FabSwingers.com forum: intellectual stimulation

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A simple question :

Do you need intellectual stimulation in your relationship to 'make it work ?'

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Relationship - yes

Sex - no but is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't even fuck anyone without this. I'm fussy about intelligence though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a person with a brain.

If you don't you can get some nice looking latex love dolls nowadays. Good luck.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Yes. I can't get interested in sex without a bit of intellectual intrigue.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Absolutely vital for me.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

For sex, no. For a night out possibly ending with sex, yes.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Absolutely 100% for me. In a relationship, any relationship including close friendships for sure, it goes without saying but I would go as far as saying that good sex for me requires the other person to stimulate me with their intellect, personality and confidence as much as with thier genitalia. Good thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo Defo Defo

Mwah

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Absolutely 100% for me. In a relationship, any relationship including close friendships for sure, it goes without saying but I would go as far as saying that good sex for me requires the other person to stimulate me with their intellect, personality and confidence as much as with thier genitalia. Good thread

The profile is a big clue

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Yes. I can't get interested in sex without a bit of intellectual intrigue.

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. I can't get interested in sex without a bit of intellectual intrigue.

This.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Absolutely essential if you can't stimulate my mind then other areas are not going to be stimulated.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

If you cannot stimulate my mind then you wont stimulate anything else....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my relationship yes. It would be a dull relationship if my husband was as thick as 2 short planks.

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By *unduo000Couple
over a year ago

In and around

Without a doubt, same as above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Embarrassing to say but I couldn't bump hips with someone who is thick

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

The profile is a big clue"

Absolutely - I cannot for the life of me get excited about cock pictures unless said equipment is attached to an interesting, intelligent man!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Embarrassing to say but I couldn't bump hips with someone who is thick"
Somehow I was just thinking of Paloma Faith... made me chuckle!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Absolutely essential if you can't stimulate my mind then other areas are not going to be stimulated."

Guys with threadbare profiles are going to protest that they're not given a chance to display any intellect...

They'll be missing out on this massive area of possible contact and eventual meets!

Their loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The profile is a big clue

Absolutely - I cannot for the life of me get excited about cock pictures unless said equipment is attached to an interesting, intelligent man!

I go wild for intelligent guys! Must be hot too though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need the person to be on the same wavelength as me, so for example that could be humour as well as intellect.

Tbh meeting wise on here, I think the majority of men I've met have been intellectually superior to me.

I must blag it well

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

The profile is a big clue

Absolutely - I cannot for the life of me get excited about cock pictures unless said equipment is attached to an interesting, intelligent man!

I go wild for intelligent guys! Must be hot too though! "
Spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you cannot stimulate my mind then you wont stimulate anything else....

I concur

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

The profile is a big clue

Absolutely - I cannot for the life of me get excited about cock pictures unless said equipment is attached to an interesting, intelligent man!

I go wild for intelligent guys! Must be hot too though! "

Heat and intelligence can go hand in....wherever you like

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I need the person to be on the same wavelength as me, so for example that could be humour as well as intellect.

Tbh meeting wise on here, I think the majority of men I've met have been intellectually superior to me.

I must blag it well

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Agree with you on the humour and wavelength side, too. Get all three ... heavenly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm primarily attracted to men who can teach me & show me new things, sexual and otherwise. So yeah, I suppose someone would need to be pretty intelligent to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely essential if you can't stimulate my mind then other areas are not going to be stimulated.

Guys with threadbare profiles are going to protest that they're not given a chance to display any intellect...

They'll be missing out on this massive area of possible contact and eventual meets!

Their loss!"

It does help if you have a profile worth reading but just because you have strung a few words together doesn't make you intelligent,

As long as we both get on it doesn't matter who is the more intelligent for me,

In most cases it's probably her anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Please read the following in the voice of Danny Dyer)

"I don't mind doin' thick birds. Cum one, cum all, that's my fackin' mantra..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It does help if you have a profile worth reading but just because you have strung a few words together doesn't make you intelligent"

I sort of think it does. Likewise the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YES

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start talking to me about gravitational waves, string theory or the possibility of the singularity and I will be ripping off your clothes.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

If it's going to keep going yes for me I need brains and boobs. but hang on surely you have to stimulateing each other to be in a relationship.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"(Please read the following in the voice of Danny Dyer)

"I don't mind doin' thick birds. Cum one, cum all, that's my fackin' mantra...""

