FabSwingers.com forum: Messaging verifications.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had an incident where a guy insisted I was his girlfriend. After a couple of messages of me trying to convince him otherwise, I blocked him. I was shocked to find he had messaged the guy who's verification is on my profile. I found this a really horrible experience. I was warned that this goes on but really - why would people do that? Why would anyone want to message someone's verification?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my old profile I had a few people message some of my verifications to "find out about me". One of the many reasons I don't display any of them now.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Yes some do bypass blocks, did you have to apologise to your verri...

Not your fault at all, quite embarrassing..Another day of FaB education

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes some do bypass blocks, did you have to apologise to your verri...

Not your fault at all, quite embarrassing..Another day of FaB education

Yes - I was embarrassed. They found it odd but funny, more just wanted to check I was ok.

I was really angry and in the end messaged him saying - whilst you are messaging my guys (so to speak!!) message ... And ...!! I don't think he did but how awkward?!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

This is why I only show social veris. And why some show the summary not the veris themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On my old profile I had a few people message some of my verifications to "find out about me". One of the many reasons I don't display any of them now."

What's wrong with asking you? Are you that cagey?! Lol

I'd be too embarrassed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On my old profile I had a few people message some of my verifications to "find out about me". One of the many reasons I don't display any of them now."

I'm glad you display your arse tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you reported him.. I don't show mine for this reason.... And other reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one guy message one of my verifications which I found really odd!

I did then hide them all for a while following that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had an incident where a guy insisted I was his girlfriend. After a couple of messages of me trying to convince him otherwise, I blocked him. I was shocked to find he had messaged the guy who's verification is on my profile. I found this a really horrible experience. I was warned that this goes on but really - why would people do that? Why would anyone want to message someone's verification?"
the green eyed monster it happens a lot ,women do it to xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a guy on our previous profile messaging our verifications telling them that we recommended him to them...luckily, they found it odd enough to let us know and he got pretty short shrift...another one messaged us after we'd met a woman who had been turning him down to ask us to put a word in for him...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hope you reported him.. I don't show mine for this reason.... And other reasons "

I didn't? I didn't know I should? I felt a bit sorry for him being so convinced but then I thought - hang on, he's on here?! I just had a paddy on my status and named and shamed him! I then got called a time waster and god knows what else for being horrible to him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We had a guy on our previous profile messaging our verifications telling them that we recommended him to them...luckily, they found it odd enough to let us know and he got pretty short shrift...another one messaged us after we'd met a woman who had been turning him down to ask us to put a word in for him...

To put a word in for him!! Lol I'm sorry but that made me giggle!! X

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I hope you reported him.. I don't show mine for this reason.... And other reasons

Reporting is better than naming and shaming - he could report you for the n and s!

Don't forget to block him too.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I hope you reported him.. I don't show mine for this reason.... And other reasons

This is why you don't rise to this sort of thing. Report, block, and move on. If you start naming and shaming and being horrible to people you run the risk of a ban yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't happen just to ladies either. A while back I had a young man message a few of my younger meets being derogatory towards myself with them and trying to strongarm them into a meet

Luckily both girls told me about it and ignored him/blocked him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was new on here , talking 7 years ago now , I did show my verifications. After an incident with a woman mailing those people and asking about me I chose not to display them.

This time round when I decide to meet again I'll do the same thing. It's not a badge of honour

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hope you reported him.. I don't show mine for this reason.... And other reasons

Reporting is better than naming and shaming - he could report you for the n and s!

Don't forget to block him too."

Never though of that!! Oh no!! Whoops. Lesson learnt on that one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hope you reported him.. I don't show mine for this reason.... And other reasons

This is why you don't rise to this sort of thing. Report, block, and move on. If you start naming and shaming and being horrible to people you run the risk of a ban yourself."

Lesson learnt. Whoops!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone. And for advice.

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By *iss AdventureWoman
over a year ago

Wonderland

Same thing happened to me. The people concerned had a couples account and singles accounts and thought I was their friends girlfriend. They repeatedly contacted people that had verified me and sent me quite threatening messages believing i was this other woman.

