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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do you ladies avoid us like the plague ? Seems every other profile I come across strictly points out no Asians. Is there a bad rep amongst the swinging scene where Asians are concerned ? All I'm trying to do is find a nice lady or two but this is making it very difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a cultural thing .

Recent media exposure doesn't help your cause .

We have played with some really nice Asian guys , but also had some less pleasant experiences with some of the less pleasant Asian guys , especially in clubs .

There seems to be a tendency for some of them to feel entitled to do as they please , and a bit too aggressive and selfish to be honest .

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

OP, your profile says you are very choosy and very picky. Do you feel the need to explain and justify your preferences?

Why expect it of other people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Immaculate.

Professional.

*shudders*

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"OP, your profile says you are very choosy and very picky. Do you feel the need to explain and justify your preferences?

Why expect it of other people?"

Because if you have nothing to hide you should be happy to explain yourself.

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By *loriajonCouple
over a year ago

near u

Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit."

It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference.

Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female.

Not prejudice, just preference.

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

There have been a few of these threads in the past and it's all down to personal preferences. From what I recall, there are quite a lot of women/couples on fab that like Asian males, so maybe you just have to look harder.

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit.

It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference.

Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female.

Not prejudice, just preference."

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit.

It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference.

Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female.

Not prejudice, just preference."

Yes, it is; and thank God it is not yet illegal otherwise I'll have to give up sex altogether

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit.

It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference.

Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female.

Not prejudice, just preference."

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

When I go to a new place, village, school, state, town, country, I look out for one thing: mixed race kids/ young adults.

If I don't find any, I jog on. Take from this as you wish. 'Nuff said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit.

It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference.

Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female.

Not prejudice, just preference."

Ha ha

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"OP, your profile says you are very choosy and very picky. Do you feel the need to explain and justify your preferences?

Why expect it of other people?

Because if you have nothing to hide you should be happy to explain yourself."

What a load of absolute crap.

It's a case of my preferences are ok but yours don't suit me so they aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about preference. Blonde brunette large small. We all have a preference.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

As for "All boundaries respected". Yes, as long as they don't exclude you, hey OP?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"When I go to a new place, village, school, state, town, country, I look out for one thing: mixed race kids/ young adults.

If I don't find any, I jog on. Take from this as you wish. 'Nuff said!"

And has anyone ever stopped you from "jogging on"?

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I was once asked would I fuck an Asian? I said no

I was then asked would I fuck his wife? I said hell yeah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every other profile is strictly no Asians, what bullshit.

It is. Ok, it is not racism, it is a preference.

Just like we used to prefer our slaves black and our cooks female.

Not prejudice, just preference."

It's not racist to find certain traits unappealing sexually.

Some people might genuinely be racist and not want to meet for that, but it won't be that many people (if any).

You only ever see people moaning about certain traits being unattractive for 2 resons/

1. that's the only option offered to them and they can't find what they want.

2. when they're the ones being considered unattractive, so that rules them out and they can't find what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to work with a few Asian guys and they all spoke to women like they were shit and a lower class to them.

They would talk down to me, demoralise. me and were just generally rude.

I know you shouldn't taint all with the same brush but it has made me dwell uncomfortable around asian men

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By *ob nice but domMan
over a year ago

PAISLEY


"Why do you ladies avoid us like the plague ? Seems every other profile I come across strictly points out no Asians. Is there a bad rep amongst the swinging scene where Asians are concerned ? All I'm trying to do is find a nice lady or two but this is making it very difficult. "

We attend a monthly GG gangbang. The vast majority of guys that cause us hassle are asians. Always trying to go bare . Constantly rude and disrespectful. So for us saying no asians is best policy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you ladies avoid us like the plague ? Seems every other profile I come across strictly points out no Asians. Is there a bad rep amongst the swinging scene where Asians are concerned ? All I'm trying to do is find a nice lady or two but this is making it very difficult. "

Not another Asians trying to play the racist card. If your not happy leave. Moaning Asians should be new name its all you seem happy to do it moan.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Why do you ladies avoid us like the plague ? Seems every other profile I come across strictly points out no Asians. Is there a bad rep amongst the swinging scene where Asians are concerned ? All I'm trying to do is find a nice lady or two but this is making it very difficult. "

But that does mean that 50% of the profiles you come across don't have this on them, that's fairly good odds from where I'm standing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a black man, I welcome the "no black guys" tag line, it saves a lot of time messaging someone who has no intention if meeting you because if the colour if your skin.

And its not a racist thing, I've been messaged and had some great conversations with people who have had this on their profile, and they were very polite and respectful, I am more concerned by women who.message me and only want to talk about their live if black cock, I'm more than that, and I expect to be treated as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't avoid Asian guys but I am aware that the feeling in clubs/saunas is that if a guy is disrespectful he's probably Asian.

I've played with some really hot,fun Asian guys.

I've had a few guys who have been nasty/disrespectful to me or my wife. Each time they have been Asian. I've never had an issue with anyone else.

