FabSwingers.com forum: Discrimination

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I often see updates calling people for being fat or saying fatties should get down the gym blah blah blah

To me this is the same as racism sexism homophobia and yet people seem to be able to post horrid things about bigger people

If I saw a racist or homophobic update I'm sure that person wouldn't be still on the site

Is calling people for being fat acceptable. I mean we're all different and like different things. Surely this is the point of this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally any offensive name calling can cause hurt.

Society seems to pick and choose what is acceptable it seems. For instance being called fat may raise an eyebrow but being called skinny isn't a problem.

It's a fine line between banter and snide remarks. How long have the Irish had to put up with "stupid paddy" jokes or Welsh sheep shagging? The list goes on. Knowing your audience is what matters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Generally any offensive name calling can cause hurt.

Society seems to pick and choose what is acceptable it seems. For instance being called fat may raise an eyebrow but being called skinny isn't a problem.

It's a fine line between banter and snide remarks. How long have the Irish had to put up with "stupid paddy" jokes or Welsh sheep shagging? The list goes on. Knowing your audience is what matters."

Ooh I missed the Irish and Welsh updates. I'll have to keep an eye out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fat, I'm a tubbster, a chubby but, a mampy man, a fatty Mcfatty of fatington mayor of porkyvile.

But I'm fucking fabulous, and no one can take that away from me, .love yourself, and when other people say hurtful things, its their problem, because they can't be you, and they hate that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Generally any offensive name calling can cause hurt.

Society seems to pick and choose what is acceptable it seems. For instance being called fat may raise an eyebrow but being called skinny isn't a problem.

It's a fine line between banter and snide remarks. How long have the Irish had to put up with "stupid paddy" jokes or Welsh sheep shagging? The list goes on. Knowing your audience is what matters."

I don't do Irish jokes.

But there were these two laplanders, and one said to the other "ere paddy"..............

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"So I often see updates calling people for being fat or saying fatties should get down the gym blah blah blah

To me this is the same as racism sexism homophobia and yet people seem to be able to post horrid things about bigger people

If I saw a racist or homophobic update I'm sure that person wouldn't be still on the site

Is calling people for being fat acceptable. I mean we're all different and like different tuhings. Surely this is the point of this site "

Race, gender etc are not a choice. They are not unhealthy etc. Therefore people sometimes draw a distinction between them. However it is not very nice to be rude to someone in that way.

However offence is an invention and you can simply not be offended and ignore such insults.

Nothing changes in the world when you are offended so you way as well let it go.

Also you never know, maybe some criticism is justified. When I am offended or criticised, I tend to have an impartial think about whether they had a point.

Many more people have excuses for unhealthy fatness than have genuine reasons. You will see a lot of them on this forum. But at the end of it all. It is their own choice and decent people would not try to upset another unduly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Generally any offensive name calling can cause hurt.

Society seems to pick and choose what is acceptable it seems. For instance being called fat may raise an eyebrow but being called skinny isn't a problem.

It's a fine line between banter and snide remarks. How long have the Irish had to put up with "stupid paddy" jokes or Welsh sheep shagging? The list goes on. Knowing your audience is what matters.

I don't do Irish jokes.

But there were these two laplanders, and one said to the other "ere paddy"..............

..very good. And most see the lighthearted banter for what it is..myself included. But it does not harm to pause for a few seconds and consider the individual you're talking to? For what it's worth. .I have had my hand in a sheep's vagina. ..but I was delivering triplet lambs at the time!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fat, I'm a tubbster, a chubby but, a mampy man, a fatty Mcfatty of fatington mayor of porkyvile.

But I'm fucking fabulous, and no one can take that away from me, .love yourself, and when other people say hurtful things, its their problem, because they can't be you, and they hate that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just to say It doesn't make me personally upset as I love my curves and there is plenty of men that can handle them well!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can like me as I am or do one a don't care, I am myself and loved and cared by those I know, so an online person not liking makes no difference in my life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can like me as I am or do one a don't care, I am myself and loved and cared by those I know, so an online person not liking makes no difference in my life"

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I'm fat, I'm a tubbster, a chubby but, a mampy man, a fatty Mcfatty of fatington mayor of porkyvile.

