FabSwingers.com forum: "play"

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sometimes people on here use the word 'play' when they're talking about sexual stuff. They call it 'play'.

Am I alone in thinking that doesn't sound right? Kids play. Whenever someone says 'play' in a sexual context it makes them sound like a kid and it has a turn off reaction for me..

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Sometimes people on here use the word 'play' when they're talking about sexual stuff. They call it 'play'.

Am I alone in thinking that doesn't sound right? Kids play. Whenever someone says 'play' in a sexual context it makes them sound like a kid and it has a turn off reaction for me..

I think it sounds just fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think it sounds just fine. "

Just sounds too much like a child to me..

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Its vomit inducing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes people on here use the word 'play' when they're talking about sexual stuff. They call it 'play'.

Am I alone in thinking that doesn't sound right? Kids play. Whenever someone says 'play' in a sexual context it makes them sound like a kid and it has a turn off reaction for me..

Ive never thought of it like that.Maybe you are thinking too much.?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its vomit inducing.

Lol not just me then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ive never thought of it like that.Maybe you are thinking too much.?

I didn't have to put too much thought into the OP...I'm just a bit bored and passing time : )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought this was gonna be a Moby thread...

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I think it sounds just fine.

Just sounds too much like a child to me.."

There's 30 big blokes playing rugby right now. I don't see it as a childish word.

I like playing

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Thought this was gonna be a Moby thread...

xx"

I thought he'd finally gone away....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think it sounds just fine.

Just sounds too much like a child to me..

There's 30 big blokes playing rugby right now. I don't see it as a childish word.

I like playing "

Rugby isn't sex though. I'm talking specifically when someone say it in relation to sexual stuff.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"There's 30 big blokes playing rugby right now. I don't see it as a childish word.

I like playing "

^ This.

"Play" is used in all kinds of contexts. We "play" musical instruments.

It's like if you complained that it's weird cos it's too musical.

Kids also "scrap". But no one complains that "scrap paper" is too childish.

The English language is a versatile and diverse thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thought this was gonna be a Moby thread...

xx"

Here you go

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JW4AKNjQ1FI

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's 30 big blokes playing rugby right now. I don't see it as a childish word.

I like playing

^ This.

"Play" is used in all kinds of contexts. We "play" musical instruments.

It's like if you complained that it's weird cos it's too musical.

Kids also "scrap". But no one complains that "scrap paper" is too childish.

The English language is a versatile and diverse thing. "

Yeh kids play instruments.

I'm talking purely sexual context though. Kids don't do that...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Play, to me, describes more than just straight sex. I tend to do a lot of fetish 'play'. Sometimes it includes penetrative sex, sometimes not. It varies.

So yes, I see it as play.

Children play, certainly, but adults also play.

In fact I'm watching grown men chasing a funny shaped ball, playing, at the moment. Nobody would mistake them for children. At least not on the field, in the bar afterwards might be a different matter entirely.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"There's 30 big blokes playing rugby right now. I don't see it as a childish word.

I like playing

^ This.

"Play" is used in all kinds of contexts. We "play" musical instruments.

It's like if you complained that it's weird cos it's too musical.

Kids also "scrap". But no one complains that "scrap paper" is too childish.

The English language is a versatile and diverse thing.

Yeh kids play instruments.

I'm talking purely sexual context though. Kids don't do that..."

You're right.

But when kids play, they're not playing rugby either.

What's your point?

It's like if you said "Oooh, guys, y'know, I don't like that we say "sexy knickers", cos, y'know, kids wear knickers too... "

Lol

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I have 2 kind of meets. Play or social, simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i dont think of kids or id never use the word x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it...... Adult games ..... X

It's not child's play as we are all adults ....that is already established.

What is meant by the word "play"

Fun jest sport - provides amusement ... Arouses laughter and sex can certainly do that !!!

When someone says play an instrument do you think the same ??

Play a sport?

Play a game?

Sex is made up of Manoeuvers is it not?

To play is to be amorous .... it is used to flirt ......it is a dalliance ......it as a recreational activity AND there is the absence of serious intent by NSA ....

I understand your connotation of the word yet it is out of context within the environment as we are adults.

Even using the words "role play"

Can make sex easier or more fun for some ....

It's how we understand the meaning of the word and the environment ....

I LIVE AND LOVE TO PLAY XX

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Thought this was gonna be a Moby thread...

Here you go

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JW4AKNjQ1FI"

Try this one

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LDHMjO7UbMo

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Thought this was gonna be a Moby thread...

xx"

That's a great album

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's 30 big blokes playing rugby right now. I don't see it as a childish word.