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

Maybe they think since Asians are more likely to have one partner/ marriage during their lifetime, he's probably playing away. So cheer up mate lol.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"As a black man, I welcome the "no black guys" tag line, it saves a lot of time messaging someone who has no intention if meeting you because if the colour if your skin.

And its not a racist thing, I've been messaged and had some great conversations with people who have had this on their profile, and they were very polite and respectful, I am more concerned by women who.message me and only want to talk about their live if black cock, I'm more than that, and I expect to be treated as such"

Tell them you had a twin but you became fused in the womb, but your twin was white so you're very sorry but your cock is white.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a chatline mate cheer up there are some women and men who are looking for us just need to be patient

Chill brother

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I have yet to see a thread started by a White guy or White woman bemoaning the fact that there are profiles with a preference for non-White people

I have seen a few profiles like that and just move on; it is their preference and right

I guess they don't find White features sexually appealing. I don't immediately think that it is because they are racists or prejudiced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a black man, I welcome the "no black guys" tag line, it saves a lot of time messaging someone who has no intention if meeting you because if the colour if your skin.

And its not a racist thing, I've been messaged and had some great conversations with people who have had this on their profile, and they were very polite and respectful, I am more concerned by women who.message me and only want to talk about their live if black cock, I'm more than that, and I expect to be treated as such

Tell them you had a twin but you became fused in the womb, but your twin was white so you're very sorry but your cock is white. "

Nah, I just tell them I'm not interested

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"As a black man, I welcome the "no black guys" tag line, it saves a lot of time messaging someone who has no intention if meeting you because if the colour if your skin.

And its not a racist thing, I've been messaged and had some great conversations with people who have had this on their profile, and they were very polite and respectful, I am more concerned by women who.message me and only want to talk about their live if black cock, I'm more than that, and I expect to be treated as such

Tell them you had a twin but you became fused in the womb, but your twin was white so you're very sorry but your cock is white.

Nah, I just tell them I'm not interested "

Where's the fun in that?

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Belfast

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"It's all about preference. Blonde brunette large small. We all have a preference. "

Which one are you? Make up your mind before I come after you!

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Belfast


"I have yet to see a thread started by a White guy or White woman bemoaning the fact that there are profiles with a preference for non-White people

I have seen a few profiles like that and just move on; it is their preference and right

I guess they don't find White features sexually appealing. I don't immediately think that it is because they are racists or prejudiced "

The laws of attraction aren't democratic. People are attracted to what they're attracted to. It's basically as simple as that.

Although , some have an almost antagonist way of articulating those preferences which points to prejudice, irrespective, they're (as everyone is) entitled to their preferences .

it's not always necessarily indicative of n ethnophobic conspiracy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a mixed race couple make being asian female being Caucasian.

From my experirence i have seen the behaviour of other asian guys at clubs and i would be weary of inviting them to play or in my home.

My partner has a thing for asian guys. But figure i am the one that has problem with lol

Lol as far as other asians go i was always a coconut lol

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"We are a mixed race couple make being asian female being Caucasian.

From my experirence i have seen the behaviour of other asian guys at clubs and i would be weary of inviting them to play or in my home.

My partner has a thing for asian guys. But figure i am the one that has problem with lol

Lol as far as other asians go i was always a coconut lol "

Does your partner have a thing for errr black guys too?

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By *oungladMan
over a year ago

Burnham

Oh boy... Another Asians thread

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"Oh boy... Another Asians thread"

Oi Oi. Shush. It's a secret. Shhh

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

With thousands of members here, I think you'll never have enough time to stop messaging those who don't express limits. Glass is half full.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With thousands of members here, I think you'll never have enough time to stop messaging those who don't express limits. Glass is half full."

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester


"With thousands of members here, I think you'll never have enough time to stop messaging those who don't express limits. Glass is half full."

Some prefer to say "Glass is half empty"

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"With thousands of members here, I think you'll never have enough time to stop messaging those who don't express limits. Glass is half full.

Some prefer to say "Glass is half empty""

Some prefer to say "there's room in this glass, pass me the darned bottle!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a mixed race couple make being asian female being Caucasian.

From my experirence i have seen the behaviour of other asian guys at clubs and i would be weary of inviting them to play or in my home.

My partner has a thing for asian guys. But figure i am the one that has problem with lol

Lol as far as other asians go i was always a coconut lol

Does your partner have a thing for errr black guys too?"

A persons colour has no bearing but if the person is obnoxious and rude not a chance in hell !!!

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"We are a mixed race couple make being asian female being Caucasian.

From my experirence i have seen the behaviour of other asian guys at clubs and i would be weary of inviting them to play or in my home.

My partner has a thing for asian guys. But figure i am the one that has problem with lol

Lol as far as other asians go i was always a coconut lol

Does your partner have a thing for errr black guys too?

A persons colour has no bearing but if the person is obnoxious and rude not a chance in hell !!!"