I reported it to admin but all they did was block which I didn't feel was really enough so I closed my account, opened a new one and blocked all three of their accounts before they even realised my new account existed.

I really felt stalked for a few weeks with their outrageous behaviour. It was horrible.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had a shocking case of nasty stalking on an old account. Someone kept setting up accounts and being really nasty because of a veri I left someone. I had to close it in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this happen to me last week, a guy asking me if I'd like to swap notes

Told him where to get off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had people mail me because they've seen my veri on other people's profiles. Weird as fuck.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"On my old profile I had a few people message some of my verifications to "find out about me". One of the many reasons I don't display any of them now."

Yep, it happens.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Same with a pushy couple who wanted to meet me, but I turned them down;

Sent dreadful messages to my veris (and their veris).

One of the reasons why my veris are now always hidden . ( quite apart from the fact that I have no interest in veris.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do know ladies who have messaged my previous meets to make sure I am genuine etc. I don't mind that to be honest, better safe than sorry for them but I always get good feedback so not really worried about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do know ladies who have messaged my previous meets to make sure I am genuine etc. I don't mind that to be honest, better safe than sorry for them but I always get good feedback so not really worried about it."

That I understand. I have a friend who I tell where I'll be and times etc. I guess not everyone has that kind of friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had people mail me because they've seen my veri on other people's profiles. Weird as fuck.

Kind of but it means you will meet guys, there are as we know many timewasters and a lot of women who are here just to chat and not meet so leaving veris for people may encourage more men to message you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I understand. I have a friend who I tell where I'll be and times etc. I guess not everyone has that kind of friend. "

No they dont which I why I dont have a problem with it, I like the idea of someone feeling safe and secure in my company as they tend to relax more which in turn means a better meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A had a local female who used my veris as a which guide on who to shag...... I ended up blocking her cos she was meeting men within a day or two of my veri and then talking about me constantly

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't think anyone's ever messaged anyone on my verifications list, even when I did display them but I have been messaged quite a few times by people checking out someone else I have left a veri for. It's not something I would do, but I can almost understand that reasoning, especially if it's a a single girl who doesn't want details but just wants to make absolutely sure someone is genuine. I always ask the person I met before I respond though, just in case there are nefarious reasons for them wanting to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the whole verification thing distasteful ,look who I've shagged ,sorry best way is meet for a social in a public place and not know anything about who's been before and who's coming after , a verification from one person means nothing to another ,people's taste varies so much in fact its amazing at times how different a person's opinion of you can be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had people mail me because they've seen my veri on other people's profiles. Weird as fuck.

Fair point.

I do understand that female profiles- especially ones that look like mine- may be fake. So I do make sure that I 'prove' I'm real.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find the whole verification thing distasteful ,look who I've shagged ,sorry best way is meet for a social in a public place and not know anything about who's been before and who's coming after , a verification from one person means nothing to another ,people's taste varies so much in fact its amazing at times how different a person's opinion of you can be

I get the impression on some it's a case of I had a better time than you. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the impression on some it's a case of I had a better time than you. Lol"
yes and this ones a real beauty treat her right ,hope to see her again ,she sucks like a henry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the impression on some it's a case of I had a better time than you. Lol"
yes and this ones a real beauty treat her right ,hope to see her again ,she sucks like a henry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone new to the site (male half here), I've found verifications a little odd but only in the way people seem to write them. It's like they are reviewing each other, rather than leaving a statement to verify how real the person is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One chap who met a friend of mine a few times and i met once along with her went on to message several people from my veris list that I know of..using my name to get a conversion going like he was a friend of mine or something.

I just blocked him and told folk I barely knew him when they asked...I don't think any of them met him.

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By *ruegent101Man
over a year ago

down by the river side

Can either be jealous you've not contacted them back or just a down right creep to be honest best to be blocked anyway !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As someone new to the site (male half here), I've found verifications a little odd but only in the way people seem to write them. It's like they are reviewing each other, rather than leaving a statement to verify how real the person is...

People do seem to often use it as some sort of trip (fuck) advisor. I find it weird but some people love it.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Creepy practice to me, after all, what might float ones boat, just might not do it for the other.....

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