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"You can text and message someone for ages but do you actually know their personality or their humour from this medium I think not "Nope People in messages will act all nice, after all they trying to impress there real side though can sometimes be different, that does not apply to all however | |||
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"I think you can only get an idea of a person until you meet them. Lets face it, if they are trying to get into your knickers there is a certain amount of flannel going on anyway." yes I agree with this ,my point exactly no-one knows anything until they meet | |||
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"I think you can only get an idea of a person until you meet them. Lets face it, if they are trying to get into your knickers there is a certain amount of flannel going on anyway.yes I agree with this ,my point exactly no-one knows anything until they meet "So how do you decide who to bother meeting? | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love "I've met foreigners and dyslexics and had a fantastic time. It's not how they write it's the intonation and personality that comes through via type. | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love " | |||
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" You can tell what sort of image they wish to portray,which indicates their values and taste to some degree. For me anyone bragging about not giving a f##k what others think indicates a rather self centred sort. It's the only medium you have to gauge compatibility so use it wisely." | |||
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"I think some people are easier to "get" from text than others. Everyone may seem a bit different in person, but to what degree really depends on how good someone is at expressing themself through writing. -Courtney " I'm not sure I understand? | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love "right, if someone said to you, you have to meet six forumites for a social(at different times) how would you chose which six to meet if you didn't use your judgement. I would chose the six I thought I was going to have a good laugh with and have something in common with. They may turn out to be not what I expected. But I'm not going to chose someone I don't like to start with | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love right, if someone said to you, you have to meet six forumites for a social(at different times) how would you chose which six to meet if you didn't use your judgement. I would chose the six I thought I was going to have a good laugh with and have something in common with. They may turn out to be not what I expected. But I'm not going to chose someone I don't like to start with"but judgements are made on such trivial things I can understand someone constantly sticking their cock in your face and saying suck this but overuse of emojees hehe sorry not a good enough reason | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love right, if someone said to you, you have to meet six forumites for a social(at different times) how would you chose which six to meet if you didn't use your judgement. I would chose the six I thought I was going to have a good laugh with and have something in common with. They may turn out to be not what I expected. But I'm not going to chose someone I don't like to start with but judgements are made on such trivial things I can understand someone constantly sticking their cock in your face and saying suck this but overuse of emojees hehe sorry not a good enough reason "if this is all about you getting blocked for your overuse of them then if I hadn't already blocked you I would of. If there was a block button to hide the bloody things I'd use it I have to really on blanking them out my eye sight. I'm assuming you have no interest in meeting me but I can certainly see why some you are interested in would block you for them. | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love right, if someone said to you, you have to meet six forumites for a social(at different times) how would you chose which six to meet if you didn't use your judgement. I would chose the six I thought I was going to have a good laugh with and have something in common with. They may turn out to be not what I expected. But I'm not going to chose someone I don't like to start with but judgements are made on such trivial things I can understand someone constantly sticking their cock in your face and saying suck this but overuse of emojees hehe sorry not a good enough reason "I don't particularly like when you use all the emojees it becomes annoying as all the thread you just see a sea of them... | |||
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"I think you can only get an idea of a person until you meet them. Lets face it, if they are trying to get into your knickers there is a certain amount of flannel going on anyway.yes I agree with this ,my point exactly no-one knows anything until they meet "Are you ill today? You have only one emoticon going on | |||
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"I think you can only get an idea of a person until you meet them. Lets face it, if they are trying to get into your knickers there is a certain amount of flannel going on anyway.yes I agree with this ,my point exactly no-one knows anything until they meet
Are you ill today? You have only one emoticon going on "I have a reason for doing that its not required in these threads that I created | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love right, if someone said to you, you have to meet six forumites for a social(at different times) how would you chose which six to meet if you didn't use your judgement. I would chose the six I thought I was going to have a good laugh with and have something in common with. They may turn out to be not what I expected. But I'm not going to chose someone I don't like to start with but judgements are made on such trivial things I can understand someone constantly sticking their cock in your face and saying suck this but overuse of emojees hehe sorry not a good enough reason "Ah I see why you asked now, someone doesn't like your emoticon overload. To be honest, it makes the posts hard to read sometimes and if it wasn't for the fact I have to read every post I might pass yours by at times .I know we are not looking to meet each other obviously but it obviously puts people off who may be thinking about it. Although like I said you can't know what people are really like until you meet them, but you have to decide who you fancy meeting to see if they are OK in real life and there will always be something to put people off when chatting to them, be that smileys or text speak etc etc Whatever reason it is, it is good enough for that person | |||
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"You can text and message someone for ages but do you actually know their personality or their humour from this medium I think not "I have a forum persona. I am much more up for banter and discussion on the forums because I am using them to unwind and pass the time, very different from meeting. I have met a couple of forum users in person, and they are much more mellow than their forum posts, so I can see that its all tongue in cheek. It may be different for those who spend more time here? | |||
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"I think you can only get an idea of a person until you meet them. Lets face it, if they are trying to get into your knickers there is a certain amount of flannel going on anyway.yes I agree with this ,my point exactly no-one knows anything until they meet
Are you ill today? You have only one emoticon going on I have a reason for doing that its not required in these threads that I created "Well that explains it perfectly | |||
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"For most people, you can get a good feel for their personality via messages and texts. If they're not capable of getting at least a bit of their sense of humour or personality across via written messages then, even if they're lovely in real life, I wouldn't be taking it any further to find out. " I disagree , anyone can put on a good show thru messaging and whilst the keyboard warriors have google at hand , in person is much a better way to determine personality confidence and caractor | |||
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"For most people, you can get a good feel for their personality via messages and texts. If they're not capable of getting at least a bit of their sense of humour or personality across via written messages then, even if they're lovely in real life, I wouldn't be taking it any further to find out. I disagree , anyone can put on a good show thru messaging and whilst the keyboard warriors have google at hand , in person is much a better way to determine personality confidence and caractor " Ok so how do you decide whether to meet someone? | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love right, if someone said to you, you have to meet six forumites for a social(at different times) how would you chose which six to meet if you didn't use your judgement. I would chose the six I thought I was going to have a good laugh with and have something in common with. They may turn out to be not what I expected. But I'm not going to chose someone I don't like to start with but judgements are made on such trivial things I can understand someone constantly sticking their cock in your face and saying suck this but overuse of emojees hehe sorry not a good enough reason
Ah I see why you asked now, someone doesn't like your emoticon overload.
