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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, hasn't happened to me. But I hope that if it did we'd find other things to do, so the meet certainly wouldn't be a write-off and I'd try to make sure he didn't feel embarrassed or like he'd been a disappointment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once, she just never interested me, social was crap, so it was never going to happen lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never in my life but it's only a matter of time I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, hasn't happened to me. But I hope that if it did we'd find other things to do, so the meet certainly wouldn't be a write-off and I'd try to make sure he didn't feel embarrassed or like he'd been a disappointment. "
I agree

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Once, she just never interested me, social was crap, so it was never going to happen lol"

Well that's hardly the same thing as not getting it up during an actual meet...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

No.

I have had a guy who flat refused to wear a condom though. That was equally frustrating.

I chucked him out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once or twice I've struggled. An ex of mine had issues with every guy who played with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time."

Poor guys that had this happen! Not only did they have the embarrassment of erection issues but now having it shouted over the forums!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily it's never happenedto us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

once we meet a couple for some fun in a hot tub, I was fine with the lady, but my Lady was frustrated that she did nothing for him ,

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

We have had meets were the guy has been intimidated by either lots of people or when we have had one to ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its happened to me. It will happen to most guys at some point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No.

I have had a guy who flat refused to wear a condom though. That was equally frustrating.

I chucked him out."
wow. Defiantly his loss, id fuck you if I had a dick heh.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time.

Poor guys that had this happen! Not only did they have the embarrassment of erection issues but now having it shouted over the forums! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, hasn't happened to me. But I hope that if it did we'd find other things to do, so the meet certainly wouldn't be a write-off and I'd try to make sure he didn't feel embarrassed or like he'd been a disappointment. I agree "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Once or twice I've struggled. An ex of mine had issues with every guy who played with her. "
if it was every guy, surely it was her and not the men?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time.

Poor guys that had this happen! Not only did they have the embarrassment of erection issues but now having it shouted over the forums! "

I don't think anyone is shouting about anything.

Are you having a bad day?

It's happened to me once or twice too but I don't really care. There are days when I'm off my stroke so to speak. If it was a recurring issue then I guess I'd look deeper into it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time.

Poor guys that had this happen! Not only did they have the embarrassment of erection issues but now having it shouted over the forums! "
it wasn't on here and I'm not calling them out. Simply sharing my past experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, yes and while embarssing I'm not ashamed of it either.

Happened at a couple of points in my life during my divorce, the desire was there but with so much going on inside my head at the time nothing was going to happen.

Like to think it proves I'm human and not just a machine. Plus the lady I was seeing never took it personally as she knew exactly what was going on at the time

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

It takes stimulation physical and mental ... If that's not there , it'll happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time.

Poor guys that had this happen! Not only did they have the embarrassment of erection issues but now having it

shouted over the forums!

I don't think anyone is shouting about anything.

Are you having a bad day?

It's happened to me once or twice too but I don't really care. There are days when I'm off my stroke so to speak. If it was a recurring issue then I guess I'd look deeper into it. "
I'm not shouting it out, they performed amazing with what they could do, I'm just sharing my experience and wondered if anyone has felt the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time."
yes did an mmmf once and two guys could not get hard so it just left me and another while the other guy filmed and took pics ,mind I love to lick so wouldn't be a problem for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an erection problem and went into a Boots pharmacy and asked to talk to a male pharmacist. The woman I was talking to said that she was the pharmacist and that she and her sister owned the franchise in the Boots store, so there were no males employed there. She asked if there was something which she could help the gentleman with.

I said that it was something that he would be much more comfortable discussing with a male pharmacist.

The female pharmacist assured me that she was completely professional and whatever it was that I needed to discuss, I could be confident that she would treat me with the highest level of professionalism.

I reluctantly agreed and began by saying, "This is tough for me to discuss, but I have a permanent erection. It causes me a lot of problems and severe embarrassment. So I was wondering what you could give me for it?"

The pharmacist said, "Just a minute, I'll go talk to my sister."

