiving end of it, I'd find it suffocating and off putting and totally counter productive to what they were trying to achieve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're mostly inundated with shit though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I'm guessing for some newbies filters are not the first thing they think of and I guess they find out from experience whether to apply them!

That is true Dan certainly. I guess I was well advised when I joined and I knew where to find them, some people may not realise they are there to begin with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only get messages off of people I've previously messaged now, even if it wasa no thanks, they can sstill message.

I know people that have been on a few years and allow anyone to message and get around 100 a day, but they have no filters on and allow messages as want to give people a chance. Personally I can't be bothered to go through that many messages, so have the filters there

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By *he-Hosiery-Gent OP Man
over a year ago

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To be fair I'm guessing for some newbies filters are not the first thing they think of and I guess they find out from experience whether to apply them!

Exactly. That was my point. Someone who newly joins up, isn't going to be au fait with filters and the like, are they.

I've noticed a few where they've said as much, and said it was too overwhelming, so they've left.

So the men are just making it worse, there's not enough women to go round anyway, and some of the new members are being put off, from the start.

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

i get a lot of emails an traffic to my profile since my new pics went up ...of me in red

an a lot of emails to get through...an not complaining but i havnt the time to answer them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I'm guessing for some newbies filters are not the first thing they think of and I guess they find out from experience whether to apply them!

Exactly. That was my point. Someone who newly joins up, isn't going to be au fait with filters and the like, are they.

I've noticed a few where they've said as much, and said it was too overwhelming, so they've left.

So the men are just making it worse, there's not enough women to go round anyway, and some of the new members are being put off, from the start.

If i open my filters to guys out of my age range but leave my age range up so that the guys get a warning that i'm not interested in them, i get loads of guys message who know i'm not interested, some even apologise for them not being what i'm after.

I don't think messaging newbies is because it's manners or being friendly or welcoming, it's just opportunity.

Plus a lot of guys are just here to fuck anything they can. Seen it when my sister signed up to here, the amount of guys who messaged me asking me to recommend them to my sister (and not let her choose who she wanted herself) was disgusting imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here i get 100s every day i simply cant answer them all i just mass delete

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By *he-Hosiery-Gent OP Man
over a year ago

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To be fair I'm guessing for some newbies filters are not the first thing they think of and I guess they find out from experience whether to apply them!

Exactly. That was my point. Someone who newly joins up, isn't going to be au fait with filters and the like, are they.

I've noticed a few where they've said as much, and said it was too overwhelming, so they've left.

So the men are just making it worse, there's not enough women to go round anyway, and some of the new members are being put off, from the start.

I don't think messaging newbies is because it's manners or being friendly or welcoming, it's just opportunity.

Yeah, there definitely seems like there's a large proportion of men who have the mentality of, 'any hole's a goal' on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I'm guessing for some newbies filters are not the first thing they think of and I guess they find out from experience whether to apply them!

Exactly. That was my point. Someone who newly joins up, isn't going to be au fait with filters and the like, are they.

I've noticed a few where they've said as much, and said it was too overwhelming, so they've left.

So the men are just making it worse, there's not enough women to go round anyway, and some of the new members are being put off, from the start.

I don't think messaging newbies is because it's manners or being friendly or welcoming, it's just opportunity.

Yeah, there definitely seems like there's a large proportion of men who have the mentality of, 'any hole's a goal' on here?

It backfired on them, i told her to block every single guy who asked me to recommend them, haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think messaging newbies is because it's manners or being friendly or welcoming, it's just opportunity. "

Bang on. Being friendly and welcoming? Is it shite. They're trying to get in there before the other men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined and had messages before I even set my profile up, never mind filters!

I hid my profile for a while to get a handle on it.

Still, it's nice to have a choice!

And I'm pretty thick skinned, so I ignore the blatant rudeness and delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been inundated, ever. Does this mean we're mingers?

or we have filters in place

I'm a minger. No need for heavy filters so i must be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I joined and had messages before I even set my profile up, never mind filters!

I hid my profile for a while to get a handle on it.

Still, it's nice to have a choice!

And I'm pretty thick skinned, so I ignore the blatant rudeness and delete."

Same as when I joined my profile had nothing on it and I had loads of messages already....

I just didn't read them and deleted.... It all died out after a month cos my profile is as such lol

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

"Never been inundated, ever. Does this mean we're mingers?

or we have filters in place

If you're mingers ... bring on the mingers!

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't have massive filters set but don't get inundated either. I just ignore messages from those I'm not interested in and have stated so on my profile so the chancers who do spot me although I don't appear in any 'looking for' searches may have got the message I'm not worth them wasting their time over by my previous lack of response. Either that or I am a minger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had a lady friend who joined last year,no pics etc and recieved nearly 600 messages over 2 days.So that just says it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found that funny!

I'm sorry rather than pleased to say that I've never been inundated as yet. I've only recently joined and have taken my time to fill in my profile and just look around the site....no I'm not some picture collector before anyone says ??. I can quite understand though that being swamped by requests could be a turn off and discourage ladies from battling through the deluge. Does the same thing happen when a woman posts a new photo? I've often wondered that.

