FabSwingers.com forum: Is swinging sex the only sex you have

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For singles, now you're in "the scene" do you prefer the wildness and less complicated stranger sex, or do you use swinging to satisfy sexual urges whilst waiting for the knight in shining armour to arrive.

Do you still date men or women in the conventional way or are you happy on your own and dont want a relationship.

If sex within the swinging world is the only sex you have, do you miss the emotional, romantic and loving nature of sex with a partner rather than with numerous strangers. Is that why so many find kissing important, is it the only kissing you have.

For couples do you find your sex life interesting together or do you require the excitement and taboo nature of swinger sex and again the numerous partners. Is sex "samey" between the two of you and swinging brings an extra spark. Could you give it up, do you need it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally just swing and play at clubs I prefer this than a one night stand. But saying that I am finding it more and more difficult to find that emotional attachment with sex all I am having is pure sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am happy on my own and do not want a relationship ((shudders)), nor am I seeking one. So no I don't do the dating game and would describe myself as an 'as and when required swinger' lol.

Suits me and my lifestyle.

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
over a year ago

rochdale

It's different.

When i'm in 'normal' mode we have a regular - if toy filled - sex life, yet when i dress i want cock!

I love being a cock slut as it's so different from my regular, public persona.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I am happy on my own and do not want a relationship ((shudders)), nor am I seeking one. So no I don't do the dating game and would describe myself as an 'as and when required swinger' lol.

Suits me and my lifestyle.

same here im happy being single and not looking for a relationship and for the passion in some meets ive had its there but you have step back thats very dangerous ground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i was single i just had sex cause i was horny not for any othere reason and wasnt looking for that special someone ...... but now im in a relationship sex life is great and it made me see that i did miss all the cuddles kisses and the love making .... and we swing cause its exciting and cause we like to see each other with someone else its a huge turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, I've been on the scene for so long.. i wouldnt know where to start with Finding a relationship the normal Vanilla way of doing it..

i would be lying if i said i didnt miss the closeness you get from being with a partner.. the chilling on the sofa, just being content with being with each other. but its not really a think you find in swinging (well i haven't).

but for me.. i dont see swinging as just the sex.. ive met many people from the scene, where i have met and become good friends.. shared evenings going to the cinema, going for meals.. etc. and just enjoying each others company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been married over 20 years from 18 , We was kids really and now we know each other so so well and good friends too.. this spices up our lifes meeting people we do together and i do 121 its just i have a hight sex drive john just loves a rest and happy for me to have my fun. My sex with 121 is very passiont very full on .... loads of everything and if thay come back we get to like each other i am fine with that it makes for better sex. Feel i am a lucky woman i get to play with some very horny sexy people now and again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love the swinging lifestyle as a single woman. i can have sex as and when i feel like it, with no hassles, and no guy getting in the way of my chilled comfortable life.

Perhaps i do sometimes miss the cuddles and closeness, but the hot sex far out weighs that.

And just speaking from my own personal experience, the men i have met on swinging sites are far more unselfish and better in bed than any guys ive dated!!!

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

i think the sex i have had with a few fuck buddies is far better than relationship sex. plus its different. think thats why a lot of couples are here to keep it spicey x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find alot of the men very caring and loving and passiont lovers even if swingers. When some say its just sex .... some some married people its just boring sex. Me and john do have good together just us. I feel sex here with a swinger can be pasiont and loving you just send them home after and see it for what it is fun and lovely passiont sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a great sex life and have always explored and pushed boundaries together. When we first got together I had trouble even undressing in front of hubby at first so I've come a long way since then. Still not as sexually confident as I'd like but I'm getting there. The whole swinging thing has meant we talk even more, explore more and are totally honest about what we want from each other and from others. A few years ago I wouldn't have admitted to myself that I wanted uncomplicated sex with lots of men, let alone discussed it with hubby. Likewise, he would never have told me that he is turned on by me being with other men. Talking about swinging and all its many avenues has helped us to achieve this honesty with each other and to actually try and do something about it. Jo x

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Sometimes I think I do miss the companionship aspect of being in a relationship, but then I think about what I have as a singleton which I didn't have when I was in a relationship... I think I'm guilty of often looking back at those times through rise-tinted glasses.

Being single, I can do what I like when I like (within reason as I have my son one week in two). I can't have sex whenever I want it, but to be honest, even when I was married it wasn't really available on demand whenever I felt like it.

For now, I'm content being where I am. Maybe someone will come along who really knows how to rock my socks and I'll change my opinion, but for now I'm happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No swinging isn't the only sex I have but being on here helps my lust for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont date anyone and only meet swingers for sex, sometimes social events, have a regular guy i see but its nothing more than sex with friendship, and no relationship as its not what either of us want. Not sure thats what i want either, would be nice but then i can put my own bin out or i can ask my son and he does it

does get lonely sometimes though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If one discounts masturbation, then yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging and my other sex life are pretty much the same now a days, usually with people I know and trust and get a long with, can't remember when I last met for a spur of the moment meet with some I hadn't met or chatted to

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

If we gave up swinging tommorow we would still have each other and our own sex life.

