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By *ruegent101 OP   Man
over a year ago

down by the river side

See a lot of people getting annoyed and angry about rejection etc can't get a meet... Why does it effect someone's ego so much being told no ?? Does it really effect a person that much ?

I mean God I hear more no's than yes's but no point crying about, Just wondering everyone else's thoughts on the matter

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Some people genuinely can't handle rejection. For some its an ego thing: they think they're the best thing since sliced bread hence the "your loss" bitter responses I've received back a fair few times.

For some they have not actually considered the other person has the option to say no.

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By *ruegent101 OP   Man
over a year ago

down by the river side

Aw that's the best one 'your loss' haha take it on the chin and move on I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing as fragile as a male ego!

(*disclaimer - ladies and couples can also take rejection badly! )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See a lot of people getting annoyed and angry about rejection etc can't get a meet... Why does it effect someone's ego so much being told no ?? Does it really effect a person that much ?

I mean God I hear more no's than yes's but no point crying about, Just wondering everyone else's thoughts on the matter "

Some people have a warped sense of entitlement. I blame the parents!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes wonder if they react in a similar manner in the "real" world! If they get told no or they can't have something. Would be interesting to see.

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By *ruegent101 OP   Man
over a year ago

down by the river side

I mean why are they so special? And how dare you say no to them haha hate itttt

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"See a lot of people getting annoyed and angry about rejection etc can't get a meet... Why does it effect someone's ego so much being told no ?? Does it really effect a person that much ?

I mean God I hear more no's than yes's but no point crying about, Just wondering everyone else's thoughts on the matter "

We're on a "sex site" which means we have an obligation to shag anyone who asks.

Otherwise we're fakes, timewasters, stuck up and the rest.

Being on a "sex site" means you can't say no to any offer of sex.

As far as some think, they want sex with me, they've done their bit, so what the hell is my problem?!

Some think I should be grateful for the attention.

Some contact me thinking they're in a "higher league" than me, but they've been turned down by women in their "league", and they want sex, so they lower their standards, expecting me to say yes. They tend to get really nasty if I say no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I mean why are they so special? And how dare you say no to them haha hate itttt "

Spoiled by their parents, some of them. I love denying these types of people! You can almost see the smoke coming out their nostrils!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a theory that people enjoy being annoyed. And I don't mean just people on fab - I mean people in general. It gives people something to think about, something to feel, and something to do.

Think about how often you use the word "annoyed" or some variation, each day.

-Courtney

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By *ruegent101 OP   Man
over a year ago

down by the river side


" I mean why are they so special? And how dare you say no to them haha hate itttt

Spoiled by their parents, some of them. I love denying these types of people! You can almost see the smoke coming out their nostrils!"

Yea not getting their own way spitting the dummy out and assuming tantrum mode

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a theory that people enjoy being annoyed. And I don't mean just people on fab - I mean people in general. It gives people something to think about, something to feel, and something to do.

Think about how often you use the word "annoyed" or some variation, each day.

-Courtney "

How Very Dare You!

I resemble that remark!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guilty of this myself but only after doing every thing I cam just to get someone to talk to me or treat me like a human being. I'm lucky enough to have had one meet, and still talk her. Fact is, a lot of women do actually come across as picky and stuck up. I've learned to deal with it now but it makes me question myself and batters my self confidence.

I've been a prick in the past about it but doing my best to turn things around. Would just be nice if I messaged someone, putting myself out there, if some would try and have a chat before deciding I'm not what they want. It may actually work two ways in that respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We feel very fortunate as we don't get ' rejected ' very often . And we do make initial contact as often as not ,

But when we do get turned down , we take it on the chin and move on . Simple .

But I will say that when we started this lifestyle some years ago , we weren't so ambivalent , and wondered what was wrong with us . That lasted for a month or so by which time we realised there were so many more who wanted to meet us

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By *ruegent101 OP   Man
over a year ago

down by the river side


"We feel very fortunate as we don't get ' rejected ' very often . And we do make initial contact as often as not ,

But when we do get turned down , we take it on the chin and move on . Simple .

But I will say that when we started this lifestyle some years ago , we weren't so ambivalent , and wondered what was wrong with us . That lasted for a month or so by which time we realised there were so many more who wanted to meet us "

If only all were like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so "annoyed" you would bring this up in conversation.... Am I not good enough for any of you? Ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I mean why are they so special? And how dare you say no to them haha hate itttt

Spoiled by their parents, some of them. I love denying these types of people! You can almost see the smoke coming out their nostrils!"

I see it in work all the time too, tell them they can't have something and they act like a baby throwing their toys out of the pram.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people genuinely can't handle rejection. For some its an ego thing: they think they're the best thing since sliced bread hence the "your loss" bitter responses I've received back a fair few times.

For some they have not actually considered the other person has the option to say no."

Sums it up nicely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never seen it had this tbh.

When I was new to the site I used to send back a message asking what reason for my own knowledge. I never got a reply……now I realise why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a bit of a pet peeve of mine at the moment hence my current status. I found married men the worsr as they don't just expect easy NSA sex but also expect you to go out of your way to help them cheat on their wife!!

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

Its just part of swinging, not everyone fancies everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a theory that people enjoy being annoyed. And I don't mean just people on fab - I mean people in general. It gives people something to think about, something to feel, and something to do.

Think about how often you use the word "annoyed" or some variation, each day.

-Courtney "

My mum sayes I'm only happy when I'm grumpy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But people look so funny when they are angry.... or at least when they are trying to write angrily....

It makes me chuckle....

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole

That's Life !!!!!

Get use to it and suck it up Bitch's

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"We've never seen it had this tbh.

When I was new to the site I used to send back a message asking what reason for my own knowledge. I never got a reply……now I realise why. "

Very occasionally I'll reply to why not messages. I'm always straightforward and honest but without being intentionally rude or insulting.

Often it's a case of simply pointing out the ways that the person doesn't match my profile, pointing out they clearly either didn't read or decided to ignore the profile and that they could have saved themselves both the effort and being turned down.

The truth doesn't seem to be what people want in response to why not messages because I invariably get a barrage of abuse back.

Well, they did ask!

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