When she returned, she said, "We discussed it at length and the absolute best we can do is, 1/3 ownership in the store, a company car, and £3000 a month living expenses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it happened to me I would make sure the lady got licked to within an inch of her life lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it happened to me I would make sure the lady got licked to within an inch of her life lol "

Touching, licking etc. Can be much better than just getting fucked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to always make the lady cum first before I start fucking just in case its over way to quickly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have an erection problem and went into a Boots pharmacy and asked to talk to a male pharmacist. The woman I was talking to said that she was the pharmacist and that she and her sister owned the franchise in the Boots store, so there were no males employed there. She asked if there was something which she could help the gentleman with.

I said that it was something that he would be much more comfortable discussing with a male pharmacist.

The female pharmacist assured me that she was completely professional and whatever it was that I needed to discuss, I could be confident that she would treat me with the highest level of professionalism.

I reluctantly agreed and began by saying, "This is tough for me to discuss, but I have a permanent erection. It causes me a lot of problems and severe embarrassment. So I was wondering what you could give me for it?"

The pharmacist said, "Just a minute, I'll go talk to my sister."

When she returned, she said, "We discussed it at length and the absolute best we can do is, 1/3 ownership in the store, a company car, and £3000 a month living expenses."

Hahahahaha!!!! Nearly lost my coffee then! Nice one

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By *anderer8707Man
over a year ago

Telford

If I may, I would like to present this from a more 'elderly' gentlemans point of view too. I am 59 yrs old but, with the combination of age and Type2 diabetes have found myself in the position where I never really ever get hard enough any more for penetrative sex. I still fully enjoy all the elements of sexual activity a younger man would and, as said suggested earlier, still have a lot to give, not just by way of compensation but because, genuinely, it's a great turn on for the guy to know he's providing pleasure.

I have been prescribed the usual remedies such as Viagra; Cialis etc, all to no avail and, yes, you're right, this can be a bit embarassing and it is difficult to understnad when is the right time to declare this to a new partner.

I would be curious to know, from the female perspective, how important is it for the male to be able to indulge in full penetrative sex, or are you generally happy that this is just one element and that activity in other ways (oral etc) is still as satisfying?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"If it happened to me I would make sure the lady got licked to within an inch of her life lol

Touching, licking etc. Can be much better than just getting fucked."

I'd rather have someone who could lick well than someone who could fuck well. Actually I'd rather have someone who can do both but that never happens to me.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time.

Poor guys that had this happen! Not only did they have the embarrassment of erection issues but now having it

shouted over the forums!

I don't think anyone is shouting about anything.

Are you having a bad day?

It's happened to me once or twice too but I don't really care. There are days when I'm off my stroke so to speak. If it was a recurring issue then I guess I'd look deeper into it.

I'm not shouting it out, they performed amazing with what they could do, I'm just sharing my experience and wondered if anyone has felt the same. "

I know... that's what I said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time.

Poor guys that had this happen! Not only did they have the embarrassment of erection issues but now having it shouted over the forums! it wasn't on here and I'm not calling them out. Simply sharing my past experiences "

Fair enough, id feel horrible if it was me and came onto the forums to see my inadequacy being discussed as floppy disappointment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it doesn't have to mean the end of the fun does it? Plenty more to be getting on with in the meantime ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soooo funny!!

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

It has happened to me and worked in my favour - I am not a massive fan of the in and out stuff so it was much a more relaxed and licky/sucky meet and I got spoilt rotten.....also once he pressure was off he got stiff anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I may, I would like to present this from a more 'elderly' gentlemans point of view too. I am 59 yrs old but, with the combination of age and Type2 diabetes have found myself in the position where I never really ever get hard enough any more for penetrative sex. I still fully enjoy all the elements of sexual activity a younger man would and, as said suggested earlier, still have a lot to give, not just by way of compensation but because, genuinely, it's a great turn on for the guy to know he's providing pleasure.

I have been prescribed the usual remedies such as Viagra; Cialis etc, all to no avail and, yes, you're right, this can be a bit embarassing and it is difficult to understnad when is the right time to declare this to a new partner.

