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"Well done for sharing. There are people with far more debilitating conditions but lets not disallow you the chance to make others aware. Well done x x x " Thank you. I thought it would be a good idea to spread the awareness and help people understand what its like. | |||
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"Well done for sharing. There are people with far more debilitating conditions but lets not disallow you the chance to make others aware. Well done x x x Thank you. I thought it would be a good idea to spread the awareness and help people understand what its like." I think so. We are often so wrapped up in our own daily grind. Does us good to think of others. | |||
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"Thanks for sharing, very well written!" You're welcome and thanks ![]() | |||
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"Well done for sharing. There are people with far more debilitating conditions but lets not disallow you the chance to make others aware. Well done x x x Thank you. I thought it would be a good idea to spread the awareness and help people understand what its like. I think so. We are often so wrapped up in our own daily grind. Does us good to think of others. " Yeah it definitely is good to think of others | |||
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"I'm probably somewhere on the spectrum, as many are. It's good though to hear and understand how someone is personally affected, as everyone is unique - thanks op. And good luck with Fab. ![]() Thanks and you're welcome ![]() | |||
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"I have a family member with it and think that slowly there is a general awareness of the condition improving. Television programmes such as, 'The Undateables' and even, 'Big Bang Theory' feature people with the condition, or portraying it, so it is getting exposure. Also, many famous and successful people have the condition so it doesn't have to hold anyone back in life. I think awareness will improve more and I wish you the OP, and anyone else with it the best. ![]() I agree with you that the awareness is improving and I'm sure it will improve more in the future | |||
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"I thought I'd mention something else as well on how my condition affects me. When it comes to confrontation or being told off, I end up freezing and stutter as it is difficult for me to think and respond. It does make me feel ashamed that I can't speak up and stand up for myself when confronted ![]() I think that this is an entirely natural and normal part of the freeze, flight or fight response. The 'freeze' option is usually unmentioned, and people talk of fight or flight, by those who know less. How you deal and potentially recover from freezing is another thing. It's totally fine to stay stuck this way, at freeze. Possibly having some phrases or behavior to hand may be some help. My first step is to ensure I'm breathing deeply and slowly. I'm also fine with silence in conversation etc. And I will shut people up or instil barriers, if I don't like how others behave towards me, though that's aside from freezing. I guess the focus is on building your resources, as much as possible, in your freeze state, so that you're possibly able to move on, in good ways for you. | |||
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"I thought I'd mention something else as well on how my condition affects me. When it comes to confrontation or being told off, I end up freezing and stutter as it is difficult for me to think and respond. It does make me feel ashamed that I can't speak up and stand up for myself when confronted ![]() That is an interesting point on freezing. People need to mention that more often | |||
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"To me it's like having a very thin sheet of glass in between me and others. Almost invisible but alters the stimulus I get from others with regards to smells and spunds especially. Uni was hell for me as I got depression and began to loose track of who I was - one girl once smiled at me when i said hello. Nearly burst into tears as was nearly the straw that broke the camel's back because I didn't know how to reply. All the best fellow Aspie " My daughter is finding uni very stressful although she still lives at home as she couldn't move out but I'm hoping that she will restart in Sep now she is seeing a therapist to help with her anxieties x | |||
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"To me it's like having a very thin sheet of glass in between me and others. Almost invisible but alters the stimulus I get from others with regards to smells and spunds especially. Uni was hell for me as I got depression and began to loose track of who I was - one girl once smiled at me when i said hello. Nearly burst into tears as was nearly the straw that broke the camel's back because I didn't know how to reply. All the best fellow Aspie My daughter is finding uni very stressful although she still lives at home as she couldn't move out but I'm hoping that she will restart in Sep now she is seeing a therapist to help with her anxieties x " Good luck for her. There have been times in the last three years that I've not been able to force myself to go to university, because I couldn't stand to be around that many people (on the train, in the town centre, in the university, in class, etc.) And it never gets easier. But she will do it, if it's something she wants to do. ![]() | |||
