FabSwingers.com forum: Men: your success here vs. other sites?

By *ot_very_fab OP Man
over a year ago

London

Guys, how does your success here (let's say in terms of replies, meetings, and sex) on Fab compare to other personals/dating sites or apps?

For me I have had drastically lower success on here (zero meetings in 4-5 months) whereas on other sites I reliably meet 50 or more women per year and have sex with around 40% of them.

I suspect that this is probably down to the even higher m:f ratio on here? Or simply the lower total population (only a dozen or so women in my local area).

Anyone else had the same results, or do some of you do better on here than elsewhere?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my posts on other threads would say, not much. On Fabguys I get offers everyday but, don't want to catch anything or end up with a stalker so vet people very carefully. As for other sites in general, I'm yet to find one that doesn't charge the earth just read a message from someone who's just advertising another site. I like sex random people which I'm not getting yet someone else is benefiting from me paying a subscription. So, I've actually more luck with both fab sites than I have anywhere else.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

OP, there's more than a dozen or so women in your local area.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well........ Iv had far better success with other none sex orientated sites .

Iv started wondering if one of the main aims of this site is so women originally on the none sex orientated site is to help filter out the players?

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

same here, meets very rare maybe one a year on fabs, used to be much better about 4-5 years ago could get a meet easily but way too many males on here now.

another site if i wanted a meet that night guaranteed one, yesterday was chatting to about 8 different females, and two couples. even had one at 11pm call me asking me to come now or come in the morning.

rarely even browse profiles on fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the on here looking for sex and on there looking for a relationship type of scenario

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Other sites definitely but I'm a believer in less is more anyway so it's no big deal for me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

This is the only adult site I'm on or have been on and it works well for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I also use another site but its a membership one. I average about 8 meets a year, which Is a good ratio.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi pal. I'm having same problem as you plus there is a lot of ignorant women on here.. Can u recommend any other decent free sites

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By *ot_very_fab OP Man
over a year ago

London

"OP, there's more than a dozen or so women in your local area."

hah, fair enough - OK, I counted 51 online in the last week, within 10 miles of me. So I was only wrong by a factor of four

On big dating sites I typically expect to meet one woman per 50 I message (I have counted over long periods of time!) so I guess that's still not enough to "guarantee" some interest.

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By *ot_very_fab OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Hi pal. I'm having same problem as you plus there is a lot of ignorant women on here.. Can u recommend any other decent free sites"

That wouldn't be good form, we're on Fab's own forum and I wouldn't want to recommend a competitor, but there are of course dozens of "dating" sites out there which are common knowledge.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"OP, there's more than a dozen or so women in your local area.

hah, fair enough - OK, I counted 51 online in the last week, within 10 miles of me. So I was only wrong by a factor of four

On big dating sites I typically expect to meet one woman per 50 I message (I have counted over long periods of time!) so I guess that's still not enough to "guarantee" some interest."

A lot of women won't meet for NSA sex quite so close to home. They don't want to bump into shags in the supermarket and stuff.

Limiting yourself to 10 miles from home may not be helping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im usually meeting a diff women each week . So that coukd calucate up to anything . 0 -52 meets a year

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By *abphilMan
over a year ago

sheffield

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Hi pal. I'm having same problem as you plus there is a lot of ignorant women on here.. Can u recommend any other decent free sites"

With that degree of charm, I can't see why you're struggling at all.

What are the women ignorant of, out of interest? How to dance a tango? How to dress a pheasant? The history of Spain 1843-1865?

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I'm on this site, pof and another I can't think of I've not visited it in sooooooooo long.

I do ok on here I meet as often as I wish to.

Oh pof I'm not looking for a casual thing Its rare I message folk on there and I have a reasonable amount of interest from ladies, a good profile is really worthwhile..

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By *abphilMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"OP, there's more than a dozen or so women in your local area.

hah, fair enough - OK, I counted 51 online in the last week, within 10 miles of me. So I was only wrong by a factor of four

On big dating sites I typically expect to meet one woman per 50 I message (I have counted over long periods of time!) so I guess that's still not enough to "guarantee" some interest."