To be honest, it makes the posts hard to read sometimes and if it wasn't for the fact I have to read every post I might pass yours by at times .I know we are not looking to meet each other obviously but it obviously puts people off who may be thinking about it. Although like I said you can't know what people are really like until you meet them, but you have to decide who you fancy meeting to see if they are OK in real life and there will always be something to put people off when chatting to them, be that smileys or text speak etc etc
Whatever reason it is, it is good enough for that person "but the reason Is trivial and lazy in my opinion hence the thread ,don't allow things to bother you explore yourself ,ask yourself, make an effort ,positive energy to see hope rather than negative energy to see trivia and don't hit us with the I havnt got time thing ,you've got time to be in forums | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love right, if someone said to you, you have to meet six forumites for a social(at different times) how would you chose which six to meet if you didn't use your judgement. I would chose the six I thought I was going to have a good laugh with and have something in common with. They may turn out to be not what I expected. But I'm not going to chose someone I don't like to start with but judgements are made on such trivial things I can understand someone constantly sticking their cock in your face and saying suck this but overuse of emojees hehe sorry not a good enough reason
Ah I see why you asked now, someone doesn't like your emoticon overload.
To be honest, it makes the posts hard to read sometimes and if it wasn't for the fact I have to read every post I might pass yours by at times .I know we are not looking to meet each other obviously but it obviously puts people off who may be thinking about it. Although like I said you can't know what people are really like until you meet them, but you have to decide who you fancy meeting to see if they are OK in real life and there will always be something to put people off when chatting to them, be that smileys or text speak etc etc
Whatever reason it is, it is good enough for that person but the reason Is trivial and lazy in my opinion hence the thread ,don't allow things to bother you explore yourself ,ask yourself, make an effort ,positive energy to see hope rather than negative energy to see trivia and don't hit us with the I havnt got time thing ,you've got time to be in forums "oh behave its a bloody swingers site not a site for mother Theresa wannabees | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love right, if someone said to you, you have to meet six forumites for a social(at different times) how would you chose which six to meet if you didn't use your judgement. I would chose the six I thought I was going to have a good laugh with and have something in common with. They may turn out to be not what I expected. But I'm not going to chose someone I don't like to start with but judgements are made on such trivial things I can understand someone constantly sticking their cock in your face and saying suck this but overuse of emojees hehe sorry not a good enough reason
Ah I see why you asked now, someone doesn't like your emoticon overload.
To be honest, it makes the posts hard to read sometimes and if it wasn't for the fact I have to read every post I might pass yours by at times .I know we are not looking to meet each other obviously but it obviously puts people off who may be thinking about it. Although like I said you can't know what people are really like until you meet them, but you have to decide who you fancy meeting to see if they are OK in real life and there will always be something to put people off when chatting to them, be that smileys or text speak etc etc
Whatever reason it is, it is good enough for that person but the reason Is trivial and lazy in my opinion hence the thread ,don't allow things to bother you explore yourself ,ask yourself, make an effort ,positive energy to see hope rather than negative energy to see trivia and don't hit us with the I havnt got time thing ,you've got time to be in forums "That's your opinion though it might be trivial to you but to the other person it might be a deal breaker | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love right, if someone said to you, you have to meet six forumites for a social(at different times) how would you chose which six to meet if you didn't use your judgement. I would chose the six I thought I was going to have a good laugh with and have something in common with. They may turn out to be not what I expected. But I'm not going to chose someone I don't like to start with but judgements are made on such trivial things I can understand someone constantly sticking their cock in your face and saying suck this but overuse of emojees hehe sorry not a good enough reason
Ah I see why you asked now, someone doesn't like your emoticon overload.
