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"OP, your profile says you are very choosy and very picky. Do you feel the need to explain and justify your preferences? Why expect it of other people?" Because if you have nothing to hide you should be happy to explain yourself. | |||
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"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit." It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference. Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female. Not prejudice, just preference. | |||
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"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit. It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference. Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female. Not prejudice, just preference." | |||
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"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit. It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference. Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female. Not prejudice, just preference." Yes, it is; and thank God it is not yet illegal otherwise I'll have to give up sex altogether | |||
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"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit. It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference. Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female. Not prejudice, just preference." | |||
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"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit. It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference. Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female. Not prejudice, just preference." Ha ha | |||
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"OP, your profile says you are very choosy and very picky. Do you feel the need to explain and justify your preferences? Why expect it of other people? Because if you have nothing to hide you should be happy to explain yourself." What a load of absolute crap. It's a case of my preferences are ok but yours don't suit me so they aren't. | |||
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"When I go to a new place, village, school, state, town, country, I look out for one thing: mixed race kids/ young adults. If I don't find any, I jog on. Take from this as you wish. 'Nuff said!" And has anyone ever stopped you from "jogging on"? | |||
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"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit. It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference. Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female. Not prejudice, just preference." It's not racist to find certain traits unappealing sexually. Some people might genuinely be racist and not want to meet for that, but it won't be that many people (if any). You only ever see people moaning about certain traits being unattractive for 2 resons/ 1. that's the only option offered to them and they can't find what they want. 2. when they're the ones being considered unattractive, so that rules them out and they can't find what they want. | |||
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"Why do you ladies avoid us like the plague ? Seems every other profile I come across strictly points out no Asians. Is there a bad rep amongst the swinging scene where Asians are concerned ? All I'm trying to do is find a nice lady or two but this is making it very difficult. " We attend a monthly GG gangbang. The vast majority of guys that cause us hassle are asians. Always trying to go bare . Constantly rude and disrespectful. So for us saying no asians is best policy. | |||
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"Why do you ladies avoid us like the plague ? Seems every other profile I come across strictly points out no Asians. Is there a bad rep amongst the swinging scene where Asians are concerned ? All I'm trying to do is find a nice lady or two but this is making it very difficult. " Not another Asians trying to play the racist card. If your not happy leave. Moaning Asians should be new name its all you seem happy to do it moan. | |||
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"Why do you ladies avoid us like the plague ? Seems every other profile I come across strictly points out no Asians. Is there a bad rep amongst the swinging scene where Asians are concerned ? All I'm trying to do is find a nice lady or two but this is making it very difficult. " But that does mean that 50% of the profiles you come across don't have this on them, that's fairly good odds from where I'm standing. | |||
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"As a black man, I welcome the "no black guys" tag line, it saves a lot of time messaging someone who has no intention if meeting you because if the colour if your skin. And its not a racist thing, I've been messaged and had some great conversations with people who have had this on their profile, and they were very polite and respectful, I am more concerned by women who.message me and only want to talk about their live if black cock, I'm more than that, and I expect to be treated as such" Tell them you had a twin but you became fused in the womb, but your twin was white so you're very sorry but your cock is white. | |||
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"As a black man, I welcome the "no black guys" tag line, it saves a lot of time messaging someone who has no intention if meeting you because if the colour if your skin. And its not a racist thing, I've been messaged and had some great conversations with people who have had this on their profile, and they were very polite and respectful, I am more concerned by women who.message me and only want to talk about their live if black cock, I'm more than that, and I expect to be treated as such Tell them you had a twin but you became fused in the womb, but your twin was white so you're very sorry but your cock is white. " Nah, I just tell them I'm not interested | |||