I would be curious to know, from the female perspective, how important is it for the male to be able to indulge in full penetrative sex, or are you generally happy that this is just one element and that activity in other ways (oral etc) is still as satisfying?"

To be honest, I don't see why so many people see penetrative sex as the be all and end all of sexual activity. You are much more likely to find us indulging in oral sex than a willy-in-the-foofoo scenario.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time.

Poor guys that had this happen! Not only did they have the embarrassment of erection issues but now having it shouted over the forums! it wasn't on here and I'm not calling them out. Simply sharing my past experiences

Fair enough, id feel horrible if it was me and came onto the forums to see my inadequacy being discussed as floppy disappointment!"
You seem easily

Offended and maybe even immature about this. Most people here understand im not laughing or saying the meet was bad. guys can have bad days jeez

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By *an Holo-Man
over a year ago

Yorkshire Dales


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time.

Poor guys that had this happen! Not only did they have the embarrassment of erection issues but now having it shouted over the forums! it wasn't on here and I'm not calling them out. Simply sharing my past experiences

Fair enough, id feel horrible if it was me and came onto the forums to see my inadequacy being discussed as floppy disappointment! You seem easily

Offended and maybe even immature about this. Most people here understand im not laughing or saying the meet was bad. guys can have bad days jeez "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I may, I would like to present this from a more 'elderly' gentlemans point of view too. I am 59 yrs old but, with the combination of age and Type2 diabetes have found myself in the position where I never really ever get hard enough any more for penetrative sex. I still fully enjoy all the elements of sexual activity a younger man would and, as said suggested earlier, still have a lot to give, not just by way of compensation but because, genuinely, it's a great turn on for the guy to know he's providing pleasure.

I have been prescribed the usual remedies such as Viagra; Cialis etc, all to no avail and, yes, you're right, this can be a bit embarassing and it is difficult to understnad when is the right time to declare this to a new partner.

I would be curious to know, from the female perspective, how important is it for the male to be able to indulge in full penetrative sex, or are you generally happy that this is just one element and that activity in other ways (oral etc) is still as satisfying?"

Whilst I applaud your honesty, no penatrative sex,ever, would be a hard limit for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I may, I would like to present this from a more 'elderly' gentlemans point of view too. I am 59 yrs old but, with the combination of age and Type2 diabetes have found myself in the position where I never really ever get hard enough any more for penetrative sex. I still fully enjoy all the elements of sexual activity a younger man would and, as said suggested earlier, still have a lot to give, not just by way of compensation but because, genuinely, it's a great turn on for the guy to know he's providing pleasure.

I have been prescribed the usual remedies such as Viagra; Cialis etc, all to no avail and, yes, you're right, this can be a bit embarassing and it is difficult to understnad when is the right time to declare this to a new partner.

I would be curious to know, from the female perspective, how important is it for the male to be able to indulge in full penetrative sex, or are you generally happy that this is just one element and that activity in other ways (oral etc) is still as satisfying?

To be honest, I don't see why so many people see penetrative sex as the be all and end all of sexual activity. You are much more likely to find us indulging in oral sex than a willy-in-the-foofoo scenario."

Same here , but I do think oral is more fun with a stiff cock to suck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time.

Poor guys that had this happen! Not only did they have the embarrassment of erection issues but now having it shouted over the forums! it wasn't on here and I'm not calling them out. Simply sharing my past experiences

Fair enough, id feel horrible if it was me and came onto the forums to see my inadequacy being discussed as floppy disappointment! You seem easily

Offended and maybe even immature about this. Most people here understand im not laughing or saying the meet was bad. guys can have bad days jeez "

I'm not offended, far from it. I totally sympathise with the situation and the issues. When you meet people you expect things to go a certain way and if that doesn't happen it can seem very disappointing. As you said there are lots of other things that can happen during a meet. I just find the tone of the thread title to be a little unsympathetic to the issues of the guys involved

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Had a couple of guys who got over excited very quickly - had to resort to my rabbit xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I may, I would like to present this from a more 'elderly' gentlemans point of view too. I am 59 yrs old but, with the combination of age and Type2 diabetes have found myself in the position where I never really ever get hard enough any more for penetrative sex. I still fully enjoy all the elements of sexual activity a younger man would and, as said suggested earlier, still have a lot to give, not just by way of compensation but because, genuinely, it's a great turn on for the guy to know he's providing pleasure.