But I'm fucking fabulous, and no one can take that away from me, .love yourself, and when other people say hurtful things, its their problem, because they can't be you, and they hate that x

Not entirely sure that is completely true but it is nice to think that people are jealous rather than scornful.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"So I often see updates calling people for being fat or saying fatties should get down the gym blah blah blah

To me this is the same as racism sexism homophobia and yet people seem to be able to post horrid things about bigger people

If I saw a racist or homophobic update I'm sure that person wouldn't be still on the site

Is calling people for being fat acceptable. I mean we're all different and like different things. Surely this is the point of this site "

It isn't acceptable to call any group names on your profile or status. I would report it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I often see updates calling people for being fat or saying fatties should get down the gym blah blah blah

To me this is the same as racism sexism homophobia and yet people seem to be able to post horrid things about bigger people

If I saw a racist or homophobic update I'm sure that person wouldn't be still on the site

Is calling people for being fat acceptable. I mean we're all different and like different things. Surely this is the point of this site "

people discriminate from their own insecurities and ignorance. .. looking at your pics.. perfectly formed is what I see...no others words for it. its about individual perception... keep smiling and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So I often see updates calling people for being fat or saying fatties should get down the gym blah blah blah

To me this is the same as racism sexism homophobia and yet people seem to be able to post horrid things about bigger people

If I saw a racist or homophobic update I'm sure that person wouldn't be still on the site

Is calling people for being fat acceptable. I mean we're all different and like different things. Surely this is the point of this site

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I got called a Munich the other day

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"So I often see updates calling people for being fat or saying fatties should get down the gym blah blah blah

To me this is the same as racism sexism homophobia and yet people seem to be able to post horrid things about bigger people

If I saw a racist or homophobic update I'm sure that person wouldn't be still on the site

Is calling people for being fat acceptable. I mean we're all different and like different things. Surely this is the point of this site

Everyone on earth discriminates all the time. We would not achieve very much if we didn't.

Some discrimination upsets people some doesn't.

Some people when upset whine more than others.

It really is a mine field. Especially in today's knee-jerk offence culture.

There is a cheat code though: act in good faith and if someone is upset at you, listen, if they have a point, apologise, if they don't, defend yourself. Then move on.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I got called a Munich the other day

Autocarrot?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fat, I'm a tubbster, a chubby but, a mampy man, a fatty Mcfatty of fatington mayor of porkyvile.

But I'm fucking fabulous, and no one can take that away from me, .love yourself, and when other people say hurtful things, its their problem, because they can't be you, and they hate that x

Good for you. Couldn't agree more. I'm fat and not everyone's cup of tea but hey ho, we all have our flaws!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

Can't beat a good dunk! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

What biccies?

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

Not too many biscuits or you will be a bloater.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

No it was by a load of Liverpool fans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

What biccies?"

Got to be a milk chocolate hobnob. I am also partial to a Waitrose own brand chocolate chip digestive.

If you are going to have a treat. Have a proper treat.

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"I'm fat, I'm a tubbster, a chubby but, a mampy man, a fatty Mcfatty of fatington mayor of porkyvile.

But I'm fucking fabulous, and no one can take that away from me, .love yourself, and when other people say hurtful things, its their problem, because they can't be you, and they hate that x

Excellent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

What biccies?

Got to be a milk chocolate hobnob. I am also partial to a Waitrose own brand chocolate chip digestive.

If you are going to have a treat. Have a proper treat.

chocolate hob nobs have a strong back bone for dunking... excellent choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I often see updates calling people for being fat or saying fatties should get down the gym blah blah blah

To me this is the same as racism sexism homophobia and yet people seem to be able to post horrid things about bigger people

If I saw a racist or homophobic update I'm sure that person wouldn't be still on the site

Is calling people for being fat acceptable. I mean we're all different and like different things. Surely this is the point of this site "

Don't think I've seen much like that. This site seems to celebrate the fuller form in my opinion. Variety and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I describe myself as fat and am not massively offended if other people do the same.

What I don't like is people using your weight as an insult against you - like "you're fat so you must be lazy and greedy" or when some people rant on about women's standards being too high on here because they're fat and wouldn't get a look in in the outside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

What biccies?