I wouldn't touch a racist person with a barge pole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you misheard? Maybe they don't want be be sold some property. https://youtu.be/QHtDJ7GnjQY

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

It looks pathetic brandishing the 'race-card' to people who do not find a group attractive

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Why do you ladies avoid us like the plague ? Seems every other profile I come across strictly points out no Asians. Is there a bad rep amongst the swinging scene where Asians are concerned ? All I'm trying to do is find a nice lady or two but this is making it very difficult. "

Just this morning I came across a profile saying no one over the age of 40... Seems like every other profile I'm excluded from for one reason or another..

I'm still having lots of fun with the ladies and couples who don't exclude me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because most Asians men are cheating on there wife's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat to Asian guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen has he's put "I'm Asian if that's a problem please move on to the next profile " at the bottom of HIS profile I fail to see what he's bitching about

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Maybe it just comes down to the caveman theory, more people could be put off due to experience because they see or come across some asian lads who probably behaved like horny cave men and probably did not behave themselves. If you really think about it too there are always more then enough reasons why people would be put off be it manners/things in common/cultural stuff/attraction etc etc and some people probably would see it as as a step down in class or beneath them so probably go for men who better suit and satisfy their attraction and personality needs as opposed to men who they probably see who have the behaviour and social skills/mannerism of a Neanderthal with an erection. Be happy anyway OP there is still always a few who do like life is too short it is what it is....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If I find a bloke attractive I'll play with him, whatever his colour. I don't expect guys to live up to any stereotype put out by the media, but I do expect them to be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also wondering if it might be a geographical thing ?

Perhaps some people are living in proximity to Asian neighbourhoods and do not wish to meet men from those communities ?

There are often divisive barriers put up in those circumstances

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only time we get beef about turning people down the ethnicity question pops up from Asian guys. Must suck to have that at the forefront of your mind.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Must suck to have that at the forefront of your mind. "

Must suck to have so many people tell you that they don't like a fundamental part of you that you can't change.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices."

Spoiler alert: the answer is yes.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

we play with Asian guys in clubs, only had one bad experience with a guy that was more due to his pushiness than anything else. good luck OP

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Spoiler alert: the answer is yes. "

Yeah, I imagined so. It's kind of unpleasant that when a non-white person says 'hey, about race...' all of us white folk insist 'nope! no racism! you're playing the race card!'

Because we're the experts, naturally...

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices."

Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!!

Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices."

what did you think off my cave man theory? Bit off trolling/bit off seriousness added together with some wild Mumbo jumbo some off it makes sense......think we should embrace the controversy to the fullest can't be the good guy be the villain instead but be a gentleman most off the time kind off like a more civilised cave man hehe

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Spoiler alert: the answer is yes.

Yeah, I imagined so. It's kind of unpleasant that when a non-white person says 'hey, about race...' all of us white folk insist 'nope! no racism! you're playing the race card!'

Because we're the experts, naturally..."

Exactly! *high five*

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!!

Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look"

Not saying it is necessarily racism.

But casual prejudices and stereotypes play a part in who we would consider as partners. How could they not?

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!!

Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look"

Nope.

Both are racism.

And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has their own preferences as do you op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it on theses forums people use the racism when turned down for a fuck xxx if you are hot in my eyes then a meet is on, if you are not then byes it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's simply our preference.

We like a lot of other people have either been victim or witness to behavioural antics, ie the time me and an ex were in Abfab and a group of Asian guys started grabbing my exes hair to try pull her head towards their cock for a blow job all the while trying to push me out the way.

And the attitude given that as it's a sex club all the women are there for their benefit.

The trouble is it's the usual minority ruining it for the majority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices."

Some of the worst racism I've whiteness have been from Asian people, directed at anyone.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!!

Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look

Nope.

Both are racism.

And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism.

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Why because white people don't have racism against them or because racism is only one way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Some of the worst racism I've whiteness have been from Asian people, directed at anyone. "

Oops I meant witnessed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 26/02/16 08:40:14]"

Because quite often threads like this accuse white people of racism when it works all directions.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!!

Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look

Nope.

Both are racism.

And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism.

Why because white people don't have racism against them or because racism is only one way?"

OK, both your points here mean the same thing. And no, that's not really that.

It's because white cannot experience the systematic and institutionalised racism that exists towards people who are not white.

It's like people who don't have uteri telling people with period pains "Oh it's not that bad, why are you complaining? People are dying in wars every day, just calm down!"

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over a year ago

Sex rings in papers quite a lot, who where they and who did they target.???? Say no more.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


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Because quite often threads like this accuse white people of racism when it works all directions. "

Just because white people are accused racism doesn't mean it doesn't happen in all directions?

It's like saying "Why are you hitting me? Please stop." and you responding with "But I saw you hit someone last week."

They are unrelated and irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!!

Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look

Nope.

Both are racism.

And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism.

Why because white people don't have racism against them or because racism is only one way?

OK, both your points here mean the same thing. And no, that's not really that.