I have been prescribed the usual remedies such as Viagra; Cialis etc, all to no avail and, yes, you're right, this can be a bit embarassing and it is difficult to understnad when is the right time to declare this to a new partner.

I would be curious to know, from the female perspective, how important is it for the male to be able to indulge in full penetrative sex, or are you generally happy that this is just one element and that activity in other ways (oral etc) is still as satisfying?"

Vey good post if I may say? I am sure drug intervention may help and I wish you well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, hasn't happened to me. But I hope that if it did we'd find other things to do, so the meet certainly wouldn't be a write-off and I'd try to make sure he didn't feel embarrassed or like he'd been a disappointment. "

*makes note; remember to pack monopoly and kerplunk. Just in case......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it happened to me I would make sure the lady got licked to within an inch of her life lol

Touching, licking etc. Can be much better than just getting fucked."

Soft swing can be so erotic

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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I'm not offended, far from it. I totally sympathise with the situation and the issues. When you meet people you expect things to go a certain way and if that doesn't happen it can seem very disappointing. As you said there are lots of other things that can happen during a meet. I just find the tone of the thread title to be a little unsympathetic to the issues of the guys involved"

Looks like just you and me think the same on here.

Men must feel crap when it happens so be thought of as a "floppy disappointment" could make things worse.

Hopefully the OP didn't say that to the man involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm not offended, far from it. I totally sympathise with the situation and the issues. When you meet people you expect things to go a certain way and if that doesn't happen it can seem very disappointing. As you said there are lots of other things that can happen during a meet. I just find the tone of the thread title to be a little unsympathetic to the issues of the guys involved

Looks like just you and me think the same on here.

Men must feel crap when it happens so be thought of as a "floppy disappointment" could make things worse.

Hopefully the OP didn't say that to the man involved"

I tend to agree with you both. This is an issue that is good to talk about, and there have been wonderful threads on it in the past. But the title of this one has completely put me off really discussing it.

-Courtney

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

To the OP...yes we have had a bit of stage fright going on, which is understandable as it must be intimidating at the thought of performing in front of a husband, but we didn't make a big deal out of it so he relaxed enough for it to end up a very good meet.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york


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I'm not offended, far from it. I totally sympathise with the situation and the issues. When you meet people you expect things to go a certain way and if that doesn't happen it can seem very disappointing. As you said there are lots of other things that can happen during a meet. I just find the tone of the thread title to be a little unsympathetic to the issues of the guys involved

Looks like just you and me think the same on here.

Men must feel crap when it happens so be thought of as a "floppy disappointment" could make things worse.

Hopefully the OP didn't say that to the man involved

I tend to agree with you both. This is an issue that is good to talk about, and there have been wonderful threads on it in the past. But the title of this one has completely put me off really discussing it.

-Courtney "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I'm not offended, far from it. I totally sympathise with the situation and the issues. When you meet people you expect things to go a certain way and if that doesn't happen it can seem very disappointing. As you said there are lots of other things that can happen during a meet. I just find the tone of the thread title to be a little unsympathetic to the issues of the guys involved

Looks like just you and me think the same on here.

Men must feel crap when it happens so be thought of as a "floppy disappointment" could make things worse.

Hopefully the OP didn't say that to the man involved

I tend to agree with you both. This is an issue that is good to talk about, and there have been wonderful threads on it in the past. But the title of this one has completely put me off really discussing it.

