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"My children! ?" This | |||
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"My children and my three granddaughters." you're a granny I wonder how many grannies are on here x | |||
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"Me. If you need something other than your self to feel it's worth living, that's incredibly sad. " Wow! Pretty harsh on those who said their children, who you have now labelled as "incredibly sad". | |||
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"Me. If you need something other than your self to feel it's worth living, that's incredibly sad. Wow! Pretty harsh on those who said their children, who you have now labelled as "incredibly sad". " Not harsh. But if those children had never existed, would those people really feel their life wasn't worth living? If so - yes that's incredibly sad. | |||
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"Me. If you need something other than your self to feel it's worth living, that's incredibly sad. Wow! Pretty harsh on those who said their children, who you have now labelled as "incredibly sad". Not harsh. But if those children had never existed, would those people really feel their life wasn't worth living? If so - yes that's incredibly sad." I don't mean sad as in pathetic, I mean sad is in - that makes me upset for you. | |||
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"Me. If you need something other than your self to feel it's worth living, that's incredibly sad. " If you think it's all about you,that's even more incredibly sadder. | |||
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"My children and my three granddaughters.you're a granny I wonder how many grannies are on here x " My children & 10 grandchildren (number 11 due in July) x | |||
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"Me. If you need something other than your self to feel it's worth living, that's incredibly sad. If you think it's all about you,that's even more incredibly sadder. " How? Why is liking myself and my life and wanting to carry on living, as me, sad? To me saying something external to yourself is all that makes your life worth living implies if that thing, or that person wasn't there, then you wouldn't want to live. | |||
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"Me. If you need something other than your self to feel it's worth living, that's incredibly sad. " That's my opinion too | |||
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"Me. If you need something other than your self to feel it's worth living, that's incredibly sad. If you think it's all about you,that's even more incredibly sadder. How? Why is liking myself and my life and wanting to carry on living, as me, sad? To me saying something external to yourself is all that makes your life worth living implies if that thing, or that person wasn't there, then you wouldn't want to live. " when someone says their partner is their world, they couldn't live without out them, I think well what would you do if he/she walked out? | |||
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"Me. If you need something other than your self to feel it's worth living, that's incredibly sad. If you think it's all about you,that's even more incredibly sadder. How? Why is liking myself and my life and wanting to carry on living, as me, sad? To me saying something external to yourself is all that makes your life worth living implies if that thing, or that person wasn't there, then you wouldn't want to live. " If I lost my children.. I wouldnt want to live. | |||
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"Me. If you need something other than your self to feel it's worth living, that's incredibly sad. If you think it's all about you,that's even more incredibly sadder. How? Why is liking myself and my life and wanting to carry on living, as me, sad? To me saying something external to yourself is all that makes your life worth living implies if that thing, or that person wasn't there, then you wouldn't want to live. If I lost my children.. I wouldnt want to live. " My children were the only things that stopped me from ending it last year. Losing them is unthinkable. | |||
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"It isn't self-centred. All the children, family, friends, flowers, sunsets, stars, pets etc. in the world mean absolutely nothing if someone doesn't first love themself and want to live because of that. We use "she/he loves him/herself" as an insult and I find it bizarre. Of course I love myself; if I didn't, how the hell can I expect anyone else to love me, or to be able to love anyone else? So yeah, I'm still with my original answer that it's me who makes my life worth living. " It's a selfish opinion, but it's your opinion. It's not wrong, its just not very nice. | |||
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"Me. If you need something other than your self to feel it's worth living, that's incredibly sad. " If all I had was myself then no, I don't think life would be worth living. Is that sad? I wouldn't say so. I think life is a collection of people and things with no individual thing being either necessary or sufficient. The "me" aspect is the only exception, being obviously necessary but I would argue, for me at least, insufficient. For that same reason I couldn't say what in particular makes my life worth living. It's a combination of the whole. -Courtney | |||
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"It isn't self-centred. All the children, family, friends, flowers, sunsets, stars, pets etc. in the world mean absolutely nothing if someone doesn't first love themself and want to live because of that. We use "she/he loves him/herself" as an insult and I find it bizarre. Of course I love myself; if I didn't, how the hell can I expect anyone else to love me, or to be able to love anyone else? So yeah, I'm still with my original answer that it's me who makes my life worth living. It's a selfish opinion, but it's your opinion. It's not wrong, its just not very nice." Fair enough. It's not intended to be selfish or not "nice". I don't see how it can possibly be interpreted as selfish. The people and the things I love make my life infinitely better - but that only means anything because of me, because it's me who loves them. If I didn't know them, they'd still exist as a person and so would I. It's not them as an objective concept who has any effect on my world - it's my relationship with them, which only means anything to me because of me. I'll churn out a stock Hallmark answer like everyone else next time. | |||