Got to be a milk chocolate hobnob. I am also partial to a Waitrose own brand chocolate chip digestive.

If you are going to have a treat. Have a proper treat.

chocolate hob nobs have a strong back bone for dunking... excellent choice

Biscuits must always be of a dunkable variety and must be used for that purpose. Nom nom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

What biccies?

Got to be a milk chocolate hobnob. I am also partial to a Waitrose own brand chocolate chip digestive.

If you are going to have a treat. Have a proper treat.

chocolate hob nobs have a strong back bone for dunking... excellent choice

Biscuits must always be of a dunkable variety and must be used for that purpose. Nom nom. "

Stepping away from suddenly feeling a tad confused at apparently talking to myself; ginger nuts (no pun intended you filthy minded lot) are the zenith of dunkability. Cup of tea and ginger nuts = happy Heels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

What biccies?

Got to be a milk chocolate hobnob. I am also partial to a Waitrose own brand chocolate chip digestive.

If you are going to have a treat. Have a proper treat.

chocolate hob nobs have a strong back bone for dunking... excellent choice

Biscuits must always be of a dunkable variety and must be used for that purpose. Nom nom.

Duly noted. Waitrose or M&S stem ginger biscuits coated in dark chocolate shall be added to the list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

What biccies?

Got to be a milk chocolate hobnob. I am also partial to a Waitrose own brand chocolate chip digestive.

If you are going to have a treat. Have a proper treat.

chocolate hob nobs have a strong back bone for dunking... excellent choice

Biscuits must always be of a dunkable variety and must be used for that purpose. Nom nom.

Duly noted. Waitrose or M&S stem ginger biscuits coated in dark chocolate shall be added to the list. "

Guns, you know the way into the Heels good books. Gold star for biscuit selection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

What biccies?

Got to be a milk chocolate hobnob. I am also partial to a Waitrose own brand chocolate chip digestive.

If you are going to have a treat. Have a proper treat.

chocolate hob nobs have a strong back bone for dunking... excellent choice

Biscuits must always be of a dunkable variety and must be used for that purpose. Nom nom.

Duly noted. Waitrose or M&S stem ginger biscuits coated in dark chocolate shall be added to the list.

Guns, you know the way into the Heels good books. Gold star for biscuit selection

Accompanied with a Cadburys cream egg. Now the bars they do of those. Could they be dunkable too. Often like a Wispa in my tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

What biccies?

Got to be a milk chocolate hobnob. I am also partial to a Waitrose own brand chocolate chip digestive.

If you are going to have a treat. Have a proper treat.

chocolate hob nobs have a strong back bone for dunking... excellent choice

Biscuits must always be of a dunkable variety and must be used for that purpose. Nom nom.

Duly noted. Waitrose or M&S stem ginger biscuits coated in dark chocolate shall be added to the list.

Guns, you know the way into the Heels good books. Gold star for biscuit selection

Maybe you two need to get a room... I'll bring the biscuits chocolate hobnobs and ginger biscuits...

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

What biccies?

Got to be a milk chocolate hobnob. I am also partial to a Waitrose own brand chocolate chip digestive.

If you are going to have a treat. Have a proper treat.

chocolate hob nobs have a strong back bone for dunking... excellent choice

Biscuits must always be of a dunkable variety and must be used for that purpose. Nom nom.

Duly noted. Waitrose or M&S stem ginger biscuits coated in dark chocolate shall be added to the list.

Guns, you know the way into the Heels good books. Gold star for biscuit selection

Maybe you two need to get a room... I'll bring the biscuits chocolate hobnobs and ginger biscuits... "

Hahaha. Offer of biscuits is always welcome. I would compare the photos in both profiles though. There are certain features that are quite prominent.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"I'm fat, I'm a tubbster, a chubby but, a mampy man, a fatty Mcfatty of fatington mayor of porkyvile.

But I'm fucking fabulous, and no one can take that away from me, .love yourself, and when other people say hurtful things, its their problem, because they can't be you, and they hate that x

It's good you have a coping strategy, but I really don't think that last line is true if you're referring to when people take the piss out of your weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Puts the kettle, sits back in the armchair and quietly waits having tea an biccies to see if this thread stays friendly.