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"As a black man, I welcome the "no black guys" tag line, it saves a lot of time messaging someone who has no intention if meeting you because if the colour if your skin. And its not a racist thing, I've been messaged and had some great conversations with people who have had this on their profile, and they were very polite and respectful, I am more concerned by women who.message me and only want to talk about their live if black cock, I'm more than that, and I expect to be treated as such Tell them you had a twin but you became fused in the womb, but your twin was white so you're very sorry but your cock is white. Nah, I just tell them I'm not interested " Where's the fun in that? | |||
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"It's all about preference. Blonde brunette large small. We all have a preference. " Which one are you? Make up your mind before I come after you! | |||
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"I have yet to see a thread started by a White guy or White woman bemoaning the fact that there are profiles with a preference for non-White people I have seen a few profiles like that and just move on; it is their preference and right I guess they don't find White features sexually appealing. I don't immediately think that it is because they are racists or prejudiced " The laws of attraction aren't democratic. People are attracted to what they're attracted to. It's basically as simple as that. Although , some have an almost antagonist way of articulating those preferences which points to prejudice, irrespective, they're (as everyone is) entitled to their preferences . it's not always necessarily indicative of n ethnophobic conspiracy. | |||
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"We are a mixed race couple make being asian female being Caucasian. From my experirence i have seen the behaviour of other asian guys at clubs and i would be weary of inviting them to play or in my home. My partner has a thing for asian guys. But figure i am the one that has problem with lol Lol as far as other asians go i was always a coconut lol " Does your partner have a thing for errr black guys too? | |||
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"Oh boy... Another Asians thread" Oi Oi. Shush. It's a secret. Shhh | |||
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"With thousands of members here, I think you'll never have enough time to stop messaging those who don't express limits. Glass is half full." | |||
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"With thousands of members here, I think you'll never have enough time to stop messaging those who don't express limits. Glass is half full." Some prefer to say "Glass is half empty" | |||
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"With thousands of members here, I think you'll never have enough time to stop messaging those who don't express limits. Glass is half full. Some prefer to say "Glass is half empty"" Some prefer to say "there's room in this glass, pass me the darned bottle!" | |||
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"We are a mixed race couple make being asian female being Caucasian. From my experirence i have seen the behaviour of other asian guys at clubs and i would be weary of inviting them to play or in my home. My partner has a thing for asian guys. But figure i am the one that has problem with lol Lol as far as other asians go i was always a coconut lol Does your partner have a thing for errr black guys too?" A persons colour has no bearing but if the person is obnoxious and rude not a chance in hell !!! | |||
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"We are a mixed race couple make being asian female being Caucasian. From my experirence i have seen the behaviour of other asian guys at clubs and i would be weary of inviting them to play or in my home. My partner has a thing for asian guys. But figure i am the one that has problem with lol Lol as far as other asians go i was always a coconut lol Does your partner have a thing for errr black guys too? A persons colour has no bearing but if the person is obnoxious and rude not a chance in hell !!!" I wouldn't touch a racist person with a barge pole. | |||
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"Why do you ladies avoid us like the plague ? Seems every other profile I come across strictly points out no Asians. Is there a bad rep amongst the swinging scene where Asians are concerned ? All I'm trying to do is find a nice lady or two but this is making it very difficult. " Just this morning I came across a profile saying no one over the age of 40... Seems like every other profile I'm excluded from for one reason or another.. I'm still having lots of fun with the ladies and couples who don't exclude me.. | |||
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"Must suck to have that at the forefront of your mind. " Must suck to have so many people tell you that they don't like a fundamental part of you that you can't change. | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices." Spoiler alert: the answer is yes. | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Spoiler alert: the answer is yes. " Yeah, I imagined so. It's kind of unpleasant that when a non-white person says 'hey, about race...' all of us white folk insist 'nope! no racism! you're playing the race card!' Because we're the experts, naturally... | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices." Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!! Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices." what did you think off my cave man theory? Bit off trolling/bit off seriousness added together with some wild Mumbo jumbo some off it makes sense......think we should embrace the controversy to the fullest can't be the good guy be the villain instead but be a gentleman most off the time kind off like a more civilised cave man hehe | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Spoiler alert: the answer is yes. Yeah, I imagined so. It's kind of unpleasant that when a non-white person says 'hey, about race...' all of us white folk insist 'nope! no racism! you're playing the race card!' Because we're the experts, naturally..." Exactly! *high five* | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!! Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look" Not saying it is necessarily racism. But casual prejudices and stereotypes play a part in who we would consider as partners. How could they not? | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!! Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look" Nope. Both are racism. And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism. | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices." Some of the worst racism I've whiteness have been from Asian people, directed at anyone. | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!! Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look Nope. Both are racism. And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism. " Why because white people don't have racism against them or because racism is only one way? | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Some of the worst racism I've whiteness have been from Asian people, directed at anyone. " Oops I meant witnessed | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 26/02/16 08:40:14]" Because quite often threads like this accuse white people of racism when it works all directions. | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!! Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look Nope. Both are racism. And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism. Why because white people don't have racism against them or because racism is only one way?" OK, both your points here mean the same thing. And no, that's not really that. It's because white cannot experience the systematic and institutionalised racism that exists towards people who are not white. It's like people who don't have uteri telling people with period pains "Oh it's not that bad, why are you complaining? People are dying in wars every day, just calm down!" | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 26/02/16 08:40:14] Because quite often threads like this accuse white people of racism when it works all directions. " Just because white people are accused racism doesn't mean it doesn't happen in all directions? It's like saying "Why are you hitting me? Please stop." and you responding with "But I saw you hit someone last week." They are unrelated and irrelevant. | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!! Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look Nope. Both are racism. And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism. Why because white people don't have racism against them or because racism is only one way? OK, both your points here mean the same thing. And no, that's not really that. It's because white cannot experience the systematic and institutionalised racism that exists towards people who are not white. It's like people who don't have uteri telling people with period pains "Oh it's not that bad, why are you complaining? People are dying in wars every day, just calm down!"" Ah so when I used to get left at the depot at work because the two Asian guys didn't want to work with the white man (their words not mine) that wasn't racism. Your comment alone is very offensive towards white people but I suppose that's fine because I cannot get offended? | |||
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"Sex rings in papers quite a lot, who where they and who did they target.???? Say no more. " 90% of serial murderers are white. Should we distrust all white people? Jimmy Savile Fred West Adam Johnson Why isn't their race being mentioned? Most mass murderers are white. | |||
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"Ah so when I used to get left at the depot at work because the two Asian guys didn't want to work with the white man (their words not mine) that wasn't racism. Your comment alone is very offensive towards white people but I suppose that's fine because I cannot get offended?" That's racial prejudice, but it's not racism. When were you 78% less likely to get a job and 8x more likely to be arrested because of your race? No one is saying you can't get offended because it's obviously happening right now. See, white people are allowed to have "preferences" and it's "not racism" but as soon as racism is pointed out, white little get really mad and make it all about them. | |||
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"Sex rings in papers quite a lot, who where they and who did they target.???? Say no more. 90% of serial murderers are white. Should we distrust all white people? Jimmy Savile Fred West Adam Johnson Why isn't their race being mentioned? Most mass murderers are white. " That's papers for you they want to jump on the race bandwagon. | |||
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"When were you 78% less likely to get a job and 8x more likely to be arrested because of your race? " And the figures are based on? | |||
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"Interesting views. Mostly racism being justified as its 'our preference'. I can understand if it genuinely is a preference but I don't think that is the case. I can also understand stereotyping has an effect also. Everyone is different and we should all respect that first and foremost. Anyway if you like what you see here drop me a line! " Are you married ? | |||
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"Op you don't have ts/cd/ and so on on your profile, does that make you racist against the transgender community or is that a sexual preference " Transpeople aren't a 'race'. | |||
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"Op you don't have ts/cd/ and so on on your profile, does that make you racist against the transgender community or is that a sexual preference Transpeople aren't a 'race'." I did not say they were x read before you type | |||
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"Op you don't have ts/cd/ and so on on your profile, does that make you racist against the transgender community or is that a sexual preference Transpeople aren't a 'race'. I did not say they were x read before you type" | |||
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"Btw nobody is playing the race card here. That would imply we are inferior in some way. All I was asking was why there was a dislike for Asian men in here, maybe it was down to preferences generally or something more specific like racism or stereotyping. Unfortunately Seems like in most cases it is the latter but that's understandable as there is a large representation of uneducated , benefit seeking, chav mentality people on here from what I have seen typical of those who are most likely to be racist " If thats your opinion of ppl on here im not surprised they wont meet you | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!! Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look Nope. Both are racism. And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism. Why because white people don't have racism against them or because racism is only one way?" Racism is the institutional and systematic oppression of somebody because of their race. There are very few white people in the world who will ever truly experience that. | |||