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"If you were the only person on the planet you'd be happy?" Probably not. But if I didn't know and love the people I do, and had never met them - I would probably know and love other people. The only common denominator in all of it is me. And if I did have all those people I love around me but I loathed myself, then I wouldn't be happy either. Someone or something external to yourself can never make you truly happy if your own self isn't allowing it. | |||
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"It isn't self-centred. All the children, family, friends, flowers, sunsets, stars, pets etc. in the world mean absolutely nothing if someone doesn't first love themself and want to live because of that. We use "she/he loves him/herself" as an insult and I find it bizarre. Of course I love myself; if I didn't, how the hell can I expect anyone else to love me, or to be able to love anyone else? So yeah, I'm still with my original answer that it's me who makes my life worth living. It's a selfish opinion, but it's your opinion. It's not wrong, its just not very nice. Fair enough. It's not intended to be selfish or not "nice". I don't see how it can possibly be interpreted as selfish. The people and the things I love make my life infinitely better - but that only means anything because of me, because it's me who loves them. If I didn't know them, they'd still exist as a person and so would I. It's not them as an objective concept who has any effect on my world - it's my relationship with them, which only means anything to me because of me. I'll churn out a stock Hallmark answer like everyone else next time." you come across as selfish that's why he said it ,you have an insular attitude ,its all about me me me and as I said good to love yourself and good to be individual and good to have an opinion but good to be nice to and good to be considerate of others and good to interact ,you're a beautiful woman so I imagine you've been sowered here by the over zealous attention you've received ,doesn't hurt to give a little of yourself even to strangers if it makes them feel good about themselves ,a smile a day helps you work rest and play happy easter | |||
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"It isn't self-centred. All the children, family, friends, flowers, sunsets, stars, pets etc. in the world mean absolutely nothing if someone doesn't first love themself and want to live because of that. We use "she/he loves him/herself" as an insult and I find it bizarre. Of course I love myself; if I didn't, how the hell can I expect anyone else to love me, or to be able to love anyone else? So yeah, I'm still with my original answer that it's me who makes my life worth living. It's a selfish opinion, but it's your opinion. It's not wrong, its just not very nice. Fair enough. It's not intended to be selfish or not "nice". I don't see how it can possibly be interpreted as selfish. The people and the things I love make my life infinitely better - but that only means anything because of me, because it's me who loves them. If I didn't know them, they'd still exist as a person and so would I. It's not them as an objective concept who has any effect on my world - it's my relationship with them, which only means anything to me because of me. I'll churn out a stock Hallmark answer like everyone else next time." I think it was when you labelled people who may put their kids as the reason for living 'sad'. It's fine that you're self centered, but it's not fine to decry another person's priorities in life as 'sad'. | |||
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"If you were the only person on the planet you'd be happy? Probably not. But if I didn't know and love the people I do, and had never met them - I would probably know and love other people. The only common denominator in all of it is me. And if I did have all those people I love around me but I loathed myself, then I wouldn't be happy either. Someone or something external to yourself can never make you truly happy if your own self isn't allowing it. " I don't disagree but I also don't think I'm what make existence special. | |||
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"It isn't self-centred. All the children, family, friends, flowers, sunsets, stars, pets etc. in the world mean absolutely nothing if someone doesn't first love themself and want to live because of that. We use "she/he loves him/herself" as an insult and I find it bizarre. Of course I love myself; if I didn't, how the hell can I expect anyone else to love me, or to be able to love anyone else? So yeah, I'm still with my original answer that it's me who makes my life worth living. It's a selfish opinion, but it's your opinion. It's not wrong, its just not very nice. Fair enough. It's not intended to be selfish or not "nice". I don't see how it can possibly be interpreted as selfish. The people and the things I love make my life infinitely better - but that only means anything because of me, because it's me who loves them. If I didn't know them, they'd still exist as a person and so would I. It's not them as an objective concept who has any effect on my world - it's my relationship with them, which only means anything to me because of me. I'll churn out a stock Hallmark answer like everyone else next time. you come across as selfish that's why he said it ,you have an insular attitude ,its all about me me me and as I said good to love yourself and good to be individual and good to have an opinion but good to be nice to and good to be considerate of others and good to interact ,you're a beautiful woman so I imagine you've been sowered here by the over zealous attention you've received ,doesn't hurt to give a little of yourself even to strangers if it makes them feel good about themselves ,a smile a day helps you work rest and play happy easter " Literally the best thing you EVER wrote on here! I applaud you. | |||
