FabSwingers.com forum: Where do you belong....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been thinking today about where I belong if anywhere. Whilst my daugthers need me I will remain here in rhyl. But what will happen when they have thier own families. Will i remain in rhyl do i feel I belong here......my family are all in Somerset but as an adult I don't feel I belong with them. I've long since lost touch with people in my home town in Cheshire and I feel like a stranger when I'm there.

So do you feel that you belong where you live or like me are you feeling ungrounded. Xx

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

My natural environment is in the desert, but you can't have it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been thinking today about where I belong if anywhere. Whilst my daugthers need me I will remain here in rhyl. But what will happen when they have thier own families. Will i remain in rhyl do i feel I belong here......my family are all in Somerset but as an adult I don't feel I belong with them. I've long since lost touch with people in my home town in Cheshire and I feel like a stranger when I'm there.

So do you feel that you belong where you live or like me are you feeling ungrounded. Xx"
I'm a Londoner but London doesn't represent Londoners anymore I love Dorset and Italy so my future will be in one of them but I kinda know how you feel OP

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I am a Londoner by birth but down 2 weekends s month in Manchester and I am thinking about moving up here

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm a home bird. My home is here with my family and friends well when I say family just my mum and stepdad but I've been here 40 and cannot see me ever movimg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I care full time for my mum. But when the day comes when I no longer have to care for her I shall move to Nottingham. Love the city as it has everything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's strange how life changes your perspective on things. I can see myself staying in rhyl tho. Unless of course I win the lotto then I'll be in grindelwald

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been born abroad and living in different countries until I was 10, I don't really feel I belong anywhere in England.

I feel my parents could have chosen to live anywhere in England.

I've lived in Reading the longest but I'm not from Reading.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I feel at home when I'm in the mountains.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I don't belong anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I belong in my home town, where I grew up, and I will move back there, but I will move back when its in my terms, and in the right part if town, in the right house, and thats where they will take me to my final resting place, at peace in the town I love, under the greenish brown grass if home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel at home in the American Midwest, or on the road, or out in the middle of nature. Certainly don't feel at home here in Brighton / Hove anymore. Just seems to be a comfortable stopping point.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I feel at home by the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a family we've always been somewhat wanderers

Though I have a connection to where I grew up in Gloucestershire; Scotland where my family are from; North Wales where I've spent a lot of my life. I don't feel as if I belong anywhere

I'm sure that I'd be happy wherever I was

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I don't feel like I belong anywhere.

I was born and raised in Scunthorpe. But don't think I grew up until I moved to Essex and started living my own life.

I'm not the person I was when I lived at home and the family is so fragmented now, I don't think I fit in anymore.

Guess the future holds what the future holds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm in town with lots of people around me I want to be alone. When I'm alone I want to be around people. I feel anxious in busy environments and scared alone.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Good question. I felt the Cotswolds were home but don't think I can go back, and I hate the South East so I am rootless. I may end up in the NE with family there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So glad I'm not the only one who feels disjointed. I do love my flat with my sea view

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I go with the Zen .... I'm wherever I'm supposed to be all the time .. Happiest way to be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good question. I felt the Cotswolds were home but don't think I can go back, and I hate the South East so I am rootless. I may end up in the NE with family there

I lived in chipping Norton for about a year. That was a lovely little town I could prob of settled.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

By the sea and mountains

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel at home in the wilderness up the mountains.

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

Near water in some way either by a river, lake or coastline. ..and hills. .much prefer to be near hills too

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Good question. I felt the Cotswolds were home but don't think I can go back, and I hate the South East so I am rootless. I may end up in the NE with family there

I lived in chipping Norton for about a year. That was a lovely little town I could prob of settled. "

Yes I liked Chippie. I miss the agricultural community there, it was very farmy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sunshine the Sea and a mountain as a backdrop. All I need.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good question. I felt the Cotswolds were home but don't think I can go back, and I hate the South East so I am rootless. I may end up in the NE with family there

I lived in chipping Norton for about a year. That was a lovely little town I could prob of settled.

Yes I liked Chippie. I miss the agricultural community there, it was very farmy.

Yes! I miss pizza mike lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know where I belong. Don't have the patience for London anymore. Been here since I was 13 and don't have contact with anyone I've ever known. Can actually just slip out without anyone ever noticing. Don't know where I'd go though. Bristol looks nice but that seems to be people from London end up.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I have lived in my area all my life. My family live near. I have the beach and countryside on my doorstep which I love. I don't feel I belong here, it's just somewhere where my home is.I do crave more of a solitary area, semi self sufficient.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I'm a Londoner and feel I belong here. I love London. I will only move when I really can't afford to live here anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shall remain a country bumpkin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a barranco, about 2000mts above sea level, overlooks plantations, several volcanos.

I'll be buying a certain old house in that view.