-Courtney "

Thanks your for your opinion by 'disappointment' I'm not saying the meet ended or that I laughed. We both understood the situation and had or amazing meet together. Before the meet he was hard and excited so I was expecting a hard cock.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Had a couple of guys who got over excited very quickly - had to resort to my rabbit xx"

I was the opposite when I first met my ex, although I was hard, I couldn't cum through penetrative sex for about 2 weeks and she had to finish me off with a hand job. When I did finally manage it, there was never a problem afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I`m having erection trouble on meets only.

People I`ve met so far have been fantastic and understanding and that will always be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once or twice I've struggled. An ex of mine had issues with every guy who played with her. if it was every guy, surely it was her and not the men?"

I agree, wasn't brave enough to say this of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm not offended, far from it. I totally sympathise with the situation and the issues. When you meet people you expect things to go a certain way and if that doesn't happen it can seem very disappointing. As you said there are lots of other things that can happen during a meet. I just find the tone of the thread title to be a little unsympathetic to the issues of the guys involved

Looks like just you and me think the same on here.

Men must feel crap when it happens so be thought of as a "floppy disappointment" could make things worse.

Hopefully the OP didn't say that to the man involved

I tend to agree with you both. This is an issue that is good to talk about, and there have been wonderful threads on it in the past. But the title of this one has completely put me off really discussing it.

-Courtney

Thanks your for your opinion by 'disappointment' I'm not saying the meet ended or that I laughed. We both understood the situation and had or amazing meet together. Before the meet he was hard and excited so I was expecting a hard cock."

When you look as good as you do, it had to get hard sooner or later!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I didn't read very much into the title... I think these situations can be really tricky for men, certainly on the two occasions I've come across it, I just felt it was important to be understanding. It's not a big deal for me, I like to hang onto my sense of humour about this sort of thing and hope that my partner can too. Whilst it's not a laughing matter at the time, both the men in question (neither of whom are here) have had a giggle about it since.

I dare say it depends on the people involved. I'm well aware of the seriousness and effects of a long term problem but I'd much rather read about a floppy disappointment than penile disfunction.

Swing and roundabouts really cause there's not only one person disappointed in that situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite the opposite! My 'gentleman' has embarrassed me so many times by going hard without any reason!

Even after sex it doesn't go soft for ages!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"I'm quite the opposite! My 'gentleman' has embarrassed me so many times by going hard without any reason!

Even after sex it doesn't go soft for ages!"

Have you tried tapping it with an hammer?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

- an n

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I'm quite the opposite! My 'gentleman' has embarrassed me so many times by going hard without any reason!

Even after sex it doesn't go soft for ages!

Have you tried tapping it with an hammer?"

That's a bit harsh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm quite the opposite! My 'gentleman' has embarrassed me so many times by going hard without any reason!

Even after sex it doesn't go soft for ages!

Have you tried tapping it with an hammer?"

Haha, I sometimes think even slamming the car door on it wouldn't work!

I'm not complaining though, I'd hate it if if didn't get up!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"I'm quite the opposite! My 'gentleman' has embarrassed me so many times by going hard without any reason!

Even after sex it doesn't go soft for ages!

Have you tried tapping it with an hammer?

Haha, I sometimes think even slamming the car door on it wouldn't work!

I'm not complaining though, I'd hate it if if didn't get up!"

Ouch, and Dirty thought mine was harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a threesome where the guy was intimidated by us & just couldn't manage to stay hard, had plenty of fun anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me once, he was fine until he had to put a condom on and then he couldn't maintain anything.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I've had it happen a couple of times and I have supported a gentleman through the struggle with it, prescription medication and finally confidence (in his case),to move away from the meds,, and stand up straight himself.

If it's happened at a club or in a similar situation I have been very understanding,

I have seen people be less understanding, but I don't feel that would help the situation at all, and these are people not robots, they can't perform on command.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"Had a couple of guys who got over excited very quickly - had to resort to my rabbit xx"

Always hits the spot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened once when attending an orgy party . Not sure if it was caused through being over tired or cold

( the main social area was outside)

or if it was nerves feeling pressure to perform with so many other people around . I watched my partner play but was largely unable to join in.The next meets we had i got fairly anxious about a repeat of the problem, Anxiety is not helpful for getting hard !