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"Btw nobody is playing the race card here. That would imply we are inferior in some way. All I was asking was why there was a dislike for Asian men in here, maybe it was down to preferences generally or something more specific like racism or stereotyping. Unfortunately Seems like in most cases it is the latter but that's understandable as there is a large representation of uneducated , benefit seeking, chav mentality people on here from what I have seen typical of those who are most likely to be racist " But by saying "Unfortunately Seems like in most cases it is the latter but that's understandable as there is a large representation of uneducated , benefit seeking, chav mentality people on here from what I have seen typical of those who are most likely to be racist" you've just slated a whole group of people by playing a race card calling people from lower class background racist. | |||
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"Op you don't have ts/cd/ and so on on your profile, does that make you racist against the transgender community or is that a sexual preference Transpeople aren't a 'race'. I did not say they were x read before you type" You asked if not having TS on his profile made him racist against the transgender community. No, that doesn't make him 'racist' against the transgender community, because 'racism' has nothing to do with gender. | |||
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"When were you 78% less likely to get a job and 8x more likely to be arrested because of your race? And the figures are based on?" I'm sure you know how to use Google. I'm not allowed to paste links on this forum. | |||
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"Op you don't have ts/cd/ and so on on your profile, does that make you racist against the transgender community or is that a sexual preference Transpeople aren't a 'race'. I did not say they were x read before you type You asked if not having TS on his profile made him racist against the transgender community. No, that doesn't make him 'racist' against the transgender community, because 'racism' has nothing to do with gender." Stop picking up on everyone's mistake and feeding off it xx | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!! Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look Nope. Both are racism. And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism. " You should sometimes read back what you write I do not find men under 6' physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with one under 6' I do not find men over 50 physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with anyone over 50 I do not find men with Indian or Oriental facial features attractive; that doesn't mean that I wouldn't speak with an Indian or an Oriental You are just way too touchy as are the Asians who get turned down for sex, sometimes, by their own peoples too | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!! Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look Nope. Both are racism. And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism. Why because white people don't have racism against them or because racism is only one way? Racism is the institutional and systematic oppression of somebody because of their race. There are very few white people in the world who will ever truly experience that." Really... | |||
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"When were you 78% less likely to get a job and 8x more likely to be arrested because of your race? And the figures are based on? I'm sure you know how to use Google. I'm not allowed to paste links on this forum. " And that's a credible piece of information? and every single person who applies for a job but didn't get it knows why he/she didn't and can put it down to race every time? | |||
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"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated. Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices. Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!! Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look Nope. Both are racism. And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism. You should sometimes read back what you write I do not find men under 6' physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with one under 6' I do not find men over 50 physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with anyone over 50 I do not find men with Indian or Oriental facial features attractive; that doesn't mean that I wouldn't speak with an Indian or an Oriental You are just way too touchy as are the Asians who get turned down for sex, sometimes, by their own peoples too" | |||
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"You should sometimes read back what you write I do not find men under 6' physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with one under 6' I do not find men over 50 physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with anyone over 50 I do not find men with Indian or Oriental facial features attractive; that doesn't mean that I wouldn't speak with an Indian or an Oriental You are just way too touchy as are the Asians who get turned down for sex, sometimes, by their own peoples too" Well done for saying you'd speak to them. No one has said you wouldn't...? Lol You should sometimes read back what you write | |||
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"Racism is the institutional and systematic oppression of somebody because of their race. There are very few white people in the world who will ever truly experience that. Really..." Yes. When was the last time you were institutionally and systematically oppressed due to your race? | |||
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"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday. " Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday. The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people | |||