I like playing

^ This.

"Play" is used in all kinds of contexts. We "play" musical instruments.

It's like if you complained that it's weird cos it's too musical.

Kids also "scrap". But no one complains that "scrap paper" is too childish.

The English language is a versatile and diverse thing. "

I'm in agreement with both comments here

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Dirty sex play" doesn't sound too childish for me

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Durex have a range called Play.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I use the word play when talking about sex.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some people keep bringing up 'playing' sports. We're not talking sports we're talking sexual things that kids don't do.

To the guy who mentioned rugby and not seeing kids play rugby. They played rugby when I was at school. Again rugby isn't a sexual activity it's a sport.

It's not something I'll lose sleep over lol I just think it sound too child-like to be attractive for me.

Each to their own though : )

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Some people keep bringing up 'playing' sports. We're not talking sports we're talking sexual things that kids don't do.

To the guy who mentioned rugby and not seeing kids play rugby. They played rugby when I was at school. Again rugby isn't a sexual activity it's a sport.

It's not something I'll lose sleep over lol I just think it sound too child-like to be attractive for me.

Each to their own though : )"

I concur.

You can try and explain its use with the (mildly patronising) etymology of the verb "to play", but it still makes me want to mouthpuke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use the word play when talking about sex.......

I'm guilty of this too..

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Some people keep bringing up 'playing' sports. We're not talking sports we're talking sexual things that kids don't do.

To the guy who mentioned rugby and not seeing kids play rugby. They played rugby when I was at school. Again rugby isn't a sexual activity it's a sport.

It's not something I'll lose sleep over lol I just think it sound too child-like to be attractive for me.

Each to their own though : )"

But you saying it's "childlike" shows you're only focusing on one aspect of its meaning. Why that particular meaning?

And why do you not also think that getting "dirty" when meaning sex is problematic, when kids get dirty too?

It seems you're picking one word, and choosing to focus on one contextual meaning, for no specific reason.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Some people keep bringing up 'playing' sports. We're not talking sports we're talking sexual things that kids don't do.

To the guy who mentioned rugby and not seeing kids play rugby. They played rugby when I was at school. Again rugby isn't a sexual activity it's a sport.

It's not something I'll lose sleep over lol I just think it sound too child-like to be attractive for me.

Each to their own though : )"

Then by your own theory, it's not childish because it's something children don't do.

If I say 'sex' that means something reasonably specific, which might not actually describe well what might happen.

Kinky play is a better description.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Kinky play is a better description."

Define "Kinky", or is that another thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But you saying it's "childlike" shows you're only focusing on one aspect of its meaning. Why that particular meaning?

And why do you not also think that getting "dirty" when meaning sex is problematic, when kids get dirty too?

It seems you're picking one word, and choosing to focus on one contextual meaning, for no specific reason. "

I didn't pick the word or the context. The word within and context picked me

It might be because I've not seen it used that way anywhere else except on here and another fetish social site so it stands out more. 'Dirty' I had heard of plenty of times in a sexual context so doesn't bother me.

Our brains do what they do and mine just reacts in an 'ughh' way when I see it lol

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

We use it, we have social meets and play meets. If people are that bothered by a word then perhaps they're not people we want to play with!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Then by your own theory, it's not childish because it's something children don't do.

Yeh that's the point. Play makes it sound childish to me when it's not a child activity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it sounds just fine.

Just sounds too much like a child to me..

There's 30 big blokes playing rugby right now. I don't see it as a childish word.

I like playing

Rugby isn't sex though. I'm talking specifically when someone say it in relation to sexual stuff."

We say " do you fancy going to play " as that's what we are doing ...

Same as using the term play partners for some etc. It works fine for us

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"It might be because I've not seen it used that way anywhere else except on here and another fetish social site so it stands out more. 'Dirty' I had heard of plenty of times in a sexual context so doesn't bother me.

Our brains do what they do and mine just reacts in an 'ughh' way when I see it lol "

I think it may be just a few people, you included, who dislike the word..... whereas most of us can accept that the context of the sentence determines if it age appropriate. If you don't like it don't play with people who use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never stopped playing. I just grew up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" If people are that bothered by a word then perhaps they're not people we want to play with! "

Doesn't bother me that much like I said earlier in the thread. You seem to take it more serious than I do.

If you don't want to meet me because I don't like the word play in a sexual context then I'm ok with that.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Then by your own theory, it's not childish because it's something children don't do.

Yeh that's the point. Play makes it sound childish to me when it's not a child activity"

It's your head that is doing that to you not the actual word......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's your head that is doing that to you not the actual word......"

