FabSwingers.com forum: Open Minded?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have been resign through some threads with great interste this morning, and some good stuff being written by many people, and a lot of views being expressed.

It did dawn on me however, as being somewhat ironic, that there are people in the fab community, who claim to be so open minded, yet when it comes to the opinions of others , are too narrow minded to try and understand or accept that people have differing views. Just saying.

Am now back off to my corner to suck my thumb for another 6 months

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have been resign through some threads with great interste this morning, and some good stuff being written by many people, and a lot of views being expressed.

Am now back off to my corner to suck my thumb for another 6 months

As much as I would like to resign, it should say "reading" on 1st line

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Lots of very closed minded folk about. Someone said the other day being open minded sexually isn't the same as being open minded politically, mind you loads on here aren't even open minded sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have been resign through some threads with great interste this morning, and some good stuff being written by many people, and a lot of views being expressed.

Am now back off to my corner to suck my thumb for another 6 months

No, your opinion is wrong, only my opinion is right, change it now to conform to mine, I'm very open minded, its just most revoke are wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of very closed minded folk about. Someone said the other day being open minded sexually isn't the same as being open minded politically, mind you loads on here aren't even open minded sexually.

Was just about to post something very similar to this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slightly tangential......

But I can't help feeling somewhat bemused when I see one line profiles seeking like-minded people..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People think differently than the general population about sex and therefore think they are open minded sexually. But that isn't the case. We just all have different prejudices. And that is pretty normal, to be honest.

-Courtney

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

The irony is that many swingers who claim to be open minded sexually are actually quite vanilla in their tastes. When you look at their views outside the swinging world it is astonishing how narrow minded, judgmental and intolerant some of them are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only reason I use these forums is because I respect other people's views, if I agree with them or not.

There's nothing wrong with a healthy heated debate on a particular subject but sadly some just resort to insults, if they feel they're losing an exchange.

It's not about winning an argument it's about expressing your views rationally and remember you're not always right.

I also suspect some people use these forums for ulterior motives but that's their business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the birth of social media also gave birth to a group of people who I refer to as the "professionaly offended". If you were having a conversation with them in a pub their responses would be measured and considered. Social media seems to have removed those boundaries.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

When I first came on Fab I thought it would be a very open-minded place, on the subject of sex if nothing else. Not sure why I thought this really. Turns out it's no more open-minded than any other place in society.

Ignorance and predjudice is alive and well on Fab too, like anywhere else sadly. And there's more know-it-all's and purveyor's of the universal truth than you can poke a stick at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be a pretty rubbish forum if everyone was open minded and accepting.

How many "well its not for me, but I support your view" replies can you read.

I am open minded, I have limits, and prejudices, but if a topic is abhorrent to my tastes but has no victims, I tend not to answer at all.

Sometimes my sense of humour is a bit twisted, and I read my replies and gulp... that is usually followed up by a PM apologising and explaining it's not personal, just meant to be funny.

Lively and sometimes heated debate is more interesting than open mindedness, it should stop short of argument though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we all agreed all the time though, the forums would be much duller.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am not open minded nor am I ever wrong

don't ever change says my ol mum they'll love you for it

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

You can disagree without being narrow minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would be a pretty rubbish forum if everyone was open minded and accepting.

How many "well its not for me, but I support your view" replies can you read.

I am open minded, I have limits, and prejudices, but if a topic is abhorrent to my tastes but has no victims, I tend not to answer at all.

Sometimes my sense of humour is a bit twisted, and I read my replies and gulp... that is usually followed up by a PM apologising and explaining it's not personal, just meant to be funny.

Lively and sometimes heated debate is more interesting than open mindedness, it should stop short of argument though.

I've thought about this reply....

My first foray into the forums was to ask about a what happens at a greedy girls night at a club. I was kinda new to the scene and I was curious and trying to decide if I should go to one.

I only got about 15 replies and a large majority of the replies were "some people like them, some people don't," or "they are good for some and not for others."

I remember reading the answers and being really disappointed because nothing of substance was said. I already knew some people liked them and others didn't. I was close to never asking about something of substance on here again.

Sometimes insight of all forms can be more interesting and more helpful than an open minded answer like "it works for some people."

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing some people's interpretation of being open minded is,simply,wanting sex when it suits them?

Being sexually liberated for your own personal desire is no way connected to being open minded to the wider world's issues.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I agree with the basically very obvious irony which is evident.

A (preconceived)potential , sexual utopia, from my perspective, is predicated on some kind of liberal, open minded meeting of minds also.

Of course,that is in itself prescriptive, seeing as it would be narrow minded of me to not ideally have someone involved in this vision who doesn't adhere to my preconceptions of what 'open minded' is.

So a double irony..

Bit of a cul-de-sac unfortunately.

Having sex with people who are similar in sensibilty to yourself is the ideal, but it's not gonna happen(often)is it?

Argh!

Shame.

Maybe the term should be changed to 'sexually open minded' in order to be more accurate?

ANd then, if needed, have another tick box/term which is 'liberal'. That way it would encompass politics as well as general life view?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with the basically very obvious irony which is evident.