What biccies?

Got to be a milk chocolate hobnob. I am also partial to a Waitrose own brand chocolate chip digestive.

If you are going to have a treat. Have a proper treat.

chocolate hob nobs have a strong back bone for dunking... excellent choice

Biscuits must always be of a dunkable variety and must be used for that purpose. Nom nom.

Duly noted. Waitrose or M&S stem ginger biscuits coated in dark chocolate shall be added to the list.

Guns, you know the way into the Heels good books. Gold star for biscuit selection

Maybe you two need to get a room... I'll bring the biscuits chocolate hobnobs and ginger biscuits...

Hahaha. Offer of biscuits is always welcome. I would compare the photos in both profiles though. There are certain features that are quite prominent.

Boobs... look very prominent in both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fat, I'm a tubbster, a chubby but, a mampy man, a fatty Mcfatty of fatington mayor of porkyvile.

But I'm fucking fabulous, and no one can take that away from me, .love yourself, and when other people say hurtful things, its their problem, because they can't be you, and they hate that x

Lol @ mampy my granny used to call me that! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not acceptable, other peoples bodies are nothing to do with you. I've not seen any updates like this in my feed luckily.

I can understand people being disappointed with what the site has to offer if they are looking for something else but you just need to keep that to yourself really or stop looking.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

We are so selected in who and what, don't offend a swinger but some of people who are offended use language about celebrities, mp's and other people off the site.

If you believe in respect, it applies to all.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"So I often see updates calling people for being fat or saying fatties should get down the gym blah blah blah

To me this is the same as racism sexism homophobia and yet people seem to be able to post horrid things about bigger people

If I saw a racist or homophobic update I'm sure that person wouldn't be still on the site

Is calling people for being fat acceptable. I mean we're all different and like different things. Surely this is the point of this site "

It's not acceptable but it's not discrimination. It's just rude and unnecessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I often see updates calling people for being fat or saying fatties should get down the gym blah blah blah

To me this is the same as racism sexism homophobia and yet people seem to be able to post horrid things about bigger people

If I saw a racist or homophobic update I'm sure that person wouldn't be still on the site

Is calling people for being fat acceptable. I mean we're all different and like different tuhings. Surely this is the point of this site

Race, gender etc are not a choice. They are not unhealthy etc. Therefore people sometimes draw a distinction between them. However it is not very nice to be rude to someone in that way.

However offence is an invention and you can simply not be offended and ignore such insults.

Nothing changes in the world when you are offended so you way as well let it go.

Also you never know, maybe some criticism is justified. When I am offended or criticised, I tend to have an impartial think about whether they had a point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I often see updates calling people for being fat or saying fatties should get down the gym blah blah blah

To me this is the same as racism sexism homophobia and yet people seem to be able to post horrid things about bigger people

If I saw a racist or homophobic update I'm sure that person wouldn't be still on the site

Is calling people for being fat acceptable. I mean we're all different and like different things. Surely this is the point of this site

Everyone on earth discriminates all the time. We would not achieve very much if we didn't.

Some discrimination upsets people some doesn't.

Some people when upset whine more than others.

It really is a mine field. Especially in today's knee-jerk offence culture.

There is a cheat code though: act in good faith and if someone is upset at you, listen, if they have a point, apologise, if they don't, defend yourself. Then move on."

Again.

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

There's no point and nothing to be gained in being rude to anyone regarding anything...It's a way I like to be with everyone, regardless...

As for physical attraction, if you aren't fancying someone then we can move on without having to be rude to them...

It's not rude to say 'no thanks', but it is rude, and unnecesary, to say 'no thanks you fat fucker' or something equally hurtful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I often see updates calling people for being fat or saying fatties should get down the gym blah blah blah

To me this is the same as racism sexism homophobia and yet people seem to be able to post horrid things about bigger people

If I saw a racist or homophobic update I'm sure that person wouldn't be still on the site

Is calling people for being fat acceptable. I mean we're all different and like different things. Surely this is the point of this site "
having an opinion is fine but saying it in a way to deliberately offend is not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although offensive, i don't see it the same as racism or homophobia.

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