Agreed

: )

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

" If people are that bothered by a word then perhaps they're not people we want to play with!

Doesn't bother me that much like I said earlier in the thread. You seem to take it more serious than I do.

If you don't want to meet me because I don't like the word play in a sexual context then I'm ok with that.

But it's bothered you enough to start a thread about a word that people use? Ooooookkay

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Then by your own theory, it's not childish because it's something children don't do.

Yeh that's the point. Play makes it sound childish to me when it's not a child activity"

But when other uses of the word play have been mentioned, you've said you don't consider it childish when it's something children don't do.

By that reasoning, sexual play isn't childish because children don't do it.

Do you want to address my point that the word can be used to describe sexual sessions that aren't necessarily well described by the term "sex"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the context of fab "play" sounds very sexual to me not child like, it's better than be asked if I want to do sex

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Then by your own theory, it's not childish because it's something children don't do.

Yeh that's the point. Play makes it sound childish to me when it's not a child activity"

Ok OP, so if a fit babe off here mailed you and said she wanted you watch while she played with herself, before having some fun, you would turn her down on grounds of childishness

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But it's bothered you enough to start a thread about a word that people use? Ooooookkay

I said earlier in the thread I was a bit bored and passing time.

I didn't say I wouldn't meet someone who says play in a sexual way.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

But it's bothered you enough to start a thread about a word that people use? Ooooookkay

I said earlier in the thread I was a bit bored and passing time.

I didn't say I wouldn't meet someone who says play in a sexual way. "

Seriously, it's just a word. I hate the word cunt but I just ignore it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Then by your own theory, it's not childish because it's something children don't do.

Yeh that's the point. Play makes it sound childish to me when it's not a child activity

Ok OP, so if a fit babe off here mailed you and said she wanted you watch while she played with herself, before having some fun, you would turn her down on grounds of childishness

Nope. It's not something that bothers me too much. That sounds different when someone says 'playing with myself'. That doesn't effect me.

I think it's a sub-conscious association thing and the fact I hadn't heard it before using this site and the other one which is quite recent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definition of play - engage in activity for enjoyment and recreation rather than a serious or practical purpose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it sounds just fine.

Just sounds too much like a child to me.."

I'm. With you on this hate it

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Kinky play is a better description.

Define "Kinky", or is that another thread

I'm here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But it's bothered you enough to start a thread about a word that people use? Ooooookkay

I said earlier in the thread I was a bit bored and passing time.

I didn't say I wouldn't meet someone who says play in a sexual way.

Seriously, it's just a word. I hate the word cunt but I just ignore it "

Yeh I know it's just a word. It's really not that serious. Like I said earlier in the thread, I won't lose sleep over it.

I also don't like the word cunt.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Anyone fancy coming to see a play tonight, I have tickets for Romeo & Juliet

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

I watched Leicester City play Manchester City at football earlier, 3 - 1 to the Foxes.

Earlier in the year I watched the Darts at the Lakeside and the announcer said before every match "Let's play Darts!"

I watched a band play musical instruments to make a song.

All of the above involved fully grown adults playing.

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By *ylonesqueMan
over a year ago

Near Aberystwyth

When I was little, I used to 'play' Doctors & Nurses. That was sexual.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"Seriously, it's just a word. I hate the word cunt but I just ignore it "

It's getting silly now what on earth is wrong with the word cunt?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think swingers know 'play' means 'sex' and not marbles or Xbox

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I watched Leicester City play Manchester City at football earlier, 3 - 1 to the Foxes.

Earlier in the year I watched the Darts at the Lakeside and the announcer said before every match "Let's play Darts!"

I watched a band play musical instruments to make a song.

All of the above involved fully grown adults playing. "

Yeh this is a sexual based thread. Not sports or non-sexual stuff.

If you read the thread I'm talking within a sexual context only.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Also, OP, you say in your profile that you're looking for "a gal". An alternate spelling of the word "girl". Which is a young, pre-adult woman.

And your issue is the word "play"?! Lol

Maybe stop infantising women first?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I think swingers know 'play' means 'sex' and not marbles or Xbox "

Can you play marbles with your feet

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Seriously, it's just a word. I hate the word cunt but I just ignore it

It's getting silly now what on earth is wrong with the word cunt?

I think it sounds quite a hard word, and rather tasteless. Just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Seriously, it's just a word. I hate the word cunt but I just ignore it

It's getting silly now what on earth is wrong with the word cunt?

