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Ladies, do you ever message first?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

or "real life" rules apply, as in the man approaches the woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message first...when i find potential

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I message first

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I have messaged first. I usually get blocked unless it's to someone I've messaged via a forum post. Those get blocked further down the line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone interests me defo xx

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I message first if my interest is piqued. Or on a gut instinct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm interested then yes I have been known to. Normally get knocked back mind!!

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes. If I see someone I like then I'm more than happy to message them first. I'm also bold in real life though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have a few times before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I have a few times before "

As a guy i love it when a woman mails me,i must admit its not that often and i do get bashfull....shucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I have a few times before

As a guy i love it when a woman mails me,i must admit its not that often and i do get bashfull....shucks "

it's hardly a regular thing for me but when it does happen it's always nice!

With 29th Feb coming up its a chance for the ladies to do the asking .. (Formulates forum thread idea for Monday as he types)

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I have messaged guys before if someone has taken my fancy but I have to say it doesn't happen too often I'm a fussy mare!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I have a few times before

As a guy i love it when a woman mails me,i must admit its not that often and i do get bashfull....shucks

it's hardly a regular thing for me but when it does happen it's always nice!

With 29th Feb coming up its a chance for the ladies to do the asking .. (Formulates forum thread idea for Monday as he types)"

If I say "I do" is it legally binding on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have messaged first some from the forums.

They are undertaking therapy at the moment.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Occasionally I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have messaged guys before if someone has taken my fancy but I have to say it doesn't happen too often I'm a fussy mare!!"

You can afford to be fussy with your looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone catches my eye when I'm in the right mood then I will quite happily message 1st.xx

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I never get the fooking chance to as most mens profiles are just so piss poor they think their cock sells them! Not in my bloody case!

Celibate now for over 5 months

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Nah I hate searching profiles!!

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"or "real life" rules apply, as in the man approaches the woman"

I message first if a profile genuinely makes me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or "real life" rules apply, as in the man approaches the woman"
women don't message first even if you've been chatting a long time having said that I have 3 that do now and I think if a woman likes you and has been chatting for a while that she shows she's thinking of you to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have messaged guys before if someone has taken my fancy but I have to say it doesn't happen too often I'm a fussy mare!!"

Veey rare for northants. Somebody as attractive as you. You can be fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been messaged a few times by women.

First thought is, 'wow' and I'm really flattered!

Second thought is, " why me?" followed by paranoia.

Third thought comes from my cock, and he takes over all the thinking!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Very rarely unless I see something I REALLY like. Usually too busy dealing with the bombardment in my inbox lol

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By *lassyandadventurousMan
over a year ago

England and Wales

Lady's

First message me because if I message you then you can't first message me lol

Some ideas

Dear marc lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no problems messaging first but they have to stand out..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or "real life" rules apply, as in the man approaches the woman women don't message first even if you've been chatting a long time having said that I have 3 that do now and I think if a woman likes you and has been chatting for a while that she shows she's

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I often message first those I've been chatting to who I like.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I always say it but I think women should message first more often. I think it's a much more productive and proactive way to go about things, instead of sitting there, sorting through your inbox, having to go through a million messages in the hope of finding one you like.

I've formed some great friendships and hopefully more from women who have messaged me first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very rarely unless I see something I REALLY like. Usually too busy dealing with the bombardment in my inbox lol"

Ah I don't have that problem so it's easier for me to do the messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or "real life" rules apply, as in the man approaches the woman women don't message first even if you've been chatting a long time having said that I have 3 that do now and I think if a woman likes you and has been chatting for a while that she shows she's thinking of you to "

You only just redeemed yourself!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not normally,as I'm rather shy

Though I did for the first time a couple of moths ago. After a couple of months mailing back and forth we are meeting for coffee

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"I have messaged guys before if someone has taken my fancy but I have to say it doesn't happen too often I'm a fussy mare!!

Veey rare for northants. Somebody as attractive as you. You can be fussy "

I hope nobody from your area sees this!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or "real life" rules apply, as in the man approaches the woman"

In my experience, no, they don't.

Most of the time they don't even message second.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or "real life" rules apply, as in the man approaches the woman women don't message first even if you've been chatting a long time having said that I have 3 that do now and I think if a woman likes you and has been chatting for a while that she shows she's thinking of you to "
and what's the point of continuing with trying to communicate if the other person doesn't occassionally show they are interested its so one sided otherwise

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"I always say it but I think women should message first more often. I think it's a much more productive and proactive way to go about things, instead of sitting there, sorting through your inbox, having to go through a million messages in the hope of finding one you like.

I've formed some great friendships and hopefully more from women who have messaged me first."

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Having read some of the posts I just like to say that anyone can and should be fussy.

Regardless of their looks

Personal standards are important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have messaged guys before if someone has taken my fancy but I have to say it doesn't happen too often I'm a fussy mare!!

Veey rare for northants. Somebody as attractive as you. You can be fussy

I hope nobody from your area sees this!!!!! "

Your northampton im kettering. Just im under your age bracket

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

We would message first if we thought there could be a good connection and have done in the past and had a long term friendship with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will message first if I like a profile. Only natural to show interest, whether it's a male or female initiating contact.

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

As I've blocked single men, yes I mostly message first. Less hassle for me and my inbox. That way I can concentrate on what messages I receive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's funny in forums is the only time I think a woman messages first.......but nice to read there are some sexy lady's that will

Message first xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have done this recently as there was something very intruiging in his profile. Resulted in a very satisfying recent meet too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message first a lot of the time..as my filters are usually on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having read some of the posts I just like to say that anyone can and should be fussy.

Regardless of their looks

Personal standards are important."

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Oh yes I do ... specially if they have good verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On other sites i do, but on here i don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone mssg me

Even if its just a "naaaah"

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

In all my years on here I've never been messaged first, not complaining but it would be nice to get one once ?? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been messaged lots. It may not have progressed lots but it's not unusual.

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

I've been winked a few times, but I don't think I've ever been messaged first by a woman or even a couple.

On many occasions, I've not even been messaged second

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do ... Not often mind you

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

If i see something i fancy i would be tempted,

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

It's always a lovely treat when a woman makes contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes... If someone piques my interest enough then I'll mail first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do ... Not often mind you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do ... Not often mind you "

love your profile

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have occasionally

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I have been known to, not all of us are shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done and i got told off

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"In all my years on here I've never been messaged first, not complaining but it would be nice to get one once ?? lol"

I'm pretty sure I messaged you first to give you info on places to stay and things to do around the Tower of London.

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