To be honest, it makes the posts hard to read sometimes and if it wasn't for the fact I have to read every post I might pass yours by at times .I know we are not looking to meet each other obviously but it obviously puts people off who may be thinking about it. Although like I said you can't know what people are really like until you meet them, but you have to decide who you fancy meeting to see if they are OK in real life and there will always be something to put people off when chatting to them, be that smileys or text speak etc etc
Whatever reason it is, it is good enough for that person but the reason Is trivial and lazy in my opinion hence the thread ,don't allow things to bother you explore yourself ,ask yourself, make an effort ,positive energy to see hope rather than negative energy to see trivia and don't hit us with the I havnt got time thing ,you've got time to be in forums
That's your opinion though it might be trivial to you but to the other person it might be a deal breaker "that's true and I do see other people's opinions but still have mine ,which isn't set in stone its flexible and said in a friendly way not an abrasive way ,people get so personal someone yesterday can't remember who now but he got very personal in a thread and probably got banned from forums for it | |||
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" but the reason Is trivial and lazy in my opinion hence the thread ,don't allow things to bother you explore yourself ,ask yourself, make an effort ,positive energy to see hope rather than negative energy to see trivia and don't hit us with the I havnt got time thing ,you've got time to be in forums
"But it is valid for the person knocking you back. So what you are saying is, if first second or third impressions make you think to yourself " I wouldn't want to meet that person as he/ she does something that annoys me " you still expect them to waste their time meeting you in real life when they could be meeting the people who you are liking from the outset? I am not sure anyone would have enough hours in the day to meet every person who asked them. I can't understand why you can't accept that some people won't like what you write and that will influence how they pick whether to meet you or not and concentrate on the people who may want to meet you. | |||
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"...people get so personal someone yesterday can't remember who now but he got very personal in a thread and probably got banned from forums for it "Nope, I'm still here *nonexistent waving hand emoji* | |||
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"Humour and emojees I get judged on and have been blocked for many times ,the reason I asked the question is no-one knows anyone until they meet ,we are so impatient with our judgements spelling and grammar mistakes ,we have foreigners and dyslexics here ,cut people some slack ,give people some love right, if someone said to you, you have to meet six forumites for a social(at different times) how would you chose which six to meet if you didn't use your judgement. I would chose the six I thought I was going to have a good laugh with and have something in common with. They may turn out to be not what I expected. But I'm not going to chose someone I don't like to start with but judgements are made on such trivial things I can understand someone constantly sticking their cock in your face and saying suck this but overuse of emojees hehe sorry not a good enough reason
Ah I see why you asked now, someone doesn't like your emoticon overload.
To be honest, it makes the posts hard to read sometimes and if it wasn't for the fact I have to read every post I might pass yours by at times .I know we are not looking to meet each other obviously but it obviously puts people off who may be thinking about it. Although like I said you can't know what people are really like until you meet them, but you have to decide who you fancy meeting to see if they are OK in real life and there will always be something to put people off when chatting to them, be that smileys or text speak etc etc
Whatever reason it is, it is good enough for that person but the reason Is trivial and lazy in my opinion hence the thread ,don't allow things to bother you explore yourself ,ask yourself, make an effort ,positive energy to see hope rather than negative energy to see trivia and don't hit us with the I havnt got time thing ,you've got time to be in forums "I expect the 'i haven't got time' thing when they are still posting in the forums means they'd rather be posting in the forums than sending messages to people they don't want to talk to | |||
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" but the reason Is trivial and lazy in my opinion hence the thread ,don't allow things to bother you explore yourself ,ask yourself, make an effort ,positive energy to see hope rather than negative energy to see trivia and don't hit us with the I havnt got time thing ,you've got time to be in forums
But it is valid for the person knocking you back.
So what you are saying is, if first second or third impressions make you think to yourself " I wouldn't want to meet that person as he/ she does something that annoys me " you still expect them to waste their time meeting you in real life when they could be meeting the people who you are liking from the outset? I am not sure anyone would have enough hours in the day to meet every person who asked them.
I can't understand why you can't accept that some people won't like what you write and that will influence how they pick whether to meet you or not and concentrate on the people who may want to meet you."
It's the same as when some people complain that no one will give them a chance due to them saying 'they aren't their type' looks wise but they are sure if they met they would change their minds
Most people on here haven't got time for endless socials and meets on the off chance that they might be wrong about someone wether it looks or personality. So we just go by what we see/read. I haven't been wrong so far. There's been people I've felt like we should meet and have and it's been great. And a few that I think are twits and have met at parties etc and I still think they are twits now | |||
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"...people get so personal someone yesterday can't remember who now but he got very personal in a thread and probably got banned from forums for it
Nope, I'm still here *nonexistent waving hand emoji*"hi oh well glad you didn't get banned | |||
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"i dont think you can learn a huge amount from text and messages, but i certainly think i can learn all i need to. if something seems trivial to you, im sure you have your own reasons for not wanting to meet someone that might seem trivial to them! for me, masses of emoticons appears very teenage, childish, so yes, that would put me off, the same way grown men describing themselves as 'lads', or 'boys' puts me off...and i've got a raft of even more 'trivial' reasons for not wanting to meet someone.." ok fair enough I don't deny the emojees have pulled a couple of chains but I use them solely to find my messages in threads | |||
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"...people get so personal someone yesterday can't remember who now but he got very personal in a thread and probably got banned from forums for it
Nope, I'm still here *nonexistent waving hand emoji*hi oh well glad you didn't get banned "And you appear to have taken heed of part of what I said. | |||
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"i dont think you can learn a huge amount from text and messages, but i certainly think i can learn all i need to. if something seems trivial to you, im sure you have your own reasons for not wanting to meet someone that might seem trivial to them! for me, masses of emoticons appears very teenage, childish, so yes, that would put me off, the same way grown men describing themselves as 'lads', or 'boys' puts me off...and i've got a raft of even more 'trivial' reasons for not wanting to meet someone.. ok fair enough I don't deny the emojees have pulled a couple of chains but I use them solely to find my messages in threads "My own posts are highlighted blue both on laptop and phone. I thought everyone's were like this? | |||
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" but the reason Is trivial and lazy in my opinion hence the thread ,don't allow things to bother you explore yourself ,ask yourself, make an effort ,positive energy to see hope rather than negative energy to see trivia and don't hit us with the I havnt got time thing ,you've got time to be in forums
But it is valid for the person knocking you back.