In a sexual context it sounds disgusting. Vaginas are soft and sexy. Cunt doesn't sound soft or sexy. May as well start calling vaginas Gravel or Grit. It sounds to hard and harsh for a sexual name for a womans pussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes cos they think it is more of a upper class term, instead of using I wanna fuck tonight lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also, OP, you say in your profile that you're looking for "a gal". An alternate spelling of the word "girl". Which is a young, pre-adult woman.

And your issue is the word "play"?! Lol

Maybe stop infantising women first? "

It's all within context. Gal was meant to be light hearted. I'd change it to woman but it won't lead to umpteen messages so it's no big deal.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I think swingers know 'play' means 'sex' and not marbles or Xbox

Can you play marbles with your feet

No, but I bet I could wank a cock with them.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Seriously, it's just a word. I hate the word cunt but I just ignore it

It's getting silly now what on earth is wrong with the word cunt?

I think it sounds quite a hard word, and rather tasteless. Just my opinion

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far from tasteless

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"Seriously, it's just a word. I hate the word cunt but I just ignore it

It's getting silly now what on earth is wrong with the word cunt?

I like it....makes me juicy. I heartily dislike the word marshmallow though so I think we should ban it - and kids eat them too so its doubly wrong

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

What does it say in your dictionary OP

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By *tretchygirl and tintinWoman
over a year ago

Dartford

OP. Does your aversion to the word play being used in a sexual context include masturbation? For example, if a woman said to you 'I want to play with my pussy while you watch me and talk dirty in my ear' turn you off?

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Also, OP, you say in your profile that you're looking for "a gal". An alternate spelling of the word "girl". Which is a young, pre-adult woman.

And your issue is the word "play"?! Lol

Maybe stop infantising women first?

It's all within context. Gal was meant to be light hearted. I'd change it to woman but it won't lead to umpteen messages so it's no big deal. "

Oh I see! So it's OK when you get to decide what words mean! Got it!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Seriously, it's just a word. I hate the word cunt but I just ignore it

It's getting silly now what on earth is wrong with the word cunt?

I think it sounds quite a hard word, and rather tasteless. Just my opinion

far from tasteless

Haha!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also, OP, you say in your profile that you're looking for "a gal". An alternate spelling of the word "girl". Which is a young, pre-adult woman.

And your issue is the word "play"?! Lol

Maybe stop infantising women first?

It's all within context. Gal was meant to be light hearted. I'd change it to woman but it won't lead to umpteen messages so it's no big deal.

Oh I see! So it's OK when you get to decide what words mean! Got it! "

You've lost me there...Lots of people use the word girl to talk about women. I don't use it much tbh, I usually say woman or women or ladies etc...I took a walk on the wild side with my profile header thing.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I think swingers know 'play' means 'sex' and not marbles or Xbox

Can you play marbles with your feet

No, but I bet I could wank a cock with them. "

Now that's a bit straight to the point Steve, can't we at least "play" footsie under the table first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP. Does your aversion to the word play being used in a sexual context include masturbation? For example, if a woman said to you 'I want to play with my pussy while you watch me and talk dirty in my ear' turn you off?"

No that wouldn't turn me off because I've heard that before. It's probably just because it's not something I've heard much in a sexual context. It must be a fetish scene thing..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I think swingers know 'play' means 'sex' and not marbles or Xbox

Can you play marbles with your feet

No, but I bet I could wank a cock with them.

Now that's a bit straight to the point Steve, can't we at least "play" footsie under the table first

Nah - get ya kit off.

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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago

STOKE-ON-TRENT

So if you don't like the word play in this context what would you suggest indtead ?

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"Lots of people use the word girl to talk about women. I don't use it much tbh, I usually say woman or women or ladies etc...I took a walk on the wild side with my profile header thing. "

So girl is okay to use but play isn't? Sounds reasonable

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I think swingers know 'play' means 'sex' and not marbles or Xbox

Can you play marbles with your feet

No, but I bet I could wank a cock with them.

Now that's a bit straight to the point Steve, can't we at least "play" footsie under the table first

Nah - get ya kit off. "

Crikey, you know how to "play" with my emotions, ya told me to fuck off 3 years ago

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over a year ago

"Lots of people use the word girl to talk about women. I don't use it much tbh, I usually say woman or women or ladies etc...I took a walk on the wild side with my profile header thing.

So girl is okay to use but play isn't? Sounds reasonable

I didn't say play wasn't ok to use. Just that it sounds child-like to me.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Lots of people use the word girl to talk about women. I don't use it much tbh, I usually say woman or women or ladies etc...I took a walk on the wild side with my profile header thing.

So girl is okay to use but play isn't? Sounds reasonable

I didn't say play wasn't ok to use. Just that it sounds child-like to me. "

Whereas girl actually does refer to a female child but is not child-like?

