FabSwingers.com forum: Socials!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My idea of a social is either a coffee and a chat somewhere public,or a drink in the evening at a pub, anything from half and hour to a couple of hours? But lately I have been let down last minute at least 4 times for all different kinds of reasons! I just wondered is it because they know I'm not going to sleep with them? I know that there are plenty of time wasters and plenty of genuine guys but I honestly thought that the ones I'd arranged to meet seemed genuine! I know that things come up that May cause them to not turn up but surely out of courtesy a message to explain? so we can rearrange!? As a parent I'm fully aware how hard it is and how valuable ppls time can be!.

.anyway I'm not getting dressed up tonight I'm gunna eat ice cream In bed and feel sorry for myself lol

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

how are you selecting them ? do you need to re_iew the criteria you set to select.

do you do the searching and start the contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What flavour icecream?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of men round our area are useless Hun

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I do social meets first, usually a coffee shop in my next town so i get a trip out so the guys know there will be no chance of a shag and ive not been let down yet.

Then if we hit it off hey ho for next time

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"My idea of a social is either a coffee and a chat somewhere public,or a drink in the evening at a pub, anything from half and hour to a couple of hours? But lately I have been let down last minute at least 4 times for all different kinds of reasons! I just wondered is it because they know I'm not going to sleep with them? I know that there are plenty of time wasters and plenty of genuine guys but I honestly thought that the ones I'd arranged to meet seemed genuine! I know that things come up that May cause them to not turn up but surely out of courtesy a message to explain? so we can rearrange!? As a parent I'm fully aware how hard it is and how valuable ppls time can be!.

.anyway I'm not getting dressed up tonight I'm gunna eat ice cream In bed and feel sorry for myself lol "

I have plenty of socials but there are lots more who have arranged one that don't show.

All part of Fab, decent guys are happy to have a social themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will always ask if they want a social and never have expectations beyond a drink and chat, I know most guys (from what my Mrs tells me) expect a blowjob at the very least, not me, I'm happy to keeps things on a social level and if we get on, then arrange a second meet for fun. It's how it should be.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I will always ask if they want a social and never have expectations beyond a drink and chat, I know most guys (from what my Mrs tells me) expect a blowjob at the very least, not me, I'm happy to keeps things on a social level and if we get on, then arrange a second meet for fun. It's how it should be."
not of me, i make it quite clear beforehand so if they think their getting anything tough shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not of me, i make it quite clear beforehand so if they think their getting anything tough shit"

Same. If I get any hint of thinking they may expect more I just cancel it.

I've never had a no show but I don't know why. I trust my gut feeling and it's never been wrong so far.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I make a point that it is a social and no not even a blowy in your car! Haha I suppose the fact I'm so adamant it's a drink n a chat only puts them off! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always play it safe meeting a stranger. Safe sex in and out the bedroom x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

.anyway I'm not getting dressed up tonight I'm gunna eat ice cream In bed and feel sorry for myself lol

I have plenty of socials but there are lots more who have arranged one that don't show.

All part of Fab, decent guys are happy to have a social themselves

I've had lots of socials It just seems the last few guys have just cancelled or not turned up! There are loads of genuine good guys on fab but sometimes It gets ruined for them as it just makes me more wary x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What flavour icecream? "

Chocolate! X

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I've had lots of socials It just seems the last few guys have just cancelled or not turned up! There are loads of genuine good guys on fab but sometimes It gets ruined for them as it just makes me more wary x "

Just recently I had one text to say he was on his way, text to say he was 15 mins away and text to say he'd arrived.

He wasn't there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make a point that it is a social and no not even a blowy in your car! Haha I suppose the fact I'm so adamant it's a drink n a chat only puts them off! X"

Trust your gut feeling.

It's not necessarily that they expected more.

Have a think- Were they hinting that you might change your mind about it just being a social? Were they asking what you'd be wearing? (In a pervy way, not just so they would be able to spot you.) Did they seem nervous?

Look on the bright side, you'll be warm at home and ice cream is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.anyway I'm not getting dressed up tonight I'm gunna eat ice cream In bed and feel sorry for myself lol

I have plenty of socials but there are lots more who have arranged one that don't show.

All part of Fab, decent guys are happy to have a social themselves

Bastards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not of me, i make it quite clear beforehand so if they think their getting anything tough shit

Same. If I get any hint of thinking they may expect more I just cancel it.

I've never had a no show but I don't know why. I trust my gut feeling and it's never been wrong so far. "

It does put me off when they think a social means groping in a pub,under the table or a blow job on the way back in an alley.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I make a point that it is a social and no not even a blowy in your car! Haha I suppose the fact I'm so adamant it's a drink n a chat only puts them off! X

Trust your gut feeling.

