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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW " love and lust are completly different things. | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW " This is a conversation you should be having with your partner x | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW " Did you tell him how you felt? | |||
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"I think these feelings are totally valid, you're allowed to feel them. But yeah, communication with your OH is the paramount thing here.
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xx"Thanks for the hugs.. I'm just been stupid lol xx | |||
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"I think these feelings are totally valid, you're allowed to feel them. But yeah, communication with your OH is the paramount thing here.
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Thanks for the hugs.. I'm just been stupid lol xx"Nope, you're being human. This happens to me with Number One Chap all the time. He generally just tells me I'm a nutter. Usually I'll get a message which says simply "nutter" followed swiftly by "but you're my nutter xx" | |||
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"I think these feelings are totally valid, you're allowed to feel them. But yeah, communication with your OH is the paramount thing here.
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Thanks for the hugs.. I'm just been stupid lol xx
Nope, you're being human. This happens to me with Number One Chap all the time. He generally just tells me I'm a nutter. Usually I'll get a message which says simply "nutter" followed swiftly by "but you're my nutter xx""Lol Aw that's lovely that xx | |||
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"No harm in needing a little reassurance and to reaffirm the relationship and swinging comfort levels after a long break. It not bad to talk about it. Jealousy is a natural emotion, but in context it needn't be a big deal. Talk over a snuggle and all will be well x" Thank u.. Xx | |||
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"I think these feelings are totally valid, you're allowed to feel them. But yeah, communication with your OH is the paramount thing here.
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Thanks for the hugs.. I'm just been stupid lol xx
Nope, you're being human. This happens to me with Number One Chap all the time. He generally just tells me I'm a nutter. Usually I'll get a message which says simply "nutter" followed swiftly by "but you're my nutter xx"" | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW This is a conversation you should be having with your partner x" Could it the OP, is sounding off or waiting for someone who has been through the same thing to add to the thread. | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW This is a conversation you should be having with your partner x Could it the OP, is sounding off or waiting for someone who has been through the same thing to add to the thread." | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW " was she a bit of a fitty ? | |||
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"We've had this but in reverse. Communication and reassurance is key "Yeah we're gonna sit down when he gets in from work and kids r in bed lol. Think I may just need a cuddle lmao xx | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW " get out now not a good sign ,I've seen it quite a few times four couples I used to meet only one still together and she's playing without his knowledge            | |||
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"We've had this but in reverse. Communication and reassurance is key
Yeah we're gonna sit down when he gets in from work and kids r in bed lol. Think I may just need a cuddle lmao xx"Yeah a good cuddle sorted him out. Try to identify what it was that made you feel crappy, cos your partner might not have realised during sex that there was an issue. I certainly didn't. Hope it goes well | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW get out now not a good sign ,I've seen it quite a few times four couples I used to meet only one still together and she's playing without his knowledge "Disagree with this - but I DO Think you've perhaps returned to swinging too soon! Becoming a mum fills you with a HUGE amount of extra hormones which help you to love and care for your baby. It's perfectly natural that those feelings are transferred to your child's father too! Sex, at the moment i'd imagine, is a confirmation of love and affection rather than just an enjoyable physical act for you? Therefore when you saw your husband it filled you with uncharacteristic sadness rather than joy? Added to that, if you're anything like I was after my three, your body confidence will be lower than usual! I'd suggest you BOTH take a step back for a few months and concentrate on each other and your family unit! Then in a few months perhaps play with trusted friends who you've played with before - so there'll be no awkwardness/offence if you have to call a stop to it! If you loved it before Hun I'm sure you'll love it again - you probably just need more time! Huge hugs! Peachy xxx | |||
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"I think these feelings are totally valid, you're allowed to feel them. But yeah, communication with your OH is the paramount thing here.
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Thanks for the hugs.. I'm just been stupid lol xx"It's not stupid... It's normal for both men and women to feel this at times. Xxx | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW get out now not a good sign ,I've seen it quite a few times four couples I used to meet only one still together and she's playing without his knowledge "Wow wow wow man!!! That's strong advice! I don't usually talk about this on the forum, but I guess that comment hit a nerve! I live with a woman who has no/little attraction to men. Is it a problem for me? Yes. Do I love her? Yes. Would I leave her? No. There's a lot to it... But my point is that there is more to a relationship than sex. | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW get out now not a good sign ,I've seen it quite a few times four couples I used to meet only one still together and she's playing without his knowledge
Disagree with this - but I DO Think you've perhaps returned to swinging too soon! Becoming a mum fills you with a HUGE amount of extra hormones which help you to love and care for your baby. It's perfectly natural that those feelings are transferred to your child's father too! Sex, at the moment i'd imagine, is a confirmation of love and affection rather than just an enjoyable physical act for you? Therefore when you saw your husband it filled you with uncharacteristic sadness rather than joy? Added to that, if you're anything like I was after my three, your body confidence will be lower than usual!
I'd suggest you BOTH take a step back for a few months and concentrate on each other and your family unit! Then in a few months perhaps play with trusted friends who you've played with before - so there'll be no awkwardness/offence if you have to call a stop to it!
If you loved it before Hun I'm sure you'll love it again - you probably just need more time!
Huge hugs!
