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By *hooter McGavin OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter

I was talking to a work colleague last night and we were discussing what we did when we were younger and I found my self feeling that kids now don't have the same sort of fun, sure they have fancy phones and games consoles but I played British bull dogs, was aloud out for hours building dens, would build ramps and jump my bmx on them, played with air rifles and went fishing, had rope swings that we jumped in to the river from

Sure the world is smaller now and there are more visible dangers, there are lists and info on the known "bad people" but there were bad people pre the lists,

Does anyone else think things were more fun when they were younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes......

For all the wonderful opportunities the younger generation has now, I wouldn't swap it for the freedom my generation enjoyed ......

But I guess it's easy to say that,,, because it's not a real option...and in truth I would like to be young again.....

I don't care too much for the benefits of being old...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes very much so, people are so much more conscious of dangers around them and let those dangers control them. I was a country kid and used to play for hours in woods and fields. Given the inclination id let my children do the same

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By *hooter McGavin OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter

I would like to be younger for sure but still know what I know now, oh and stop my self making some of the silly and pain full mistakes I made lol

Bones seem to bend when young and you heal quicker lol

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

It's so much more difficult to hot wire a car nowadays

Joyriding in escorts and minis was easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was talking to a work colleague last night and we were discussing what we did when we were younger and I found my self feeling that kids now don't have the same sort of fun, sure they have fancy phones and games consoles but I played British bull dogs, was aloud out for hours building dens, would build ramps and jump my bmx on them, played with air rifles and went fishing, had rope swings that we jumped in to the river from

Sure the world is smaller now and there are more visible dangers, there are lists and info on the known "bad people" but there were bad people pre the lists,

Does anyone else think things were more fun when they were younger"

I built dens, crafted go-karts, and played videogames obsessively when I was a kid.

I think it was pretty fucking perfect to be honest.

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By *hooter McGavin OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter


"It's so much more difficult to hot wire a car nowadays

Joyriding in escorts and minis was easy"

It was mopeds and DT 50's for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do. We actually saw our friends not just by text . I remember playing in the street til we were called in for tea. Kids nowadays stay in their rooms . Mine did. I think it's sad kids dnt play the same anymore. I know there's dangers but there always was just didn't hear of it as much

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By *hooter McGavin OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter


"Yes I do. We actually saw our friends not just by text . I remember playing in the street til we were called in for tea. Kids nowadays stay in their rooms . Mine did. I think it's sad kids dnt play the same anymore. I know there's dangers but there always was just didn't hear of it as much "

We heard about it, the older kids used to say "the guy in that house, or he does this" stay away from them, we just didn't have it as public as now, the internet is full of lists, pictures and addresses, I do think it's a good thing as well as its so much more public, lots of info is a good thing but kids now are wrapped in too much cotton wool, you can't give them a smack if they do wrong as someone will report you or interfere, my mum used to smack the back of my legs when I was naughty, if parents did that now would have social services down on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't every generation think the next have a worse childhood ? My grandparents had more freedom then we did, yet we loved our childhood.

It depends as well on where you live, rurally - I think children still have a fair amount of freedom. Still build dens, British bulldog etc.

They seem to do more out of school activities as well , so it's not all bad.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't and no offence OP but I think that's sentimental to the extreme.

We knew know better then and had basically not much else to do.

I would bet good money that the kids of today would be almost suicidal if lived the same kind of childhood, us older people had to endure back in the day

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire


"Doesn't every generation think the next have a worse childhood ? My grandparents had more freedom then we did, yet we loved our childhood.

It depends as well on where you live, rurally - I think children still have a fair amount of freedom. Still build dens, British bulldog etc.

They seem to do more out of school activities as well , so it's not all bad.

Sarah "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I loved it back in the day. Lived in a town but built dens in old council garages, the best ones being around bonfire night! The stuff we collected, stored and played in everyday.

Collecting items from the tip to recycle and rebuild, go carts, bikes. Scrap yards were a fave of mine.

Endless hours out on my bike, not bought, no money for that. Usually something I'd put together. Swimming in the freezing out door pool.