So what you are saying is, if first second or third impressions make you think to yourself " I wouldn't want to meet that person as he/ she does something that annoys me " you still expect them to waste their time meeting you in real life when they could be meeting the people who you are liking from the outset? I am not sure anyone would have enough hours in the day to meet every person who asked them.
I can't understand why you can't accept that some people won't like what you write and that will influence how they pick whether to meet you or not and concentrate on the people who may want to meet you.
It's the same as when some people complain that no one will give them a chance due to them saying 'they aren't their type' looks wise but they are sure if they met they would change their minds
Most people on here haven't got time for endless socials and meets on the off chance that they might be wrong about someone wether it looks or personality. So we just go by what we see/read. I haven't been wrong so far. There's been people I've felt like we should meet and have and it's been great. And a few that I think are twits and have met at parties etc and I still think they are twits now "but any you met you thought were twits that you thought were ok or can that not be an admission ? | |||
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"You can text and message someone for ages but do you actually know their personality or their humour from this medium I think not "I think you can get a fair idea of a persons personality via texting and sending messages... obviously some people are better at it than others, and there are often crossed wires but in general it works for me...I can tell more or less straightaway if its going to work or not | |||
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"You can text and message someone for ages but do you actually know their personality or their humour from this medium I think not
I think you can get a fair idea of a persons personality via texting and sending messages...
obviously some people are better at it than others, and there are often crossed wires but in general it works for me...I can tell more or less straightaway if its going to work or not"hey I understand what you're saying but struggle to believe it ,I always feel ,know I come across better in person obviously physical appeal comes into it to and what one woman likes another doesn't | |||
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" You can tell what sort of image they wish to portray,which indicates their values and taste to some degree. ." Yup - it totally depends how machiavellian they are being. If someone is being open and honest a large part of the personality will come across, the best of it anyway - everyone will try to play their flaws. If they are unskilled they will usually shoot themselves in the foot sooner rather than later. But some skillful people can totally deceive, and it is relatively easy to do behind a keyboard.  | |||
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"You can text and message someone for ages but do you actually know their personality or their humour from this medium I think not
I think you can get a fair idea of a persons personality via texting and sending messages...
obviously some people are better at it than others, and there are often crossed wires but in general it works for me...I can tell more or less straightaway if its going to work or not hey I understand what you're saying but struggle to believe it ,I always feel ,know I come across better in person "It is true for a lot of us, otherwise we wouldnt have met the people we all have. If you don't connect when chatting, you just don't connect. If we think we connect then thats where we would take a chance and meet up. It may work out, it may not, but at least you know initially you like the sound of them. At the very beginning when we were finding our feet we chatted to one man and I said I really don't think he will be what we wanted by the way I had to drag conversation out of him but the MR thought it was worth a shot, so we met him and as much as he was a lovely man, we still had to drag the conversation out of him which didnt suit us. From then on we only met people who we connected with in chatting . If you say you think you come across better in real life, have you tried the socials? I still think, you still won't be to everyones taste in socials, just like on the site and it is something you need to accept rather than keep pushing people to answer mails/ meet you just because you want them to | |||
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"I disagree , anyone can put on a good show thru messaging" I think the forums and fab in general prove otherwise | |||
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"You can text and message someone for ages but do you actually know their personality or their humour from this medium I think not
I think you can get a fair idea of a persons personality via texting and sending messages...
obviously some people are better at it than others, and there are often crossed wires but in general it works for me...I can tell more or less straightaway if its going to work or not hey I understand what you're saying but struggle to believe it ,I always feel ,know I come across better in person
It is true for a lot of us, otherwise we wouldnt have met the people we all have. If you don't connect when chatting, you just don't connect. If we think we connect then thats where we would take a chance and meet up. It may work out, it may not, but at least you know initially you like the sound of them.
At the very beginning when we were finding our feet we chatted to one man and I said I really don't think he will be what we wanted by the way I had to drag conversation out of him but the MR thought it was worth a shot, so we met him and as much as he was a lovely man, we still had to drag the conversation out of him which didnt suit us. From then on we only met people who we connected with in chatting .
