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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you had two kids with someone but constantly rowed an bickered.. Then found someone new who say they will love you and adore you.. What would you do?

Bear in mind the person who has come onto the scene has been madly in love with this person for over ten years..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Leave I imagine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I didn't love the person I wouldn't stay with them just for the kids. Thats not fair on anyone. It requires a long discussion about the pros and cons. I would have to make sure that I was truly happy with either decision though.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I have 2 kids and left my husband.

Why stay in a relationship you are not happy in? It is better for the children to not be in an environment that is hostile.

It affevts the kids more in the long run. I was so relieved when my parents finally broke up as all the arguing was horrible and I stayed away from home as much as I could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trufully id see if there was a solution to the arguments etc as i think kids need both mom and dad . Now im divorced but still see my son when i want too .. dont argue in front of children they will remember and also dont move on until your definitely sure its what you want and not just an ego boost .... sorry firm but fair

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I didn't love the person I wouldn't stay with them just for the kids. Thats not fair on anyone. It requires a long discussion about the pros and cons. I would have to make sure that I was truly happy with either decision though. "
a long discussion with who...

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"If you had two kids with someone but constantly rowed an bickered.. Then found someone new who say they will love you and adore you.. What would you do?

Bear in mind the person who has come onto the scene has been madly in love with this person for over ten years.. "

Remove the new person from the scenario for a moment...

Why would I stay with someone I constantly rowed and bickered with? Well I wouldn't. I would end the relationship for my own sanity and the welfare of my children.

When I was free of that relationship, only then would I consider a relationship with the new person. If they'd been in love with me for ten years then they would surely be happy to wait in the wings while I sorted my shit out.

The less mess, the better for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave.. And have some time alone for a while...

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By *ittleblondesubWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

I wasn't happy with my marriage and I left with my two kids. If you're not happy best thing to do is leave

I also wouldn't jump into a new relationship straight away......you say this new person will love and adore you but you'd have to feel the same about them for that to be a valid point

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Been very lucky never had that problem our marriage is very strong and happy swinging has made it that way it makes or brakes your marriage but if you think about swinging there is already something wrong

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If you had two kids with someone but constantly rowed an bickered.. Then found someone new who say they will love you and adore you.. What would you do?

Bear in mind the person who has come onto the scene has been madly in love with this person for over ten years.. "

It doesn't matter what we would do, what will you do?

There are four other people to consider at least one of which you need to talk to. None of us can possibly advise you on a huge life changing (for many people) decision. Talk to your partner, try and get to the bottom of your problems and move forward from there.

Good luck...to all involved...I hope any decision you reach is the best one for everyone.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I would and did leave.

Don't stay together for the children it doesn't help them in the long run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd leave, but not necessarily for the new person as sometimes that clouds your judgement. Have some time alone - then see how you feel. Head space can be a good thing.

Whatever you do - make sure the kids are put first.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the is no love i would walk away 100% go with your hart not head

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Op, I really hope you have the strength to think this through for yourself rather than leaving a relationship based on advice from people who don't know you.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"If you had two kids with someone but constantly rowed an bickered.. Then found someone new who say they will love you and adore you.. What would you do?

Bear in mind the person who has come onto the scene has been madly in love with this person for over ten years..

It doesn't matter what we would do, what will you do?

There are four other people to consider at least one of which you need to talk to. None of us can possibly advise you on a huge life changing (for many people) decision. Talk to your partner, try and get to the bottom of your problems and move forward from there.

Good luck...to all involved...I hope any decision you reach is the best one for everyone."

This is exactly the right answer!

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Personally I would never jump from one r/ship to another. The grass is not always as green as you may think it is. Maybe try being alone for a while first.

You could regret you decision very quickly

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"If you had two kids with someone but constantly rowed an bickered.."
I'd stop rowing and bickering.


" Then found someone new who say they will love you and adore you.. What would you do?

Bear in mind the person who has come onto the scene has been madly in love with this person for over ten years.. "

I'm ignoring this bit because I think a) the grass is always greener, b) if it were that serious, something would have happened before and c) if you can't deal with the bad times in one relationship, it doesn't hold much promise for the next.

Mr ddc

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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Go on the Kyle show. He'll sort it out.

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