Look back fondly.

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By *hooter McGavin OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter


"No I don't and no offence OP but I think that's sentimental to the extreme.

We knew know better then and had basically not much else to do.

I would bet good money that the kids of today would be almost suicidal if lived the same kind of childhood, us older people had to endure back in the day

"

You make some good points, maybe kids would go crazy now if they had to make their own entertainment, won't lie I had a games console, had a couple of computers as well, miss my 48 and 128 spectrum's and my Commodore 64 but I would rather be a kid then than one now, sure I would of loved the gadgets they have now but back then there was in my opinion not so much fear over everything, kids now are more vulnerable with all the access they have, a friend of mine caught her son playing on a game called mine craft and the person on line was chatting to him not how you should, she found out and reported the person but how easy was it for him to do that, the Internet is full of strange, terrible and wonderful things, if it was not here there would be no fab or a forum to talk on,

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I was talking to a work colleague last night and we were discussing what we did when we were younger and I found my self feeling that kids now don't have the same sort of fun, sure they have fancy phones and games consoles but I played British bull dogs, was aloud out for hours building dens, would build ramps and jump my bmx on them, played with air rifles and went fishing, had rope swings that we jumped in to the river from

Sure the world is smaller now and there are more visible dangers, there are lists and info on the known "bad people" but there were bad people pre the lists,

Does anyone else think things were more fun when they were younger"

Rickets

2 TV channels and 1 hr of kids telly a day ('cept Saturdays)

The Miners Strike/4 day week

The imminent threat of nuclear war... oh, wait a mo'...

The point is, I don;t believe it was better then or worse now - it's just different.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

When studying I found a Latin text where the authour bewailed the state of the 'youth of today' - "They're only interested in wine, women and fast horses."

Or further back, Egyptian texts grumbling about kids not respecting their elders and betters.

Plus ça change

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By *hooter McGavin OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter


"I was talking to a work colleague last night and we were discussing what we did when we were younger and I found my self feeling that kids now don't have the same sort of fun, sure they have fancy phones and games consoles but I played British bull dogs, was aloud out for hours building dens, would build ramps and jump my bmx on them, played with air rifles and went fishing, had rope swings that we jumped in to the river from

Sure the world is smaller now and there are more visible dangers, there are lists and info on the known "bad people" but there were bad people pre the lists,

Does anyone else think things were more fun when they were younger

Rickets

2 TV channels and 1 hr of kids telly a day ('cept Saturdays)

The Miners Strike/4 day week

The imminent threat of nuclear war... oh, wait a mo'...

The point is, I don;t believe it was better then or worse now - it's just different. "

How far do you want to go back, I'm not talking about during the blitz or when kids went up chimneys lol, it's meant to be a bit of fun,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Girls are the new boys! They tend not to obsess about shooting people online so much!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I was talking to a work colleague last night and we were discussing what we did when we were younger and I found my self feeling that kids now don't have the same sort of fun, sure they have fancy phones and games consoles but I played British bull dogs, was aloud out for hours building dens, would build ramps and jump my bmx on them, played with air rifles and went fishing, had rope swings that we jumped in to the river from

Sure the world is smaller now and there are more visible dangers, there are lists and info on the known "bad people" but there were bad people pre the lists,

Does anyone else think things were more fun when they were younger

Rickets

2 TV channels and 1 hr of kids telly a day ('cept Saturdays)

The Miners Strike/4 day week

The imminent threat of nuclear war... oh, wait a mo'...

The point is, I don;t believe it was better then or worse now - it's just different.

How far do you want to go back, I'm not talking about during the blitz or when kids went up chimneys lol, it's meant to be a bit of fun, "

Yeah, *don't* even mention the Black Death!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or the Spanish inquisition

Nobody expects that!!

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By *hooter McGavin OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter


"Or the Spanish inquisition

Nobody expects that!! "
??

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By *hooter McGavin OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter


"Or the Spanish inquisition

Nobody expects that!! ??"