If you say you think you come across better in real life, have you tried the socials?
I still think, you still won't be to everyones taste in socials, just like on the site and it is something you need to accept rather than keep pushing people to answer mails/ meet you just because you want them to "the content of this thread isn't about me I get enough meets and can talk the hind legs off a donkey and am very good company, as many as get annoyed with my humour love it so I won't be changing just yet ,I realise as a mod I have to tiptoe around you though but do think your avatar looks very sexy | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet." well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious | |||
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"As for the overuse of emoji - if someone is insensitive to the irritation they cause others online, are they a good candidate for someone who is looking for a meet with sensitivity?" hehe hey how's finding a date coming on or you resigned to clubbing now | |||
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" but the reason Is trivial and lazy in my opinion hence the thread ,don't allow things to bother you explore yourself ,ask yourself, make an effort ,positive energy to see hope rather than negative energy to see trivia and don't hit us with the I havnt got time thing ,you've got time to be in forums
But it is valid for the person knocking you back.
So what you are saying is, if first second or third impressions make you think to yourself " I wouldn't want to meet that person as he/ she does something that annoys me " you still expect them to waste their time meeting you in real life when they could be meeting the people who you are liking from the outset? I am not sure anyone would have enough hours in the day to meet every person who asked them.
I can't understand why you can't accept that some people won't like what you write and that will influence how they pick whether to meet you or not and concentrate on the people who may want to meet you.
It's the same as when some people complain that no one will give them a chance due to them saying 'they aren't their type' looks wise but they are sure if they met they would change their minds
Most people on here haven't got time for endless socials and meets on the off chance that they might be wrong about someone wether it looks or personality. So we just go by what we see/read. I haven't been wrong so far. There's been people I've felt like we should meet and have and it's been great. And a few that I think are twits and have met at parties etc and I still think they are twits now but any you met you thought were twits that you thought were ok or can that not be an admission ? "Nope. My impressions of everyone has been spot on | |||
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"You can text and message someone for ages but do you actually know their personality or their humour from this medium I think not ". No not at all. | |||
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"I disagree , anyone can put on a good show thru messaging I think the forums and fab in general prove otherwise " | |||
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"You can text and message someone for ages but do you actually know their personality or their humour from this medium I think not "Depends on the quality of the messages.If it's just a lip service "How are you doing" then you won't get much of a feel for a person.I only give as much of my personality in messages to people that I feel I want to.Just because people message and reply doesn't mean that they allow that person to know them.I have got to know people through messages but also have decided that I don't want to know them any further. | |||
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"As for the overuse of emoji - if someone is insensitive to the irritation they cause others online, are they a good candidate for someone who is looking for a meet with sensitivity?hehe hey how's finding a date coming on or you resigned to clubbing now "I never go to clubs, luckily I have enough regular meets that I have no need. | |||
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" the content of this thread isn't about me I get enough meets and can talk the hind legs off a donkey and am very good company, as many as get annoyed with my humour love it so I won't be changing just yet ,I realise as a mod I have to tiptoe around you " You say you dont think people should block you because you put too many smileys up and that people won't give you a chance as you are better in real life but the thread isn't about you? The "tip toeing round the mod" is a popular misconception and why I don't get involved in debates much as people either won't debate or goad the mod to stop joining in by saying the likes of "I mustn't answer them as they will ban me" which spoils it for me as I find that childish...tis a shame really as I like a good debate. | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious "I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them. Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? | |||
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"I disagree , anyone can put on a good show thru messaging I think the forums and fab in general prove otherwise chipperoo love New avatar bellissima "Cheers! | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you?"I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs | |||
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"For most people, you can get a good feel for their personality via messages and texts. If they're not capable of getting at least a bit of their sense of humour or personality across via written messages then, even if they're lovely in real life, I wouldn't be taking it any further to find out. I disagree , anyone can put on a good show thru messaging and whilst the keyboard warriors have google at hand , in person is much a better way to determine personality confidence and caractor Ok so how do you decide whether to meet someone?" I decide by there looks and there body , I don't care if a woman can spell read cook or make me laugh , it's all about fuking to me , fucking a woman good and hard and knowing Iv done a very good job | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious "Single people's time is precious too. Work,kids, real life friends. | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs "Hotels can be just as expensive for regular meets with the same person, surely? | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs "it doesn't have to be about sex, I'm just on about physically meeting them. So if 50 women messaged you a day to say they where interested in meeting you for coffee how would you manage to meet them all | |||
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"As for the overuse of emoji - if someone is insensitive to the irritation they cause others online, are they a good candidate for someone who is looking for a meet with sensitivity?hehe hey how's finding a date coming on or you resigned to clubbing now
I never go to clubs, luckily I have enough regular meets that I have no need."We are lucky that we have enough meets at a club so we don't have to meet any other way .... phew | |||
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"The "tip toeing round the mod" is a popular misconception and why I don't get involved in debates much as people either won't debate or goad the mod to stop joining in by saying the likes of "I mustn't answer them as they will ban me" which spoils it for me as I find that childish...tis a shame really as I like a good debate. "I'll argue/debate/discuss with you: why do some folk put after their own post? Surely it is up to A. N. Other to give it a as this indicates agreement. It's your post so obviously you agree with it. | |||
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" the content of this thread isn't about me I get enough meets and can talk the hind legs off a donkey and am very good company, as many as get annoyed with my humour love it so I won't be changing just yet ,I realise as a mod I have to tiptoe around you You say you dont think people should block you because you put too many smileys up and that people won't give you a chance as you are better in real life but the thread isn't about you? The "tip toeing round the mod" is a popular misconception and why I don't get involved in debates much as people either won't debate or goad the mod to stop joining in by saying the likes of "I mustn't answer them as they will ban me" which spoils it for me as I find that childish...tis a shame really as I like a good debate. "well of course people tiptoe around the mods you have the power to oust us from our daily addiction and although I mentioned the emojees if a person is irritated by that I think that's kind of sad really but hey I've seen people get abrasive in forums for many trivial reasons people like to push buttons and quite often succeed | |||