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over a year ago

"Lots of people use the word girl to talk about women. I don't use it much tbh, I usually say woman or women or ladies etc...I took a walk on the wild side with my profile header thing.

So girl is okay to use but play isn't? Sounds reasonable

I didn't say play wasn't ok to use. Just that it sounds child-like to me. "

That seems like a strange reaction to me but if it does not gel with you, fine.

"Play" to me just sounds like a bit of fun sex.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I think swingers know 'play' means 'sex' and not marbles or Xbox

Can you play marbles with your feet

No, but I bet I could wank a cock with them.

Now that's a bit straight to the point Steve, can't we at least "play" footsie under the table first

Nah - get ya kit off.

Crikey, you know how to "play" with my emotions, ya told me to fuck off 3 years ago

I was straight then.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Lots of people use the word girl to talk about women. I don't use it much tbh, I usually say woman or women or ladies etc...I took a walk on the wild side with my profile header thing.

So girl is okay to use but play isn't? Sounds reasonable

I didn't say play wasn't ok to use. Just that it sounds child-like to me.

Whereas girl actually does refer to a female child but is not child-like?"

"girl" has much fewer non-child-like meanings than "play". But you decide to hone in on the one contextual definition of "play" as being childlike, but "girl" doesn't strike you as problematically childlike.

Makes sense.

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over a year ago

"Lots of people use the word girl to talk about women. I don't use it much tbh, I usually say woman or women or ladies etc...I took a walk on the wild side with my profile header thing.

So girl is okay to use but play isn't? Sounds reasonable

I didn't say play wasn't ok to use. Just that it sounds child-like to me.

Whereas girl actually does refer to a female child but is not child-like?"

I don't use girl often and I used Gal not girl. Again it's within context.

Using play in a sexual context is completely fine but not something I find attractive.

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over a year ago

Must be awful for you in a theatre

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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I think this has gone slightly off track, some will consider girls (gals) to be immature as opposed to ladies, women, or females for instance, boys as opposed to lads, men, gents?

Who knows, it matters little to me as long as I'm not classified as a wooly wooftah

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over a year ago

"Lots of people use the word girl to talk about women. I don't use it much tbh, I usually say woman or women or ladies etc...I took a walk on the wild side with my profile header thing.

So girl is okay to use but play isn't? Sounds reasonable

I didn't say play wasn't ok to use. Just that it sounds child-like to me.

Whereas girl actually does refer to a female child but is not child-like?

Makes sense. "

I never said it made sense.

Again though, I don't use girl. I say woman, women or ladies etc...

Also I didn't use 'girl' in my profile header. I used Gal.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Lots of people use the word girl to talk about women. I don't use it much tbh, I usually say woman or women or ladies etc...I took a walk on the wild side with my profile header thing.

So girl is okay to use but play isn't? Sounds reasonable

I didn't say play wasn't ok to use. Just that it sounds child-like to me.

Whereas girl actually does refer to a female child but is not child-like?

Makes sense.

I never said it made sense.

Again though, I don't use girl. I say woman, women or ladies etc...

Also I didn't use 'girl' in my profile header. I used Gal. "

Gal comes from "girl". It has no other meaning.

And you say it in your profile text, actually.

And I love all the backpedaling that's going on here. It's gone from "not right" to "completely fine". Lol!!

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

It's your head that is doing that to you not the actual word......

Agreed

: )"

Play is quite common with kink. I always use play but then try to modify it when on swinging scene.

Got no issue with the word and will quite often say 'Let's play' or 'Play with me please.' And that can mean anything from fet stuff to sex.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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"I think swingers know 'play' means 'sex' and not marbles or Xbox

Can you play marbles with your feet

No, but I bet I could wank a cock with them.

Now that's a bit straight to the point Steve, can't we at least "play" footsie under the table first

Nah - get ya kit off.

Crikey, you know how to "play" with my emotions, ya told me to fuck off 3 years ago

I was straight then.

Do I at least get some credit for making you bi playful, or does that go to Gentleman Ben

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over a year ago

"Lots of people use the word girl to talk about women. I don't use it much tbh, I usually say woman or women or ladies etc...I took a walk on the wild side with my profile header thing.

So girl is okay to use but play isn't? Sounds reasonable

I didn't say play wasn't ok to use. Just that it sounds child-like to me.

Whereas girl actually does refer to a female child but is not child-like?

Makes sense.

I never said it made sense.

Again though, I don't use girl. I say woman, women or ladies etc...

Also I didn't use 'girl' in my profile header. I used Gal.

Gal comes from "girl". It has no other meaning.