Who's Danny Dyer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A simple question :

Do you need intellectual stimulation in your relationship to 'make it work ?'"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kelly brook isn't the sharpest tool in the box, but while you lot are comparing sudoku scores, I'll be up her like a rat up a drainpipe....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We consider ourselves to be intelligent and are both highly educated.

We tend to play with whoever takes our fancy and we click with (as long as they aren't neanderthals). Although we would generally be attracted to people on similar wavelengths, we've had awesome sex with people for whom we have little idea of their intellect, and one memorably terrible meet with a couple with Phd's.

Go figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kelly brook isn't the sharpest tool in the box, but while you lot are comparing sudoku scores, I'll be up her like a rat up a drainpipe....

actually I admire her intellect

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

In our relationship, yes, but for a meet, not necessarily. Our relationship started from a meet, after a fair few messages where we found we had lots in common, from watersports to parenting teenagers ... what bonds us, in addition to similar sexual appetites and outlook, was and is our ability to chat, laugh, talk and have fun together. I am not sure how much is 'intellectual' per se, but its important and vital for us that it relates to shared values and a shared future based on what we want and what we believe in.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Unfortunately so. And for one on one NSA meets. Life would be far, far easier if it were otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intellect excites me. If I'm not turned on, then there'll be no action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(Please read the following in the voice of Danny Dyer)

"I don't mind doin' thick birds. Cum one, cum all, that's my fackin' mantra...""

Ooooh, Danny Dyerrr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. He would have to be the yin to my yang and compliment me. Intellectually he could be more or less than me,or even equal.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"If you cannot stimulate my mind then you wont stimulate anything else....

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligence is only part of the incentive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a riveting conversation with someone about water treatment and zombies. It was the prelude to one of the most memorable sexual experiences I have had.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"A simple question :

Do you need intellectual stimulation in your relationship to 'make it work ?'"

I need it in life generally in order to keep me interested.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"We consider ourselves to be intelligent and are both highly educated.

Go figure

What does highly educated mean ?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Relationship - I need a near equivalence and challenge

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By *omeotherguyMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I most certainly need intellectual stimulation. But I need emotional intelligence more than anything. Books read or general.knowledge come a distant second. Common sense isn't needed, life can be a lot of comical fun without it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also enjoy a little intellectual indulgence when it comes to conversations. I've had the privilege of talking to some great women on here and they've had the intellectual capacity to hold some interesting conversations.

Intellect and intelligence add to a heightened arousal in my opinion. Stimulate you the mind; stimulate the body.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

However... if a man finds the right spot on my neck and nibbles I won't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a dunno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For sex, no.

For a relationship, 100% yes. It's why I ended up with Marc. I've never met a smarter person and I snatched him up for myself.

-Courtney

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I need someone who can keep me interested and on the same wavelength as me

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

As long as we're singing from the same hymn sheet I'm happy

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Belfast

Yes. But sweetness , warmth and humour also. Intelligence without heart isn't attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does highly educated mean ?

listening to Radio 4 in a highrise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely, passion and substance are equally important in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yesx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people bore me very easily

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"A simple question :

Do you need intellectual stimulation in your relationship to 'make it work ?'"

Oh, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people bore me very easily

People who think they are intelligent and feel they have to try and prove it bore me easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people bore me very easily

People who think they are intelligent and feel they have to try and prove it bore me easily."

Amen to that

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I am attracted to women that I can have a decent conversation with. It doesn't need to be highbrow. But it really helps if there is a mental as well as a physical connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people bore me very easily

People who think they are intelligent and feel they have to try and prove it bore me easily."

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Definitley yes for me.

In any relationship, including friendship. And for nsa

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I just want someone who knows what I'm on about most of the time. Thankfully after years of listening Mr N does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people bore me very easily

People who think they are intelligent and feel they have to try and prove it bore me easily.

Amen to that

Agreed, modesty is a good quality in most cases and no-one likes a smarmy, know it all git!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people bore me very easily

An active mind is never easily bored.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Yes, in answer to the op's question..

