FabSwingers.com forum: Blocked while waiting for meet

By *eeDee25 OP Woman
over a year ago

crook

This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because he was a timewaster

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Common or garden a-hole?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He changed his mind which he is allowed to do, some class as time waster but really people are entitled to changed there minds right up till meeting time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next he'll be posting about how hard it is for a single guy to get a meet - really yanks my chain when I hear of people doing this

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By *adystephanieTV/TS
over a year ago

glos

Another weirdo ...

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

We'll he must b a silly so n so getting a date n then block u . I've been blocked but never blocked a lady . I'm just to soft a guy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" really people are entitled to changed there minds right up till meeting time"

Of course they are, but it's good manners to at least tell the other person rather than blocking.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

So you actually turned up at the agreed place and he failed to show?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He changed his mind which he is allowed to do, some class as time waster but really people are entitled to changed there minds right up till meeting time"

so the least he could have done was let her know? not just not turn up AND block her! that's just rude

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By *ukkakecoupleukCouple
over a year ago

horsham

"This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?"
probably gets off on the chase . when it comes to the nitty gritty probably cannot get it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it is yet another dreamer lol.

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Looking at the OPs profile the guy clearly missed out on a great deal ... if there's any future I booked places ... Pit my name down

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?"

Was it a social or play meet?

I ask because I always have a social and dodged many a bullet as I've not been sexually attracted to them, but didn't stop me meeting for a coffee.

He could have seen you and not be attracted to you but didn't want a scene and took the easy way out.

Not nice I know. Hope you didn't travel too far. Better luck next time.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"He changed his mind which he is allowed to do, some class as time waster but really people are entitled to changed there minds right up till meeting time

so the least he could have done was let her know? not just not turn up AND block her! that's just rude"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He changed his mind which he is allowed to do, some class as time waster but really people are entitled to changed there minds right up till meeting time"

I commonly see people defending timewasters on the basis it depends on the circumstances which I agree with.

Surely however in this instance it is difficult to provide any supporting argument?

no one disputes that we are all entitled to change our mind both up to and during the meet but to do so and then block rather than explain the reasons why is rude and selfish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?"

Sorry this happened to you, op. Sounds like he simply changed his mind and didn't have the nerve to tell you.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"He changed his mind which he is allowed to do, some class as time waster but really people are entitled to changed there minds right up till meeting time"
even when you've got to the meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?"

Highly probable he was a fake and time waster getting off from some female attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lack of common courtesy or a spine, or both.

It reflects on him, not you.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"He changed his mind which he is allowed to do, some class as time waster but really people are entitled to changed there minds right up till meeting time"
there's not many things I class as time wasters but someome not turning up for a meet is one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I arranged a social meet with a guy recently and was blocked on the day of the meet. Not really a problem but would prefer people to be adult about it and say they've changed their mind but hey ho, some things never change!

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Next he'll be posting about how hard it is for a single guy to get a meet - really yanks my chain when I hear of people doing this"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He changed his mind which he is allowed to do, some class as time waster but really people are entitled to changed there minds right up till meeting time"

It's this sort of attitude that makes something that should just be fun and simple, hard work.

If somebody can't work out the right way to treat a fellow human being them really they shouldn't class themselves as swingers.

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

"This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?"

Get all types of bs,on here I think they get a perverse kick out of letting ppl down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people are only time wasters if they actually waste your time - to us that means we go somewhere for them and they dont turn up as in this case - so yes he was a timewaster - if he had messaged with a reason before then hes not - we have been fortunate never for this to have happened - and is one reason we try and play at home - we lose nothing and have our own fun or bugger off out to a club if nobody else is free - no one owes anybody anything - saying that manners dont cost anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a lady (or a guy, i suppose, for that matter) has something as radical happen to them as the OP did, then the site shud do something about it as people shudn't be allowed to behave in such a manner to others on here and upset them.

...the blocker or timewasting no show shud immediately have their profile at least temporarily suspended for a month once admin are informed by the' victim'..grumble, grumble..lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?"
maybe he saw you and didn't fancy you I know that's harsh but I've known that before

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?maybe he saw you and didn't fancy you I know that's harsh but I've known that before

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but wny would that make it acceptable. What your giving is an excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a lady (or a guy, i suppose, for that matter) has something as radical happen to them as the OP did, then the site shud do something about it as people shudn't be allowed to behave in such a manner to others on here and upset them.

...the blocker or timewasting no show shud immediately have their profile at least temporarily suspended for a month once admin are informed by the' victim'..grumble, grumble..lol.

