FabSwingers.com forum: I love my gf but I need lots more

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I really love my gf. But having sex just with her doesn't seem to be enough.I just think about meeting others for sex too much. What do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell or ask her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she feels the same about having sex with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think tell her and i think single males posting these threads rarely go well. Good luck op hopefully you will find some fun together xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maibe she is on here as well lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's the thing, she doesn't. She would feel betrayed if she would find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her your profile on fab and see what she says about swinging

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

What do I think about you wanting sex with others? Well, that's why most of us are here. Does your girlfriend know though? That's the real question.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I really love my gf. But having sex just with her doesn't seem to be enough.I just think about meeting others for sex too much. What do you think?"

I think I want a beer

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"That's the thing, she doesn't. She would feel betrayed if she would find out."

Ah, so what I think about this is, you're a bit of a bounder and a cad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's the thing, she doesn't. She would feel betrayed if she would find out."

Then talk to her suggest a threesome thats not that out there these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her you are here and see what she thinks.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's the thing, she doesn't. She would feel betrayed if she would find out."

Really?? I can't think why!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maibe she is on here as well lol."

From what his profile says, his gf is no doubt aware as they had a couple account

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When we talk about someone we had a 3some once (she's a mutual friend) it doesn't bother her cuz she knows it won't be more than sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion you should talk to your girlfriend, OP.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we talk about someone we had a 3some once (she's a mutual friend) it doesn't bother her cuz she knows it won't be more than sex"

Then she knows so whats the issue?

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

"I really love my gf. But having sex just with her doesn't seem to be enough.I just think about meeting others for sex too much. What do you think?

I think I want a beer

I think I want to kiss that body all over xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We had this profile together in the beginning but she grow out of it and she wants me all for herself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks. Anytime

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She doesn't want me with strangers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maibe she is on here as well lol.

From what his profile says, his gf is no doubt aware as they had a couple account "
That is right, just checked as well, lets hope she don't find the internet history as it sais when last online lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She doesn't want me with strangers"

Then you are probably not suited.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

See. This is where it's tricky. If I tell her I lose her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For?

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Belfast

"I really love my gf. But having sex just with her doesn't seem to be enough.I just think about meeting others for sex too much. What do you think?"

You're not mature enough for commitment.

Best you part ways rather than maintaining a pretence and cheating on the side. Love is meaningless if it isn't on equal terms. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had this profile together in the beginning but she grow out of it and she wants me all for herself"

Isn't that your answer then ?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I really love my gf. But having sex just with her doesn't seem to be enough.I just think about meeting others for sex too much. What do you think?"

Ah yrs, that old chestnut. Go flagellate yourself on the forums, deffo the best plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had this profile together in the beginning but she grow out of it and she wants me all for herself"

Lucky her. Do you bring her cookies? You are going to lose her. Enjoy while you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had this profile together in the beginning but she grow out of it and she wants me all for herself"

does she know you still have the profile on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maibe she is on here as well lol.

From what his profile says, his gf is no doubt aware as they had a couple account "

She thinks I quit when we started to be serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really love my gf. But having sex just with her doesn't seem to be enough.I just think about meeting others for sex too much. What do you think?

Ah yrs, that old chestnut. Go flagellate yourself on the forums, deffo the best plan "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I really love my gf. But having sex just with her doesn't seem to be enough.I just think about meeting others for sex too much. What do you think?

You're not mature enough for commitment.

Best you part ways rather than maintaining a pretence and cheating on the side. Love is meaningless if it isn't on equal terms. Good luck."

That's a piece of good advice. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maibe she is on here as well lol.

From what his profile says, his gf is no doubt aware as they had a couple account

She thinks I quit when we started to be serious "

you are just full of surprises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maibe she is on here as well lol.

From what his profile says, his gf is no doubt aware as they had a couple account

She thinks I quit when we started to be serious "

Well if thats what tou want you have a choice to make that only you can make

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We had this profile together in the beginning but she grow out of it and she wants me all for herself

Isn't that your answer then ? "

Yeah. Maybe I'm too much of an ass and greedy also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maibe she is on here as well lol.

From what his profile says, his gf is no doubt aware as they had a couple account

She thinks I quit when we started to be serious "

I think you should stop wasting her time (and yours) and go your separate ways so you can live your life how you wish without lying or possibly hurting others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maibe she is on here as well lol.

From what his profile says, his gf is no doubt aware as they had a couple account

She thinks I quit when we started to be serious "
Yes, that is one way to do it lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you truly love her and want to be committed then tell her or leave this

If you don't love her and don't want to be committed then leave her.

If you were both on this before, she won't be a fool she will click and know you are out fucking others, doesnt take a genius to put 2 and 2 together.

Be honest to yourself, be honest to your girlfriend

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We had this profile together in the beginning but she grow out of it and she wants me all for herself

does she know you still have the profile on here? "

Nope. Although I haven't met anyone since we're together

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you truly love her and want to be committed then tell her or leave this

If you don't love her and don't want to be committed then leave her.