A (preconceived)potential , sexual utopia, from my perspective, is predicated on some kind of liberal, open minded meeting of minds also.

So a double irony..

Bit of a cul-de-sac unfortunately.

Having sex with people who are similar in sensibilty to yourself is the ideal, but it's not gonna happen(often)is it?

Argh!

Shame.

Maybe the term should be changed to 'sexually open minded' in order to be more accurate?

ANd then, if needed, have another tick box/term which is 'liberal'. That way it would encompass politics as well as general life view?

f##k me if you find all that in one package let me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People tend to be "open-minded" when it comes to their own activities, not so much when it comes to others.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I know, I know!

It wasn't meant to be realistic!

I was just playing with the idea is all.

Fully aware that it's pie in the sky!

"I agree with the basically very obvious irony which is evident.

A (preconceived)potential , sexual utopia, from my perspective, is predicated on some kind of liberal, open minded meeting of minds also.

So a double irony..

Bit of a cul-de-sac unfortunately.

Having sex with people who are similar in sensibilty to yourself is the ideal, but it's not gonna happen(often)is it?

Argh!

Shame.

Maybe the term should be changed to 'sexually open minded' in order to be more accurate?

ANd then, if needed, have another tick box/term which is 'liberal'. That way it would encompass politics as well as general life view?

f##k me if you find all that in one package let me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People tend to be "open-minded" when it comes to their own activities, not so much when it comes to others.

As long as there are no victims I am pretty easy going on sex,

Some things are attractive, some not, of the not's they fall in a range of areas from curious to understand what's in it for those that enjoy it, to cover my eyes and eave quickly as I just don't want to know.

Politics I am fairly socialist but not willing to carry passengers, so a right wing socialist perhaps?

My biggest flaw as I view it, is I expect all to stand up for their rights and have too little tolerance for those who don't for whatever reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are constantly surprised at how many swingers aren't swingers at all , and before anyone says "define a swinger" , what I mean is that there are so many people on here looking for exclusivity .

Swinging for us is an opportunity to engage in no strings sexual encounters with like minded people . This is certainly not the case for so many on fab , and yes of course it's each to their own and all that , but the basic principle of swinging is lost on some .

We rarely get involved in threads which aren't related to swinging . So lack of free thinking outside the lifestyle doesn't affect us .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People tend to be "open-minded" when it comes to their own activities, not so much when it comes to others.

As long as there are no victims I am pretty easy going on sex,

Politics I am fairly socialist but not willing to carry passengers, so a right wing socialist perhaps?

My biggest flaw as I view it, is I expect all to stand up for their rights and have too little tolerance for those who don't for whatever reason.

Playing the victim (and bleating "don't judge me") comes far easier to many

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

If we're talking political type opinions, you can be open minded and still think other people are wrong, and say so.

Nobody's opinion is inherently worthy of respect.

If we're talking about things that people enjoy doing in their sex life, then so long as everything is legal and consensual then I don't know why anyone would even have an opinion about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a sentient being I lack the ability to open my mind to the blinkered opinions of those who would try and tell me what to think....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a sentient being I lack the ability to open my mind to the blinkered opinions of those who would try and tell me what to think....

Heck Soxy can you tone down the deep thinking I'm trying to be shallow and lazy today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think some don't realise its an opinion and we all have different views ,so people also judge you on your opinion and will block you even if things are said tongue in cheek ,your word here can be your demise but having said that forums are a small cross section of the people here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally think some don't realise its an opinion and we all have different views ,so people also judge you on your opinion and will block you even if things are said tongue in cheek ,your word here can be your demise but having said that forums are a small cross section of the people here

Very true , it's a completely different story when meeting fab members and chatting with people who never use the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a sentient being I lack the ability to open my mind to the blinkered opinions of those who would try and tell me what to think....

Heck Soxy can you tone down the deep thinking I'm trying to be shallow and lazy today

My most profound and humble apologies.....

I shall immediately disrobe my audacious pomposity and slip into a turquoise and purple shell-suit more befitting of type of social construct required to partake in a Jeremy Kyle show......

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"If we're talking political type opinions, you can be open minded and still think other people are wrong, and say so.

Nobody's opinion is inherently worthy of respect.

If we're talking about things that people enjoy doing in their sex life, then so long as everything is legal and consensual then I don't know why anyone would even have an opinion about it.

And people certainly don't sign any 'open-minded' agreement just to come on a website looking for casual sex, let's face it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being sexually open minded and politically or socially open minded can be very different things.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

There are plenty of people on here that have blocked me because of their own narrow mindedness

Bovvered? Moi? Nah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bigotry is rife in most forum threads where the opinions of the populace are sought, but you can't change it as everybody's opinion is different ....

And that is a good thing because who wants to think the same as everyone else?

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"As a sentient being I lack the ability to open my mind to the blinkered opinions of those who would try and tell me what to think....

Nearly got to the bottom of the post and you nicked my word

I was going to say that we've met and conversed with some really open minded people on here (and in 'the real world') but unfortunately their blinkered vision means they're only as open minded as their tunnel vision will allow them to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many people in black and white box worlds x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not particularly open minded and I don't claim to be. I mostly keep those thoughts and judgements to myself though.

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