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"It isn't self-centred. All the children, family, friends, flowers, sunsets, stars, pets etc. in the world mean absolutely nothing if someone doesn't first love themself and want to live because of that. We use "she/he loves him/herself" as an insult and I find it bizarre. Of course I love myself; if I didn't, how the hell can I expect anyone else to love me, or to be able to love anyone else? So yeah, I'm still with my original answer that it's me who makes my life worth living. It's a selfish opinion, but it's your opinion. It's not wrong, its just not very nice. Fair enough. It's not intended to be selfish or not "nice". I don't see how it can possibly be interpreted as selfish. The people and the things I love make my life infinitely better - but that only means anything because of me, because it's me who loves them. If I didn't know them, they'd still exist as a person and so would I. It's not them as an objective concept who has any effect on my world - it's my relationship with them, which only means anything to me because of me. I'll churn out a stock Hallmark answer like everyone else next time. you come across as selfish that's why he said it ,you have an insular attitude ,its all about me me me and as I said good to love yourself and good to be individual and good to have an opinion but good to be nice to and good to be considerate of others and good to interact ,you're a beautiful woman so I imagine you've been sowered here by the over zealous attention you've received ,doesn't hurt to give a little of yourself even to strangers if it makes them feel good about themselves ,a smile a day helps you work rest and play happy easter Literally the best thing you EVER wrote on here! I applaud you. " thankyou clem you lovely man happy easter | |||
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"It isn't self-centred. All the children, family, friends, flowers, sunsets, stars, pets etc. in the world mean absolutely nothing if someone doesn't first love themself and want to live because of that. We use "she/he loves him/herself" as an insult and I find it bizarre. Of course I love myself; if I didn't, how the hell can I expect anyone else to love me, or to be able to love anyone else? So yeah, I'm still with my original answer that it's me who makes my life worth living. It's a selfish opinion, but it's your opinion. It's not wrong, its just not very nice. Fair enough. It's not intended to be selfish or not "nice". I don't see how it can possibly be interpreted as selfish. The people and the things I love make my life infinitely better - but that only means anything because of me, because it's me who loves them. If I didn't know them, they'd still exist as a person and so would I. It's not them as an objective concept who has any effect on my world - it's my relationship with them, which only means anything to me because of me. I'll churn out a stock Hallmark answer like everyone else next time. I think it was when you labelled people who may put their kids as the reason for living 'sad'. It's fine that you're self centered, but it's not fine to decry another person's priorities in life as 'sad'." And I followed that up by saying that I didn't mean sad as in I think they're pathetic, I meant it saddened me. What if they'd never met that person, had those children? Would their life not be worth living? | |||
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"It isn't self-centred. All the children, family, friends, flowers, sunsets, stars, pets etc. in the world mean absolutely nothing if someone doesn't first love themself and want to live because of that. We use "she/he loves him/herself" as an insult and I find it bizarre. Of course I love myself; if I didn't, how the hell can I expect anyone else to love me, or to be able to love anyone else? So yeah, I'm still with my original answer that it's me who makes my life worth living. It's a selfish opinion, but it's your opinion. It's not wrong, its just not very nice. Fair enough. It's not intended to be selfish or not "nice". I don't see how it can possibly be interpreted as selfish. The people and the things I love make my life infinitely better - but that only means anything because of me, because it's me who loves them. If I didn't know them, they'd still exist as a person and so would I. It's not them as an objective concept who has any effect on my world - it's my relationship with them, which only means anything to me because of me. I'll churn out a stock Hallmark answer like everyone else next time. I think it was when you labelled people who may put their kids as the reason for living 'sad'. It's fine that you're self centered, but it's not fine to decry another person's priorities in life as 'sad'. And I followed that up by saying that I didn't mean sad as in I think they're pathetic, I meant it saddened me. What if they'd never met that person, had those children? Would their life not be worth living? " But we do have them | |||