1 in 50 meets is not bad i dont get1 in 50 replies so carry on. I think i have probably messaged everyone near to me certainly within in 40 miles.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

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By *abphilMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"OP, there's more than a dozen or so women in your local area.

hah, fair enough - OK, I counted 51 online in the last week, within 10 miles of me. So I was only wrong by a factor of four

On big dating sites I typically expect to meet one woman per 50 I message (I have counted over long periods of time!) so I guess that's still not enough to "guarantee" some interest."

1 in 50 meets is not bad i dont get1 in 50 replies so carry on. I think i have probably messaged everyone near to me certainly within in 40 miles.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of all the sites...dating etc fab is the best for me...in all ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not fantastic, but I put minimal effort in.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Me personally have had better sucess on other sites.. fab is slightly slower

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"on other sites I reliably meet 50 or more women per year and have sex with around 40% of them.

How have you even had time to log on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep,I've had more meets off other sites too...they are the ones you pay for..but I don't treat swinging like it's life or death,like some do

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By *ot_very_fab OP Man
over a year ago

London

A lot of women won't meet for NSA sex quite so close to home. They don't want to bump into shags in the supermarket and stuff."

Interesting point - perhaps I'll search locally to some other easy-to-access cities.

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By *abphilMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"OP, there's more than a dozen or so women in your local area.

hah, fair enough - OK, I counted 51 online in the last week, within 10 miles of me. So I was only wrong by a factor of four

On big dating sites I typically expect to meet one woman per 50 I message (I have counted over long periods of time!) so I guess that's still not enough to "guarantee" some interest."

1 in 50 meets is not bad i dont get1 in 50 replies so carry on. I think i have probably messaged everyone near to me certainly within in 40 miles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're youngish easy to get on with and relatively good looking you'd probably be better off on that other place that rhymes with cinder.

If you're none of those (I haven't looked at the profile so don't know) and if you struggle to put yourself across in typed messages or forum posts then I'd imagine you'd struggle with all the sites.

There are people here who clearly struggle to present themselves well or stand out via photos and messaging, and I don't know why they put themselves through it. Play to your strengths, people - if you're better in person than via a computer screen then you're always going to have more success in person.

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By *abphilMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"If you're youngish easy to get on with and relatively good looking you'd probably be better off on that other place that rhymes with cinder.

If you're none of those (I haven't looked at the profile so don't know) and if you struggle to put yourself across in typed messages or forum posts then I'd imagine you'd struggle with all the sites.

Ruby its a mans post lol only kidding. But i have the agony uncle post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a question of Statistics ....eg ....500 men talking to 10 ladies......Even Pof has better prospects lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Men: your success here - depends on effort.

Plus on here you're (hopefully) less likely to run into the jealous types like on Plenty of Freaks

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By *abphilMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Its a question of Statistics ....eg ....500 men talking to 10 ladies......Even Pof has better prospects lol

He searches for gold too!

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By *abphilMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Men: your success here - depends on effort.

Plus on here you're (hopefully) less likely to run into the jealous types like on Plenty of Freaks

Perhaps there's a job opportunity for me there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many men have said it's far easier on other sites

Why stay on here if you get more success elsewhere? I know where I'd be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the only site I'm on for meeting up with ladies,

I have a much better success rate when I'm out on the town having a drink or a weekend away with the lads,

I guess the competition on here is just far to strong.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"As my posts on other threads would say, not much. On Fabguys I get offers everyday but, don't want to catch anything or end up with a stalker so vet people very carefully. As for other sites in general, I'm yet to find one that doesn't charge the earth just read a message from someone who's just advertising another site. I like sex random people which I'm not getting yet someone else is benefiting from me paying a subscription. So, I've actually more luck with both fab sites than I have anywhere else. "

You don't want to catch anything ???

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

You don't want to catch anything ???"

Bi guys are riddled with disease, apparently. Did nobody tell you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, there's more than a dozen or so women in your local area.

hah, fair enough - OK, I counted 51 online in the last week, within 10 miles of me. So I was only wrong by a factor of four

On big dating sites I typically expect to meet one woman per 50 I message (I have counted over long periods of time!) so I guess that's still not enough to "guarantee" some interest."

