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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wonder if anyone can give me any pointers on here I don't seem to be getting anywhere, ok I understand there's loads of single men on here but surely if I send a message to someone one and there not interested surely a polite no thanks isn't to much to ask, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder if anyone can give me any pointers on here I don't seem to be getting anywhere, ok I understand there's loads of single men on here but surely if I send a message to someone one and there not interested surely a polite no thanks isn't to much to ask, thanks "
blank avatar not good for starters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FAQ - accept no reply as a "not interested." Do you reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through the letter box? Of course not.

Also, as you haven't explicitly asked for profile advice I won't offer it.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

One photo nothing in the text

That's just for starters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"FAQ - accept no reply as a "not interested." Do you reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through the letter box? Of course not.

Also, as you haven't explicitly asked for profile advice I won't offer it."

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This ^^.. Plus 3 weeks and a moany status doesn't appeal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honest opinion.

It all starts with your profile & you need to work on yours.

Ditch the shadow man avatar = instant delete in my books.

More public pics.

Expand profile text, your likes / dislikes ~ what you are looking for & what you can offer.

Good luck

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Your not a bad looking guy and a nice age for quite a few.

You read profiles, message someone you like, send face picture with first message, mention something in their profile you have in common (this also shows you've read it)

Meet people. There's a meets and parties section further down the forums and a swingers club forums. Make friends, you might not be sexually attracted to them but they may be able to open doors for you.

Ask yourself if your serious or just think its going to be easier than pulling on a Saturday night.

If your serious, take the advice, realize it will take time to get "established" even joining in on the forums will get your name noticed and maybe get some invited to socials. But you got to work at it.

Or, you could sit back and moan and leave after three weeks saying it's a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get the mining probably doesn't sound good but where am I going wrong with my profile then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself on forum search, there are plenty of threads on the subject, literally hundreds. Follow the helpful advice there and take a good long look at your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get the mining probably doesn't sound good but where am I going wrong with my profile then lol "

You don't get it. One bad picture and a few setences is not attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your not a bad looking guy and a nice age for quite a few.

You read profiles, message someone you like, send face picture with first message, mention something in their profile you have in common (this also shows you've read it)

Meet people. There's a meets and parties section further down the forums and a swingers club forums. Make friends, you might not be sexually attracted to them but they may be able to open doors for you.

Ask yourself if your serious or just think its going to be easier than pulling on a Saturday night.

If your serious, take the advice, realize it will take time to get "established" even joining in on the forums will get your name noticed and maybe get some invited to socials. But you got to work at it.

Or, you could sit back and moan and leave after three weeks saying it's a waste of time"

Ok il give it a go thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is sadly lacking and is like hundreds, if not thousands on here, it just doesn't stand out. Work on this and add some decent photos especially a profile pic as your message just won't stand out in the sea of others in an inbox. Oh, and a no reply is a no thanks on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile is sadly lacking and is like hundreds, if not thousands on here, it just doesn't stand out. Work on this and add some decent photos especially a profile pic as your message just won't stand out in the sea of others in an inbox. Oh, and a no reply is a no thanks on here."

I've changed my profile pic now I best start looking at the text thankyou

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Your profile is sadly lacking and is like hundreds, if not thousands on here, it just doesn't stand out. Work on this and add some decent photos especially a profile pic as your message just won't stand out in the sea of others in an inbox. Oh, and a no reply is a no thanks on here.

I've changed my profile pic now I best start looking at the text thankyou "

Good move!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone have any tips on my profile please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any tips on my profile please "

Inject some personality into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any tips on my profile please "

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Yes.. Take down that status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any tips on my profile please "

Yep ~ see my post up there ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone have any tips on my profile please "

Yes. FFS listen to what people have said.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

There are countless threads offering generic advice in the archives,...

It's generic advice in the threads it has to be fella, we don't know you so you'll have to figure it out and do it yourself..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your not a bad looking guy and a nice age for quite a few.

You read profiles, message someone you like, send face picture with first message, mention something in their profile you have in common (this also shows you've read it)

Meet people. There's a meets and parties section further down the forums and a swingers club forums. Make friends, you might not be sexually attracted to them but they may be able to open doors for you.

Ask yourself if your serious or just think its going to be easier than pulling on a Saturday night.

If your serious, take the advice, realize it will take time to get "established" even joining in on the forums will get your name noticed and maybe get some invited to socials. But you got to work at it.

Or, you could sit back and moan and leave after three weeks saying it's a waste of time"

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"I wonder if anyone can give me any pointers on here I don't seem to be getting anywhere, ok I understand there's loads of single men on here but surely if I send a message to someone one and there not interested surely a polite no thanks isn't to much to ask, thanks "

At only three weeks on here you are simply a mere beginner. If you imagined this could be an Instant Fix site, then move on.

You're up against so many other guys seeking the same thing, so you have to stand out. The advice from others so far is sound, but in essence, you have to "SELL YOURSELF!

Get your profile expanded saying what you want and dislike. Get "noticed" by going on the Forums, going to socials or clubs in you region.

It's all about perseverance, patience and even more patience; it will work but will take time.

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