And you say it in your profile text, actually.

And I love all the backpedaling that's going on here. It's gone from "not right" to "completely fine". Lol!! "

No your misunderstanding. I said it doesn't sound right to me. I didn't say it's not ok to say.

Just like Gal is ok to say.

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over a year ago

"Lots of people use the word girl to talk about women. I don't use it much tbh, I usually say woman or women or ladies etc...I took a walk on the wild side with my profile header thing.

So girl is okay to use but play isn't? Sounds reasonable

I didn't say play wasn't ok to use. Just that it sounds child-like to me.

Whereas girl actually does refer to a female child but is not child-like?

Makes sense.

I never said it made sense.

Again though, I don't use girl. I say woman, women or ladies etc...

Also I didn't use 'girl' in my profile header. I used Gal.

Gal comes from "girl". It has no other meaning.

And you say it in your profile text, actually.

And I love all the backpedaling that's going on here. It's gone from "not right" to "completely fine". Lol!! "

I changed it to 'woman' for you if that makes you happier...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not a great deal of play in this argument

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It seems to me that the OP has an opinion on the word Play that is neither right or wrong. Just how it seems to him.

It doesn't have any bad conations with it for me. But there are words used on here that make me feel horrible.

It's not wrong, just how they affect me.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"No your misunderstanding. I said it doesn't sound right to me. I didn't say it's not ok to say.

Just like Gal is ok to say. "

Woah, let's not start with the accusations of misunderstanding. My understanding of the English language is perfectly fine thank you. Maybe it's time to take some responsibility for the words that you type.

The entirety of your efforts and attitude so far does not suggest you think it's OK to say. In fact, you've said it "doesn't sound right", that it's a "turn off", and the fact that you so persistently try to prove your point suggests that you do not think it's OK at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's when I go to "Who Looked At Me" that gets me. So many men's profiles stating "Looking 4 Cock Fun/Bum Fun".

Ah yes, the craze that's sweeping the nation.

"EXCUSE ME, SIR, I WAS WONDERING IF YOU HAVE A MOMENT TO TALK ABOUT BUM FUN!"

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I changed it to 'woman' for you if that makes you happier...

*shrug* I'm not the one having any problems with any words here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find people that jump on what is said, rather than what is meant, to be tedious.

Putting aside that the word 'play' means far more than child's play... what's wrong with adults playing grown up games anyway? Seems like the point of being here to me.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I'm surprised that no one has asked the OP for a substitute word for play used in this context?

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over a year ago

"No your misunderstanding. I said it doesn't sound right to me. I didn't say it's not ok to say.

Just like Gal is ok to say.

Speaking English mean nothing. If I say 'God' that can mean different things to different people. A lot of language is subject to interpretation. Just like your interpretation that I think it's not ok.

I do think it's ok. Just not to my taste.

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over a year ago

I changed it to 'woman' for you if that makes you happier...

*shrug* I'm not the one having any problems with any words here.

I think you are. You seem quite annoyed that I don't like the word play sexually and are quite persistent in trying to make me see otherwise.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I changed it to 'woman' for you if that makes you happier...

*shrug* I'm not the one having any problems with any words here.

I think you are. You seem quite annoyed that I don't like the word play sexually and are quite persistent in trying to make me see otherwise. "

Nah, mate. I'm just pointing out to you that you're being inconsistent. You can think what you want. Lol. Including inconsistent thoughts.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Speaking English mean nothing. If I say 'God' that can mean different things to different people. A lot of language is subject to interpretation. Just like your interpretation that I think it's not ok.

I do think it's ok. Just not to my taste. "

You've literally just proved the argument against your own perception of the word "play". Lol.

Well, I'm glad we got that sorted out. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would imagine alot of the usage of 'play' in this context comes from the BDSM scene where people often 'play' without sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I changed it to 'woman' for you if that makes you happier...

*shrug* I'm not the one having any problems with any words here.

I think you are. You seem quite annoyed that I don't like the word play sexually and are quite persistent in trying to make me see otherwise.

Nah, mate. I'm just pointing out to you that you're being inconsistent. You can think what you want. Lol. Including inconsistent thoughts.

Yeh.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Sometimes people on here use the word 'play' when they're talking about sexual stuff. They call it 'play'.

Am I alone in thinking that doesn't sound right? Kids play. "

It's looking that way, but it's not wrong that you do

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over a year ago

"Sometimes people on here use the word 'play' when they're talking about sexual stuff. They call it 'play'.

Am I alone in thinking that doesn't sound right? Kids play.

