FabSwingers.com forum: Boss and staff

By *lassyandadventurous OP Man
over a year ago

England and Wales

I'm a manager at work and one of the younger girls who works for me has said she wants some fun x

Tempting....

Shall I get something going or is it too close to home?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'd stay away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay clear of that future mess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see a sexual harassment claim the moment it goes wrong

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I'm a manager at work and one of the younger girls who works for me has said she wants some fun x

Tempting....

Shall I get something going or is it too close to home?"

With a woman junior to you at work?

Avoid! Avoid like your life depends on it.

Getting involved with someone at work can be problematic enough but a male manager and one of his female staff? Bad idea. Really bad.

Just think what would happen if it went pear-shaped.

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

Steer clear as when it goes tits up its your reputation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know the sensible thing is to stay clear but i must admit I've done it fortunately with no kick backs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't do it.. It will end in tears..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the response is pretty obvious. It's not worth the aggro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

errrrr.....do you really need to ask?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't go there if I were you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i bet a tenner the devil in his head will win!

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Do you like employment tribunals?

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

Depends how much you value your job and future career

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Save yourself, run away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think with your head,not your cock.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I'm a manager at work and one of the younger girls who works for me has said she wants some fun x"

Are you sure she didn't mean a day at the funfair and a couple of ice creams?

Just imagine being the other people who work for you, knowing she has an intimate relationship with the boss that will help her get the best jobs, no reprimands, and possible promotion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't imagine allowing myself to get into that situation.

If somehow I did get into that situation and I said yes, I would lose my professional credibility with everyone I work with.

Not a chance would I ever do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In what way do you see this ending well?

Yes you shag her over your desk.

Then she starts turning up late, slacking, asking for days off. Other staff complain you treat them unfavourably.

Next thing it goes to HR or she threatens something.

Always keep work and pleasure seperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the manager should you be asking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends how much you value your job and future career "

Also if your work place frowns upon work place relations, But if they don't care and you are both free and single why not, You are both adults,

It's really down to you and her no on else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there, done that, learned a valuable lesson, don't shit where you eat. Jim

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Huge breach fucking hell just keep ya dick in your trousers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Not wise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a massive trap, man!

Maybe if she no longer worked there before she mentioned it, but you being a manager, massive breach of trust and also the legal shit she could pull is unreal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how much you like your job. If you want a new one with a bad rep following you go for it. If you like your job, steer clear!

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By *lassyandadventurous OP Man
over a year ago

England and Wales

So basically she's playing a game then?

She just after some compo not cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Huge breach fucking hell just keep ya dick in your trousers

Surely it depends on the circumstances and as we only know he is some sort of manager and she works for him and is younger,

Are managers not allowed a sex life even if it is in the work place?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Huge breach fucking hell just keep ya dick in your trousers

Surely it depends on the circumstances and as we only know he is some sort of manager and she works for him and is younger,

Are managers not allowed a sex life even if it is in the work place? "

Nooooo I don't agree with manager/employee relationship I have been in the middle of one and was brought into an investigation about 2 people I thought it was wrong then and I still think it's wrong now they are there to manage not to fuck some flange because she wants a bit of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have sex with somebody you didn't meet via the internet?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems a strange girl who would tell a manager she wants some fun with him.

But hey, go for it

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"So basically she's playing a game then?

She just after some compo not cock?"

She may be after cock, but whether or not she's thinking about it now, it will occur to her that shagging her manager could get her other benefits at some point.

Your other staff may see you showing her favour, even if you aren't.

And if you do anything she doesn't like - not paying her enough attention, or spending enough time with her, for example - just think what she could possibly use as leverage to get what she wants.

Do you really want to put yourself in that position and open yourself up to being pressured?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, power trips...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So basically she's playing a game then?

She just after some compo not cock?

She may be after cock, but whether or not she's thinking about it now, it will occur to her that shagging her manager could get her other benefits at some point.

Your other staff may see you showing her favour, even if you aren't.

And if you do anything she doesn't like - not paying her enough attention, or spending enough time with her, for example - just think what she could possibly use as leverage to get what she wants.

Do you really want to put yourself in that position and open yourself up to being pressured?"

Or they could end up going out for years, Getting married and having children, Or even making a joint profile on her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always risky poking the payroll.