Stupid iPhone, that was meant to be a smiley face lol

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

I'm almost 45 and I always say we were the last of the free generation. So sad I had an amazing childhood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My grandchildren have much more fun than I did. I may have been allowed out from the age of 7 but all I did was mess around on the street or go to the park with other friends. My mum allowed us to go to London with our much older,teenage friends or family members. My grandchildren go to dance classes,join sports teams,have plenty to do indoors during cold or bad weather. They get taken out to dinner,bowling,cinema,Southend,Zoos etc many more times than I did. They may not go out alone very often but they have much more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Growing up in the 70s was generally crap, even the music was mostly crap.

Then I discovered that my penis wasn't just for unrinating and my whole world suddenly got very interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our past times were finding ice lolly sticks and making boomerangs out of them. Woo hoo! Putting a tennis ball in a long sock,standing against a wall and swinging it around our bodies,hitting it against the wall. Blinding fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my age group were the last to have a fighting chance at any sort of easy life, from the games we played, to the toys and music we had.

Rope swings

Lake swimming

Fishing

Frog spawn collecting

Bike rides

35 a side football

Long hot summers

Recording the charts on a Sunday

Making mix tapes for girls

Climbing trees

Saving up for things

Building model aircraft

Finding porn in bushes/under parents bed

Building dens

Songs that had meaning

The POP man

Running from older boys after being cheeky to them

End of term egg and flouring

I Think we were the last to have hope of buying a house, having a job for life, s father giving his son a own knife was a right if passage, not the act of an irresponsible father, and we were the last to have to wear a jacket and tie, to get into a night club, and we had the fucking stone roses baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my age group were the last to have a fighting chance at any sort of easy life, from the games we played, to the toys and music we had.

Rope swings

Lake swimming

Fishing

Frog spawn collecting

Bike rides

35 a side football

Long hot summers

Recording the charts on a Sunday

Making mix tapes for girls

Climbing trees

Saving up for things

Building model aircraft

Finding porn in bushes/under parents bed

Building dens

Songs that had meaning

The POP man

Running from older boys after being cheeky to them

End of term egg and flouring

I Think we were the last to have hope of buying a house, having a job for life, s father giving his son a own knife was a right if passage, not the act of an irresponsible father, and we were the last to have to wear a jacket and tie, to get into a night club, and we had the fucking stone roses baby

"

Happy memories of most of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a wonderful article about this in the Atlantic magazine titled "The Overprotected Kid" It's from an American perspective but I think it captures the general point well.

Give it a read if you have a few minutes to spare.

-Courtney

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We were always out and didn't really watch TV. Though we were rural, so had loads of land for our use. I'm sure there are still kids today that are like how we used to be though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes despite living on a square theres no kids for my kids to play out with.

My 9 year old got a laptop off the in laws for christmas deapite me saying she is too young and its not allowed

I loved playing den all out and building go karts as a kid

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By *atnat85Woman
over a year ago

northwest

I think kids are more bubblewrapped, and have more technology for sure (although I'm very grateful for the cbeebies app at times)

I drag my 5 year old out in all weather's to the park/forest/woodland and he loves it. Comes back rosy checked, covered in mud and scrapes but had great fun, whereas my friend keeps hers wrapped in cotton wall and rarely takes him out(its too hot/cold/wet etc) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, certainly they're more protected today. I work with over 900 of them. Heh. My own (nearly 4 and past 6)..well..when me and their mum were together they never had TV. Nor did we. Toys were there to fill in that gap with imagination.

Now? They can have SOME TV with me..educational things. Octonauts, dinosaur adventures..things that actually teach them facts..no issue with that. They also have technology, with limiters on time and "time of day", so they get enforced "bugger off and be children" time.

I live out in the sticks..minimal traffic, few houses, lots of fields..they have a HUGE garden, we have bikes, they have a microscope (I'm a science bod)..I'd rather they were out being kids, in the real world..heh.

How many kids play pooh-sticks now? Mine love it! Getting messy, hill walks in the rain, blackberry picking (with not one making it home!)...I don't want them to "lose the skills" as it were.