It's because white cannot experience the systematic and institutionalised racism that exists towards people who are not white.

It's like people who don't have uteri telling people with period pains "Oh it's not that bad, why are you complaining? People are dying in wars every day, just calm down!""

Ah so when I used to get left at the depot at work because the two Asian guys didn't want to work with the white man (their words not mine) that wasn't racism.

Your comment alone is very offensive towards white people but I suppose that's fine because I cannot get offended?

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Sex rings in papers quite a lot, who where they and who did they target.???? Say no more. "

90% of serial murderers are white. Should we distrust all white people?

Jimmy Savile

Fred West

Adam Johnson

Why isn't their race being mentioned?

Most mass murderers are white.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Ah so when I used to get left at the depot at work because the two Asian guys didn't want to work with the white man (their words not mine) that wasn't racism.

Your comment alone is very offensive towards white people but I suppose that's fine because I cannot get offended?"

That's racial prejudice, but it's not racism.

When were you 78% less likely to get a job and 8x more likely to be arrested because of your race?

No one is saying you can't get offended because it's obviously happening right now.

See, white people are allowed to have "preferences" and it's "not racism" but as soon as racism is pointed out, white little get really mad and make it all about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex rings in papers quite a lot, who where they and who did they target.???? Say no more.

90% of serial murderers are white. Should we distrust all white people?

Jimmy Savile

Fred West

Adam Johnson

Why isn't their race being mentioned?

Most mass murderers are white. "

That's papers for you they want to jump on the race bandwagon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting views. Mostly racism being justified as its 'our preference'. I can understand if it genuinely is a preference but I don't think that is the case. I can also understand stereotyping has an effect also. Everyone is different and we should all respect that first and foremost. Anyway if you like what you see here drop me a line!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When were you 78% less likely to get a job and 8x more likely to be arrested because of your race?

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And the figures are based on?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes they are jimmy saville and co were Asian I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you don't have ts/cd/ and so on on your profile, does that make you racist against the transgender community or is that a sexual preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chip on op shoulder....get over it. I see plenty of no whites on profiles. Dont bother me i just move on to the next profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now who's turning this into a race row?

You the OP asked why people put their reasoning across and now we're all racist.

So OP what was the purpose of this he post?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting views. Mostly racism being justified as its 'our preference'. I can understand if it genuinely is a preference but I don't think that is the case. I can also understand stereotyping has an effect also. Everyone is different and we should all respect that first and foremost. Anyway if you like what you see here drop me a line! "

Are you married ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op you don't have ts/cd/ and so on on your profile, does that make you racist against the transgender community or is that a sexual preference "

Transpeople aren't a 'race'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op you don't have ts/cd/ and so on on your profile, does that make you racist against the transgender community or is that a sexual preference

Transpeople aren't a 'race'."

I did not say they were x read before you type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op you don't have ts/cd/ and so on on your profile, does that make you racist against the transgender community or is that a sexual preference

Transpeople aren't a 'race'.

I did not say they were x read before you type"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Btw nobody is playing the race card here. That would imply we are inferior in some way. All I was asking was why there was a dislike for Asian men in here, maybe it was down to preferences generally or something more specific like racism or stereotyping. Unfortunately Seems like in most cases it is the latter but that's understandable as there is a large representation of uneducated , benefit seeking, chav mentality people on here from what I have seen typical of those who are most likely to be racist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh lord this!

Anyone got a VT of 'Love Thy Neighbour'

Yes a black person who liked this.

You laugh, you move on.

Racism, preference, tastes who bloody cares!!!!

This swinging lifestyle what drew me to it?

Diversity- in all its amazing glory.

Im not gonna appeal to everyone and vice versa and i ain t gonna whinge about it here. But no ones stopping me from having my damn fun.

And just for the record some of you Asian guys are renk!!!

Think you can handle women anyway you want and then you wonder why you get a bad press!

Just saying......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok fella, I'm going to Tell you one big issue I have.

Ive banged loads of Asian/ oriental-

Asians , partic Indian - are so busy lying to their families - pretending to be X/y/z, that lying to their partner is second nature.

You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It doesn't say I don't like them either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Btw nobody is playing the race card here. That would imply we are inferior in some way. All I was asking was why there was a dislike for Asian men in here, maybe it was down to preferences generally or something more specific like racism or stereotyping. Unfortunately Seems like in most cases it is the latter but that's understandable as there is a large representation of uneducated , benefit seeking, chav mentality people on here from what I have seen typical of those who are most likely to be racist "

If thats your opinion of ppl on here im not surprised they wont meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!!

Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look

Nope.

Both are racism.

And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism.

Why because white people don't have racism against them or because racism is only one way?"

Racism is the institutional and systematic oppression of somebody because of their race.

