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"I'm not keen on the ones who bug you for a meet, you then have a meet, and you never hear from them again, but I guess it's just a symptom of the site. I am happy not to regularly chat on here, but I do agree its the ones who seem very enthusiastic at first who then seem to lose interest." i had one guy similar to that, talked every day then we met up eventually, then he'd just message me once a day (usually some compliment) and nothing else, even if i replied. i ignore him now as well. can't be doing with head games tbh. | |||
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"I'm not keen on the ones who bug you for a meet, you then have a meet, and you never hear from them again, but I guess it's just a symptom of the site. I am happy not to regularly chat on here, but I do agree its the ones who seem very enthusiastic at first who then seem to lose interest." Most guys practice NSA on here. If you enjoyed the meet them feel free to message him again. It's a 2-way traffic on here. I personally do keep in touch with my meets especially those I had more connection with although it doesn't really mean lets fuck again. | |||
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"Men are like dogs they will go to whoever pats them on the head and throws them a bit of meat now and again " those with no self respect | |||
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"Hey! Maybe the other one promised to meet a date earlier than yours lol. I don't think it's that hard to keep up with 2 or 3 people. On the other hand, he might have felt more connection with the other one at that point." I think its called ' not putting all your eggs in one basket ' | |||
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"Men are like dogs they will go to whoever pats them on the head and throws them a bit of meat now and again those with no self respect " It's a swingers sight don't start a whole new debate about self respect | |||
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"Hey! Maybe the other one promised to meet a date earlier than yours lol. I don't think it's that hard to keep up with 2 or 3 people. On the other hand, he might have felt more connection with the other one at that point." the one who messaged me today went quiet around the time we'd arranged to meet, a few guys have done that actually. oh well, i know NSA isn't for me. | |||
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"I'm not keen on the ones who bug you for a meet, you then have a meet, and you never hear from them again, but I guess it's just a symptom of the site. I am happy not to regularly chat on here, but I do agree its the ones who seem very enthusiastic at first who then seem to lose interest. Most guys practice NSA on here. If you enjoyed the meet them feel free to message him again. It's a 2-way traffic on here. I personally do keep in touch with my meets especially those I had more connection with although it doesn't really mean lets fuck again." Its not the fact I want more. I am also here for NSA and am unlikely to want to see them again too (especially if they live a way away), but I usually send a 'thanks for the evening' message and a verification, and get tumbles back. Of course, if the meet was shit, I am quite happy to never hear from them again. I never said I wasn't a hypocrite. | |||
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"Hey! Maybe the other one promised to meet a date earlier than yours lol. I don't think it's that hard to keep up with 2 or 3 people. On the other hand, he might have felt more connection with the other one at that point." | |||
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"I don't chat for weeks to anyone. If I'm interested ill meet. If not why keep them hanging on." Real talk! Why chat to someone for 3 months when you might only meet them once. To me it doesn't add up as I could have spent those minutes sleeping, watching take me out (the gossip) lol or seeking those willing to meet next weekend. | |||
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"Men are like dogs they will go to whoever pats them on the head and throws them a bit of meat now and again those with no self respect It's a swingers sight don't start a whole new debate about self respect " not sure if it's the female or male writing, but respect if your male is as described by you | |||
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"Yeah its normal but to be honest im not much of a chatter so i like it when they are quiet " Thanks | |||
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"Hey! Maybe the other one promised to meet a date earlier than yours lol. I don't think it's that hard to keep up with 2 or 3 people. On the other hand, he might have felt more connection with the other one at that point. I think its called ' not putting all your eggs in one basket ' " High 5! You understand my point perfectly | |||
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"I don't chat for weeks to anyone. If I'm interested ill meet. If not why keep them hanging on." that's more like it it is a sex site lol | |||
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"Men are like dogs they will go to whoever pats them on the head and throws them a bit of meat now and again " I think that needs the word "Some" at the start of it. Huge generalisation | |||
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"Hey! Maybe the other one promised to meet a date earlier than yours lol. I don't think it's that hard to keep up with 2 or 3 people. On the other hand, he might have felt more connection with the other one at that point. the one who messaged me today went quiet around the time we'd arranged to meet, a few guys have done that actually. Can't be catching feelings or feeling sad about someone you haven't even met. Think positive and see it as their loss. Don't you think I've experienced the same before?? I don't rant because I slowly block their ass and never look back. oh well, i know NSA isn't for me. " | |||
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"I don't chat for weeks to anyone. If I'm interested ill meet. If not why keep them hanging on. Real talk! Why chat to someone for 3 months when you might only meet them once. To me it doesn't add up as I could have spent those minutes sleeping, watching take me out (the gossip) lol or seeking those willing to meet next weekend." exactly so much time wasted for one meet lol | |||
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"Isn't that just normal? I do this. I might chat to a guy for a while and then eventually you move on/have less to say etc then i might send them a message a few weeks or so later and we chat a bit again and so on..." Yes, that seems normal. Some I chat with everyday about anything, some ill keep in contact with occasionally until an opportunity to meet presents itself | |||
