FabSwingers.com forum: The Pull.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So reading people's posts, it appears that aside from the dedicated swingers,there's a lot of broken people on here. Lost,sad,lonely,low self esteem even depressed.

What's the pull to a place like this? Bit serious I know but it's intriguing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" So reading people's posts, it appears that aside from the dedicated swingers,there's a lot of broken people on here. Lost,sad,lonely,low self esteem even depressed.

What's the pull to a place like this? Bit serious I know but it's intriguing."
Too deep for me this morning , im out

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

" So reading people's posts, it appears that aside from the dedicated swingers,there's a lot of broken people on here. Lost,sad,lonely,low self esteem even depressed.

What's the pull to a place like this? Bit serious I know but it's intriguing."

Shagging all the other sad, lost and lonely broken people??

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Its all about making contact with people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having the best of times X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking to make like minded friends and see where the flow takes us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sad at the moment yes due to personal reasons but that's not normally me, and I'm honest about not meeting at the minute.

I could stay away from here for a while but honestly, I have made some great friends on here so like to see what they are up to and the forums are putting a smile on my face with their wonderful weirdness

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sad at the moment yes due to personal reasons but that's not normally me, and I'm honest about not meeting at the minute.

Wonderful weirdness...brilliant description. It is like the bar from star wars in here at times...and oddly enough that's why I stay!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Just to have the occasional shag when the need arises that's all. Heaven's I do dislike the word 'shag' dog's shag!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

This is definitely more a place of sex than relationships, but if certain things happen for the right people then who is anyone to argue?

It's certainly not somewhere I'd suggest anyone look for anything but sex.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sad at the moment yes due to personal reasons but that's not normally me, and I'm honest about not meeting at the minute.

Wonderful weirdness...brilliant description. It is like the bar from star wars in here at times...and oddly enough that's why I stay!

Lol, yes it is!

I also think some people can get away from reality in here, we are all strangers to a degree, and so can be more honest about things than say on faceache, where everyone is happy and they have to pretend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

See...evidence that there is profound thinking even at this time of day on fab!

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

There are a lot of broken people on the Internet. This site is no different to anywhere else

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm sad this morning but only because of the great big lump and cut I've got on my forehead. I didn't duck quite far enough climbing into a machine last night at work. God I look a twat... and yes I know more than usual

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I'm sad this morning but only because of the great big lump and cut I've got on my forehead. I didn't duck quite far enough climbing into a machine last night at work. God I look a twat... and yes I know more than usual

That's not good,stop climbing into machines!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" So reading people's posts, it appears that aside from the dedicated swingers,there's a lot of broken people on here. Lost,sad,lonely,low self esteem even depressed.

What's the pull to a place like this? Bit serious I know but it's intriguing."

Human nature it gives people hope that they will get somewhere

And your right lots of broken people with emotional problems .

Also lots of people that are lonely and can't socialise through no fault of their own

If you look at your circle of friends especially those that have had a bad divorce or those that haven't got regular contact sessions with thier kids or with with kid free time .

Men especially get it hard after divorce . And can be quite depressed especially when not allowed to see their kids and that is 1 in 4 children does not see their dad after divorce and and 1 in 5 loses contact after 3 years

Then the women that are left with the family home and memories and the debts can get very bitter as well

Just like in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" So reading people's posts, it appears that aside from the dedicated swingers,there's a lot of broken people on here. Lost,sad,lonely,low self esteem even depressed.

What's the pull to a place like this? Bit serious I know but it's intriguing."

I suspect it is the forum that attracts people like that more than swinging.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

There's a lot of lost and broken people in this world. To some, site's like this are a lifeline. A way to make contact with other people. To share experiences. To unload their troubles. A refuge of hope.

To some it's simply a way to meet up and have sexual adventures with others of a similar persuasion. But just below the surface there's much more going on. Not everyone lives such a blessed life. Not everyone has friends. Not everyone has a social life. There are people who fall through the cracks. To those Fab can be seen as a light at the end of a tunnel. A way to let some colour into their grey worlds. It can be more wonderful than most will ever realise.

It was for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a lot of lost and broken people in this world. To some, site's like this are a lifeline. A way to make contact with other people. To share experiences. To unload their troubles. A refuge of hope.

It was for me."

That's very poignant Howard and very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" So reading people's posts, it appears that aside from the dedicated swingers,there's a lot of broken people on here. Lost,sad,lonely,low self esteem even depressed.

What's the pull to a place like this? Bit serious I know but it's intriguing."

So why don't you tell us why you're here then? That would be a good start.

According to you dedicated swingers are exempt from some of the things you mentioned, I'm sure some would disagree.