There are very few white people in the world who will ever truly experience that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met 2 hot Asian guys I think women are just scared of the Unknown xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Btw nobody is playing the race card here. That would imply we are inferior in some way. All I was asking was why there was a dislike for Asian men in here, maybe it was down to preferences generally or something more specific like racism or stereotyping. Unfortunately Seems like in most cases it is the latter but that's understandable as there is a large representation of uneducated , benefit seeking, chav mentality people on here from what I have seen typical of those who are most likely to be racist "

But by saying "Unfortunately Seems like in most cases it is the latter but that's understandable as there is a large representation of uneducated , benefit seeking, chav mentality people on here from what I have seen typical of those who are most likely to be racist" you've just slated a whole group of people by playing a race card calling people from lower class background racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op you don't have ts/cd/ and so on on your profile, does that make you racist against the transgender community or is that a sexual preference

Transpeople aren't a 'race'.

I did not say they were x read before you type"

You asked if not having TS on his profile made him racist against the transgender community.

No, that doesn't make him 'racist' against the transgender community, because 'racism' has nothing to do with gender.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about a glory hole they all ask for big cocks xx poor guy with his 3 inch tadger he may as well lob it off

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"When were you 78% less likely to get a job and 8x more likely to be arrested because of your race?

And the figures are based on?"

I'm sure you know how to use Google. I'm not allowed to paste links on this forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op you don't have ts/cd/ and so on on your profile, does that make you racist against the transgender community or is that a sexual preference

Transpeople aren't a 'race'.

I did not say they were x read before you type

You asked if not having TS on his profile made him racist against the transgender community.

No, that doesn't make him 'racist' against the transgender community, because 'racism' has nothing to do with gender."

Stop picking up on everyone's mistake and feeding off it xx

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!!

Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look

Nope.

Both are racism.

And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism.

"

You should sometimes read back what you write

I do not find men under 6' physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with one under 6'

I do not find men over 50 physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with anyone over 50

I do not find men with Indian or Oriental facial features attractive; that doesn't mean that I wouldn't speak with an Indian or an Oriental

You are just way too touchy as are the Asians who get turned down for sex, sometimes, by their own peoples too

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!!

Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look

Nope.

Both are racism.

And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism.

Why because white people don't have racism against them or because racism is only one way?

Racism is the institutional and systematic oppression of somebody because of their race.

There are very few white people in the world who will ever truly experience that."

Really...

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over a year ago


"When were you 78% less likely to get a job and 8x more likely to be arrested because of your race?

And the figures are based on?

I'm sure you know how to use Google. I'm not allowed to paste links on this forum. "

And that's a credible piece of information? and every single person who applies for a job but didn't get it knows why he/she didn't and can put it down to race every time?

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over a year ago


"It's a shame that whenever these topics are started, the poor asian chap doing so gets slated.

Racism against Asian people exists in our society. It's not unreasonable to wonder if lazy stereotypes play a part in people's swinging choices.

Not wanting to have sex with an Asian person is not racism!!!

Not giving a job to an Asain person because he or she is Asian, is. Just as not giving a job to someone over 50 is ageism but not so if someone doesn't want sex with over 50s, no matter how young they look

Nope.

Both are racism.

And you, as someone who cannot experience the effects of racism, don't actually get to tell the victims of racism what is and isn't racism.

You should sometimes read back what you write

I do not find men under 6' physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with one under 6'

I do not find men over 50 physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with anyone over 50

I do not find men with Indian or Oriental facial features attractive; that doesn't mean that I wouldn't speak with an Indian or an Oriental

You are just way too touchy as are the Asians who get turned down for sex, sometimes, by their own peoples too"

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"You should sometimes read back what you write

I do not find men under 6' physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with one under 6'

I do not find men over 50 physically attractive; that does not mean I wouldn't speak with anyone over 50

I do not find men with Indian or Oriental facial features attractive; that doesn't mean that I wouldn't speak with an Indian or an Oriental

You are just way too touchy as are the Asians who get turned down for sex, sometimes, by their own peoples too"

Well done for saying you'd speak to them. No one has said you wouldn't...? Lol

You should sometimes read back what you write

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Racism is the institutional and systematic oppression of somebody because of their race.

There are very few white people in the world who will ever truly experience that.

Really..."

Yes.

When was the last time you were institutionally and systematically oppressed due to your race?

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By *heorgasmaddictMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I love asian women. Been to China, Vietnam, Thailand, Singapore, Malaysia and Cambodia. They're adorable!!

Lucky enough to have a Thai massage place near me too.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday. "

Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday.

The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference

The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP if someone turns you down for sex, move on x you cannot be liked by everyone and cannot be expected to like everyone, it's sexual preference

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"When were you 78% less likely to get a job and 8x more likely to be arrested because of your race?

And the figures are based on?

I'm sure you know how to use Google. I'm not allowed to paste links on this forum.

And that's a credible piece of information? and every single person who applies for a job but didn't get it knows why he/she didn't and can put it down to race every time?"

Ha ha ha ha ha ha! Why don't you do a bit of research before you just dismiss data.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday.

Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday.

