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"So long story short..I'd never intentionally try to hurt someone emotionally unless i was hurt by them; and then i probably wouldn't because I'm just not like that. Are there people out there that get their kicks from doing this or am i right in thinking it must stem from something. The context is I've got a guy who likes to tell me when he's slept with other people and he says he does it for a dig at me. But claims he has no feelings for me...so what's that about? (And yeah if you press the green arrow it's the same guy...sorry for asking for advice if it annoys anyone)" You have to let him know, however you can, but I'd suggest by cutting him off, that you aren't bothered ... and wont entertain such games ... | |||
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"Can you block him? Does it bother you? He sounds like an emotionally abusive type. X " Yeah I've blocked him to give him time x | |||
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"Can you block him? Does it bother you? He sounds like an emotionally abusive type. X " And no it doesn't bother me he's a single guy can do as he pleases x | |||
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"Can you block him? Does it bother you? He sounds like an emotionally abusive type. X Yeah I've blocked him to give him time x" You don't block him to give him time. You block him to give YOU time. | |||
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"Can you block him? Does it bother you? He sounds like an emotionally abusive type. X And no it doesn't bother me he's a single guy can do as he pleases x" Sorry I meant does it bother you that he's saying stuff with the intention of hurting you. If someone intentionally hurts you they aren't worth your time. Don't feel bad for him. x | |||
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"Generally people who hurt others have their own emotional problems and they seek to lash out at others,or treat them as emotional punch bags. That's not healthy for you and can lower your own self esteem. Sadly the victim starts believing what the other persons says. Empower yourself and remove them from your life. It may hurt at first but you will feel so much healthier in time. Good luck." This. Get out of the situation. | |||
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"Victims need bullies." Actually i think this helps the most. Thanks. | |||
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"Generally people who hurt others have their own emotional problems and they seek to lash out at others,or treat them as emotional punch bags. That's not healthy for you and can lower your own self esteem. Sadly the victim starts believing what the other persons says. Empower yourself and remove them from your life. It may hurt at first but you will feel so much healthier in time. Good luck. This. Get out of the situation. " Yup. Forget it. Move on. Sometimes I'm too sensitive x | |||
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"Victims need bullies." Ouch. I get your point but some people can't let it wash over them. People can be hurtful and insensitive. Not everyone has a thick skin. | |||
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"Why are you still letting him get in touch with you? " No idea. Because I'm a div. | |||
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"Generally people who hurt others have their own emotional problems and they seek to lash out at others,or treat them as emotional punch bags. That's not healthy for you and can lower your own self esteem. Sadly the victim starts believing what the other persons says. Empower yourself and remove them from your life. It may hurt at first but you will feel so much healthier in time. Good luck. This. Get out of the situation. Yup. Forget it. Move on. Sometimes I'm too sensitive x" We all are at times. Start with a positive affirmation. ..not I'm too sensitive but I deserve to be treated well and I'm going to be happy. | |||
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"Victims need bullies. What?" It's the best answer on the thread .... Without the victim ( the op ) there would be no purpose for the bully ( the guy in question ) to do as he is doing . She doesn't need to be a victim ..... | |||
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"Generally people who hurt others have their own emotional problems and they seek to lash out at others,or treat them as emotional punch bags. That's not healthy for you and can lower your own self esteem. Sadly the victim starts believing what the other persons says. Empower yourself and remove them from your life. It may hurt at first but you will feel so much healthier in time. Good luck. This. Get out of the situation. Yup. Forget it. Move on. Sometimes I'm too sensitive x We all are at times. Start with a positive affirmation. ..not I'm too sensitive but I deserve to be treated well and I'm going to be happy. " again. Don't blame yourself OP. He is manipulating you. | |||
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"Why are you still letting him get in touch with you? No idea. Because I'm a div. " Your not a div | |||
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"Why are you still letting him get in touch with you? " You're not. Right,I would either never let him talk to me ever again or smile at him/send him an I don't care what you get up to with other women text; if you must speak to him again. You could sit him down and explain how immature he's being and it's wasted on you because you're not hurt or bothered by him telling you what he's up to. Are you sure he's doing it to hurt you and not just sharing his experiences with a friend? | |||
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"Victims need bullies. Actually i think this helps the most. Thanks. " No point in hiding it. It's the circle of abuse. Never un-block, move on. Take control. You'll be fine. | |||
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"So long story short..I'd never intentionally try to hurt someone emotionally unless i was hurt by them; and then i probably wouldn't because I'm just not like that. Are there people out there that get their kicks from doing this or am i right in thinking it must stem from something. The context is I've got a guy who likes to tell me when he's slept with other people and he says he does it for a dig at me. But claims he has no feelings for me...so what's that about? (And yeah if you press the green arrow it's the same guy...sorry for asking for advice if it annoys anyone)" 1. He's very honest that he has no feelings for you ( someone who feels for you wouldn't do that ) 2. He does it because he gets a reaction. 3. It's not necessarily to hurt you. 4. Your reaction boosts his ego. 5. He is an emotionally, immature cunt with low self esteem. 6. You are an enabler. | |||
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" 1. He's very honest that he has no feelings for you ( someone who feels for you wouldn't do that ) 2. He does it because he gets a reaction. 3. It's not necessarily to hurt you. 4. Your reaction boosts his ego. 5. He is an emotionally, immature cunt with low self esteem. 6. You are an enabler. " Yes this. Clearly. Thanks. X | |||
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" 1. He's very honest that he has no feelings for you ( someone who feels for you wouldn't do that ) 2. He does it because he gets a reaction. 3. It's not necessarily to hurt you. 4. Your reaction boosts his ego. 5. He is an emotionally, immature cunt with low self esteem. 6. You are an enabler. Yes this. Clearly. Thanks. X" Great list, perfect explanation | |||
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"Yeah problem is i do care for him a bit. I don't like to think he might be hurting. " I haven't read the other thread but sounds like he's possibly playing on the fact you care for him? Personally, if someones behaviour was starting to bother me (this is mean to be fun after all) I would stop all contact, block them on here & any other device too. It's harsh but an effective course of action for you both. | |||
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"Can you block him? Does it bother you? He sounds like an emotionally abusive type. X Yeah I've blocked him to give him time x You don't block him to give him time. You block him to give YOU time. " | |||
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