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"When were you 78% less likely to get a job and 8x more likely to be arrested because of your race? And the figures are based on? I'm sure you know how to use Google. I'm not allowed to paste links on this forum. And that's a credible piece of information? and every single person who applies for a job but didn't get it knows why he/she didn't and can put it down to race every time?" Ha ha ha ha ha ha! Why don't you do a bit of research before you just dismiss data. | |||
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"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday. Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday. The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people" Great reductive statements there, that show no real understand of what racism is. | |||
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"Racism is the institutional and systematic oppression of somebody because of their race. There are very few white people in the world who will ever truly experience that. Really... Yes. When was the last time you were institutionally and systematically oppressed due to your race? " Let me get this right; you are institutionally and systematically oppressed because you are Asian? OK, maybe so How does that then translate into racism if I am not attracted to Asian features? | |||
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"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday. Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday. The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people Great reductive statements there, that show no real understand of what racism is. " Lord almighty. Some people are really thick and so deep up their own arse that they can't see anything else or any other point-of-view | |||
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"Racism is the institutional and systematic oppression of somebody because of their race. There are very few white people in the world who will ever truly experience that. Really... Yes. When was the last time you were institutionally and systematically oppressed due to your race? Let me get this right; you are institutionally and systematically oppressed because you are Asian? OK, maybe so How does that then translate into racism if I am not attracted to Asian features?" First of all, no one has actually ever accused anyone of being racist for not liking Asian features. Second, can you live in a society without being influenced by its prejudices and morals? | |||
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"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday. Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday. The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people Great reductive statements there, that show no real understand of what racism is. Lord almighty. Some people are really thick and so deep up their own arse that they can't see anything else or any other point-of-view" And the personal insults have come out. Bravo. *applause* | |||
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"In my experience (because I have an interest in racial oppression and how it intersects with other forms of oppression, and how that is reflected in the poly/kink/swinging scene) it comes down to poor stereotypes of people. "Black men have big cocks" "Oriental women are subservient" "Indian men don't treat women very well" "Japanese men have small penises" This stereotypes might be loosely based on historical 'fact'. Japanese men might statistically have 0.25" smaller penises than White British men. Black men might have half inch bigger penises than Japanese men. Whatever. And historically many people may have believed that they have encountered asshole Indians, or subservient Chinese women, or whatever. But there's something called confirmation bias. It's like, my Granddad thought women were rubbish drivers. So every time he saw a rubbish woman driver he would point it out, because it confirmed his world view that women were rubbish drivers. He wouldn't point out that men were rubbish drivers, because he thought that men were great drivers. If I pointed out that a man was a rubbish driver he would come up with an excuse for them as to why they were probably rubbish. Thus his 'observations' backed up his idea that women were rubbish drivers, and he couldn't see beyond that. The same is true when it comes to "Indian men are assholes to women" or whatever. You have been told that stereotype exists. Properly by someone who was properly racist. Or possibly you saw some statistic on some right-leaning TV show that wanted to paint all Muslims to be evil wife beaters who shouldn't come over here and take our jobs. (BTW, Not all "Asians" are Muslim, and some Muslim's have matrilineal societies where women hold the power). And the problem is, that once you have been told that Indian men don't treat women very well, you will look out for confirmation that supports your world view. So it doesn't matter that last year dozens, or even hundreds of women died or were seriously injured at the hands of their white domestic abusers, you will remember instead the small handful of stories that involved "Asians" - because that resonates with your world view. It's confirmation bias - and you can go and head academic articles about how confirmation bias affects your life. And if you want to, you can start to unpick those prejudices that are based on nothing more than stereotypes and approach your life with a much more open mind. And yeah, I do understand that some people just aren't attracted to certain types of people. I can't remember the last time I had sex with a blonde man, for example. But I wouldn't write 'No Blondes!' gleefully on my profile just because I don't find them attractive. And I feel like I'd be a bit closed-minded if I would reject a man just because he was blonde without seeing what was on offer. To write off a whole race of people just because of the colour of their skin seems as crazy to me as writing "No Blondes!" on my profile. Like, you might not have found a black man attractive in the past (Oh except Idris Elba - because he's so British he pretty much counts as white, right?) but you might find a black guy attractive in the future. There *are* racist undertones - even if