Am over it now thankfully and had some very enjoyable successful meets since.

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton


"No, hasn't happened to me. But I hope that if it did we'd find other things to do, so the meet certainly wouldn't be a write-off and I'd try to make sure he didn't feel embarrassed or like he'd been a disappointment. "

That is a very encouraging answer and I hope that if I ever find myself in this type of situation, the woman or couple I am with would be equally understanding and accepting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time."

After a particularly spectacular blow job I was left a broken and gibbering wreck. I had to rely on toys and my mouth for the remainder of our time together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends what round were on if it's been a long long session can often take longer than the first time xx just go with it fingers and tongues not a train wreck situation is it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK , here's the thing .

We do this swinging malarkey for fun , it's nothing too serious for us , and we always try to make sure guys feel comfortable .

As we have more meets than most I guess we have become adept at assessing a situation ?

Anyway , as I said before , it's yet to happen .

But if it did and the guy said it happened to him all the time , I would expect he would have said something beforehand . We aren't here to help people overcome their issues - we are here to have fun .

So that's my take on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shot my load after about 2 mins but carried on fucking because i was so turned on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had it a few times, once doing a threesome felt like a real twat, they where ok with it and had fun and did get her off a few times but still felt like a total loser after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had them hard, semi hard, soft, back to hard and then nowt. all for a variety of different reasons all been enjoyable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its happened to me. It will happen to most guys at some point."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of times in a group situation, performance anxiety I guess. We usually get there in the end!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes it's happened to Mr B a couple of times.

It's also happened to me (Mrs) when playing with single men or men in couples on a few occasions.

To be honest, I'm suprised it doesn't happen more often with nerves and often an audience watching. There is a fair bit of pressure on men or at least I think so.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I've had them hard, semi hard, soft, back to hard and then nowt. all for a variety of different reasons all been enjoyable "

This

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time."

Interesting question OP. I have to say that this has happened to me three times in the last year. I don't recall it happening much, if at all, prior to that so it might be age-related. I'm 45, but I wasn't expecting that kind of issue for at least another ten years or so.

On each occasion the woman has been really nice and re-assuring about it, although I suppose what else would she say! I love being tactile, kissing, giving oral and fingering etc... so it doesn't massively change the balance of what we'd be doing anyway, but I always wonder in the back of my head if she's just being nice in the hope that it will help me relax so I can get fully hard or whether she really genuinely means it's OK and doesn't matter. I have no problems getting semi-hard, but seem to struggle occasionally getting hard enough for penetration. I can even cum being just semi-hard which (pardon my embarrassing ignorance!) I didn't think was possible before as I'd always been fully hard when cumming, whether by myself or with someone. The odd thing, to me, is that on each occasion when this has happened, I've really felt like I've been into the woman I'm with, so it's not like I'm actually disappointed in her and just going through the motions or anything like that.

Sorry if this is very similar to other comments. I haven't scrolled through all of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had them hard, semi hard, soft, back to hard and then nowt. all for a variety of different reasons all been enjoyable "

This

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"Yes it's happened to Mr B a couple of times.

It's also happened to me (Mrs) when playing with single men or men in couples on a few occasions.

To be honest, I'm suprised it doesn't happen more often with nerves and often an audience watching. There is a fair bit of pressure on men or at least I think so.

"

I do wonder if it's to do with nerves/feelings of pressure. I've become more sexually active in the last couple of years with a variety of women and situations, some of which I'm fairly new to. I always thought it would happen if it was a very familiar situation, but it seems to be the opposite with me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just remembered meeting a few guys who 'couldn't get hard properly' and that's why they weren't 8 inches and only about 4 or 5....felt rock solid in my hand though. Weird that.