It's not necessarily that they expected more.

Look on the bright side, you'll be warm at home and ice cream is good.

Yes I'm in bed with 2 bald pussies so it can't be bad! (Sphynx cats) even tho they are trying to nick my ice cream! X

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Nothing wrong with asking for a social first. I would not consider anything else, for one it is safer but also it gives me (and the other party, of course) an option to decline another meet without causing offense as they would not be expecting anything other than a social.

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

The amount of men that struggle to understand what a social is on here is unreal.

Many i speak to seem to think its a quick drink followed by wham bam thank you mam

No end ask what i will wear, like seriously, its a social i'll be wearing my good ole bridget jones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The amount of men that struggle to understand what a social is on here is unreal.

Many i speak to seem to think its a quick drink followed by wham bam thank you mam

No end ask what i will wear, like seriously, its a social i'll be wearing my good ole bridget jones"

Some of us know how to treat a lady im a social meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well have a social with a woman instead

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"The amount of men that struggle to understand what a social is on here is unreal.

Many i speak to seem to think its a quick drink followed by wham bam thank you mam

No end ask what i will wear, like seriously, its a social i'll be wearing my good ole bridget jones"

I have met a couple of people who despite my very clear message of this being a social thought they could take liberties. I do not dress in any particular way, definitely not sexy... just feminine because it is exactly what I do not want to happen. It leaves an unpleasant after taste if people take liberties - but it does confirm one thing : That person would possibly not take no for an answer in other situations so it is best to stay clear anyway?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"The amount of men that struggle to understand what a social is on here is unreal.

Many i speak to seem to think its a quick drink followed by wham bam thank you mam

No end ask what i will wear, like seriously, its a social i'll be wearing my good ole bridget jones

Some of us know how to treat a lady im a social meet. "
Absolutrly - the vast mjority is respectful and pleasant.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would happily meet people for a social and would never expect a blowy in the car - don't have a car so can't get one

But seriously a social is that just social. If it is a social with a possible play then that's slightly different

If someone said just social then fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone has travelled from London to meet me tomorrow evening. We've chatted for a while and have both agreed there'll be no pressure to play. He's in the area now as didn't fancy the drive tomorrow. So, you do get genuine guys too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.anyway I'm not getting dressed up tonight I'm gunna eat ice cream In bed and feel sorry for myself lol "

Hi iv just checked out ur profile and seems all pretty honest and straight forward and any guy that wouldnt want to meet u is just a pathetic waste of time and i know its wasted ur time but if they are like that ur better off that they didnt turn up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They're not all like that op . I had a lovely social with a proper hottie today. And we both knew that's all it would be too.

Dont change

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well have a social with a woman instead

That an offer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do a social first, somewhere very public and make it clear that nothing else is on the table. I combine it with somewhere I need to be anyway, so if they don't show up - I've not wasted my time.

Sounds like you've had a bad run , hope the next one is better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social and have been lucky in that everyone's turned up - it must be properly frustrating to get yourself set (either for a social or full meet) and then have a no show. Unacceptable really without notice. Hope you get more luck in the future OP!

So anyway, who fancies a wine / coffee?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a social and have been lucky in that everyone's turned up - it must be properly frustrating to get yourself set (either for a social or full meet) and then have a no show. Unacceptable really without notice. Hope you get more luck in the future OP!

So anyway, who fancies a wine / coffee?

Do you have haribos ?

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I won't cancel on you OP!

There are timewasters on here but I don't seem to have too many of them. Not sure why! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So anyway, who fancies a wine / coffee?

Wine at this time of the morning Dan

coffee for me, won't later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a bad run, hope things pic up for you soon op, lots of lovely guys and girls out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There really are 2 district divisions on fab .

Those who insist on the first meet being a social only , no play , no nothing .

And those like us who won't entertain a meet where there will be no possibility of play .

The difference is that we are totally honest about our approach . We wouldn't arrange a social meet only , and have turned many meets down when they insist on a social only meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well have a social with a woman instead

That an offer?

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deffo Hun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I won't cancel on you OP!

There are timewasters on here but I don't seem to have too many of them. Not sure why! X"

Haha I know you won't! Can't wait till your down my end! Haha location wise that is! We have had that conversation haha x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

The problem I have is that whist people are happy enough to meet for sex, they don't necessarily want to be seen with me

Looking on the bright side, OP, at least you don't have that problem

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I always meet for a social first and never play. I make it quite clear n my profile and during messages.

Just before the agreed social, I message to confirm they will be there and tell them again there will be no play. The few that think I will change my mind are cancelled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like socials. Even if that's all that ever becomes of it, hopefully it will have been an enjoyable few hours.

If it goes well and we decide to play at a later date.......Phhhhwoar!

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