I've taught them to light the wood burner, taught them to cook, to drive (shh, fields are ace), they're learning to fix their bikes, and the cars with me..none of this "instant on/ always there/ chuck it away/ call someone in" malarkey.

Last weekend, I took them to a public call box and showed them how to use the phone book, and the box to call me if needed - again, a dying art! They loved that.

Trying to explain that when I was their age, it was the only phone in the village, and most houses didn't have one, or central heating...they were CONVINCED I was lying!

I try to balance "modern" with old..they certainly prefer imaginative play, even if it is noisy!

Tomorrow night I have them again, and we're doing a night walk in a local park with torches and my hurricane lamp..that promises to be fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..and if you replace "give my son a knife" with "give my kids and entire toolbox", we do that. Stone Roses..no. AC/DC, oh yes. This house is also left to them..I'm already getting "When you die.."..

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I agree with a poster above, it depends where you live. Before moving here, only 4 years ago, I lived in a village and the kids all went out to play and build dens etc.

The main parental concern was the main road.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Oh, certainly they're more protected today. I work with over 900 of them. Heh. My own (nearly 4 and past 6)..well..when me and their mum were together they never had TV. Nor did we. Toys were there to fill in that gap with imagination.

Now? They can have SOME TV with me..educational things. Octonauts, dinosaur adventures..things that actually teach them facts..no issue with that. They also have technology, with limiters on time and "time of day", so they get enforced "bugger off and be children" time.

I live out in the sticks..minimal traffic, few houses, lots of fields..they have a HUGE garden, we have bikes, they have a microscope (I'm a science bod)..I'd rather they were out being kids, in the real world..heh.

How many kids play pooh-sticks now? Mine love it! Getting messy, hill walks in the rain, blackberry picking (with not one making it home!)...I don't want them to "lose the skills" as it were.

I've taught them to light the wood burner, taught them to cook, to drive (shh, fields are ace), they're learning to fix their bikes, and the cars with me..none of this "instant on/ always there/ chuck it away/ call someone in" malarkey.

Last weekend, I took them to a public call box and showed them how to use the phone book, and the box to call me if needed - again, a dying art! They loved that.

Trying to explain that when I was their age, it was the only phone in the village, and most houses didn't have one, or central heating...they were CONVINCED I was lying!

I try to balance "modern" with old..they certainly prefer imaginative play, even if it is noisy!

Tomorrow night I have them again, and we're doing a night walk in a local park with torches and my hurricane lamp..that promises to be fun.. "

Wow, can we have kids?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things like domestic violence were more common. Women had less rights, couldn't even go in a pub on their own.

Opportunities in work were less available.

Social mobility wasn't a thing.

Healthcare was worse.

Police brutality was much worse, due to less accountability.

I wouldn't go back in time, rose tinted glasses seem to be in use here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I'm really glad of is that social media wasn't around (or at least wasn't widespread) when I was a teenager. I would have really struggled with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh, certainly they're more protected today. I work with over 900 of them. Heh. My own (nearly 4 and past 6)..well..when me and their mum were together they never had TV. Nor did we. Toys were there to fill in that gap with imagination.

Now? They can have SOME TV with me..educational things. Octonauts, dinosaur adventures..things that actually teach them facts..no issue with that. They also have technology, with limiters on time and "time of day", so they get enforced "bugger off and be children" time.

I live out in the sticks..minimal traffic, few houses, lots of fields..they have a HUGE garden, we have bikes, they have a microscope (I'm a science bod)..I'd rather they were out being kids, in the real world..heh.

How many kids play pooh-sticks now? Mine love it! Getting messy, hill walks in the rain, blackberry picking (with not one making it home!)...I don't want them to "lose the skills" as it were.

I've taught them to light the wood burner, taught them to cook, to drive (shh, fields are ace), they're learning to fix their bikes, and the cars with me..none of this "instant on/ always there/ chuck it away/ call someone in" malarkey.

Last weekend, I took them to a public call box and showed them how to use the phone book, and the box to call me if needed - again, a dying art! They loved that.

Trying to explain that when I was their age, it was the only phone in the village, and most houses didn't have one, or central heating...they were CONVINCED I was lying!