unintentional - to saying "No blacks" or "No Indians", because most of the time that statement comes from a place of ignorant stereotyping. And to be honest, I do find it kind of unacceptable to write "No blacks" on your profiles. Consider rephrasing it "Whites only" and see if that makes a difference. Because it doesn't *usually* come down to skin colour. My Gypsy partner (Gypsies have Indian origin and very dark, swarthy skin) is often approach by people who have "no indians" written on their profile - because they see him as being 'white', even though he is darker in skin tone than Indians from at least half of India (because yeah - some Indians have very pale skin, and some have almost black skin). I have no doubt that some people do not find anything other than pinky-white skin attractive. Certainly I have a weakness for ginger men with their pinky nipples and pale skin tones. But that really is quite a rarity - and is far more rare than the proliferance of "No Indians" and "No black" signs on profiles. Most people who write those words are just quite simply racists. Even if they're being racist unintentionally." Thanks for taking the time to write this, Wasp. This is perfect. | |||
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"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday. Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday. The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people Great reductive statements there, that show no real understand of what racism is. Lord almighty. Some people are really thick and so deep up their own arse that they can't see anything else or any other point-of-view And the personal insults have come out. Bravo. *applause*" As always, you started it; oh, but hang on, you can start it because you are non-White; I get it now. Well done Back to preference vs racism. Not finding people with flat noses of slant eyes or dark skin or whatever other feature is not racism; it is a preference. Just as some Orientals and Indians don't find people with White features appealing; that too is not racism; that too is a preference Grow up and learn to live with it | |||
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"Exactly so surely it's not down to preference. Seems like black people are accepted and Asians are not. i think its down to stereotypes and generalisation. I love women of all races and shapes. I wouldn't discount any particular ethnicity " And your wife ? | |||
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" But i've come across lots of profiles from white girls/couples say bbc only...does that make them raciest..i think not...it a preference. " Personally I think that is the fetishisation of race and is actually rather racist. Lots of black men often confide that they struggle to find people who are interested in them beyond a racial stereotype of having a big penis. And in our communities we often ostracise and emasculate black men who *don't* have a big penis. So yes, I also think that is institutional racism, but for a slightly different reason. (There is a great article on the website Everyday Feminism about one authors feelings about the fetishisation of the subservience of "Oriental" women that deals with these topics - it's a good read.) | |||
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"Why do you ladies avoid us like the plague ? Seems every other profile I come across strictly points out no Asians. Is there a bad rep amongst the swinging scene where Asians are concerned ? All I'm trying to do is find a nice lady or two but this is making it very difficult. " I don't meet Asian guys off here I do meet a Asian guys semi regular though It's not that I don't like Asian guys, well some I don't but you can say that about any group of people I just don't do cold meets with them I could say why but I've been on here long enough to know it would start a riot so I'll keep that to myself | |||
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"OP, your profile says you are very choosy and very picky. Do you feel the need to explain and justify your preferences? Why expect it of other people? Because if you have nothing to hide you should be happy to explain yourself. What a load of absolute crap. It's a case of my preferences are ok but yours don't suit me so they aren't." Not really, but I would be happy to tell anyone why my preferences are as they are without hiding behind "it is my reference, stop bothering me" | |||
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"Asian? What is Asian? It's the worlds largest continent with a population of over 4 billion people and contains over 40 countries including China and Israel! " It is what ever I need it to be so I can decide that entire groups of people are the same simply because they look similar. | |||
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"I fucking hate Eskimos" And Martian people.... What next ffs | |||
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"I hate cornflakes but love weetabix" Is that Asian cornflakes ? | |||
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"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday. Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday. The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people Great reductive statements there, that show no real understand of what racism is. Lord almighty. Some people are really thick and so deep up their own arse that they can't see anything else or any other point-of-view And the personal insults have come out. Bravo. *applause* As always, you started it; oh, but hang on, you can start it because you are non-White; I get it now. Well done Back to preference vs racism. Not finding people with flat noses of slant eyes or dark skin or whatever other feature is not racism; it is a preference. Just as some Orientals and Indians don't find people with White features appealing; that too is not racism; that too is a preference Grow up and learn to live with it" Ah ha ha ha ha ha! Really? Kindly point out where I called you "really thick" or anything equivalent? Nice try. And I can't believe you ACTUALLY said "slant eyes". WOW. Looks like this is a case of block and ignore forever. Lol. Bless you. | |||
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"I fucking hate Eskimos" That sno joke !!! | |||
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