The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference

The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people"

Great reductive statements there, that show no real understand of what racism is.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Racism is the institutional and systematic oppression of somebody because of their race.

There are very few white people in the world who will ever truly experience that.

Really...

Yes.

When was the last time you were institutionally and systematically oppressed due to your race? "

Let me get this right; you are institutionally and systematically oppressed because you are Asian? OK, maybe so

How does that then translate into racism if I am not attracted to Asian features?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday.

Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday.

The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference

The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people

Great reductive statements there, that show no real understand of what racism is. "

Lord almighty. Some people are really thick and so deep up their own arse that they can't see anything else or any other point-of-view

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Op... I'm a single guy from Leeds, so I'll be checking similar profiles to you, there are some that express no white guys you might have seen those, I've seen profiles that express no black and Asian as well. that's life on here if you try and figure out why, you'll have no time for the fun you could be having with those that will want to meet you...

Have fun fella it's why we 're all here.

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Asian? What is Asian?

It's the worlds largest continent with a population of over 4 billion people and contains over 40 countries including China and Israel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience (because I have an interest in racial oppression and how it intersects with other forms of oppression, and how that is reflected in the poly/kink/swinging scene) it comes down to poor stereotypes of people.

"Black men have big cocks"

"Oriental women are subservient"

"Indian men don't treat women very well"

"Japanese men have small penises"

This stereotypes might be loosely based on historical 'fact'. Japanese men might statistically have 0.25" smaller penises than White British men. Black men might have half inch bigger penises than Japanese men. Whatever.

And historically many people may have believed that they have encountered asshole Indians, or subservient Chinese women, or whatever.

But there's something called confirmation bias. It's like, my Granddad thought women were rubbish drivers. So every time he saw a rubbish woman driver he would point it out, because it confirmed his world view that women were rubbish drivers. He wouldn't point out that men were rubbish drivers, because he thought that men were great drivers. If I pointed out that a man was a rubbish driver he would come up with an excuse for them as to why they were probably rubbish. Thus his 'observations' backed up his idea that women were rubbish drivers, and he couldn't see beyond that.

The same is true when it comes to "Indian men are assholes to women" or whatever. You have been told that stereotype exists. Properly by someone who was properly racist. Or possibly you saw some statistic on some right-leaning TV show that wanted to paint all Muslims to be evil wife beaters who shouldn't come over here and take our jobs. (BTW, Not all "Asians" are Muslim, and some Muslim's have matrilineal societies where women hold the power).

And the problem is, that once you have been told that Indian men don't treat women very well, you will look out for confirmation that supports your world view. So it doesn't matter that last year dozens, or even hundreds of women died or were seriously injured at the hands of their white domestic abusers, you will remember instead the small handful of stories that involved "Asians" - because that resonates with your world view. It's confirmation bias - and you can go and head academic articles about how confirmation bias affects your life. And if you want to, you can start to unpick those prejudices that are based on nothing more than stereotypes and approach your life with a much more open mind.

And yeah, I do understand that some people just aren't attracted to certain types of people. I can't remember the last time I had sex with a blonde man, for example. But I wouldn't write 'No Blondes!' gleefully on my profile just because I don't find them attractive. And I feel like I'd be a bit closed-minded if I would reject a man just because he was blonde without seeing what was on offer.

To write off a whole race of people just because of the colour of their skin seems as crazy to me as writing "No Blondes!" on my profile. Like, you might not have found a black man attractive in the past (Oh except Idris Elba - because he's so British he pretty much counts as white, right?) but you might find a black guy attractive in the future.

There *are* racist undertones - even if unintentional - to saying "No blacks" or "No Indians", because most of the time that statement comes from a place of ignorant stereotyping. And to be honest, I do find it kind of unacceptable to write "No blacks" on your profiles. Consider rephrasing it "Whites only" and see if that makes a difference. Because it doesn't *usually* come down to skin colour. My Gypsy partner (Gypsies have Indian origin and very dark, swarthy skin) is often approach by people who have "no indians" written on their profile - because they see him as being 'white', even though he is darker in skin tone than Indians from at least half of India (because yeah - some Indians have very pale skin, and some have almost black skin).

I have no doubt that some people do not find anything other than pinky-white skin attractive. Certainly I have a weakness for ginger men with their pinky nipples and pale skin tones. But that really is quite a rarity - and is far more rare than the proliferance of "No Indians" and "No black" signs on profiles. Most people who write those words are just quite simply racists. Even if they're being racist unintentionally.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Racism is the institutional and systematic oppression of somebody because of their race.

There are very few white people in the world who will ever truly experience that.

Really...

Yes.

When was the last time you were institutionally and systematically oppressed due to your race?

Let me get this right; you are institutionally and systematically oppressed because you are Asian? OK, maybe so

How does that then translate into racism if I am not attracted to Asian features?"

First of all, no one has actually ever accused anyone of being racist for not liking Asian features.

Second, can you live in a society without being influenced by its prejudices and morals?

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday.

Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday.