I do like the general atmosphere here so well done to the operators and contributors alike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found that funny!

I do like the general atmosphere here so well done to the operators and contributors alike."

It doesn't happen when i post a new photo. I might get one or two messages. But then I'm not to everyone's taste. I expect when a hottie posts a new photo they will see an increase in messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been inundated, ever. Does this mean we're mingers?

or we have filters in place

Oooops.....I didn't attach the original quote which just shows I need to get used to the site! Now where has that brain cell gone to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I could meet every one I chat to but not enough time in the day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No filters and all quiet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have rigid filters on because I know what I am looking for and would rather have 15 messages a day from guys I want rather than over a hundred from anyone. Don't have time to sift through 30messages, let alone hundreds!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had filters on as a friend told me the set up and still had over 900 in first 11

Days - so I cancelled and started again a few months later still with high filters yet knowing how to deal with it.... Each one of those emails represents a person and deserves to be treated as such X

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I found that funny!

I do like the general atmosphere here so well done to the operators and contributors alike.

It doesn't happen when i post a new photo. I might get one or two messages. But then I'm not to everyone's taste. I expect when a hottie posts a new photo they will see an increase in messages."

I get more winks and friend requests when I post a photo. But not more messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit that I haven't sent a single message out at all without having been contacted first. The sheer volume some of you ladies get is ridiculous, and having realised that when I first joined I've taken the view that if a lady is interested they'll find you. Had a bit of a wait for that to happen mind you but it's been well worth it and been chatting to a genuinely lovely girl these past few days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found that funny!

I do like the general atmosphere here so well done to the operators and contributors alike.

It doesn't happen when i post a new photo. I might get one or two messages. But then I'm not to everyone's taste. I expect when a hottie posts a new photo they will see an increase in messages.

I get more winks and friend requests when I post a photo. But not more messages."

Glad to know I'm in good company

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder when a woman thinks of signing up to this kind of sites, do they already know they will be popular and inundated with hundreds of msg? I recon what they do first is to look for the filters lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've taken my message filters off, not my age filter but the only people messaging me so far are out of my age ranges, will upload a pic and see if that changes anything.

Pretty sure i used to get a lot more messages when i uploaded one. i'll let you know who they're off as well, like the area and ages and stuff.

Yes i am bored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the men are just making it worse, there's not enough women to go round anyway, and some of the new members are being put off, from the start.

It's not like if they women weren't 'put off' then you'd just get a chance if you stand in line, you know. The women on this site don't 'go around' and get shared between the men, they fuck only the people who they want to fuck.

If you're not getting fucked it's something to do with you, not anyone else stopping the women here from giving you your turn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just posted a pic up to see if it affects how many messages I get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's attractive modesty Scarlet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No messages for me yet, but my looked at me list is all Looked just this minute...never seen that before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just some guy 9 years out of my ranges giving me a compliment.

I'm gonna change my profile coz it says i'm not meeting...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the men are just making it worse, there's not enough women to go round anyway, and some of the new members are being put off, from the start.

If you're not getting fucked it's something to do with you, not anyone else stopping the women here from giving you your turn."

Profound and probably accurate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just some guy 9 years out of my ranges giving me a compliment.

I'm gonna change my profile coz it says i'm not meeting..."

I'm going to take off all my filters for an hour and see what happens too

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

When I was a single on here I was lucky to get 10 messages a week let alone a 100 a day and as a couple virtually none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just some guy 9 years out of my ranges giving me a compliment.

I'm gonna change my profile coz it says i'm not meeting...

I'm going to take off all my filters for an hour and see what happens too

I've scared all the guys off i think.

My profile was supposed to put guys off but i'm actually getting less messages since before putting up another pic.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I rarely get spontaneous messages now. Think I've been here so long every guy on the site has finally messaged me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rarely get spontaneous messages now. Think I've been here so long every guy on the site has finally messaged me."

Haha, I think I reached that too at the end of the summer. It's quite nice and peaceful though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just some guy 9 years out of my ranges giving me a compliment.

I'm gonna change my profile coz it says i'm not meeting...

I'm going to take off all my filters for an hour and see what happens too

Daring!

From reading the comments on here a common theme seems to be men who either don't read or don't take any notice of a woman's profile and message anyway in case they are just so irrisistable she can't help herself but change her mind. Either that or they only look at the pictures....maybe they should get the Beano delivered every week instead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just some guy 9 years out of my ranges giving me a compliment.

I'm gonna change my profile coz it says i'm not meeting...

I'm going to take off all my filters for an hour and see what happens too

Daring!

I used to love reading the beano when I was little. But it seems some people may actually read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Post tits, that is what gets the messages.

Experiment conclusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Post tits, that is what gets the messages.

Experiment conclusion."

tits are always well received!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Post tits, that is what gets the messages.

Experiment conclusion.

tits are always well received!"

Thought the site was dead until i posted mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeh us tgirls are inundated too with str8 men married and no mention of a liking for us gurlz on their profiles lol its such a joke a bind and a bore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rarely get spontaneous messages now. Think I've been here so long every guy on the site has finally messaged me."