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By *atnat85Woman
over a year ago

northwest

I don't feel much connection to anywhere, I was born in Reading, then moved to East Lancs when I was 11, and been here ever since. My blood family live all over the coubtry/globe, and whilst I've been very well adopted by my husbands family and I'm settled here, I'm still feel like a southerner at times!

I'll stay out here, but we have toyed with the idea of immigrating to Oz x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

My heart belongs in Suffolk where I was born and where I lived until I was in my twenties. I miss the sea and my sister more than anything. One day I will probably go back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really belong anywhere ....

What is interesting to me is this thread and it's replies and the near death experiences thread the other day .....

Does FAB gave a type ?????

Are we nomads who know the value of life ....

Mwah x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't really imagine moving away from my extended family in Bristol but if I did it would be to Barcelona which is a possibility in a few years.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As long as I can spend time with those I love, I don't care about identification with a place. I've lived in loads of places. The midlands is pretty diverse and great though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My natural environment is in the desert, but you can't have it all.

You can for 1 week a year mate.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

At home. I'm an introvert mostly. I like holidays but ten days is usually enough. I like to come home.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"My natural environment is in the desert, but you can't have it all.

You can for 1 week a year mate. "

And so I will. Tbf, a month of that and I'd be proper dead. That week feels like another lifetime anyway.

*doffs bowler*

See you there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My natural environment is in the desert, but you can't have it all.

You can for 1 week a year mate.

And so I will. Tbf, a month of that and I'd be proper dead. That week feels like another lifetime anyway.

*doffs bowler*

See you there?

Not this year, but when I get back from everest next year I'll be booking it.

Shit that seems miles away

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Currently living about 200 yds from where I was born, although I've spent most of my life in a village about 3 miles from Derby. Can't see me upping sticks and relocating now to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't belong in this country. I don't feel like i'm british, don't like the queen, don't like the government and it's diseased ideas, don't like our traditions, our accents are shit, the weather is shit (although moderate conpared to some places).

I'm looking for a small island to live on, by myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right where i am in the Northeast

all my family live here

i couldnt image ever living anywhere else

home really is where the heart is

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

Love it here on the edge of the pennies Manchester city center half hour away by car or the wide open spaces of the moors ten mins walk best of both worlds k

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I grew up near Winchester but I left at 18. A very nice place to visit but I prefer seeing the ocean out of my window.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

So do you feel that you belong where you live or like me are you feeling ungrounded. Xx"

I'm 55 and lived and worked within an eight mile radius of where I was born. My youngest child marries in September and has already moved out. I retire in October and planning my future away from the capital as it doesn't seem like home anymore.

Thing is where to go. The other half can work anywhere and I'm considering working with him but I don't know where. Ben is Dutch and lived in Paris for twelve years so not fussed. My children live in Berkshire, Kent and London so I will remain in the south. Currently looking at Oxfordshire, Cambridgeshire, Suffolk and Essex but undecided although I'm favouring Essex. My ex husband lives there so it will make it easier for the kids to visit both of us!

One thing, I don't feel a sense of belonging in the city that is home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always used to feel happiest when I returned to where I was brought up as a kiddie. But these days everyone's moved on, or have died, and it's not the same as it was when I return "home" nowadays. But my roots are still firmly there and to me that'll be where "home" will always be.

But moving to the SE has been good to me so I kinda quite like it here right now. It'll do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was born in Birmingham but never felt like it was home. Rarely go back and there are no circumstances that would ever see me move back.

I loved my 5 years in London and love being back there but ultimately it is too crowded and there is too little green for me.

I like my corner of Hertfordshire. This flat is the longest I've lived somewhere in my adult life which says a lot. I have beautiful countryside surrounding me and London is only 20 minutes away so it suits me. But I could leave tomorrow it still doesn't feel like I belong, it's just where I live

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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago

where the road goes on forever

500 miles and twenty years back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love it here on the edge of the pennies Manchester city center half hour away by car or the wide open spaces of the moors ten mins walk best of both worlds k "

Before I moved to London I looked at moving round there for those exact reasons. It's a part of the country I love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My natural environment is in the desert, but you can't have it all.

Mine is abroad in a lovely hot country

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always used to think that I belonged somewhere else than where I was!

After nearly 20 years of travel I am back to where I was born.

Most of my family have gone and my friends have moved on - but I feel comfortable with the familiarity of it here.

For now ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always lived in Leicester or in the county.

I love it here and i would never want to live anywhere else.

The area is lovely and suits us perfectly.

My wonderful children all live here too so i would never move away from them.

Plus my beloved football team is here.