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By *ere to please321Man
over a year ago

lincolshire

Yep happened to me nerves got better of me one time

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

No, never experienced this thankfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once or twice I've struggled. An ex of mine had issues with every guy who played with her. "
Its more of a confidence issue for the lady....happened to us once,Mr never fails to please but one or two lads have definitely struggled once face to face with Cara...thankfully lots havent

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

thankfully, considering my age, it's not happened to me yet.Have had one or two occasions where my guns not fired.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all get 'stage fright' at some points in our lives... has happened to me on several occasions in the last year, nerves and anxiety I suppose, the people I have met don't seem to find it a problem though as there's much more we can all do

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

It's only happened to me with one guy, and I hope I managed to hide my disappointment, but penetration is a big deal for me.

This lovely lovely guy I played with at a club 3 or 4 different times, and all went well until he put on a condom, then he lost it. We tried at a hotel on a couple of occasions (in case it was anxiety about performing in front of others), same happened. We tried at my home on three or four different weekends, but he still lost it, as soon as he put on a condom.

Penetration is a big deal for me, but I wasn't ready to settle down and become monogamous (and condom-free) so reluctantly I had to stop seeing him.

Happily, he is now in a very happy monogamous relationship with a different lady, and doubtless they're both having lots of delightful condom-free sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's part of the problem, some of us have never used a condom and it tends to strangle the poor beast!

Luckily all my play has been soft swing.... so far! So no need for one, dreading the time it is needed though.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It has happened to me and it's been stage fright I think.

Once they realise it doesn't bother me it tends to right itself.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"That's part of the problem, some of us have never used a condom and it tends to strangle the poor beast! "

You're using the wrong size then, no joke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time."

Remember when i was younger my 2nd ever time having sex and he had a floopy.. told my friends and they were calling me self raising flour for weeks.. we were still at school though lol

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By *heclitmaster84Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Never happened to me I can get hard at a drop of a hat any were or time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's part of the problem, some of us have never used a condom and it tends to strangle the poor beast!

You're using the wrong size then, no joke."

Do they come im sizes then?

Im not that big, average I would say.... just!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"You're using the wrong size then, no joke.

Do they come im sizes then?

Im not that big, average I would say.... just! "

Yes they do, I've put extra large ones on guys who think they are average and they've said they feel much better

Plus when I say "you'll need a bigger condom" I think it pleases them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens......the condom fear as well...a fellow I knew a few years ago had an issue.I suggest a few weeks of the millionaires wank and its all better.....unless it is a physical issue...lots of things to do in the meantime .......it can be disappointing as I like the whole package and have been blessed with super FAB fellows for the moment X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're using the wrong size then, no joke.

Do they come im sizes then?

Im not that big, average I would say.... just!

Yes they do, I've put extra large ones on guys who think they are average and they've said they feel much better

Plus when I say "you'll need a bigger condom" I think it pleases them "

Agree...the extra large can be more comfortable...SKIN have them X

Mwah

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Not happened.. thats usually because if we have clicked mentally and sexually before any sex..ie a sicial meet... intimacy comes naturally...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just being diagnosed with diabetes doesn't help the little chap either.

Only been this last 8 months that I seem to find it difficult, also the same amount of time I have been going to the club.

Anxiety and performance issues maybe, definitely had the dreaded 'stage fright' to start with, now it's more of a underlying problem

Still have fun though penetrative sex is over rated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're using the wrong size then, no joke.

Do they come im sizes then?

Im not that big, average I would say.... just!

Yes they do, I've put extra large ones on guys who think they are average and they've said they feel much better

Plus when I say "you'll need a bigger condom" I think it pleases them "

But at 6 inches it doesn't fit in the bigger ones? Not that I know though, just assuming?

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By *neeyedpirateMan
over a year ago

ask!

Can't say I have this problem a stiff breeze and I am solid. I have a hard cock which is very hard even stays hard after I cum sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems some are young enough not to have any issues down below... lucky fuckers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever met with someone and they couldn't get it up/you couldn't get it up?

I have once or twice which can be disappointing but means he'll be going down on me for some time."