Errr hello....I haven't! but there again I only found this place a couple of weeks ago. Note to self.....copy generic message to every female I can find.

Hey ho....I must get some work done! Have fun and a great weekend all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just some guy 9 years out of my ranges giving me a compliment.

I'm gonna change my profile coz it says i'm not meeting...

I'm going to take off all my filters for an hour and see what happens too

Daring!

I used to love reading the beano when I was little. But it seems some people may actually read

that reading lark is overated. I really must get some work done!!!

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

Filters, filters, filters

I was overwhelmed before. Now I've done pretty well with the filters and now my inbox is manageable.

Took my filters off for a while to participate in a thread and was like

Back on you go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just some guy 9 years out of my ranges giving me a compliment.

I'm gonna change my profile coz it says i'm not meeting...

I'm going to take off all my filters for an hour and see what happens too

Daring!

It's not that bad, mostly guys too young for me and too far away messaging. Not sure they're fantasists as i haven't bothered replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

filters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The craziest part is, women will get a 100 msgs, without even putting up a pic or writing a half decent profile!

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

"The craziest part is, women will get a 100 msgs, without even putting up a pic or writing a half decent profile!"

Yeah that's very true. I suppose it's just people trying their luck when they see a new user or any woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boobies do it - it's like a lolly shop giving out free sweets ... They say who wants to read a profile .... Boobies droooooolllllll.....

Yet the man that I enjoy is the one that engages me both physically and mentally which my profile states ....

No give is boobies - summary from an email received - I will buy you coffee - just let me touch your boobies ......

Mmmmmmm - FAB WORLD

MWAH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The longer your on here the less messages you get

New women will get more because none of the guys have mailed them before

But as time goes by and guys have already mailed you and been rejected/blocked etc the numbers dwindle

But that aside getting loads of messages and getting messages from guys you'd meet is opposite sides of the coin

You could get 20 messages in a hour and still not find anybody suitable

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

"The longer your on here the less messages you get

New women will get more because none of the guys have mailed them before

But as time goes by and guys have already mailed you and been rejected/blocked etc the numbers dwindle

But that aside getting loads of messages and getting messages from guys you'd meet is opposite sides of the coin

You could get 20 messages in a hour and still not find anybody suitable "

Yes that is very true. The longer you are here the better you can filter out those unsuitable or do not match what you want, and you will find the quality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have to say thanks to all the single guys on fab who have looked at my profile and NOT messaged. There are lots out there who do obviously read profiles

The results of my 1 hour open filters were 1 wink, 1 friend request and 7 messages, 1 of which was just a compliment, 1 saying I saw you looked at me, 1 saying simply hello and 4 more graphic ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had filters on as a friend told me the set up and still had over 900 in first 11

Days - so I cancelled and started again a few months later still with high filters yet knowing how to deal with it....

Each one of those emails represents a person and deserves to be treated as such X "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The craziest part is, women will get a 100 msgs, without even putting up a pic or writing a half decent profile!"

Which backs up my minger claim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It settles down after a while especially when your filters are inplace. I personally don't have many filters inplace as I've found newbies and un verified single men are often far more polite than older verified been here for ever men. I average about 30 messages a day. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I have to say thanks to all the single guys on fab who have looked at my profile and NOT messaged. There are lots out there who do obviously read profiles

The results of my 1 hour open filters were 1 wink, 1 friend request and 7 messages, 1 of which was just a compliment, 1 saying I saw you looked at me, 1 saying simply hello and 4 more graphic ones

Well at least you now know how to spice (!) up your day by having a quick blast of filter free time.

I'm off to place my vote on the Brexit question elsewhere on the forum.....that way I'm hoping no-one will accuse me of being an out and out perv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It settles down after a while especially when your filters are inplace. I personally don't have many filters inplace as I've found newbies and un verified single men are often far more polite than older verified been here for ever men. I average about 30 messages a day. X"

There's hope for me yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not really as 99.9% of messages are from folk id run a mile from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The craziest part is, women will get a 100 msgs, without even putting up a pic or writing a half decent profile!

Which backs up my minger claim

Ahhh but some of us are more discerning.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Boobies do it - it's like a lolly shop giving out free sweets ... They say who wants to read a profile .... Boobies droooooolllllll.....

Yet the man that I enjoy is the one that engages me both physically and mentally which my profile states ....

No give is boobies - summary from an email received - I will buy you coffee - just let me touch your boobies ......

Mmmmmmm - FAB WORLD

MWAH "

Mine are out, well almost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even as a monger I get loads of messages and fabs

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Even as a monger I get loads of messages and fabs

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iron,fish or coster?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even as a monger I get loads of messages and fabs

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monger God dam it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even as a monger I get loads of messages and fabs

iron,fish or coster?

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trust you to notice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To join in on a forum game the other day I had to tick the looking for men box,not have them blocked and have my age range open. Within a minute I had 3 messages from new men. I reverted back to my default and now I get none

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