So you reckon 1 in 50 messages gets you a reply? And you have 50 meets off other sites? That's 2500 meassages! Do you literally message anybody and everybody on the hope of a reply?

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

You don't want to catch anything ???

Bi guys are riddled with disease, apparently. Did nobody tell you?

Does he honestly think that those people over there are not on here...just under a different name?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we tgirls have no problems meeting men on here so much so i cud be at it 24/7 lol

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By *abphilMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"OP, there's more than a dozen or so women in your local area.

hah, fair enough - OK, I counted 51 online in the last week, within 10 miles of me. So I was only wrong by a factor of four

On big dating sites I typically expect to meet one woman per 50 I message (I have counted over long periods of time!) so I guess that's still not enough to "guarantee" some interest.

So you reckon 1 in 50 messages gets you a reply? And you have 50 meets off other sites? That's 2500 meassages! Do you literally message anybody and everybody on the hope of a reply?"

To be honest yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is by far the worst site for me lol every other site iv been on had loads of fun. A lot of them weren't even hook up sites. I hardly message anyone on here now or even browse a profile

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By *ot_very_fab OP Man
over a year ago

London

"OP, there's more than a dozen or so women in your local area.

hah, fair enough - OK, I counted 51 online in the last week, within 10 miles of me. So I was only wrong by a factor of four

On big dating sites I typically expect to meet one woman per 50 I message (I have counted over long periods of time!) so I guess that's still not enough to "guarantee" some interest.

So you reckon 1 in 50 messages gets you a reply? And you have 50 meets off other sites? That's 2500 meassages! Do you literally message anybody and everybody on the hope of a reply?"

I've actually met nearly 200 women from the internet, haha - but that's over 7 years so far. Some years I've met 50+, others much fewer.

Yes it does take literally 1000s of messages, that's the reality of it. Just like in real life you have to somehow interact with 1000s of women before happening to catch some interest. Think of it as like being in a club and being implicitly rejected by every girl who doesn't show some kind of interest - that's 100s per night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, there's more than a dozen or so women in your local area.

hah, fair enough - OK, I counted 51 online in the last week, within 10 miles of me. So I was only wrong by a factor of four

On big dating sites I typically expect to meet one woman per 50 I message (I have counted over long periods of time!) so I guess that's still not enough to "guarantee" some interest.

So you reckon 1 in 50 messages gets you a reply? And you have 50 meets off other sites? That's 2500 meassages! Do you literally message anybody and everybody on the hope of a reply?

I've actually met nearly 200 women from the internet, haha - but that's over 7 years so far. Some years I've met 50+, others much fewer.

I have no idea how many people I;ve met online. But I know I've sent far far less messages than you have, personally I think messaging people that there is a connection with pays dividends far mare than the scattergun approach of messaging anyone local in the hope you get a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a dating site are the women expecting to be dated or are they looking for sex only?

I was on one and left because nobody actually wanted to date,just go straight to bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm totally with you OP , too many males here not enough women, I don't think the women here are ignorant but more to the point of sick of all the same shit everyday messages, I understand that, but for me I get more luck and attention else where, its more hard work here to say a site for swinging/sex.

Don't get me wrong i've had some offers here but turned them down im not that despite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On a dating site are the women expecting to be dated or are they looking for sex only?

I was on one and left because nobody actually wanted to date,just go straight to bed "

I've had loads of offers for just sex on dating sites its quite off putting sometimes , but you left and now your here? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On one dating site in 4 odd years of use I had one date, averaging about 1 reply to every 40-50 messages.

On another dating app I had one date & 4 other dates cancelled less than an hour before meeting.

On fab I met lots of people as a single guy & 6 months ago met Mrs J & having a whale of a time.

Different sites for different folks I guess.

Mr J

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It's much better here as there is no silly age rule

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

Great site. Have more offers than I can take up. Can't complain.....

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

I've had more "success" elsewhere, but I have a soft spot for Fab. It's given me some great experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was having more success on other sites I'd stick with them.