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"For most people, you can get a good feel for their personality via messages and texts. If they're not capable of getting at least a bit of their sense of humour or personality across via written messages then, even if they're lovely in real life, I wouldn't be taking it any further to find out. I disagree , anyone can put on a good show thru messaging and whilst the keyboard warriors have google at hand , in person is much a better way to determine personality confidence and caractor Ok so how do you decide whether to meet someone? I decide by there looks and there body , I don't care if a woman can spell read cook or make me laugh , it's all about fuking to me , fucking a woman good and hard and knowing Iv done a very good job "Haha, there, that's told em! | |||
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"As for the overuse of emoji - if someone is insensitive to the irritation they cause others online, are they a good candidate for someone who is looking for a meet with sensitivity?hehe hey how's finding a date coming on or you resigned to clubbing now
I never go to clubs, luckily I have enough regular meets that I have no need.
We are lucky that we have enough meets at a club so we don't have to meet any other way .... phew "Each to his own and all right with the world! | |||
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"I've been chatting to someone who seems great. Then a side of their personality, that I don't like, was revealed whilst texting." That's happened to me two or three times now and I've ended up cutting all ties with the people as I know they'd get on my nerves more so in person that they wrerebeginning to in texts. | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs it doesn't have to be about sex, I'm just on about physically meeting them.
So if 50 women messaged you a day to say they where interested in meeting you for coffee how would you manage to meet them all"guys don't get 50 messages a day my opinion comes from my experience ,meeting is the object so would try to meet anyone interested yes | |||
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"The "tip toeing round the mod" is a popular misconception and why I don't get involved in debates much as people either won't debate or goad the mod to stop joining in by saying the likes of "I mustn't answer them as they will ban me" which spoils it for me as I find that childish...tis a shame really as I like a good debate.
I'll argue/debate/discuss with you: why do some folk put after their own post? Surely it is up to A. N. Other to give it a as this indicates agreement. It's your post so obviously you agree with it."I don't like to use smileys much so that softens my post where a smiley would. I am not really thumbing my own post as great but I do agree with what I say so I suppose it is the right emoticon | |||
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"The "tip toeing round the mod" is a popular misconception and why I don't get involved in debates much as people either won't debate or goad the mod to stop joining in by saying the likes of "I mustn't answer them as they will ban me" which spoils it for me as I find that childish...tis a shame really as I like a good debate.
I'll argue/debate/discuss with you: why do some folk put after their own post? Surely it is up to A. N. Other to give it a as this indicates agreement. It's your post so obviously you agree with it.
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs it doesn't have to be about sex, I'm just on about physically meeting them.
So if 50 women messaged you a day to say they where interested in meeting you for coffee how would you manage to meet them all guys don't get 50 messages a day my opinion comes from my experience ,meeting is the object so would try to meet anyone interested yes "my point exactly, your a man complaining about the women not meeting every guy to give them a chance. So, if every guy whose messaged me today to show an interest I decide to meet, how would I do it? | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs
Hotels can be just as expensive for regular meets with the same person, surely?"look everything costs money and in your case you live near a club that costs £10 to get in its affordable for you and you can have fun in public I prefer as you know more of a connection ,we all do what we feel comfortable with I like meeting people every meet is a social event wether it goes any further or not but meeting is the only true way to judge a person | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs
Hotels can be just as expensive for regular meets with the same person, surely? look everything costs money and in your case you live near a club that costs £10 to get in its affordable for you and you can have fun in public I prefer as you know more of a connection ,we all do what we feel comfortable with I like meeting people every meet is a social event wether it goes any further or not but meeting is the only true way to judge a person "OK, so for arguments sake we all agree with you and say we will meet everyone that contacts us. How would we do it? | |||
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"i dont think you can learn a huge amount from text and messages, but i certainly think i can learn all i need to. if something seems trivial to you, im sure you have your own reasons for not wanting to meet someone that might seem trivial to them! for me, masses of emoticons appears very teenage, childish, so yes, that would put me off, the same way grown men describing themselves as 'lads', or 'boys' puts me off...and i've got a raft of even more 'trivial' reasons for not wanting to meet someone.. ok fair enough I don't deny the emojees have pulled a couple of chains but I use them solely to find my messages in threads
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs
Hotels can be just as expensive for regular meets with the same person, surely? look everything costs money and in your case you live near a club that costs £10 to get in its affordable for you and you can have fun in public I prefer as you know more of a connection ,we all do what we feel comfortable with I like meeting people every meet is a social event wether it goes any further or not but meeting is the only true way to judge a person OK, so for arguments sake we all agree with you and say we will meet everyone that contacts us. How would we do it?"how many guys that you have conversations with (not one or two word replies) that you fancy and fancy you are you involved with on here ?  | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs
Hotels can be just as expensive for regular meets with the same person, surely? look everything costs money and in your case you live near a club that costs £10 to get in its affordable for you and you can have fun in public I prefer as you know more of a connection ,we all do what we feel comfortable with I like meeting people every meet is a social event wether it goes any further or not but meeting is the only true way to judge a person OK, so for arguments sake we all agree with you and say we will meet everyone that contacts us. How would we do it? how many guys that you have conversations with (not one or two word replies) that you fancy and fancy you are you involved with on here ? "that is not what you said. If I'm chatting properly with someone with a view to meet unless it goes tits up I will meet them. I've already sussed out whether I like them or not to carry on chatting. Your on about meeting people to give them a chance because their personality doesn't come through. | |||
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"The "tip toeing round the mod" is a popular misconception and why I don't get involved in debates much as people either won't debate or goad the mod to stop joining in by saying the likes of "I mustn't answer them as they will ban me" which spoils it for me as I find that childish...tis a shame really as I like a good debate.