Peachy xxx
"Aw thanks peachy.. I returned alot sooner after the other two n baby is 5 months now lol.. I'm alot more at home with my body now as I lost slot of weight while pregnant. Dunno what's brought all this on xx | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW get out now not a good sign ,I've seen it quite a few times four couples I used to meet only one still together and she's playing without his knowledge
Disagree with this - but I DO Think you've perhaps returned to swinging too soon! Becoming a mum fills you with a HUGE amount of extra hormones which help you to love and care for your baby. It's perfectly natural that those feelings are transferred to your child's father too! Sex, at the moment i'd imagine, is a confirmation of love and affection rather than just an enjoyable physical act for you? Therefore when you saw your husband it filled you with uncharacteristic sadness rather than joy? Added to that, if you're anything like I was after my three, your body confidence will be lower than usual!
I'd suggest you BOTH take a step back for a few months and concentrate on each other and your family unit! Then in a few months perhaps play with trusted friends who you've played with before - so there'll be no awkwardness/offence if you have to call a stop to it!
If you loved it before Hun I'm sure you'll love it again - you probably just need more time!
Huge hugs!
Peachy xxx
Aw thanks peachy.. I returned alot sooner after the other two n baby is 5 months now lol.. I'm alot more at home with my body now as I lost slot of weight while pregnant. Dunno what's brought all this on xx"Ok lovely! Feel free to PM me if you need a sounding board! Sometimes it's just a case of needing a friend to listen to you!! Xxxx | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW " It's just different. Not better. | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW get out now not a good sign ,I've seen it quite a few times four couples I used to meet only one still together and she's playing without his knowledge
Wow wow wow man!!! That's strong advice!
I don't usually talk about this on the forum, but I guess that comment hit a nerve!
I live with a woman who has no/little attraction to men. Is it a problem for me? Yes. Do I love her? Yes. Would I leave her? No.
There's a lot to it... But my point is that there is more to a relationship than sex."true I agree but the only relationship we are talking about here is the couple and wether you like it or not she got jealous watching her husband fuck another woman and enjoy it my observation and I've said it before is based on factual experiences I've witnessed and somebody else on this thread has already said feelings get involved obviously not everyone will succumb to it but many will and its splits them up ,some couples swing their whole relationship long and are fine but many people here on fab are from broken relationships already ,we all think we have the ability to do things and not bring our feelings into but some do and the OP is telling us she is or did I read it wrong ?????   | |||
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"So last night for the first time in ten years of swinging I got the dreaded... "he's enjoying her more than me" shit what's happened to me lol.. I'm confused lol as I really loved seen oh with another woman and the pleasure she was giving him but now all I'm thinking is he not like that with me lol.. SHOOT ME NOW get out now not a good sign ,I've seen it quite a few times four couples I used to meet only one still together and she's playing without his knowledge
Wow wow wow man!!! That's strong advice!
I don't usually talk about this on the forum, but I guess that comment hit a nerve!
I live with a woman who has no/little attraction to men. Is it a problem for me? Yes. Do I love her? Yes. Would I leave her? No.
There's a lot to it... But my point is that there is more to a relationship than sex. true I agree but the only relationship we are talking about here is the couple and wether you like it or not she got jealous watching her husband fuck another woman and enjoy it my observation and I've said it before is based on factual experiences I've witnessed and somebody else on this thread has already said feelings get involved obviously not everyone will succumb to it but many will and its splits them up ,some couples swing their whole relationship long and are fine but many people here on fab are from broken relationships already ,we all think we have the ability to do things and not bring our feelings into but some do and the OP is telling us she is or did I read it wrong ????? "Yes I did bring my feelings into it.. Feelings about do I actually do it for him lol xx | |||
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"Well everyone it didn't go well. Turns out we want totally different things. So me and simon have decided to separate.. Thank u to all the wonderful ppl we've met and spoken too xxx" So sorry to read this sad news good luck to you both and both look after your new edition as kids need both parents. | |||
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"Neither it I lol but it's all civil for the kids sake. Thanks everyone xx" OP Has swinging done this to you two .? If you could have changed things looking back would you have.? People think its just all about fun its not . | |||
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"Well everyone it didn't go well. Turns out we want totally different things. So me and simon have decided to separate.. Thank u to all the wonderful ppl we've met and spoken too xxx" Wow- that sounds like a bit of a knee-jerk reaction to me. Do you think you could both step back and reconsider- something held you together to have children, maybe with some mediation in the form of counselling with Relate or similar? For All your sakes it has to be worth consideration? Good luck and big hugs OP xx | |||
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"Neither it I lol but it's all civil for the kids sake. Thanks everyone xx" So sorry to hear that! Hope you manage to work it out if there's still love there and a chance of reconciliation! Xxxx Huge hugs! Xxx | |||
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"Well everyone it didn't go well. Turns out we want totally different things. So me and simon have decided to separate.. Thank u to all the wonderful ppl we've met and spoken too xxx Wow- that sounds like a bit of a knee-jerk reaction to me. Do you think you could both step back and reconsider- something held you together to have children, maybe with some mediation in the form of counselling with Relate or similar? For All your sakes it has to be worth consideration? Good luck and big hugs OP xx" The incident that initiated this decision was a symptom, not the reason ......... People don't split up after one unsatisfactory swinging experience. Good luck OP | |||
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"Neither it I lol but it's all civil for the kids sake. Thanks everyone xx" Did you see my post above? Xxxx | |||
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