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"It isn't self-centred. All the children, family, friends, flowers, sunsets, stars, pets etc. in the world mean absolutely nothing if someone doesn't first love themself and want to live because of that. We use "she/he loves him/herself" as an insult and I find it bizarre. Of course I love myself; if I didn't, how the hell can I expect anyone else to love me, or to be able to love anyone else? So yeah, I'm still with my original answer that it's me who makes my life worth living. It's a selfish opinion, but it's your opinion. It's not wrong, its just not very nice. Fair enough. It's not intended to be selfish or not "nice". I don't see how it can possibly be interpreted as selfish. The people and the things I love make my life infinitely better - but that only means anything because of me, because it's me who loves them. If I didn't know them, they'd still exist as a person and so would I. It's not them as an objective concept who has any effect on my world - it's my relationship with them, which only means anything to me because of me. I'll churn out a stock Hallmark answer like everyone else next time. I think it was when you labelled people who may put their kids as the reason for living 'sad'. It's fine that you're self centered, but it's not fine to decry another person's priorities in life as 'sad'. And I followed that up by saying that I didn't mean sad as in I think they're pathetic, I meant it saddened me. What if they'd never met that person, had those children? Would their life not be worth living? " But they did meet those people and have those children. They exist and therefore are part of a life. So following your argument what if nothing else existed? Only me. Would life be worth living? No. I don't think it would. | |||
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"I think you do have to be at ease/happy/satisfied with yourself to be happy or glad to be alive, but it is relationships with others that count ... be they your children and family or friends or all. I am totally happy being alone and live my own company and head space, but what is warming my heart now (as my OH is away skiing) is hearing my daughter and three friends screaming with laughter, about I know not what, from her room. My job involves being with others and helping them achieve and succeed but I get a satisfaction about doing it right to my own standards ... that makes me happy. So its a combination of being me and being able to have values I believe in and how I interact with others. That's what gives me a warm glow and brings a smile to my face ...." Your first 3 lines are exactly what I mean but apparently haven't been able to express. | |||
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"If you were the only person on the planet you'd be happy? Probably not. But if I didn't know and love the people I do, and had never met them - I would probably know and love other people. The only common denominator in all of it is me. And if I did have all those people I love around me but I loathed myself, then I wouldn't be happy either. Someone or something external to yourself can never make you truly happy if your own self isn't allowing it. " Fair point. | |||
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"I think you do have to be at ease/happy/satisfied with yourself to be happy or glad to be alive, but it is relationships with others that count ... be they your children and family or friends or all. I am totally happy being alone and live my own company and head space, but what is warming my heart now (as my OH is away skiing) is hearing my daughter and three friends screaming with laughter, about I know not what, from her room. My job involves being with others and helping them achieve and succeed but I get a satisfaction about doing it right to my own standards ... that makes me happy. So its a combination of being me and being able to have values I believe in and how I interact with others. That's what gives me a warm glow and brings a smile to my face .... Your first 3 lines are exactly what I mean but apparently haven't been able to express. " It's fine! You are what you are! Don't worry about it. It's good that you're honest enough to show it on here. Alot of people would have hidden a trait like that behind a cheesy "hallmark" quote as you say. Honesty is the best policy. Imagine all the marriages that would have been saved if one half of the couple had had the balls to tell the other at the beginning of the relationship "By the way you will always come second to me, and that goes for our children to". | |||
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"Great answer. That must really apply for any of us in truth. " I'm a contented little sausage these days | |||
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"In a world with millions of people some still say they feel lonely ,I personally struggle with this I talk to everyone ,I do understand why it exists but it is that person and their unfortunate insular attitude to life you can't always expect people to come to you sometimes you have to outstretch that hand and bring them in ,we are all becoming to insular because of the few idiots that exist ,make someone smile and see what it does for you " Making people smile is the best thing ever. | |||
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"What makes me glad to be alive? The fact that I am alive, healthy & relatively content with my life, I'm happy being me & all what being me entails. Having been through a lot of sadness in the last few years its shown me not to take life for granted." roxianne you make me smile or maybe grin is a better word | |||
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"apart from this.....express yourself " So many things make me happy and glad to be alive. Mr B and our family are right at the very top. My world revolves around them and just wouldn't be the same without them in it. This valentines lark must be rubbing off on me! | |||
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"existence .... which gives the opotunity of experiences" *opportunity ...... my knackered keyboard detracts from it sometimes though lol | |||
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"Watching the birds on the bird feeder,s in my garden sat having a coffee in the conservatory nice crisp morning out and glad we took early retirement can do this instead of rushing around going to work. Have a good at work those who have to be happy and keep safe " That sounds lovely | |||
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"Watching the birds on the bird feeder,s in my garden sat having a coffee in the conservatory nice crisp morning out and glad we took early retirement can do this instead of rushing around going to work. Have a good at work those who have to be happy and keep safe That sounds lovely " It is believe me | |||
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