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By *abphilMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"If I was having more success on other sites I'd stick with them.

I would too how much are they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was having more success on other sites I'd stick with them.

I would too how much are they"

I don't know sweetie, I'm having all the success I need on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's your success criteria ?

Shagging lots of women or participating in a swinging lifestyle ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the only Adult site that im on

and i dont want or intend meeting numerous guys fab works for me

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By *abphilMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Well how is it made to work for everyone male, female,tv,ts, bi straight whatever. Lets face it to get all the benefits it costs cash.

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By *ot_very_fab OP Man
over a year ago

London

As an update - still no luck meeting anyone, haha! It's a funny place.

Whereas from other "normal" dating sites this year so far I've met 13 and had sex with 10 of them (with 2-3 months off in the middle, too), the majority on the first date.

Hmm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys, how does your success here (let's say in terms of replies, meetings, and sex) on Fab compare to other personals/dating sites or apps?

For me I have had drastically lower success on here (zero meetings in 4-5 months) whereas on other sites I reliably meet 50 or more women per year and have sex with around 40% of them.

I suspect that this is probably down to the even higher m:f ratio on here? Or simply the lower total population (only a dozen or so women in my local area).

Anyone else had the same results, or do some of you do better on here than elsewhere?

you meet 50 or more females per year!!!

where do you find the time to sit down and write posts on this site and the other forums you visit!!!

whats that smell?????

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By *ot_very_fab OP Man
over a year ago

London

Yea that's quite manageable - roughly one per week. Who's so busy that they can't go on a date once per week?

I have a normal job and no children, plenty of free evenings if I want them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you even on here if you are already getting your fill elsewhere?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More local men on here than another sex related site I was on. In fact tons more.

The money you pay here is a lot less than other sites too. But unfortunately you get fake profiles (male and female) on any site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe because this isn't a fucking site, but a swinging site

I could probably have the same numbers as you if I went on a regular basis to my local club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Badoo seems to be good for meeting up with people

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By *ot_very_fab OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Why are you even on here if you are already getting your fill elsewhere?"

I wouldn't say I'm getting my fill, exactly. The kind of people on here seem fun to meet, but ultimately are very hard to talk to compared to normal sites.

Just curious about it, really - it's such a different result to what I expected when I joined, haha.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I guess that most people come here after finding it from a search, rather than friends telling them about it. So they'd not have much inkling about the numbers imbalance.

Someone for everyone? Probably, though some will be more desirable to more people than others will be.

The other sites are potentially less honest than here, if you're pretending to be there for ltr rather than just sex. If I was a single guy I'd prefer this - and then work out how to use it for best results.

Imo it's better used in conjunction with off-site interaction, socials etc. But I think a lot of guys only want to tap on their keyboards and get some sex, like ordering pizza online.

If you want fairly vanilla fun and can always find it when you're out and about, I'd say to carry on doing that, using your looks and charm. If you're a little more deviant, then here ot a specialist site or club should work. That is if you're flexible and reactive enough to learn how to make best use of it.

If you're still doing the same thing here as when you started, whilst getting poor results, consider whether you've been slow on the uptake. If there were other men just like you here, what could they be doing differently and getting better results than you are? Would you fuck your clone if you were bi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met on two years a big fat zero lol I have used other chat sites but one by one they have closed for one reason or another too a break from social networking then found this site and thought I'd see if I can make some fun new friends........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly going out to a pub or club is way easier to get laid than here or any other site. The advantage of here is, less complications and usually, but not always, the set is a lot better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have better success at meeting couples on another swinging site, but still here for the odd guy as there are more to choose from on here.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

I generally have better success with tinder.

Lately I've been meeting a new woman every month.

I think I've got a reasonable profile here, but i get "not interested" messages from the ladies. Go figure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"same here, meets very rare maybe one a year on fabs, used to be much better about 4-5 years ago could get a meet easily but way too many males on here now.

rarely even browse profiles on fabs.

We're newish, and as a couple do get more interest, but would be interested what other sites people rate. Cheers K.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Success here is non existent as IslandMonkey but I have a few veries on Fg's and here with another username.

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