Swinging adds to our sex life , it doesn't replace it.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Yes swinging is the only sex i get.

Do I miss the emotional side, yes very much and have been on the dating scene on and off for some years now,but dont feel comfy in the dating world,but get me inn the swing world as its me.

I cant imagine not swinging or being with one man for the rest of my life. I did that when i was married.

I would love to meet my night in shining armour but very much dont expect to find it on here or anywhere else.

I dont want to open my kids and myself up to be devastated again by the hurt a man can bring,. Yes I know a man can also bring happiness as remember that feeling well but we are all more settled now and dont want to have my kids/me hurt again. So swinging works for me. It gives me the sex, the socialising,the excitement but not the love and companionship.

So I am voluntarily single really. Dont always like it but know whats best for me and protecting me and the kids is very important.

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By *eaboMan
over a year ago

marden

i am single and very happy to stay that way, i do have a 'special' friend i met off here and we meet but don't always have sex, but we do do the kissing, cuddling thing and it is good, she is obviously fully aware of what i do, and also doesn't want a relationship but does like the extra element of a connection. But the swinging sex is also great, i particularly enjoy meeting couples for threesomes and the buzz just before meeting is amazing. I have no intention of giving up swinging for the foreseeable future but if i did meet and fall for a vanilla girl i would give it up. As it stands at the moment 'im lovin it' as they say. As for dating? Wow -scares the shit out of me, i don't think i could walk up to a lady in a pub and chat her up, i wouldn't know where to start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, swinging sex is not the only sex I have.

I enjoy seeing women in the non swinging scene. For me because I socialise a lot it's probably a 70:30 split non swinging to swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman I don't see that there's a huge amount of difference between sex with swingers and sex wirh vanillas, maybe its just the men I pick. I've had 3sums with so called vanilla men and incredibly sensual, almost love making with people from here. I kiss and snuggle with all of them, I don't spend the night with anyone, but that's my preference. I prefer socialising wirh my female friends. I am just as happy to ask a man in a pub to have sex as a bloke of here. Ummmm nope, upon thinking about it, it really makes no difference to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a word yes

im single so i dont get sex at home from a relationship, id sooner not sleep about with people in my private life so basically the only time i get sex is if i meet someone off here or go to a club/party

Quite sad really but hey ho lol

i do like my single life and i do like swinging but there are so many things i miss about sex that you just dont get from on here, like cuddles, falling to sleep in someones arms, waking up with someone, morning sex

etc, it get quite lonley going to bed alone night after night

but i guess you take the rough with the smooth

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"As a single woman I don't see that there's a huge amount of difference between sex with swingers and sex wirh vanillas, maybe its just the men I pick. I've had 3sums with so called vanilla men and incredibly sensual, almost love making with people from here. I kiss and snuggle with all of them, I don't spend the night with anyone, but that's my preference. I prefer socialising wirh my female friends. I am just as happy to ask a man in a pub to have sex as a bloke of here. Ummmm nope, upon thinking about it, it really makes no difference to me.

So thats what you were doing with that 90 year old at the bar saturday night lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For singles, now you're in "the scene" do you prefer the wildness and less complicated stranger sex, or do you use swinging to satisfy sexual urges whilst waiting for the knight in shining armour to arrive.

Do you still date men or women in the conventional way or are you happy on your own and dont want a relationship.

I would never use swinging to wait my 'Knight in shining armour to arrive'! In fact im not looking for or wanting for said Knight! I have been in conventional relationships, for me, thats not what I want from life.

I do not date, nor do I want to.

Swinging sex is the only sex I have, and it is the only sex I want. In no way do I miss the emotional/loving nature of sex. I do not want to be emotional involved with anyone. As for romantic, well, some meets can be romantic, but with boundries, the romance ends when they go home.

As for kissing, for me, I find it hard to become sexual turned on without kissing. But I dont see it as meeting any emotional needs. It may be the only 'tounge down the throat' kissing I do, but it isnt the only kissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is the only sex I have. end of

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I split from my wife last year and so swinger sex is the best option for me.

Just NSA fun with some great people is all I want right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmmm if this site was my only source of a sex life I'd be a born again virgin - all healed up....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmm, in my case the line has become fuzzy, id like too meet someone special but the thrill of nsa is ..well overpowering at times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So thats what you were doing with that 90 year old at the bar saturday night lol"

You should seen what I did to him later on.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"If we gave up swinging tommorow we would still have each other and our own sex life.

Swinging adds to our sex life , it doesn't replace it."

i was going to say exactly the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, had too much luck lately finding it hard to manage my time. But not having relationship sex either, well other than last night, met up with my ex.

Love her more than anythin so couldnt ever be nsa between us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for the last 8 years swinging sex is the only sex I have, I have never found sex within an previous relationship as good after the first few times. I love sex with people I hardly know For me its the best sex. Im really happy on my own and certainly not looking for an emotional relationship. It may sound cold but im far from that.

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