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"To me it's like having a very thin sheet of glass in between me and others. Almost invisible but alters the stimulus I get from others with regards to smells and spunds especially. Uni was hell for me as I got depression and began to loose track of who I was - one girl once smiled at me when i said hello. Nearly burst into tears as was nearly the straw that broke the camel's back because I didn't know how to reply. All the best fellow Aspie My daughter is finding uni very stressful although she still lives at home as she couldn't move out but I'm hoping that she will restart in Sep now she is seeing a therapist to help with her anxieties x Good luck for her. There have been times in the last three years that I've not been able to force myself to go to university, because I couldn't stand to be around that many people (on the train, in the town centre, in the university, in class, etc.) And it never gets easier. But she will do it, if it's something she wants to do. ![]() Thanks I'm hoping she will feel better she seemed to be doing ok. But the past few months a lot has gone on such as bereavement and other things and I think it's affected her ability to cope. But she is seeing a private therapist and she has an app with the wellbeing team...oh and she has me! X | |||
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"While I'm here, I want to say something that I've not said on here about myself. Back in 2001 during my first year in college, I was 17 back then and I found it hard to fit in and socialize. I was in a state of mind where I felt that I was ugly and would never fit in and find someone. I then started having suicidal thoughts when feeling depressed. Fellow classmates did try to help cheer me up but it was difficult for me to snap out of feeling suicidal. One day after college, I actually ended up sat on the ledge of a bridge looking down. As I sat there, I here a voice behind me and it was a police officer and was quickly pulled away from the ledge. He asked why I was sat there and I tried to reply but couldn't get my words out. The police took me straight home and told my parents where they found me. I broke down as I realized that going through with it would have hurt and upset people that really cared about me including my family. I felt ashamed and regretted nearly committing suicide ever since. Over the years since then with the help from the friends I made at college and at work, I have grown wiser and became a much better person than I was all those years ago. I thought I'd get this out in the open as I wanted to get this off my chest." you always post as a friendly upbeat guy, im so glad youve come this far and hope your progression continues | |||
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"While I'm here, I want to say something that I've not said on here about myself. Back in 2001 during my first year in college, I was 17 back then and I found it hard to fit in and socialize. I was in a state of mind where I felt that I was ugly and would never fit in and find someone. I then started having suicidal thoughts when feeling depressed. Fellow classmates did try to help cheer me up but it was difficult for me to snap out of feeling suicidal. One day after college, I actually ended up sat on the ledge of a bridge looking down. As I sat there, I here a voice behind me and it was a police officer and was quickly pulled away from the ledge. He asked why I was sat there and I tried to reply but couldn't get my words out. The police took me straight home and told my parents where they found me. I broke down as I realized that going through with it would have hurt and upset people that really cared about me including my family. I felt ashamed and regretted nearly committing suicide ever since. Over the years since then with the help from the friends I made at college and at work, I have grown wiser and became a much better person than I was all those years ago. I thought I'd get this out in the open as I wanted to get this off my chest.you always post as a friendly upbeat guy, im so glad youve come this far and hope your progression continues" Thank you. Yeah I'm sure my progression will continue | |||
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"Is there support for people with aspies, to help them deal with situations bettet and understand themselves ive never seen anyone mention them on here. What happens when your diagnosed?" I'm not really sure. I know that I was diagnosed when I was in secondary school and that's all I can remember | |||
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"Is there support for people with aspies, to help them deal with situations bettet and understand themselves ive never seen anyone mention them on here. What happens when your diagnosed?" There are support groups if you contact your gp they can refer you or check google for local groups ![]() | |||
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"my daughter was diagnosed at great ormond street at aged 10 and put on prozac she is now 29 and currently sectioned under the mental health act its been hell as she self harmed tried to kill herself and was violent now we are seeing a light at the end of the tunnel she will soon be moving into her own place with a live in carer not too far from us on a community treatment order when she was younger it was not too bad but as an adult people dont understand drs do use pills a bit too much for my liking and i dont think they help that much in fact probably caused a lot of her problems Aspergers is a complicated thing she has never made friends easily good luck op" So sorry to hear what happened with your daughter in the past. It is good to hear that she is getting her own place with a carer. Asperger's definitely is a complicated thing | |||
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