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Meet at 8ish....... How long do u wait?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have arranged to meet a well verified male at 8ish, we are in the allotted venue, a nice little pub! He's not arrived as yet, not been online for 2 hours, how long should we wait?

Thanks in advance.

Sidney xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give it half an hour then if no message leave

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Just leave 20 mins is plenty of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finish your drinks and head off and make the most of the night elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd leave now. If he's not contacted you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he hasn't let you know he's going to be late, I'd probably be gone by now tbh. That said, if you're in a nice little pub you can just stay and enjoy yourselves for a little while anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go home his loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's awful playing the waiting game. I wait longer than I should. I'd say 30 mins.

I hope he turns up for you.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well id have a drink then if hes not there leave or get comfy for the night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

half hour max and thats being generous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 mins is quite enough to wait - 20 if it's someone that you'd really like to meet and who just might have been delayed.

But no more than that!

You never know if you've been set up and someone is just secretly watching you... So get out of there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go with rubywoo don't waste your nite xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest anything 'ish' gets my goat. I hate people being late and vagaries like that just say to me "when I can be arsed to turn up"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well theres entertainment being set up and the beer is good so will finish the drink and then probably go home and make our own fun

No wonder we stopped meeting apart from at clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily you are a couple so have each other's company..... If it's a nice place give it a bit longer? Has traffic been bad? Wouldn't stay past 30 mins with no contact tho.

You say he hadn't bern online but do you have other contact details? Kik? Text etc?

No excuse for not letting people know if you are not gonna make it....maybe he is married and his wife is suspicious? It happens!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't waste your time.15 minutes max. I've been stood up countless times. Wouldn't mind if they saw me and did a runner lol but,they just didn't bother'...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

take note all you who will only meet verified members

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By *mstillere2Man
over a year ago

middleport

8:27 now if he not turned up and not been in touch too say why forget him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Exactly he's 8 verified meets

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

10 minutes max if they havent been in touch to say they're running late..

If they've said they're running late 20-30 mins at most

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Well for a start; I never arrange any thing for " ish".

It's the time, or not; if I am feeling ultra generous , then it's +/- 10 mins max .

I might say " between 8 and 8:15"; if that's the case, then at 8:15:01 I am gone if there is no show.

( that's not just " swinging" meets; that is any appointment or meeting, business or pleasure .)

Anyway, no phone number to speak/ text on; no meet.

End.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd leave now. If he's not contacted you. X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he hadn't text with an excuse by ten past... I'd be gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first verified 'Fab' meet with a lady (now sadly UNLOS ) was a quick drink followed by a 'back to a room' job.

Paid for a Travelodge, waited in the pub at the allotted time, no show. Waited and waited, messaged, no response. After about 40 minutes I thought 'what a numpty I've been' and was literally about to leave when a message pinged up they were here and very apologetic.

Turned into a spectacular meet and my first veri on here! And legitimate reasons for lateness, so give the guy a chance! I hope he turns up!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Did he confirm he was on his way or earlier,if he didn't I wouldn't have set off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

15 minutes or as long as your drink lasts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would wait 1/2 hour as I know what I am like time keeping wise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well ...... the way this site has gone regarding meets..... you might as well wait until Nelson gets his eye back .... it's a f_ckin joke site nowadays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he hadn't text with an excuse by ten past... I'd be gone."

And me....we can all be late but it's 2016....there is Wifi/Internet/Phone/Txt etc. No excuses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's the ish that is a problem,he was there at 7:50 and only waited 5 minutes...

Have a great night without him, block him now save reading excuses.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

As a couple at least you can enjoy a drink together in the pub. Waiting whilst you are a single pin can be a mortifying experience

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Did he confirm he was on his way or earlier,if he didn't I wouldn't have set off"

I do this but cam acropper yesterday. Meet verified guy text on his way, text 15 mins away, text he was there.

He wasn't

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Did he confirm he was on his way or earlier,if he didn't I wouldn't have set off

I do this but cam acropper yesterday. Meet verified guy text on his way, text 15 mins away, text he was there.

He wasn't "

Why oh why I ask myself,have you heard from him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well for a start; I never arrange any thing for " ish".

It's the time, or not; if I am feeling ultra generous , then it's +/- 10 mins max .

I might say " between 8 and 8:15"; if that's the case, then at 8:15:01 I am gone if there is no show.

( that's not just " swinging" meets; that is any appointment or meeting, business or pleasure .)

Anyway, no phone number to speak/ text on; no meet.

End."

Same here. I hate lateness!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well the drinks are finished as are the rather scrumptious pork scratchings they sell! Time to go home, via mums for a cuppa

This arranging meets is crap, get all dressed up and they don't show, age old problems

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By *etes-dragonCouple
over a year ago

Wales and the South West

30 mins is way long enough, if he cant be arsed to turn up, its his loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the drinks are finished as are the rather scrumptious pork scratchings they sell! Time to go home, via mums for a cuppa

This arranging meets is crap, get all dressed up and they don't show, age old problems "

Really sorry to hear that! Hopefully you can both still have a great evening together! Make up for it by yourselves x

Don't let this one experience get you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know how you both feel. Precious free time wasted,scramble around to look good,let alone the distance? and,fuel costs.xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Did he confirm he was on his way or earlier,if he didn't I wouldn't have set off

I do this but cam acropper yesterday. Meet verified guy text on his way, text 15 mins away, text he was there.

He wasn't

Why oh why I ask myself,have you heard from him?"

No I haven't. Don't expect t either. Nutter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the drinks are finished as are the rather scrumptious pork scratchings they sell! Time to go home, via mums for a cuppa

This arranging meets is crap, get all dressed up and they don't show, age old problems "

Enjoy the rest of your evening . Don't forget to report him for not showing . His loss at the end of the day

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

It is so rude....like others have said it is also arrogant,suggesting they are worth waiting for.

I don't do 'ish' for all those reasons and I get stressed waiting.

Fuck 'em you are better than that Ax

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By *etes-dragonCouple
over a year ago

Wales and the South West

do admin do anything about someone who has been reported for a 'no show', if so what can be done??

Its just a question

Just think of the fun he has lost out on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait 15min, but if they didn't confirm the meeting by text or saying the meet is on at least 2hrs before. I wouldn't go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was going to be 2 mins late I'd let them know.

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By *tretchygirl and tintinWoman
over a year ago

Dartford


"do admin do anything about someone who has been reported for a 'no show', if so what can be done??

Its just a question

Just think of the fun he has lost out on! "

Yes they do. I reported someone the other day and within 20 mins the profile was gone and the messages I got had gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be messaging as i was setting off just to make sure. Hope the beer was good though as annoying as a let down maybe its always good to have a drink in a nice place xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've reported him to admin, not that anything will come of that I'm sure! Shame they don't get a black mark on their account for it but then it would always be up for abuse if they did that!

Never mind, fun on our own and guaranteed to cum hard and wet later

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

If the entertainment was good we'd have stayed and scoped the singles for a replacement

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

15 to 20 is all I would wait before leaving, however as others have said you are a couple so at least you won't have totally wasted your evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear. Another one I've read/heard about this week.

As I've said to others, I think there are people who get off on the process of organising a meet as opposed to actually doing the meet.

I don't understand it, personally

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"half hour max and thats being generous "

I'm wary of someone not being able to drive and call or text from some places if they can't park.

I'd also get them to agree to message in advance of the meet, to confirm.

No confirmation, no meet. But 30 mins is adequate generally.

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