Stay clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Here

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Huge breach fucking hell just keep ya dick in your trousers

Surely it depends on the circumstances and as we only know he is some sort of manager and she works for him and is younger,

Are managers not allowed a sex life even if it is in the work place? "

He wouldn't necessarily be doing anything wrong but imagine the claims she could make if it doesn't work out to her liking. And it's then his word against hers.

There would have to be an investigation. Even if he was exonerated, it would be embarrassing and stressful. And mud sticks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or they could end up going out for years, Getting married and having children, Or even making a joint profile on her

Don't be so sensible

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"So basically she's playing a game then?

She just after some compo not cock?

She may be after cock, but whether or not she's thinking about it now, it will occur to her that shagging her manager could get her other benefits at some point.

Your other staff may see you showing her favour, even if you aren't.

And if you do anything she doesn't like - not paying her enough attention, or spending enough time with her, for example - just think what she could possibly use as leverage to get what she wants.

Do you really want to put yourself in that position and open yourself up to being pressured?

Or they could end up going out for years, Getting married and having children, Or even making a joint profile on her

Well I wouldn't risk it. The OP asked for our advice. That's mine.

You disagree with me. That's fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Huge breach fucking hell just keep ya dick in your trousers

Surely it depends on the circumstances and as we only know he is some sort of manager and she works for him and is younger,

Are managers not allowed a sex life even if it is in the work place? "

Yes they are but not with the staff they are supposed to be managing.

Clouds judgement and can cause all sorts of internal issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For all we know he's the manager of Big Ted's Car Wash.

Actually there are some right fitties at that place..

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"So basically she's playing a game then?

She just after some compo not cock?"

Not necessarily; she might be innocent or stupid; but that might be the case;

But also; if you haven't worked this out for yourself; the rest of the people you manage will find out one way or another; then there wil be all sorts of shit in your section/ team, you will be unable to manage, lead or discipline them, and lose whatever credibility you have.

As a departmental director, in the past, I have fired a couple of managers for doing just what you are contemplating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a good idea to shag em all Op, then you can't be accused of favouritism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably a good idea to shag em all Op, then you can't be accused of favouritism

Best advice so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my eyes a leader should never take from their team. A manager should never help themselves to what their employees have. They're there to do a job and they get what they work for. Management is there to support them, not to have their way with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my eyes a leader should never take from their team. A manager should never help themselves to what their employees have. They're there to do a job and they get what they work for. Management is there to support them, not to have their way with them."

Think he was considering more of a giving role than a taking one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For all we know he's the manager of Big Ted's Car Wash.

That's the point I was making, We don't know the circumstances or what type of manager he is, Some people seem to think he has some sort of moral duties just because he is over her and she is some stupid girl,

Anyway that is my opinion just like everyone has had theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the sake of balance: my MD is married with kids to a young lady who he met at work.

She left her job in order to continue/allow the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see a sexual harassment claim the moment it goes wrong

This ^ stay well clear!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"For all we know he's the manager of Big Ted's Car Wash.

Anyway that is my opinion just like everyone has had theirs "

Of course you are allowed your opioion I've just seen the fall out and carnage that a manager employee relationship has caused. Of course there has been success stories but I just find it all murky waters to play in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mix work and pleasure mate its a recipe for disaster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think he was considering more of a giving role than a taking one.."

Lol you know what I meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she want a date/relationship or just a quick fumble behind the filing cabinet?

If it's the former, spend some time together and see what develops, if it's the latter, chances are it will end up wrongly and you could be looking for another job.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"For all we know he's the manager of Big Ted's Car Wash.

Anyway that is my opinion just like everyone has had theirs "

It doesn't matter whether it's the Bank of England or " Teds car wash"

He most certainly does have a moral responsibility to her, because he is her superior, and it's irrelevant if she may (or may not be) a stupid girl.

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Belfast

Assuming you're not using the pretence of a legitimate quandary to air wishful thinking / sexual fantasies.. No. Duh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clearly a big mistake but nothing you don't know already. The sexual harassment case could cause you issues with finding a new job too as you know.

Read what everyone had to say... and keep your dick in your pants is my honest advise too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tempting as it is ... Steer clear ... Loss of credibility with others makes managing them very difficult

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