FabSwingers.com forum: Wanting what we can't have....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've found throughout my adult life, that if a guy is really into me - I can take or leave him.

The minute a guy isn't readily available - I want him!

There must be some subconscious reasoning behind this. Why can't I go for the one that's easy to catch?

I'm sure I'm not the only one and it must work with both sexes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, I hear you OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm like that with everything.

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Its the challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha that is so true. Think it is probably true of men too. Although maybe women are attracted to bad boys a bit more. We hope we can change them! Then if we do we don't want them anymore!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too my filters don't run right x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, I think I just notice it more with guys that I can't have. I don't think their availability decides how much I want them, but if I know they aren't likely to meet me then I notice it more. If that makes sense...

-Courtney

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

None of you can have me!

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I used to be like that but would turn it inward. As in, if he doesn't want me then what's wrong with me? I could obsess over it for days/weeks/months when I was younger. I don't know when I stopped doing that but I have a few suspicions as to why.

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By *ecretgamesMan
over a year ago

the moon

"None of you can have me!

What he said ... Off the market !!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"None of you can have me!

If I say I don't want you, would that change your mind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me to op and its getting worse the older i get

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I feel the same about cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found throughout my adult life, that if a guy is really into me - I can take or leave him.

The minute a guy isn't readily available - I want him!

There must be some subconscious reasoning behind this. Why can't I go for the one that's easy to catch?

I'm sure I'm not the only one and it must work with both sexes. "
no I only want the ones I can catch

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"None of you can have me!

If I say I don't want you, would that change your mind?

You've never told me you don't want me

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"None of you can have me!

If I say I don't want you, would that change your mind?

You've never told me you don't want me

I've never told Eric Bana I don't want him either, but he doesn't seem to be interested.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"None of you can have me!

If I say I don't want you, would that change your mind?

I might be open to persuasion

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"None of you can have me!

If I say I don't want you, would that change your mind?

I might be open to persuasion "

Don't want you now!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

No, I always have the one I want

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've had it but mostly when I was much younger. I'm perhaps a bit too carefree now and look around. There's always more.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"None of you can have me!

If I say I don't want you, would that change your mind?

You've never told me you don't want me

I've never told Eric Bana I don't want him either, but he doesn't seem to be interested."

You don't want him, you want what he turns into when he's aroused. Personally I don't know if I could shag a green giant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found throughout my adult life, that if a guy is really into me - I can take or leave him.

The minute a guy isn't readily available - I want him!

There must be some subconscious reasoning behind this. Why can't I go for the one that's easy to catch?

I'm sure I'm not the only one and it must work with both sexes. "

Same here mate! Well annoying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooooo I was on the receiving end of this years ago......... It's all a challenge!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Something about the guy's indifference which makes him appear more confident = more interesting, more appealing.

Conversely, those that chase and "beg" sometimes sound desparate - not confident = not appealing.

I rather wait for ages and find one who seems interesting.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Hunter/Gatherer instincts or something in our childhoods that make us want to sabotage our own potential happiness?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am like this with food.

The mere mention of the word 'diet' just makes me want a chippy tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I can't have something I put it out of my mind. No point wasting time thinking about something I'm not going to get.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Hunter/Gatherer instincts or something in our childhoods that make us want to sabotage our own potential happiness?

Hunting probably has something to do with it and the danger of sabotage possibly adds to the excitement? Perverse, I know... but possibly not far from the truth.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

*put a disc on the gramophone without a trace of irony*

The Rolling Stones - You Can't Always Get What You Want

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7S94ohyErSw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found throughout my adult life, that if a guy is really into me - I can take or leave him.

The minute a guy isn't readily available - I want him!

There must be some subconscious reasoning behind this. Why can't I go for the one that's easy to catch?

I'm sure I'm not the only one and it must work with both sexes. "

Story . Of . My . Life

Also if someone asked me i couldnt even tell them one reason why i wanted them ... I just want them to want me

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

A certain woman asked if "I can't get no (satisfaction)" by the Stones might not be appropriate at this point.

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Frank Sinatra - That's Life

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIiUqfxFttM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely and its sooooooo bloody frustrating.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"A certain woman asked if "I can't get no (satisfaction)" by the Stones might not be appropriate at this point.

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Frank Sinatra - That's Life

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIiUqfxFttM"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nrIPxlFzDi0

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I want lots of things I can't have.

And sometimes even when I could have them I'll self-sabotage and fuck it all up for myself.

Me? Fucked up? *sigh*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A certain woman asked if "I can't get no (satisfaction)" by the Stones might not be appropriate at this point.

Error Code 404 - request not found.

Frank Sinatra - That's Life

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIiUqfxFttM"

Spoilsport...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"A certain woman asked if "I can't get no (satisfaction)" by the Stones might not be appropriate at this point.

Error Code 404 - request not found.

Frank Sinatra - That's Life

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIiUqfxFttM

Spoilsport...

Offer him a biscuit. That usually works.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"A certain woman asked if "I can't get no (satisfaction)" by the Stones might not be appropriate at this point.

Error Code 404 - request not found.

Frank Sinatra - That's Life

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIiUqfxFttM

Spoilsport...

Offer him a biscuit. That usually works.

Yes. Will slag for biscuits. I'm not proud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want lots of things I can't have.

And sometimes even when I could have them I'll self-sabotage and fuck it all up for myself.

Me? Fucked up? *sigh*"

mmm, sounds like me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want lots of things I can't have.

And sometimes even when I could have them I'll self-sabotage and fuck it all up for myself.

Me? Fucked up? *sigh*"

Alas, I know the feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someones too into you it can feel desperate. But no i never want guys who dont want me its my only rule. I will never chase a guy he would have to be exceptional

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

"I want lots of things I can't have.

And sometimes even when I could have them I'll self-sabotage and fuck it all up for myself.

Me? Fucked up? *sigh*

mmm, sounds like me too

Me too

regularly known as gonzoing after the muppet who tries so hard but fucks it up anyway!

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I'm still playing hard to get. It's working.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm currently in this situation both on and off the site. When does admiring from afar become creepy and at what point do you become the stalker?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't find this happens with me. If I like someone I do regardless.

If I can't have them then I say "Next"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to want things I couldn't have, now I don't want anything.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I want lots of things I can't have.

And sometimes even when I could have them I'll self-sabotage and fuck it all up for myself.

Me? Fucked up? *sigh*

Alas, I know the feeling. "

It's not just me then.

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