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I need some kinda brain on there.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fucking well clever and i demand that the ho's i be ploughing are like well clever anall. Yeah? You get me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fucking well clever and i demand that the ho's i be ploughing are like well clever anall. Yeah? You get me?"

How does Well Clever feel about this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fucking well clever and i demand that the ho's i be ploughing are like well clever anall. Yeah? You get me?

How does Well Clever feel about this?"

Stupid bastard doesn't even notice..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's because everyone's been fucking them. Like playing a small organ in a cathedral.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's because everyone's been fucking them. Like playing a small organ in a cathedral."

Now that. Is a fact. He is a ho for show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am interested in interesting people, not necessarily well educated but with a variety of interests and the will to learn. Ideally articulate but more importantly they will have common sense and communicate freely without pretention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people bore me very easily

An active mind is never easily bored."

Whatevs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We consider ourselves to be intelligent and are both highly educated.

Go figure

What does highly educated mean ?

Masters? I've had a few men with Masters; the sex was good but the conversation wasn't. It was all about them and what they had done,what they do to make money. I wanted to talk about zombies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people bore me very easily

An active mind is never easily bored."

When people drone on about how highly educated they are and I can't engage my brain I drag them to bed and do bad things to them.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"That's because everyone's been fucking them. Like playing a small organ in a cathedral."

You mean they pull out all the stops?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be well educated isn't necessarily a measure of someone's intelligence.

Some very bright people are denied a good education for whatever reason.

I respect people who are intelligent but I don't put people down who are not the brightest.

I would have to be on the same wavelength as someone to have a relationship with them. Intellectual conversation can be boring and chatting about a subject you know little about is embarrassing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We consider ourselves to be intelligent and are both highly educated.

Go figure

What does highly educated mean ?

It means 12 years (between us) of university study an occasional lapse in humility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*and an

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I don't understand the question?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Relationship - yes

Sex - no but is a bonus"

Not for me- for me it's both x

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I don't understand the question?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A simple question :

Do you need intellectual stimulation in your relationship to 'make it work ?'"
I need a little of everything that's the way relationships stay as relationships ,intelligent conversation but comedy ,reliability and loyalty,sporty and energetic ,adventurous and interactive

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"A simple question :

Do you need intellectual stimulation in your relationship to 'make it work ?'"

What makes my/our relationship work is that Mr B just gets me, he always has.

We never run out of things to talk about together but most of it isn't intellectual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A simple question :

Do you need intellectual stimulation in your relationship to 'make it work ?'"

For a relationship, yes. We don't have to agree on everything intellectually and don't have to talk about rocket science lol but some deep and meaningful conversation is good. Shows depth of character I think..

I don't need it for just sex though but a relationship or friendship even then yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people bore me very easily

An active mind is never easily bored.

When people drone on about how highly educated they are and I can't engage my brain I drag them to bed and do bad things to them. "

I'm about to send you a really long message with details of my CV..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's because everyone's been fucking them. Like playing a small organ in a cathedral.

You mean they pull out all the stops?"

I mean there's a fucking big echo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A simple question :

Do you need intellectual stimulation in your relationship to 'make it work ?'"

Do you OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A simple question :

Do you need intellectual stimulation in your relationship to 'make it work ?'

Do you OP?"

I don't go looking for it

I'm happy to just have an affinity with someone

A relationship that ticks off a list of pre-engaged requirements wouldn't sit right with me

But it's not really up to me to determine how others choose their partners either

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

I'm with Aphrodite on this one..without doubt a yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My favourite people in all parts of life aren't necessarily intelligent. They just have busy brains and aren't afraid to question, explore and engage.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"A simple question :

Do you need intellectual stimulation in your relationship to 'make it work ?'"

Brief encounter NO. Relationship , even friendship, YES.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationship absolutely. Meet more than once yes. A quickie.... maybe not xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A simple question :

Do you need intellectual stimulation in your relationship to 'make it work ?'

Brief encounter NO. Relationship , even friendship, YES. "

I totally agree

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Relationships or regular fun yes. Quickie/one off situations not so much but there's got to be something there beyond visual appeal.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I can have mindless sex with the brain-dead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes relationship or meet have to have a brain and turn me on with it if not they don't get a kiss let alone anything else

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