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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After the reaction of this thread I'm wondering if this us a good idea.

People are always saying they don't know what to get for my kids for birthdays and Christmas, and I also don't like them to have too many Easter eggs, so I was thinking about sharing a wish list for each if them, ill be buying the expensive stuff, and most of the stuff on the wish list would be under 15 quid, average about a tenner, this way they get the stuff they want and don't double up on anything, I could use a popular shopping site.

Your thoughts?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Do you mean for other family members to get? Or kids for the party.

We used to get things like jigsaws or books for other kids parties.

As for family and grown up friends they always asked what they wanted.

For Easter (my son didn't have sweets) the family used to give him a Woolworths voucher equivalent to what they would of spent on an egg and he collected them up and always bought Lego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For other family members, I think it's a good idea. I already do this at Christmas with the rest of my family. I never know what to buy for kids and if it saved me having to brave the hell of a toy department I'd be all up for it.

If it's for other kids going to the party I'm not sure, it feels a bit presumptuous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My kids are taught to be appreciative rather than expect. Those that buy them a gift didn't have to and that's what they should appreciate, whether they will use the gift or not. But that's my attitude when buying a gift too. I do try to give some thought when buying people gifts, but it can be difficult, so I don't like to ask them what they want as it ruins the thought and surprise. I may instead ask them for an idea, like something for the house or specific theme.

At Easter I don't buy for others and I tell people not to buy for my children. Some people celebrate Easter like Christmas now, but mine will remain at a few eggs, no need to go over the top just because it's being commercialised to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to give money if the children haven't asked for anything specific. If they want certain things we get together and decide who buys what. My son and ex usually give my daughters' children between £50-£100 for Christmas and birthdays but my ex has bought expensive items costing up to £350. For birthday parties where friends are invited they are grateful for whatever the friends give them and are more excited about the party than the gifts. Most people put money in a card,usually £10 but £5 is met with smiles too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For family yes.

For your children's friends no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my children were young they would get around 12 Easter eggs each from family. It was ridiculous and sat in the fridge for weeks,with me eating some of them. A family member has an Easter egg hunt every year and the kids hunt for different confectionery,not all sweets. I buy my younger grandchildren a small egg and something to do over Easter holidays. The elder ones get £5 to go to the cinema or bowling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For family yes.

For your children's friends no."

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'm totally against it.

I agree with DoneNothingKimi. People should learn to appreciate not expect.

Most of the time it's the adults trying to outdo each other rather than 'giving' in the true sense.

Most celebrations now revolve around people trying to save face and not look cheap.

What happened to taking yourself, a cake and a good sense of community round to someone elses for a cuppa and a laugh.

Kids are 'prezzie' sucking little shits because their parents bring them up this way.

People get so stressed about 'presents' as if they were fucking life saving blood donations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazon have the wish list option and you can share the link with family etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No just family, and my close friends, for the kids party I say not to bring gifts because they have enough, just the kids being there is enough, and it saves on the awkward feeling if someone bringing a set of coloring books from poundland, and someone else bringing the latest must have toy (happened once at my daughters birthday, the must have toy sat in its box while she spent hours colouring in, but the kids mom was embarased by it all) .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can share the wish list and they can choose whether to buy from it or not. I imagine it would work well for other family members. For friends - if they ask - share it with them too.

We've never gone mad on Easter eggs, tended to buy other things for £5 or so.

I like surprise presents though too - some people are brilliant present givers.

Sarah

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By *iss AdventureWoman
over a year ago

Wonderland

Whenever my little one is invited to a party i ask the child's parents what's on their birthday list, but also what not to get them.

With family i always send a copy of the wish list at birthday and Christmas time because it makes it easier and with my siblings we all share our Amazon wish list or we all make each other something cause we're a creative bunch

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

So the kids make a wish list.....

They get something from the wish list.

They ask they get. They ask they get.

They ask they get until it becomes a right.

What if you can't afford what's on the list ? Might as well shoot yourself now cos you'll be the one turning up with the balloon on the stick and everyone will call you tight and hate you so they can look good whilst paying off their credit card.

What happens to the JOY of thinking, selecting , buying and hoping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my kids were to create a wishlist it'd be everything on the site. Just like all the adverts before Christmas I get the "I want that" constantly, but when Christmas day arrives they forget about all those adverts and appreciate what they have.

Whilst I'm still speaking for my children I will tell people to buy them whatever they want, because I mean it when I say it's the thought that counts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No just family, and my close friends, for the kids party I say not to bring gifts because they have enough, just the kids being there is enough, and it saves on the awkward feeling if someone bringing a set of coloring books from poundland, and someone else bringing the latest must have toy (happened once at my daughters birthday, the must have toy sat in its box while she spent hours colouring in, but the kids mom was embarased by it all) .

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For family it would be fine if the family agree. At Christmas my grandchildren let us know one thing they really want and the rest we surprise them with. Apart from the list they pick out of the Argos catalogue that is as long as your arm and we ignore,they get one thing they really want,which is usually bought by the parents. I think it's a good idea if your children don't get spoilt throughout the year,like a lot of children do and they have to wait for birthdays and Christmas.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

a bunch of lottery tickets. Who would pay £50 out on euro million lottery tickets, but it might turn out to be worthwhile (just remember to sign the back first )

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

From me my grandson gets a small (will get)a small gift from me and then money in this bank account, he's already got £200

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm totally against it.

I agree with DoneNothingKimi. People should learn to appreciate not expect.

Most of the time it's the adults trying to outdo each other rather than 'giving' in the true sense.