If you were both on this before, she won't be a fool she will click and know you are out fucking others, doesnt take a genius to put 2 and 2 together.

Be honest to yourself, be honest to your girlfriend "

Thank you ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are LOTS of people here playing away from home for many reasons.

I don't agree at all but I try not to judge.

Just take a bit of time to fully think about what you're doing first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No offence OP but your 26 and not happy with your current situation.

In that case break it off and then you can do anything you want with no guilt and no hurt.

I have never understood this to be honest!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are LOTS of people here playing away from home for many reasons.

I don't agree at all but I try not to judge.

Just take a bit of time to fully think about what you're doing first.

I am. That's why I asked on here, to try to put a name on some of my thoughts

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am indifferent to your situation...

Do your thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

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I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

"I really love my gf. But having sex just with her doesn't seem to be enough.I just think about meeting others for sex too much. What do you think?"

Word that as diplomatically as you can and let her know. See what happens from there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I really love my gf. But having sex just with her doesn't seem to be enough.I just think about meeting others for sex too much. What do you think?

Word that as diplomatically as you can and let her know. See what happens from there.

That's not a bad idea, I will think on a good monologue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go"

hypocritical?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go"

May be time to move on then, you're not compatible.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

hypocritical?

I am . And can't do anything about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you have been on here as a couple,the conversation should be easy to start. So not much excuse for not having it really.

But if you are not straight with her from the start it will end badly for both of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP but the more you say, the more you show how unsuitable you are for a relationship. Greedy and selfish. You want your cake and eat it. That shows someone's maturity and character.

Good luck (message to your gf)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not trying to be funny, OP, but are you here because you want to hear bad things about yourself?

So far you have called yourself "selfish" "an ass" and "greedy."

You've said that your gf would feel "betrayed" if she knew and that she "doesn't want to share" you.

I don't think you need to ask us. This is a decision that it seems you have already thought about.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own...I prefer honesty any day of the week,99.9% of the time,little secrets always come back to kick you up the ass,big style. Be honest,it's not just your life,it's someone else's life too....just my thoughts.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

hypocritical?

I am . And can't do anything about it"

It's actually not unusual for people to feel as you do, lots of people on this site do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

hypocritical?

I am . And can't do anything about it"

Theres always a choice op you may not like it so maybe its not the right choice x She may rather do this than split up if shes done it before. At least she should hqve a unique understanding x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

hypocritical?

I am . And can't do anything about it

It's actually not unusual for people to feel as you do, lots of people on this site do."

That's why I asked on here and not on Facebook, maybe there was someone that would know the feeling

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

hypocritical?

I am . And can't do anything about it

Theres always a choice op you may not like it so maybe its not the right choice x She may rather do this than split up if shes done it before. At least she should hqve a unique understanding x"

I may sound hypocritical about this, but I don't want her to do it for me(she likes girls too) I want her to do it because she would like and enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her your back on fab looking for sex with strangers and hopefully she will sorr your problem out for you.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

hypocritical?

I am . And can't do anything about it

It's actually not unusual for people to feel as you do, lots of people on this site do.

That's why I asked on here and not on Facebook, maybe there was someone that would know the feeling"

They're most unlikely to discuss it, it becomes obvious over time in their attitude to other people's relationships.

What you need to decide is can you live out the next however many years either hiding one part of your life from your partner or feeling unfulfilled sexually. If neither of those things is an option then you need to talk to your girlfriend and find a compromise or walk away. It's a tough choice but you owe it to yourself and her to make it.

I hope whatever you choose results in the least hurt for the fewest people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tell her your back on fab looking for sex with strangers and hopefully she will sorr your problem out for you.....

great advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

hypocritical?

I am . And can't do anything about it

Theres always a choice op you may not like it so maybe its not the right choice x She may rather do this than split up if shes done it before. At least she should hqve a unique understanding x

I may sound hypocritical about this, but I don't want her to do it for me(she likes girls too) I want her to do it because she would like and enjoy it"

I get that and your right but she cant make a choice unless you talk xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

hypocritical?

I am . And can't do anything about it

It's actually not unusual for people to feel as you do, lots of people on this site do.

That's why I asked on here and not on Facebook, maybe there was someone that would know the feeling

They're most unlikely to discuss it, it becomes obvious over time in their attitude to other people's relationships.

I hope whatever you choose results in the least hurt for the fewest people."

Thank you, that is the right question for me to ask myself. You are amazing at outing my thoughts into words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8months and no meets....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Have a wank, get it out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

hypocritical?

I am . And can't do anything about it

Theres always a choice op you may not like it so maybe its not the right choice x She may rather do this than split up if shes done it before. At least she should hqve a unique understanding x

I may sound hypocritical about this, but I don't want her to do it for me(she likes girls too) I want her to do it because she would like and enjoy it

I get that and your right but she cant make a choice unless you talk xx"

I just needed to get my thoughts clear, that's why I made the thread, thank you for the advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"8months and no meets...."

