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Spotting a time waster

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you have certain things you see that sey off alarm bells in your head?

I thought I was good at spotting the fakes and time wasters but since my last 5 meets haven't gone through (some cancel on the day, others not heard nothing) I've realised I can't tell at all.

I do look for the normal kind of things I only meet verified people and Skype before the meet is arranged.

What else do you look for?

K xx

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

My instincts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually look for the classic where you do all the questioning and they reply with yes or no and one liners and never ask you question lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No verification having been here over a year.

No pics

Very little info in profile

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Message ping pong is a dead give away for us. As soon as they start turning the arranging emails into some kind of sexting we are out of there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No verification having been here over a year.

No pics

Very little info in profile"

I checked for all of that.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If they're desperate to meet you for one evening then you never hear from them again, they were on here for a wank only.

A guy that seems inordinately excited about a meet and asks millions of questions (what will you wear? What will we get up to?) will back out last minute usually.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they're desperate to meet you for one evening then you never hear from them again, they were on here for a wank only.

A guy that seems inordinately excited about a meet and asks millions of questions (what will you wear? What will we get up to?) will back out last minute usually."

interesting thank you

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"If they're desperate to meet you for one evening then you never hear from them again, they were on here for a wank only.

A guy that seems inordinately excited about a meet and asks millions of questions (what will you wear? What will we get up to?) will back out last minute usually."

I've got one of these at the moment. We can't meet for 4 weeks. He's champing at the bit.

I've told him to chill or he'll be bored with the idea before 4 weeks is up. He swears he won't and can't understand why I'm refusing to talk about what we'll do and stuff.

I'll wait and see but I'm counting no chickens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verification from people who are well know on forums (not another fakes profile making the verification) will help in the decision making process. Casey can see bullshit a mile away and obviously that helps too. You read between the lines and your gut will usually tell you.

Life experience helps too.

I guess you are learning the hard way.

Good luck in future!

L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*fake

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

instincts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I trust my gut. Verifications mean nothing.

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

I only meet chat room regulars. Once they've chatted for hours, over several days/weeks, they have a lot invested in the meet. In 4+ years on this and other sites, I have never had a no-show.

Also, they know they would never dare go in the chat room again, if word got round that they had been a no-show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always go with my gut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually look for the classic where you do all the questioning and they reply with yes or no and one liners and never ask you question lol."

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to meet for a social first xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just go club meets now because of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I trust my gut. Verifications mean nothing. "

Ditto x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't skpe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they're desperate to meet you for one evening then you never hear from them again, they were on here for a wank only.

A guy that seems inordinately excited about a meet and asks millions of questions (what will you wear? What will we get up to?) will back out last minute usually."

Aye, all that shit is just wank fodder at the time...Once they've blown their load, the chances of actually meeting are slim to none...and they generally never had any intention of doing so...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as someone asks the question "what will you do to me when we meet" its a dead give away its a guy pretending to be a couple.

Probably dick in hand waiting for my reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I'm not verified, but that doesn't mean I'm a time waster. Just haven't had the chance to prove I'm genuine. Don't really message people all that often cause I never expect I'll get a reply. Maybe I should start saying hello to people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair I'm not verified, but that doesn't mean I'm a time waster. Just haven't had the chance to prove I'm genuine."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the forums u lot r great at giving advice but I still find it hard to spot X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually when they ask what you will be wearing / what can I do to you / that sort of thing .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair I'm not verified, but that doesn't mean I'm a time waster. Just haven't had the chance to prove I'm genuine. Don't really message people all that often cause I never expect I'll get a reply. Maybe I should start saying hello to people"

Hello.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Too much chat and too many questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Hello.

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Haha. Hello there. And thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too much chat and too many questions.

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Yeah but some people want to chat while others ^^^^ say "too much chat"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the time waisters I have an issue with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a no-show thankfully. I generally only meet people who I meet on the forums, those that are currently meeting others and anyone who attends socials. If a person will travel just to have a chat then will generally meet for more

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Gut instinct and the urge to chat on kik or WhatsApp always gets me wondering.....

Lack of veris after time gets me wondering too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish somebody would waste my time other than the usual suspects

My bank manager

My landlord

The woman in the co-op

The kids

The binmen!! Fecking splitters never turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it doesn't feel right it usually isn't my instincts usually get me through !

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most or all of the above. If I don't feel a connection then I'm out, as it may be a fabricated entity.

Have fallback plans that you'll follow if it doesn't happen or work. A film to see, phone calls to friends, or whatever you'd like to do, so it's no loss.

And when you get pushed to describe what you will do with them when you meet, I'm ready to fall asleep as they've bored and lost me already.

If they don't do pre-meet confirmatios, as agreed, my contingency plans get readied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyones always on about times wasters....but hardly anyone's onit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find time wasters really easy to spot. I use science to help me. It's simple. If I arrange a meet with someone and they don't show. Then they're a time waster.

As far as any earlier warning system is concerned, just use your instincts.

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