I'll argue/debate/discuss with you: why do some folk put after their own post? Surely it is up to A. N. Other to give it a as this indicates agreement. It's your post so obviously you agree with it.
I don't like to use smileys much so that softens my post where a smiley would. I am not really thumbing my own post as great but I do agree with what I say so I suppose it is the right emoticon
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs
Hotels can be just as expensive for regular meets with the same person, surely? look everything costs money and in your case you live near a club that costs £10 to get in its affordable for you and you can have fun in public I prefer as you know more of a connection ,we all do what we feel comfortable with I like meeting people every meet is a social event wether it goes any further or not but meeting is the only true way to judge a person OK, so for arguments sake we all agree with you and say we will meet everyone that contacts us. How would we do it? how many guys that you have conversations with (not one or two word replies) that you fancy and fancy you are you involved with on here ? that is not what you said. If I'm chatting properly with someone with a view to meet unless it goes tits up I will meet them. I've already sussed out whether I like them or not to carry on chatting. Your on about meeting people to give them a chance because their personality doesn't come through. "I think my original thread got lost in translation but its true to say some women not all block within one or two messages and in many cases if guy leads with sex justifiably so but you can't judge personality accurately in a text so my new point as this wasn't the original thread is women cut good guys off for very little reason ,you didn't answer when I asked how many guys do you have decent conversations with that fancy you and visa versa and that you've still to meet ? | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs
Hotels can be just as expensive for regular meets with the same person, surely? look everything costs money and in your case you live near a club that costs £10 to get in its affordable for you and you can have fun in public I prefer as you know more of a connection ,we all do what we feel comfortable with I like meeting people every meet is a social event wether it goes any further or not but meeting is the only true way to judge a person OK, so for arguments sake we all agree with you and say we will meet everyone that contacts us. How would we do it? how many guys that you have conversations with (not one or two word replies) that you fancy and fancy you are you involved with on here ? that is not what you said. If I'm chatting properly with someone with a view to meet unless it goes tits up I will meet them. I've already sussed out whether I like them or not to carry on chatting. Your on about meeting people to give them a chance because their personality doesn't come through. I think my original thread got lost in translation but its true to say some women not all block within one or two messages and in many cases if guy leads with sex justifiably so but you can't judge personality accurately in a text so my new point as this wasn't the original thread is women cut good guys off for very little reason ,you didn't answer when I asked how many guys do you have decent conversations with that fancy you and visa versa and that you've still to meet ? "answer my question to your original question or have you now changed the subject because there is no answer | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs
Hotels can be just as expensive for regular meets with the same person, surely? look everything costs money and in your case you live near a club that costs £10 to get in its affordable for you and you can have fun in public I prefer as you know more of a connection ,we all do what we feel comfortable with I like meeting people every meet is a social event wether it goes any further or not but meeting is the only true way to judge a person OK, so for arguments sake we all agree with you and say we will meet everyone that contacts us. How would we do it? how many guys that you have conversations with (not one or two word replies) that you fancy and fancy you are you involved with on here ? that is not what you said. If I'm chatting properly with someone with a view to meet unless it goes tits up I will meet them. I've already sussed out whether I like them or not to carry on chatting. Your on about meeting people to give them a chance because their personality doesn't come through. I think my original thread got lost in translation but its true to say some women not all block within one or two messages and in many cases if guy leads with sex justifiably so but you can't judge personality accurately in a text so my new point as this wasn't the original thread is women cut good guys off for very little reason ,you didn't answer when I asked how many guys do you have decent conversations with that fancy you and visa versa and that you've still to meet ? "it didn't get lost in translation at all well not by me or the other people that have posted. | |||
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I don't get wound-up over stuff on tinternet. And I always read your stuff. You're rather wise, considering "Considering I use a big pink thumb a lot? | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs
Hotels can be just as expensive for regular meets with the same person, surely? look everything costs money and in your case you live near a club that costs £10 to get in its affordable for you and you can have fun in public I prefer as you know more of a connection ,we all do what we feel comfortable with I like meeting people every meet is a social event wether it goes any further or not but meeting is the only true way to judge a person OK, so for arguments sake we all agree with you and say we will meet everyone that contacts us. How would we do it? how many guys that you have conversations with (not one or two word replies) that you fancy and fancy you are you involved with on here ? that is not what you said. If I'm chatting properly with someone with a view to meet unless it goes tits up I will meet them. I've already sussed out whether I like them or not to carry on chatting. Your on about meeting people to give them a chance because their personality doesn't come through. I think my original thread got lost in translation but its true to say some women not all block within one or two messages and in many cases if guy leads with sex justifiably so but you can't judge personality accurately in a text so my new point as this wasn't the original thread is women cut good guys off for very little reason ,you didn't answer when I asked how many guys do you have decent conversations with that fancy you and visa versa and that you've still to meet ? it didn't get lost in translation at all well not by me or the other people that have posted."of course it did the original thread was about not being able to tell a person's personality from text messages ,you've tried to make it about me hehe but hey if you don't want to answer the question I asked you that's fine | |||