I try to balance "modern" with old..they certainly prefer imaginative play, even if it is noisy!

Tomorrow night I have them again, and we're doing a night walk in a local park with torches and my hurricane lamp..that promises to be fun..

Wow, can we have kids? "

haha! My ex always told me I was an old fart. At 37, I embrace it. Becoming a single father has just let the brakes off..no more being tutted at, or told "why bother/waste of time". You only get one life, and it's too short to shut away with technology, I say.

I've told them both - you CAN rush about like a blue-arsed fly and sit on a PC, and talk on e-mail..OR, you can kick back, enjoy life slowly, see everything, learn and enjoy it, and just because you grow up, doesn't mean you have to get serious. I never did..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of these posters slagging technology advancements off on an Internet forum

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Wow, can we have kids?

haha! My ex always told me I was an old fart. At 37, I embrace it. Becoming a single father has just let the brakes off..no more being tutted at, or told "why bother/waste of time". You only get one life, and it's too short to shut away with technology, I say.

I've told them both - you CAN rush about like a blue-arsed fly and sit on a PC, and talk on e-mail..OR, you can kick back, enjoy life slowly, see everything, learn and enjoy it, and just because you grow up, doesn't mean you have to get serious. I never did.. "

No joke, you sound like an ace Dad

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I think parental attitudes have changed. Back in the day if we made a mess we had to tidy it up and so on.

I've seen 'modern' mums run around like servants after children. And these, from my experience, tend to be the ones who won't let them play out etc. either because they also can be over protective.

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By *hooter McGavin OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter


"Wow, can we have kids?

haha! My ex always told me I was an old fart. At 37, I embrace it. Becoming a single father has just let the brakes off..no more being tutted at, or told "why bother/waste of time". You only get one life, and it's too short to shut away with technology, I say.

I've told them both - you CAN rush about like a blue-arsed fly and sit on a PC, and talk on e-mail..OR, you can kick back, enjoy life slowly, see everything, learn and enjoy it, and just because you grow up, doesn't mean you have to get serious. I never did..

No joke, you sound like an ace Dad "

I fully agree with kinky, you sound like a good dad, sounds like your kids are having a fun time growing up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think parental attitudes have changed. Back in the day if we made a mess we had to tidy it up and so on."

This morning, I got "It's OK dad..I don't mind if you sweep my mess up" off my youngest. I laughed and said "Just for that, you little bugger..here's the mini dyson. Crack on, son."..he did, bless him.

They've also learned about doors and shutting them.."WERE YOU BORN IN A BARN?" is rarely heard these days. As I say, old. Heh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think each generation looks back and thinks the same thing.

If you go back far enough you would probably find a generation saying the square wheel was better to play with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think life is hard for teenagers now, at least when you git bullied in my day, it stoped when you got home, now its constant, young men that I encounter around here, look to be in edge, all the time, suspicious of other lads their own age, its a shame, I wouldn't be a teenager now, even if I had the wealth of knowledge if a 43 year ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think each generation looks back and thinks the same thing.

If you go back far enough you would probably find a generation saying the square wheel was better to play with. "

You had an Austin Allegro with a quartic steering wheel?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My 15 year old grandson has been attacked 3 times in the last year. The last time he ended up with a deep graze down his face from a home made knife and previously he was hit across the back of his knees with a baseball bat by someone trying to steal his phone. His younger sister has been approached twice by suspicious men; one was calling her over to his car and a neighbour intervened another was as she left me at the school gates to walk around to the junior gates. This is the reason my grandchildren aren't allowed out. Two friends' teenagers have been stabbed and killed by other teenagers too. Life seems more dangerous for children outside now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you'll always feel nostalgic over childhood years, thinking it was always a lot more fun back then, but was it really or was it because it's all we knew?

My kids still do all the things that i used to (albeit on a lesser scale), they spend their summers mainly outside, making dens, riding bikes etc, maybe it's because of where I live they can. They also have the Internet & all the wonderful things that can bring in a controlled environment too.

I'm pretty sure I would have liked what they have now, back then

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