The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference

The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people

Great reductive statements there, that show no real understand of what racism is.

Lord almighty. Some people are really thick and so deep up their own arse that they can't see anything else or any other point-of-view"

And the personal insults have come out. Bravo. *applause*

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"In my experience (because I have an interest in racial oppression and how it intersects with other forms of oppression, and how that is reflected in the poly/kink/swinging scene) it comes down to poor stereotypes of people.

"Black men have big cocks"

"Oriental women are subservient"

"Indian men don't treat women very well"

"Japanese men have small penises"

This stereotypes might be loosely based on historical 'fact'. Japanese men might statistically have 0.25" smaller penises than White British men. Black men might have half inch bigger penises than Japanese men. Whatever.

And historically many people may have believed that they have encountered asshole Indians, or subservient Chinese women, or whatever.

But there's something called confirmation bias. It's like, my Granddad thought women were rubbish drivers. So every time he saw a rubbish woman driver he would point it out, because it confirmed his world view that women were rubbish drivers. He wouldn't point out that men were rubbish drivers, because he thought that men were great drivers. If I pointed out that a man was a rubbish driver he would come up with an excuse for them as to why they were probably rubbish. Thus his 'observations' backed up his idea that women were rubbish drivers, and he couldn't see beyond that.

The same is true when it comes to "Indian men are assholes to women" or whatever. You have been told that stereotype exists. Properly by someone who was properly racist. Or possibly you saw some statistic on some right-leaning TV show that wanted to paint all Muslims to be evil wife beaters who shouldn't come over here and take our jobs. (BTW, Not all "Asians" are Muslim, and some Muslim's have matrilineal societies where women hold the power).

And the problem is, that once you have been told that Indian men don't treat women very well, you will look out for confirmation that supports your world view. So it doesn't matter that last year dozens, or even hundreds of women died or were seriously injured at the hands of their white domestic abusers, you will remember instead the small handful of stories that involved "Asians" - because that resonates with your world view. It's confirmation bias - and you can go and head academic articles about how confirmation bias affects your life. And if you want to, you can start to unpick those prejudices that are based on nothing more than stereotypes and approach your life with a much more open mind.

And yeah, I do understand that some people just aren't attracted to certain types of people. I can't remember the last time I had sex with a blonde man, for example. But I wouldn't write 'No Blondes!' gleefully on my profile just because I don't find them attractive. And I feel like I'd be a bit closed-minded if I would reject a man just because he was blonde without seeing what was on offer.

To write off a whole race of people just because of the colour of their skin seems as crazy to me as writing "No Blondes!" on my profile. Like, you might not have found a black man attractive in the past (Oh except Idris Elba - because he's so British he pretty much counts as white, right?) but you might find a black guy attractive in the future.

There *are* racist undertones - even if unintentional - to saying "No blacks" or "No Indians", because most of the time that statement comes from a place of ignorant stereotyping. And to be honest, I do find it kind of unacceptable to write "No blacks" on your profiles. Consider rephrasing it "Whites only" and see if that makes a difference. Because it doesn't *usually* come down to skin colour. My Gypsy partner (Gypsies have Indian origin and very dark, swarthy skin) is often approach by people who have "no indians" written on their profile - because they see him as being 'white', even though he is darker in skin tone than Indians from at least half of India (because yeah - some Indians have very pale skin, and some have almost black skin).

I have no doubt that some people do not find anything other than pinky-white skin attractive. Certainly I have a weakness for ginger men with their pinky nipples and pale skin tones. But that really is quite a rarity - and is far more rare than the proliferance of "No Indians" and "No black" signs on profiles. Most people who write those words are just quite simply racists. Even if they're being racist unintentionally."

Thanks for taking the time to write this, Wasp.

This is perfect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Exactly so surely it's not down to preference. Seems like black people are accepted and Asians are not. i think its down to stereotypes and generalisation. I love women of all races and shapes. I wouldn't discount any particular ethnicity

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Perfect response

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday.

Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday.

The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference

The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people

Great reductive statements there, that show no real understand of what racism is.

Lord almighty. Some people are really thick and so deep up their own arse that they can't see anything else or any other point-of-view

And the personal insults have come out. Bravo. *applause*"

As always, you started it; oh, but hang on, you can start it because you are non-White; I get it now. Well done

Back to preference vs racism. Not finding people with flat noses of slant eyes or dark skin or whatever other feature is not racism; it is a preference. Just as some Orientals and Indians don't find people with White features appealing; that too is not racism; that too is a preference

Grow up and learn to live with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me i always thought Fab represented a cross section of society...apart from one thing.

NO Asian females or very few..in my time on here i doubt i've ever come across any.in my opinion i think this is a culture thing...and i also believe that a lot of the asian men on here are playing away from home

But i've come across lots of profiles from white girls/couples say bbc only...does that make them raciest..i think not...it a preference.