The forums are interesting because there's a wide range of people who use them. Their personal life's are of no interest to me.

If as I suspect you're trying to focus on the negative side of people, how does that help such people?

Most people come here for a laugh and a bit of banter, I personally think you're just simply being negative.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" So reading people's posts, it appears that aside from the dedicated swingers,there's a lot of broken people on here. Lost,sad,lonely,low self esteem even depressed.

What's the pull to a place like this? Bit serious I know but it's intriguing.

I suspect it is the forum that attracts people like that more than swinging. "

I think you're right BM. Just interesting that they/we/you/me may find it through a site like this. A desire to be wanted?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" So reading people's posts, it appears that aside from the dedicated swingers,there's a lot of broken people on here. Lost,sad,lonely,low self esteem even depressed.

What's the pull to a place like this? Bit serious I know but it's intriguing.

So why don't you tell us why you're here then? That would be a good start.

According to you dedicated swingers are exempt from some of the things you mentioned, I'm sure some would disagree.

The forums are interesting because there's a wide range of people who use them. Their personal life's are of no interest to me.

If as I suspect you're trying to focus on the negative side of people, how does that help such people?

Most people come here for a laugh and a bit of banter, I personally think you're just simply being negative.

Bit of an assault there

I'm not focusing on anyone's negativity,I'm posing a general question for discussion based on observations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" So reading people's posts, it appears that aside from the dedicated swingers,there's a lot of broken people on here. Lost,sad,lonely,low self esteem even depressed.

What's the pull to a place like this? Bit serious I know but it's intriguing.

So why don't you tell us why you're here then? That would be a good start.

According to you dedicated swingers are exempt from some of the things you mentioned, I'm sure some would disagree.

The forums are interesting because there's a wide range of people who use them. Their personal life's are of no interest to me.

If as I suspect you're trying to focus on the negative side of people, how does that help such people?

Most people come here for a laugh and a bit of banter, I personally think you're just simply being negative.

Bit of an assault there

I'm not focusing on anyone's negativity,I'm posing a general question for discussion based on observations. "

I agree, I see no where the OP was being negative. He simply asked what others thought and has got replies from people who have used this site for positivity whilst things in their lives are more negative. Surely that is a good thing?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Just to have the occasional shag when the need arises that's all. Heaven's I do dislike the word 'shag' dog's shag!"

I chose it carefully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That'll teach you to have your fleshlight set to 'stun'

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

It was for me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have low self esteem, or depression. I'm not lonely either but i would like to make meaningful connections to new people who are similar to me. I'm just not finding these people anywhere.

Been hard to find people like me at all tbh, most people watch TV or follow mainstream stuff, and i'm not trying to be different or 'edgy' or whatever but i do get i'm not like most people and it pisses me off a bit but i just can't connect to people who are fake or superficial, so this site helps coz at least most people just don't care about connecting at all, whereas in the 'real' world you'd have to listen so much boring, trivial stuff just to engage with people. At least here the people full of shit are exposed pretty quickly and you can write them off easy enough, and the others are just being more open and honest coz it's a fairly safe environment really to be yourself, although - just like anywhere else - you get your judgemental people and your arseholes here too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" So reading people's posts, it appears that aside from the dedicated swingers,there's a lot of broken people on here. Lost,sad,lonely,low self esteem even depressed.

What's the pull to a place like this? Bit serious I know but it's intriguing.

So why don't you tell us why you're here then? That would be a good start.

According to you dedicated swingers are exempt from some of the things you mentioned, I'm sure some would disagree.

The forums are interesting because there's a wide range of people who use them. Their personal life's are of no interest to me.

If as I suspect you're trying to focus on the negative side of people, how does that help such people?

Most people come here for a laugh and a bit of banter, I personally think you're just simply being negative.

Bit of an assault there

I'm not focusing on anyone's negativity,I'm posing a general question for discussion based on observations.

OP it certainly wasn't an assault I was stating my opinion, nothing more.

I just don't seriously think how anybody who you mention would come on this thread and answer your question, that's what I meant by being negative.

For me it just came across as you were just trying to put certain people down, if I'm wrong then you have my apology.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No need for an apology and there's certainly no judgement from me. There's all walks of life in here...I simply noticed from some threads, people going through difficult phases in their life. I wondered how they ended up here. It's not a judgement. ..we all have those phases and different things help us through them.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

There are some on here that crave the attention and affirmation that they are still attractive and they hope others think so too, you can tell from the things they post and the threads they sometimes start, personally I think if you have any esteem issues at all a site like this can do more harm than good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The freedom of expression and the want for advanture it's as a good escapism as any .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That'll teach you to have your fleshlight set to 'stun'

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