That's how long we've been together, we made the profile together, but we fell in love and never used it. You happy now ?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"See. This is where it's tricky. If I tell her I lose her"

If you don't satisfy each other why be together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"8months and no meets....

That's how long we've been together, we made the profile together, but we fell in love and never used it. You happy now ?

Yes...i love a good love story

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

hypocritical?

I am . And can't do anything about it

It's actually not unusual for people to feel as you do, lots of people on this site do.

That's why I asked on here and not on Facebook, maybe there was someone that would know the feeling

They're most unlikely to discuss it, it becomes obvious over time in their attitude to other people's relationships.

I hope whatever you choose results in the least hurt for the fewest people.

Thank you, that is the right question for me to ask myself. You are amazing at outing my thoughts into words"

You're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"See. This is where it's tricky. If I tell her I lose her

If you don't satisfy each other why be together?"

The sex is not the problem , it's the variety

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"See. This is where it's tricky. If I tell her I lose her

If you don't satisfy each other why be together?

The sex is not the problem , it's the variety"

The variety in people or the variety between the two of you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"See. This is where it's tricky. If I tell her I lose her

If you don't satisfy each other why be together?

The sex is not the problem , it's the variety

The variety in people or the variety between the two of you?"

People.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I really love my gf. But having sex just with her doesn't seem to be enough.I just think about meeting others for sex too much. What do you think?"

Obviously you value variety in sex more than you do aspects of your relationship such as , trust, truth, loyalty, committment. Therefore you should fuck her off and follow your cock.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"See. This is where it's tricky. If I tell her I lose her

If you don't satisfy each other why be together?

The sex is not the problem , it's the variety

The variety in people or the variety between the two of you?

People. "

Then you obviously don't want to be exclusive, so let her go her own way and you go yours! Quite simple really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give your gf a love bite....the problem will blow away then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really love my gf. But having sex just with her doesn't seem to be enough.I just think about meeting others for sex too much. What do you think?

I think I want a beer

Pour me one while you're there....and pass the popcorn?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who's on here without my partners consent I know that situations can be tricky and people can give you advice all day OP but this is something you need to figure out for yourself. Leaving isn't always easy, I get that but I also know how much the guilt can eat away at you.

You might think people are being harsh with their comments but I think it's difficult for people to understand. Especially on a swingers site where most people obviously have no reason to sneak around behind each others back.

Good luck OP whatever you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had this profile together in the beginning but she grow out of it and she wants me all for herself

Isn't that your answer then ?

Yeah. Maybe I'm too much of an ass and greedy also"

There's no maybe about it.

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By *ing and RideCouple
over a year ago

stockport

If your going to fuck around you will do it whatever anyone says. If your a shagger you will always shag, but some how I think you think fab makes it ok. Either do it and keep quiet about it or don't do it. It's your call.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

I love my star wars figures, but i need more.....much to angel's dismay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New public cock shots. Glad the OP is a good listener, but then didn't we all know that already?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She deserves better all u seem to care about is u. U need more. U will loose her if she found out. What about her. Frankly i think she better if she did find out sooner rather than later then she can find someone who cares about her. Ive not seen one thing that makes me think u worry about her as a person just how it will be for u if u was discovered ,if im wrong n u do care for her why are u on here when she thinks u came off when u got "serious". U have to think about her if u cant let her go so she can find someone who will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest with her

She might be of the same mindset

If she isn't then you're not compatible anyway

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres plenty off married and attatched on here and i do not judge them . i have no right to as i meet them ,as they either do not tell me n i think they single or they tell me n its never mentioned again

but not those who come on here doing the look at me i need more routine. I wont meet them.

We all have our reasons for be here n some selfish n tho im single i included myself in that. I want lots of sex but not the emotional crap of a relationship

Leave or stay but either be like many others on here who are firm in thier stance or leave her. I not judge anyone who needs more coz i could have been one when i was not single sooo easily could have n very nearly did

its the me me me that i picking up on that i n others may object to

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

"That's the thing, she doesn't. She would feel betrayed if she would find out."

Quite rightly to as you are cheating on her

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

"Maibe she is on here as well lol.

From what his profile says, his gf is no doubt aware as they had a couple account "

I would assume that this is s line to convince others to meet, if she was aware he wouldnt need to have written his opening post, or make comment she would feel betrayed

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

"If your GF was asking this question how would you advise her?

I am that selfish that I would tell her to take her clothes and go

hypocritical?

I am . And can't do anything about it"

Screams wants cake and eats it, and not bothered about hurting her in the process

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Maybe she feels the same about having sex with you?"

You need to sit and communicate before things get out of hand,chances are she's feeling exactly the same.

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