I could never move away unless i was no longer working and therefore able to return frequently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the words of Ian brown

It's not where you're from, it's where you're at

Football matches and gigs make me the most content can't I live my life just doing that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lived in Yorkshire for 25 years, but home is still Manchester where I grew up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the words of Ian brown

It's not where you're from, it's where you're at

Football matches and gigs make me the most content can't I live my life just doing that lol"

We do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is an interesting question.....for me certainly.....as I view my own situation in much the same way. Rather than ungrounded...I tend to think I've been dislocated..! Separated a few years shortly to be divorced....moving on has been hard to do. Where I live...even what I do has been much about being there for other people than myself...near to my children to support them emotionally...for my mum who had severe dementia to oversee her care. Whilst I wouldn't move far from my teenage boys....I love them and are totally involved in there lives....I'm in my home town that I have no links with anymore. I have to move shortly...but where...it's a blank canvas...and quite scary and unsettling when I should be excited.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We've both lived and worked within a few mile radius all our lives.

Mr B has talked about moving right away for a few years but I've always said no. If I said yes, he'd have us relocated in a heart beat.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I'm a londoner but can't afford to live where I feel I belong, so out of necessity I live a good hour away from my friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Born in Bristol and still there as caring for parents .have said once their gone I'm moving to Wales .debs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am where I belong, that's why I came back to it. That's not to say I'll never love again, but I think this will feel like home forever. I get the warm fuzzy feeling when I come home over the bridge on the train and see Newcastle, even though I've done that journey several hundred times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still searching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel weird in flat places with no hills.

can't help but love the rolling hills of Yorkshire

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By *van ArdenMan
over a year ago

Coleford, Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire.

I was born and raised in the Forest of Dean and although I have travelled to many different countries and parts of the UK this will always be my home.

Luckily my kids live very near to me and so although I like travelling the Forest of Dean will always be home for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am where I belong, that's why I came back to it. That's not to say I'll never love again, but I think this will feel like home forever. I get the warm fuzzy feeling when I come home over the bridge on the train and see Newcastle, even though I've done that journey several hundred times. "

Oops...never *move again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever feel like I really belong when I'm in Brooklyn. I don't think that will ever change. It's a base feeling I have.

Sadly I don't think I'll ever live there again, though.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only ever feel like I really belong when I'm in Brooklyn. I don't think that will ever change. It's a base feeling I have.

Sadly I don't think I'll ever live there again, though.

-Courtney "
hey chipperoo don't you just love Leeds though ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only ever feel like I really belong when I'm in Brooklyn. I don't think that will ever change. It's a base feeling I have.

Sadly I don't think I'll ever live there again, though.

-Courtney hey chipperoo don't you just love Leeds though ?

Yeah I do like Leeds a lot. But it's a place I live, not a place where I belong. I feel decidedly "other."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only ever feel like I really belong when I'm in Brooklyn. I don't think that will ever change. It's a base feeling I have.

Sadly I don't think I'll ever live there again, though.

-Courtney hey chipperoo don't you just love Leeds though ?

Yeah I do like Leeds a lot. But it's a place I live, not a place where I belong. I feel decidedly "other."

"
hey you should come from London its an eclectic mix of foreigners none of which are their because they love it they are there solely for money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly don't feel like I belong anywhere. I grew up in south London, my parents still live there. It's changed so much though. When I visit I'm hard pushed to find anyone that speaks English anymore. I live just outside London now, in Surrey. Still doesn't feel like home, even though I've been here a good 15 years or so. I just don't know. It's not a very nice feeling though. Wondering if you'll ever feel like you belong anywhere.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I live in the town I was born. Apart from 9 months in Edinburgh as a toddler I've always lived here. My most important family members live here. But given the chance I'd move to Edinburgh to be with my wider family in a flash. Or around Dawlish in south Devon

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Have lived all over UK, Cyprus, Germany and Austria. Don't have roots.

Somewhere by the sea is the eventual aim.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Paul Young also sang "Wherever I lay my hat, that's my home". I think that these days so many of us are nomadic, usually through work (How I ended up down here) and I would never go back to my 'roots' (Birmingham) but P would go back to hers (Newcastle) even though she loves this part of our sceptred isle as much as I do.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

I left " home" (Kent) at 17: and went overseas.

Since then, I have lived for less than one quarter of my life in UK;

I have lived " permanently" ( more than 2 years) in 7 countries ; and for lesser periods in 10 more.

UK is certainly not my home anymore; it hasn't really been since I was 17.

I could live in New Mexico or Rome, and call them home; but my home is now Southwest France , and will, I am sure, be my final home.

And the village and house I live in is very much "home" to me.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I've lived in London and I like Cardiff a lot.

I grew up in Mid Wales though and just feel a massive connection to the wilds of Wales. I spent the day walking in the Brecon Beacons yesterday and it was heavenly.

It's not based on false patriotism or similar - I love the Lake District and would probably feel the same if I was from there.

It's intangible really, but it's just the sense of a world beyond the everyday and mundane bullshit we all put up with.

I think the Welsh are particularly bad for it! There is a nice word "hiraeth" which doesn't have a ditect translation into English, but pretty much means "a longing for home".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Narnia - it's a given !!! :p

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