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"Men are like dogs they will go to whoever pats them on the head and throws them a bit of meat now and again I think that needs the word "Some" at the start of it. Huge generalisation " And here was me thinking that it was women who played more mind games than blokes | |||
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"Men are like dogs they will go to whoever pats them on the head and throws them a bit of meat now and again I think that needs the word "Some" at the start of it. Huge generalisation And here was me thinking that it was women who played more mind games than blokes " Or maybe "most" | |||
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"Men are like dogs they will go to whoever pats them on the head and throws them a bit of meat now and again " Light hearted humour some just don't get it | |||
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"I'm not keen on the ones who bug you for a meet, you then have a meet, and you never hear from them again, but I guess it's just a symptom of the site. I am happy not to regularly chat on here, but I do agree its the ones who seem very enthusiastic at first who then seem to lose interest. Most guys practice NSA on here. If you enjoyed the meet them feel free to message him again. It's a 2-way traffic on here. I personally do keep in touch with my meets especially those I had more connection with although it doesn't really mean lets fuck again. Its not the fact I want more. I am also here for NSA and am unlikely to want to see them again too (especially if they live a way away), but I usually send a 'thanks for the evening' message and a verification, and get tumbles back. Of course, if the meet was shit, I am quite happy to never hear from them again. I never said I wasn't a hypocrite." I personally dislike those who don't even say a thank you after a meet or think it's useless to show simple courtesy by writing a verification. Even if the meet was shit, at least find something that was okay/nice about it and say it. Example: She had a nice sofa or her bedroom was really clean and warm if that was the case. I thought you meant saying hello again after verifications are done. My bad | |||
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"I think I'm guilty of that too... . Talk to a few people loads and if it doesn't turn into a meet (for whatever reason) then I move on to others. Sometimes I go back if I happen across them online or particularly fancied them or something they wanted? Why waste time chatting forever? Saying that there are also a few on here who I'll possibly only ever chat to! Been talking to one who I met socially in a club in 2012 - said we'd play another time, he only lives ten miles away and it's STILL not happened!! Will it ever?! Lol" i think it's me that's changed tbh. i used to work like this and it didn't bother me, but now it does for some reason. i feel like i'm being messed about now but before i was ok with it. well apart from the guy who messages me every day and never replied, dunno what that shit was about but i'm sure he was being a dick. | |||
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"I only chat if i think im gonna get a fuck " Honesty is the best policy. | |||
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"I only chat if i think im gonna get a fuck Honesty is the best policy. " Backs up my "pat on the head " theory | |||
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"Isn't that just normal? I do this. I might chat to a guy for a while and then eventually you move on/have less to say etc then i might send them a message a few weeks or so later and we chat a bit again and so on..." Spot on! Its not bloody Facebook lol | |||
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"I don't chat for weeks to anyone. If I'm interested ill meet. If not why keep them hanging on. Real talk! Why chat to someone for 3 months when you might only meet them once. To me it doesn't add up as I could have spent those minutes sleeping, watching take me out (the gossip) lol or seeking those willing to meet next weekend." I had a year of intermittent chatting with someone before we met. Sometimes life stops you from meeting but the attraction is strong | |||
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"Yeah its normal but to be honest im not much of a chatter so i like it when they are quiet Thanks " Ive never denied it im very anti social | |||
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"Isn't that just normal? I do this. I might chat to a guy for a while and then eventually you move on/have less to say etc then i might send them a message a few weeks or so later and we chat a bit again and so on... Spot on! Its not bloody Facebook lol" I chat a hell of a lot more on here than Facebook | |||
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"I like to chat with people but sometimes I feel like I'm being too eager. In that instance I tend to try not to message, firstly in the hope that they will message me, secondly so that I dont come over as pushy or needy" This is my approach. I appreciate that women are probably chatting to a few other guys as well as myself, as well as dealing with all the one line messages, so I adopt a 'ping pong' approach and respond to the messages I get back but don't bombard with too many new ones! | |||
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"Isn't that just normal? I do this. I might chat to a guy for a while and then eventually you move on/have less to say etc then i might send them a message a few weeks or so later and we chat a bit again and so on... Spot on! Its not bloody Facebook lol I chat a hell of a lot more on here than Facebook " I make exceptions for you | |||
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"I like to chat with people but sometimes I feel like I'm being too eager. In that instance I tend to try not to message, firstly in the hope that they will message me, secondly so that I dont come over as pushy or needy This is my approach. I appreciate that women are probably chatting to a few other guys as well as myself, as well as dealing with all the one line messages, so I adopt a 'ping pong' approach and respond to the messages I get back but don't bombard with too many new ones!" I think this is the right approach, got told by a lady last night she doesn't like blokes that are to needy (won't be texting her as often) although she wasn't referring to me. | |||
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