I do suspect the reason the OP has post because hes been turned down by someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly so surely it's not down to preference. Seems like black people are accepted and Asians are not. i think its down to stereotypes and generalisation. I love women of all races and shapes. I wouldn't discount any particular ethnicity "

And your wife ?

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

Why oh why do people put up these bitching threads,

Why would one want to have sex with someone who finds your complexion a turn off. It doesn't make them racists, I've know woman who say that they would never play with white guys, never had and they never will. May I add that these are white woman.

Just because they've stated it out loud in there profile, just saves everyone's time.

Do I get offensive when on a profile it states

"cock no less than 11inc long and the girth of a cock can"

Hell yes, but I don't bitch about it, I just keep doing my morning exercises and hopefully one day I'll get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

But i've come across lots of profiles from white girls/couples say bbc only...does that make them raciest..i think not...it a preference.

"

Personally I think that is the fetishisation of race and is actually rather racist. Lots of black men often confide that they struggle to find people who are interested in them beyond a racial stereotype of having a big penis. And in our communities we often ostracise and emasculate black men who *don't* have a big penis.

So yes, I also think that is institutional racism, but for a slightly different reason. (There is a great article on the website Everyday Feminism about one authors feelings about the fetishisation of the subservience of "Oriental" women that deals with these topics - it's a good read.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you ladies avoid us like the plague ? Seems every other profile I come across strictly points out no Asians. Is there a bad rep amongst the swinging scene where Asians are concerned ? All I'm trying to do is find a nice lady or two but this is making it very difficult. "

I don't meet Asian guys off here

I do meet a Asian guys semi regular though

It's not that I don't like Asian guys, well some I don't but you can say that about any group of people

I just don't do cold meets with them

I could say why but I've been on here long enough to know it would start a riot so I'll keep that to myself

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"OP, your profile says you are very choosy and very picky. Do you feel the need to explain and justify your preferences?

Why expect it of other people?

Because if you have nothing to hide you should be happy to explain yourself.

What a load of absolute crap.

It's a case of my preferences are ok but yours don't suit me so they aren't."

Not really, but I would be happy to tell anyone why my preferences are as they are without hiding behind "it is my reference, stop bothering me"

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Asian? What is Asian?

It's the worlds largest continent with a population of over 4 billion people and contains over 40 countries including China and Israel!

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It is what ever I need it to be so I can decide that entire groups of people are the same simply because they look similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only wish there were more women of ethnic origin on fab especially here in Scotland and the reason behind saying ethnic origin is because of the diversity of people living in the UK stretches worldwide from every continent and i would love to experience the world of women from every continent all shapes, sizes and shades of colour from milk bottle white to black as coal and every shade of pink and brown inbetween.

Not really any input on actual question from op other than move to Glasgow and let's share your wife

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

OP says on your profile and if we don,t like move on why have you opened this thread can only see one person trying to stair up racist here look no further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fucking hate Eskimos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate cornflakes but love weetabix

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fucking hate Eskimos"

And Martian people....

What next ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate cornflakes but love weetabix"

Is that Asian cornflakes ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't speak on asian men but asian women are sexy

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Shame not more Asian women on fab...asian over white girls anyday.

Shame not more White men on fab...white over asian men anyday.

The first comment was NOT racist; that was a preference

The second comment IS racist because it states a preference for White people

Great reductive statements there, that show no real understand of what racism is.

Lord almighty. Some people are really thick and so deep up their own arse that they can't see anything else or any other point-of-view

And the personal insults have come out. Bravo. *applause*

As always, you started it; oh, but hang on, you can start it because you are non-White; I get it now. Well done

Back to preference vs racism. Not finding people with flat noses of slant eyes or dark skin or whatever other feature is not racism; it is a preference. Just as some Orientals and Indians don't find people with White features appealing; that too is not racism; that too is a preference

Grow up and learn to live with it"

Ah ha ha ha ha ha! Really? Kindly point out where I called you "really thick" or anything equivalent? Nice try.

And I can't believe you ACTUALLY said "slant eyes". WOW.

Looks like this is a case of block and ignore forever. Lol.

Bless you.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Controversial thread indeed..... anyway OP just focus you're energy on the women who like Asians, be a good boy/gentleman then in the bedroom go at it like a pair off horny silverback gorillas in heat

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Race, creed, colour, age, height, sexual orientation and any other category I couldn't be bothered to list make no difference to who we choose to meet...Attractiveness (Yes we're shallow) and personality dictate our responses and nothing else. If either of us don't see/feel an attraction then it's not going to happen.

On a side note about white people not knowing what it feels like to be racially abused, I spent six months working in a very 'Scottish' part of Scotland with a team of German technicians and along with the usual slurs aimed at them about the Hitler and the war I was subjected to constant overt racism from quite a few (By no means all) of the local workforce. Did it make me go all ranty and think all Scots are the same? No it didn't but I did used to think quite often "What a narrow minded twat". I also think that about us white folks too...But such is life, we all have likes and dislikes and people should just accept that and get on with their own lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fucking hate Eskimos"

That sno joke !!!

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