Most celebrations now revolve around people trying to save face and not look cheap.

What happened to taking yourself, a cake and a good sense of community round to someone elses for a cuppa and a laugh.

Kids are 'prezzie' sucking little shits because their parents bring them up this way.

People get so stressed about 'presents' as if they were fucking life saving blood donations. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For family I love the internet wishlist. Selection of ideas at £10 and under. Then it's up to them what they spend; £5 is fine by me.

Parties- people can give whatever they like. £5 in a card or even just a card. To me, their presence at the party means more than a gift.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

A friend has done this for his little one. I thought it was a brilliant idea. As well as specific items the site mentioned in an above comment also let's you add a more vague subject, for example, 'Science toys', so you still get to choose but have an idea of what they are into at the mkment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm totally against it.

I agree with DoneNothingKimi. People should learn to appreciate not expect.

Most of the time it's the adults trying to outdo each other rather than 'giving' in the true sense.

Most celebrations now revolve around people trying to save face and not look cheap.

What happened to taking yourself, a cake and a good sense of community round to someone elses for a cuppa and a laugh.

Kids are 'prezzie' sucking little shits because their parents bring them up this way.

People get so stressed about 'presents' as if they were fucking life saving blood donations. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you do what is right for yourself you don't need advice for that.

Personally it's not for me it seems like our life's are one big plan from the moment we're born now, I find that tedious.

I buy what I want not to the kids in my life appreciate it, that's good enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My kids are taught to be appreciative rather than expect. Those that buy them a gift didn't have to and that's what they should appreciate, whether they will use the gift or not. But that's my attitude when buying a gift too. I do try to give some thought when buying people gifts, but it can be difficult, so I don't like to ask them what they want as it ruins the thought and surprise. I may instead ask them for an idea, like something for the house or specific theme.

At Easter I don't buy for others and I tell people not to buy for my children. Some people celebrate Easter like Christmas now, but mine will remain at a few eggs, no need to go over the top just because it's being commercialised to do so. "

My sentiments exactly Kimi

G

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So the kids make a wish list.....

They get something from the wish list.

They ask they get. They ask they get.

They ask they get until it becomes a right.

What if you can't afford what's on the list ? Might as well shoot yourself now cos you'll be the one turning up with the balloon on the stick and everyone will call you tight and hate you so they can look good whilst paying off their credit card.

What happens to the JOY of thinking, selecting , buying and hoping. "

Wow, ok, Erm, so I think we can gather that I'm a bad person for having a wish list, dear his what have I dine to my kids, they're young to turn to a life if crime to feed there need for material things, I'm going to be that person on the news pleading for my kids to turn themselves in to police, because I made a wish list, oh my god, WHY! WHY! WHHHYYYYYYYYY!!

on the other hand it could be that I don't want things like soldier sets, guns, or things that I have tried to keep away from them,

It could be that its a guide, for those that genuinely don't know what to get for them.

That was a lot of anger in that post, and if all people I never expected that from you of all people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After the reaction of this thread I'm wondering if this us a good idea.

People are always saying they don't know what to get for my kids for birthdays and Christmas, and I also don't like them to have too many Easter eggs, so I was thinking about sharing a wish list for each if them, ill be buying the expensive stuff, and most of the stuff on the wish list would be under 15 quid, average about a tenner, this way they get the stuff they want and don't double up on anything, I could use a popular shopping site.

Your thoughts?"

Stuff the relations, I keep a wish list for L whenever she shows an interest in something it goes on the list, then I am not stuck for ideas come next gift giving time.

I always ask what the grandchildren want, I don't know, and I dont want to waste money on duplicates or stuff they don't want. So yes go for it, a range of prices means the buyer can work to their budget.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"After the reaction of this thread I'm wondering if this us a good idea.

People are always saying they don't know what to get for my kids for birthdays and Christmas, and I also don't like them to have too many Easter eggs, so I was thinking about sharing a wish list for each if them, ill be buying the expensive stuff, and most of the stuff on the wish list would be under 15 quid, average about a tenner, this way they get the stuff they want and don't double up on anything, I could use a popular shopping site.

Your thoughts?"

I think times change and some really busy people would welcome the chance to sort gifts out with three mouse clicks.

However having lived through times when our kids were little when £1 for a gift was stretching it being presented with a wish list averaging £10 would have meant our children not going to the party. Wish lists often end up being "do not deviate from" lists or "if you buy from the cheapest end everyone knows" lists.

The £50 story is from a spoof news site.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"So the kids make a wish list.....

They get something from the wish list.

They ask they get. They ask they get.

They ask they get until it becomes a right.

What if you can't afford what's on the list ? Might as well shoot yourself now cos you'll be the one turning up with the balloon on the stick and everyone will call you tight and hate you so they can look good whilst paying off their credit card.

What happens to the JOY of thinking, selecting , buying and hoping.

Wow, ok, Erm, so I think we can gather that I'm a bad person for having a wish list, dear his what have I dine to my kids, they're young to turn to a life if crime to feed there need for material things, I'm going to be that person on the news pleading for my kids to turn themselves in to police, because I made a wish list, oh my god, WHY! WHY! WHHHYYYYYYYYY!!

on the other hand it could be that I don't want things like soldier sets, guns, or things that I have tried to keep away from them,

It could be that its a guide, for those that genuinely don't know what to get for them.

That was a lot of anger in that post, and if all people I never expected that from you of all people "

There was no anger in my post. If you want to make out that you have emotidetectornet 's fine by me.

P.S. Always expect the unexpected.

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