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"I have never been wrong with the people i have met i have been able to tell what sort of person they are through messaging. If i can't work someone out via messaging then i simply won't be meeting them. I don't have much time to meet so i need to be sure before meeting. I really don't care that i could be missing out on some really great guys using this approach as i don't struggle to find suitable people to meet. well you are a sexy married lady so time is precious I have quite a lot of free time probably more than a lot. But how on earth is someone expected to meet every single person that shows an interest in them.
Are you honestly saying you meet everyone that messages you? You like every single person that messages you? Your attracted to every single person that messages you? I don't dislike anyone and don't meet everyone I chat to but would if they wanted to its not all about sex for me ,people say meet at a club for a social but not bothered about the club thing really too expensive and as a result not something any guy can do regularly and I'm not interested in one offs
Hotels can be just as expensive for regular meets with the same person, surely? look everything costs money and in your case you live near a club that costs £10 to get in its affordable for you and you can have fun in public I prefer as you know more of a connection ,we all do what we feel comfortable with I like meeting people every meet is a social event wether it goes any further or not but meeting is the only true way to judge a person OK, so for arguments sake we all agree with you and say we will meet everyone that contacts us. How would we do it? how many guys that you have conversations with (not one or two word replies) that you fancy and fancy you are you involved with on here ? that is not what you said. If I'm chatting properly with someone with a view to meet unless it goes tits up I will meet them. I've already sussed out whether I like them or not to carry on chatting. Your on about meeting people to give them a chance because their personality doesn't come through. I think my original thread got lost in translation but its true to say some women not all block within one or two messages and in many cases if guy leads with sex justifiably so but you can't judge personality accurately in a text so my new point as this wasn't the original thread is women cut good guys off for very little reason ,you didn't answer when I asked how many guys do you have decent conversations with that fancy you and visa versa and that you've still to meet ? it didn't get lost in translation at all well not by me or the other people that have posted.of course it did the original thread was about not being able to tell a person's personality from text messages ,you've tried to make it about me hehe but hey if you don't want to answer the question I asked you that's fine "I think you made it about you, I also know there is no solution to what you want. And to answer your question, if I fancy someone and they fancy me and we get to know each other unless they live the other side of the country why wouldn't you meet them. Well that and finding the same suitable time | |||
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"You can text and message someone for ages but do you actually know their personality or their humour from this medium I think not "It's not a dating site. I know from messages if I want to shag them or not. I don't need to know their personality or life story. | |||
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"You can text and message someone for ages but do you actually know their personality or their humour from this medium I think not
It's not a dating site. I know from messages if I want to shag them or not. I don't need to know their personality or life story. "true its not a dating site but weirdly enough many are here looking for partners and find them | |||
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"I think I can gauge what I need to know about someone from texting / whatsapp, more than I can from day random chit chat on here." random chit chat in forums you mean x | |||
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"I'm all for fairness and I have to say the OP is a decent guy in person "Decent enough to shag? | |||
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"I'm all for fairness and I have to say the OP is a decent guy in person "Never met him but he does come across as a decent guy. In spite of sometimes his comments.
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"I think you can tell a lot about a person from what they post in the forums "vara you thumbs up traitor explain yourself woman or are you on bus already x    | |||
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"I think you can get an idea "i'm a pedantic little so and so in message and person | |||
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"I think you can get an idea i'm a pedantic little so and so in message and person "guys can't read anyway we just look at pics | |||
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"I was txting and speaking on the phone to a fabber regular, we got on great, had some laughs. When we actually met it was a disaster, didn't click at all sexually, and all I wanted to do was go home, which I did. So my opinion is no you can't tell always till you meet someone as sometimes they are not what they seem behind a phone or keyboard. " their ya go vilified at last by a little pocket perv threads closed now  | |||
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