It's looking that way, but it's not wrong that you do

A couple of people agreed with me : )

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Well there you go then

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

"There's 30 big blokes playing rugby right now. I don't see it as a childish word.

I like playing

^ This.

"Play" is used in all kinds of contexts. We "play" musical instruments.

It's like if you complained that it's weird cos it's too musical.

Kids also "scrap". But no one complains that "scrap paper" is too childish.

The English language is a versatile and diverse thing.

Yeh kids play instruments.

I'm talking purely sexual context though. Kids don't do that..."

loads kids have sex, why do you think so many underage mothers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread strikes me as being a bit like when people say 'I don't like it when people shave because it reminds me of pre-pubescent children'.

It's you making the connection there - it's you that needs to consider the connections that you're making.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like the term play in relation to swinging. It describes swinging sex perfectly for me; play, just fooling, messing around, unimportant, the opposite of deep, meaningful, loving sex.

It's a widely used term in the swinging scene too, ie playrooms in clubs. It also sounds much more pleasant and easier to ask someone if they want to play, rather than say shall we go and have sex which sounds too blunt.

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

"Sometimes people on here use the word 'play' when they're talking about sexual stuff. They call it 'play'.

Am I alone in thinking that doesn't sound right? Kids play.

It's looking that way, but it's not wrong that you do

A couple of people agreed with me : )

I disagree

kids have sex to, lots underage kids have sex

on this site every is allegedly over 18, so when play is used it means adult play, that is context it is meant in.

Girl/gal to me is child like references

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no issues with the use of the word play. This means to me that everyone has enjoyed them selves fully or will enjoy them selves when its used in context. It's indication if fun between friends. But we all have a likes and dislikes at the end of the day.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I used it this afternoon and had similar thoughts to the op, except I thought of a few of us in a bouncy castle, or messing around.

Play is an established word for sex, so there's no issue and it's not connected to no adult. Relax.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm off to play some music..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes people on here use the word 'play' when they're talking about sexual stuff. They call it 'play'.

Am I alone in thinking that doesn't sound right? Kids play. Whenever someone says 'play' in a sexual context it makes them sound like a kid and it has a turn off reaction for me..

You may be over thinking it.

Adults play games. Using play as a term used to describe sexual activities is I think, a way to make distinction between making love and having fun with someone none romantically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm off to play some music.."

Not with some children, I hope. It's past their bedtime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm off to play some music..

Not with some children, I hope. It's past their bedtime."

Stop being so playful

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

"Sometimes people on here use the word 'play' when they're talking about sexual stuff. They call it 'play'.

Am I alone in thinking that doesn't sound right? Kids play. Whenever someone says 'play' in a sexual context it makes them sound like a kid and it has a turn off reaction for me..

A Finnish lady once said to me "sex is just adults playing".

I don't think I've ever heard anything more correct...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose some words do have a different perspective than others ...

I personally like the word " play"

To me it means they person I'm meeting

would like to explore my body and what switches me on, and would be happy for

me to explore them...

Personally I hate the word " shag" to me it means the guy want to stick his dick in me and rut on me until he has cum. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I hate the word " shag" to me it means the guy want to stick his dick in me and rut on me until he has cum. ..

That's exactly what I mean when I use that term

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Belfast

Informal unstructured recreational activities.. = play .

Nothing wrong with its use in that sense although.. I sort of see where you're coming from.

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over a year ago

"This thread strikes me as being a bit like when people say 'I don't like it when people shave because it reminds me of pre-pubescent children'.

It's you making the connection there - it's you that needs to consider the connections that you're making."

Absolutely

Anyone who seriously thinks of children when the word play comes up In the context of swinging needs to take a long hard look at themselves .

Absolutely ridiculous to associate the word in this context

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over a year ago

"Personally I hate the word " shag" to me it means the guy want to stick his dick in me and rut on me until he has cum. ..

That's exactly what I mean when I use that term

Shag = no effort on the man's part !!

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over a year ago

"Personally I hate the word " shag" to me it means the guy want to stick his dick in me and rut on me until he has cum. ..

That's exactly what I mean when I use that term

Shag = no effort on the man's part !!"

You've clearly been shagged by the wrong men

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This thread strikes me as being a bit like when people say 'I don't like it when people shave because it reminds me of pre-pubescent children'.

It's you making the connection there - it's you that needs to consider the connections that you're making.

Absolutely

Anyone who seriously thinks of children when the word play comes up In the context of swinging needs to take a long hard look at themselves .

Absolutely ridiculous to associate the word in this context

I should take a long hard look at myself because I think it sounds childish? This is a non-serious thread which I posted because I was bored and wanted to post a thread so thought I'd see what others think of the word play in a sexual context as I don't like it. Others do and that's cool because it's not important.