Wouldn't matter if I was as hard as a rock I'd still go down on you until you had cum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta admit, the OP is very attractive, but way out of my league and also age range

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No,because I'm so sexy and amazing that they get hard instantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No,because I'm so sexy and amazing that they get hard instantly "

really .. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only the odd blip - like a bloke who was desperate for a second go with my wife but he couldn't get it up after his first.

I've had similar myself - spent a whole day in a club and we played with several couples throughout the day but by the end of the day I was too exhausted to actually get off. Hard times (or not!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I may, I would like to present this from a more 'elderly' gentlemans point of view too. I am 59 yrs old but, with the combination of age and Type2 diabetes have found myself in the position where I never really ever get hard enough any more for penetrative sex. I still fully enjoy all the elements of sexual activity a younger man would and, as said suggested earlier, still have a lot to give, not just by way of compensation but because, genuinely, it's a great turn on for the guy to know he's providing pleasure.

I have been prescribed the usual remedies such as Viagra; Cialis etc, all to no avail and, yes, you're right, this can be a bit embarassing and it is difficult to understnad when is the right time to declare this to a new partner.

I would be curious to know, from the female perspective, how important is it for the male to be able to indulge in full penetrative sex, or are you generally happy that this is just one element and that activity in other ways (oral etc) is still as satisfying?"

I'm in the same boat which isn't so good for a 44 year old guy... It's been seven years since I had penetrative sex which has led to my wife having several affairs because she does not believe me even though I have consulted with several doctors, consultants to try to get things sorted. It didn't bother me to begin with but in the past year it's really beginning to get to me.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

A guy is more than his dick, so I'd enjoy all the other attention and intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i've had it happen.

Just one of those things.

Twice actually...one lass shouted it about on the forums (not naming me of course but in an effort to try and embarrass me) she even went to the lengths of private messaging other users to slag me off but a few of them just messaged me to tell me she had done that...i think the poor lass must have been very insecure. The other invited me back soon after and we ended up having loads of excellent sex and were still pals now

It happens...nowt to be glum about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, happens.

Sometimes my mind just isn't in the right place, and the slightest distraction causes it. I fucking hate it and end up feeling like the biggest disappointment ever.

Having said that, I'm very much a giver so when it has happened, I've just switched to doing other stuff to please the lady

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I have absolutely no knowledge of this subject, but surely your probelm is in the mind, and not necessarily 'biological' and therefore needing to see a 'normal' doctor?

Have you tried counselling of some sort? I'm sure it could help unravel why this is happening, and recalibrate your mind/emotions into getting past, or eliminating it?


"If I may, I would like to present this from a more 'elderly' gentlemans point of view too. I am 59 yrs old but, with the combination of age and Type2 diabetes have found myself in the position where I never really ever get hard enough any more for penetrative sex. I still fully enjoy all the elements of sexual activity a younger man would and, as said suggested earlier, still have a lot to give, not just by way of compensation but because, genuinely, it's a great turn on for the guy to know he's providing pleasure.

I have been prescribed the usual remedies such as Viagra; Cialis etc, all to no avail and, yes, you're right, this can be a bit embarassing and it is difficult to understnad when is the right time to declare this to a new partner.

I would be curious to know, from the female perspective, how important is it for the male to be able to indulge in full penetrative sex, or are you generally happy that this is just one element and that activity in other ways (oral etc) is still as satisfying?

I'm in the same boat which isn't so good for a 44 year old guy... It's been seven years since I had penetrative sex which has led to my wife having several affairs because she does not believe me even though I have consulted with several doctors, consultants to try to get things sorted. It didn't bother me to begin with but in the past year it's really beginning to get to me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was absolutely a psychological thing in my case. Pleasuring myself and getting rock hard was fine. But during sex, sometimes I'd get a thought in my mind, a fear, an insecurity, and once that thought was there, it would kill my hard-on, totally demoralise me and dampen the mood altogether until I got back into it, whether through more foreplay, a short break, a smoke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No,because I'm so sexy and amazing that they get hard instantly

really .. ? "

Find out for yourself

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