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Nice but not a must friends first?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you have to be friends first to play? Is that important to you ? or have little time for banter and wish to just get on with hot sex ?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Do you have to be friends first to play? Is that important to you ? or have little time for banter and wish to just get on with hot sex ? "
I dont think its a must, if you frequent clubs its not always possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think its a must.. although finding now that I do find that it can be fun to be friends too...

However, I think its very sexy to see someone and think.. omg yes.. have sex and then maybe never even hear from them again. :D

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Dont always get the time to be friends first but after i feel we are alot of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you have to be friends first to play? Is that important to you ? or have little time for banter and wish to just get on with hot sex ? "

From experience i have found getting to know someone /befriending prior to meeting always makes for a much more mutual fun and fullfilling meet...rather than an instant meet which can turn into a bit of a lottery of luck. although the off the cuff and you click meets and you get it on in the hallway before your front door shuts does have its merits

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I would say know get the meet organised first then become friends afterwards if the meet goes well cant see the point in chatting for months on end if nothing is going to happen been there done that why waste each others time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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From experience i have found getting to know someone /befriending prior to meeting always makes for a much more mutual fun and fullfilling meet...rather than an instant meet which can turn into a bit of a lottery of luck. although the off the cuff and you click meets and you get it on in the hallway before your front door shuts does have its merits "

Agreed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I play you have to get to know and trust each other beforehand. In fact my playmates have to trust me - they're the ones in vulnerable positions.

For me, the thought of going into a club, hotel, dogging, back of a pub with someone whose name I don't know just doesn't hold any appeal to me.

I can understand the excitement...just not for me.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We never play with anyone that we wouldnt want to be friends with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We never play with anyone that we wouldnt want to be friends with."
just at clubs and things its hard to get to know people so fast ,, i can go on looks only and then find out really nice people ... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a single female i like to get to no them first, find out what there like for safty reasons as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not so cold hearted to say "its just a shag". I like to spend a bit of time to get to know the person and allay any concerns they may have about my disability. Also gives me the time to find out what they like and enjoy.

Besides, I get to roll out all my favourite jokes again - god I kill myself.

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Don't have to be friends to start with, but do have to feel comfortable. With some folks this is a chat for half an hour and then off to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not a must for me to be friends, to be honest i prefure one off meets, thats not to say i will just have sex with anyone, i like to meet for a drink first, but i can usually tell within a hour if i like them enough to have sex with them and id sooner play on the first meet im not really into meeting for a drink and arranging play for another time, i cant see the point in that if you like each other enough to arrange another meet why wait till next time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not a must for me to be friends, to be honest i prefure one off meets, thats not to say i will just have sex with anyone, i like to meet for a drink first, but i can usually tell within a hour if i like them enough to have sex with them and id sooner play on the first meet im not really into meeting for a drink and arranging play for another time, i cant see the point in that if you like each other enough to arrange another meet why wait till next time? "
fancy a drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not a must for me to be friends, to be honest i prefure one off meets, thats not to say i will just have sex with anyone, i like to meet for a drink first, but i can usually tell within a hour if i like them enough to have sex with them and id sooner play on the first meet im not really into meeting for a drink and arranging play for another time, i cant see the point in that if you like each other enough to arrange another meet why wait till next time? "

The difficulty is that if one gets on famously with a meet, its not always possible to shag there and then, one does have to wait until another time. However it does make for nice saucy messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not a must for me to be friends, to be honest i prefure one off meets, thats not to say i will just have sex with anyone, i like to meet for a drink first, but i can usually tell within a hour if i like them enough to have sex with them and id sooner play on the first meet im not really into meeting for a drink and arranging play for another time, i cant see the point in that if you like each other enough to arrange another meet why wait till next time?

The difficulty is that if one gets on famously with a meet, its not always possible to shag there and then, one does have to wait until another time. However it does make for nice saucy messages"

Suppose it depends how you arrange it

Personally i wouldnt arrange a meet unless it was possible to have sex if we got on, i would make sure all that was sorted befor i went lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not a must for me to be friends, to be honest i prefure one off meets, thats not to say i will just have sex with anyone, i like to meet for a drink first, but i can usually tell within a hour if i like them enough to have sex with them and id sooner play on the first meet im not really into meeting for a drink and arranging play for another time, i cant see the point in that if you like each other enough to arrange another meet why wait till next time?

fancy a drink "

Gin and Tonic ta lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not a must for me to be friends, to be honest i prefure one off meets, thats not to say i will just have sex with anyone, i like to meet for a drink first, but i can usually tell within a hour if i like them enough to have sex with them and id sooner play on the first meet im not really into meeting for a drink and arranging play for another time, i cant see the point in that if you like each other enough to arrange another meet why wait till next time?

fancy a drink

Gin and Tonic ta lol"
large one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't shag just anyone - I have to like them first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to ge to know someone first,don't have to best friends, but I think it makes a meet go a bit better, never really been a wham bam thank you mam type of man. Mind you it has backfired one or twice as we got on great online but found that she was dissapointed when we met as she thought I was taller and bigger built!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this thread is confused over what a friend is. A friend, to me, is someone I get to know overtime and form a bond with. A friend isn't "just" someone I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think this thread is confused over what a friend is. A friend, to me, is someone I get to know overtime and form a bond with. A friend isn't "just" someone I like.

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totally agree

As i stated earlier in the thread i have to like someone i am playing with i dont need to be friends with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

n fact I dont think I'd play with someone I felt was a real friend as that mixes too many emotions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think this thread is confused over what a friend is. A friend, to me, is someone I get to know overtime and form a bond with. A friend isn't "just" someone I like.

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Very well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"n fact I dont think I'd play with someone I felt was a real friend as that mixes too many emotions."

I was beginning to think I was the only one thinking this. The better I know someone and friendlier I feel towards them, the less likely I will have NSA sex with them. It becomes that bit more complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"n fact I dont think I'd play with someone I felt was a real friend as that mixes too many emotions.

I was beginning to think I was the only one thinking this. The better I know someone and friendlier I feel towards them, the less likely I will have NSA sex with them. It becomes that bit more complicated. "

Same with me, the more I become friends with someone the less likely I am to play with them.

There are a few on this site I love, but as friends I cannot ever think of playing with. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on how you play.

If all you do is one off meets, clubs or dogging say - there's no need to be friends, you can empty your sac, scratch your itch and go. Nothing wrong with that at all.

There are some couple here that have said they form friendship with their playmates, go on holidays etc...it works for them.

I have to feel comfortable and be friends with people I play with - that's what works for me.

The beauty of sites like this is it caters for all our tastes - and long may it do so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the friendship approach. I do want to visit clubs but more to see any potential partner I'm attending with enjoy themselves so I can indulge my voyeuristic side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as we mainly play at a club its rare we get to know anything substancial about playmates

although we have become rather friendly with a number of peeps through swinging and have to say the closer we get the harder it gets to play

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Friends are people i turn to,for love and support,who laugh joke and cry with me.My friends know i will be there at 3 in the morning when the black dog is howling.

What the feck has that got to do with sex?

this is why i become more and more convinced i am not a swinger.

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