I have other important things to think about rather than having a long hard look at myself over something that isn't important at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm off to play some music.."

Wow...you sure showed me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes people on here use the word 'play' when they're talking about sexual stuff. They call it 'play'.

Am I alone in thinking that doesn't sound right? Kids play.

It's looking that way, but it's not wrong that you do

A couple of people agreed with me : )

I disagree

kids have sex to, lots underage kids have sex

on this site every is allegedly over 18, so when play is used it means adult play, that is context it is meant in.

Girl/gal to me is child like references"

Your username has girl in it...DirtyGirl...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread strikes me as being a bit like when people say 'I don't like it when people shave because it reminds me of pre-pubescent children'.

It's you making the connection there - it's you that needs to consider the connections that you're making.

Absolutely

Anyone who seriously thinks of children when the word play comes up In the context of swinging needs to take a long hard look at themselves .

Absolutely ridiculous to associate the word in this context

I have other important things to think about rather than having a long hard look at myself over something that isn't important at all.

Please yourself , but in the context of the lifestyle you will no doubt struggle when you hear people using the word play .

It's of no importance to me whether you take any notice or not .

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over a year ago

Please yourself , but in the context of the lifestyle you will no doubt struggle when you hear people using the word play .

It's of no importance to me whether you take any notice or not .

I don't know what you mean 'take notice'. Of what?

Anyway I won't struggle at all. It's not a big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand where you are coming from OP. When I first heard the term 'play' it did weird me out a little. But over time I got used to the term and now I use the word without any weirdness at all. I really like it.

A x

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over a year ago

Please yourself , but in the context of the lifestyle you will no doubt struggle when you hear people using the word play .

It's of no importance to me whether you take any notice or not .

I don't know what you mean 'take notice'. Of what?

Anyway I won't struggle at all. It's not a big deal. "

Take any notice of the fact that the word play is very common in the swinging lifestyle .

I get the fact that you were bored , but having been actively involved in the swinging lifestyle for 5 years , I have yet to encounter anyone who finds the word play childish .

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over a year ago

Please yourself , but in the context of the lifestyle you will no doubt struggle when you hear people using the word play .

It's of no importance to me whether you take any notice or not .

I don't know what you mean 'take notice'. Of what?

Anyway I won't struggle at all. It's not a big deal.

Take any notice of the fact that the word play is very common in the swinging lifestyle .

I get the fact that you were bored , but having been actively involved in the swinging lifestyle for 5 years , I have yet to encounter anyone who finds the word play childish .

Then we've both learnt something today : ) I learned 'play' is a common term in swing land and you've learnt some don't like it (a couple of other agreed..)

Peace!

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over a year ago

"I understand where you are coming from OP. When I first heard the term 'play' it did weird me out a little. But over time I got used to the term and now I use the word without any weirdness at all. I really like it.

A x"

Yes I'll probably get used to it too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please yourself , but in the context of the lifestyle you will no doubt struggle when you hear people using the word play .

It's of no importance to me whether you take any notice or not .

I don't know what you mean 'take notice'. Of what?

Anyway I won't struggle at all. It's not a big deal.

Take any notice of the fact that the word play is very common in the swinging lifestyle .

I get the fact that you were bored , but having been actively involved in the swinging lifestyle for 5 years , I have yet to encounter anyone who finds the word play childish .

Then we've both learnt something today : ) I learned 'play' is a common term in swing land and you've learnt some don't like it (a couple of other agreed..)

Peace!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm off to play some music..

Wow...you sure showed me

No need to play the fool.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm off to play some music..

Wow...you sure showed me

No need to play the fool.

That one was a genuinely good pun

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over a year ago

"I'm off to play some music..

Wow...you sure showed me

No need to play the fool.

That one was a genuinely good pun

Sorry. Just playing about.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

A x"

I didn't get weirded out but I was a bit

at first. With that and "meet" which in my youth was slang for a bit of snogging behind the sports hall

Every hobby has words or sayings which make sense in context but which outsiders may find odd/amusing.. I often find myself asking if someone fancies a blow in my other hobby

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I'm off to play some music..

Wow...you sure showed me

No need to play the fool.

That one was a genuinely good pun

Sorry. Just playing about."

*digs some Play-Doh out of a tub in ma bedroom

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over a year ago

"I'm off to play some music..

Wow...you sure showed me

No need to play the fool.

That one was a genuinely good pun

Sorry. Just playing about.

*digs some Play-Doh out of a tub in ma bedroom

You could make a nice disPLAY

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