That would be totally abused. Really difficult to prove unless fab are going to employ secret detectives for when people meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sure time wasting is a fettish for some guys and this happens to me too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to my Mrs last year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?"

Some people are so fake on this site. Its ridiculous.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?"

He liked the fantasy of meeting but he's either misrepresented himself so he can't actually meet, he's married and can't get away to meet, or he's chickened out for some reason.

Some just enjoy talking about it and imagining as they wank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the age we live in now,the internet is open to anyone and everyone.If Joe Bloggs wants to get a thrill,they can.I suspect if a letter landed on a doormat,the percentage of so called timewasters would drop...its the price we pay for progress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He changed his mind which he is allowed to do, some class as time waster but really people are entitled to changed there minds right up till meeting time"

If the person is at the place they've arranged to meet at, and he just blocks her and doesn't explain why he's not turned up, then he is a timewaster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...the blocker or timewasting no show shud immediately have their profile at least temporarily suspended for a month once admin are informed by the' victim'..grumble, grumble..lol.

That would be totally abused. Really difficult to prove unless fab are going to employ secret detectives for when people meet!"

I guess yes, we're all fucked then..lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?"

Christ you don't have much luck do you? Get a telephone number off them before arranging a meet and try and get sense of their eagerness before you meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but wny would that make it acceptable. What your giving is an excuse.

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hey feline features you always jump on the negative I was just giving a reason why that may have happened ,I don't condone it but some would rather walk away and block than actually do the decent thing say hi and that not interested bye ,I've been let down many times and its a horrible feeling ,I've been told I'm not someones kettle of fish a couple of times and that's not nice either but hey we are closely related to adults here we can cope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...the blocker or timewasting no show shud immediately have their profile at least temporarily suspended for a month once admin are informed by the' victim'..grumble, grumble..lol.

Oh, I have arranged to meet you, you didn't show up so I'm going to report and get you blocked. Obviously this isn't true but hey, I can still say it regardless can't I?? And there is no proof otherwise. That is why this would never be a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" really people are entitled to changed there minds right up till meeting time

Of course they are, but it's good manners to at least tell the other person rather than blocking."

Yeah spot on. You fess up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to me as a single guy a couple of years ago except I was outside the house (from the postcode I'd been given) didn't see anyone inside, went to message them & they'd blocked me. Quite the wasted journey. So couples do it too! (They had a few verifications as well)

Mr J

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"This is what i cant understand. I was getting plenty messages from a guy. We arranged to meet and them am blocked. Why when i turned up would a guy do that ?"

That's horrible if you're actually there waiting. Changing your mind is fine but at least block well in advance if that's the way you're going to let someone know you aren't turning up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" really people are entitled to changed there minds right up till meeting time

Of course they are, but it's good manners to at least tell the other person rather than blocking."

Totally agree but sumtimes its just too much hassle, they take the easy way out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say he turned up. Saw you and ran for the heels. He could have lost hes bottle...or just not found you attractive in the flesh. He could have told you to your face i suppose

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Id say he turned up. Saw you and ran for the heels. He could have lost hes bottle...or just not found you attractive in the flesh. He could have told you to your face i suppose

That's what I said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id say he turned up. Saw you and ran for the heels. He could have lost hes bottle...or just not found you attractive in the flesh. He could have told you to your face i suppose

That's what I said!

I need to read threads instead of jumping in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id say he turned up. Saw you and ran for the heels. He could have lost hes bottle...or just not found you attractive in the flesh. He could have told you to your face i suppose

That's what I said!

I need to read threads instead of jumping in

Oh and i meant hills not heels....shows whats on my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not turning up is bad manners. It is also time wasting. Some do it deliberately some are just disorganised. Either way no excuse. If you can't make a meet or changed your mind call the people. Its really simple. And why only meet people from the chatrooms and we have chatted privately on the phone. If I have their number I can call if there is a problem. I did have to do that once. My fault but called, they were fine and we met the next weekend.

It does surprise me the number of people that will meet just off a couple of messages on here .... And don't even get their phone number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that's really rude , he should have just told you he bottled it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that's really rude , he should have just told you he bottled it . "

I agree. If you're going to block, you might as well just say you've changed your mind before you do it so at least the person is not left hanging there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not turning up is bad manners. It is also time wasting. Some do it deliberately some are just disorganised. Either way no excuse. If you can't make a meet or changed your mind call the people. Its really simple. And why only meet people from the chatrooms and we have chatted privately on the phone. If I have their number I can call if there is a problem. I did have to do that once. My fault but called, they were fine and we met the next weekend.

It does surprise me the number of people that will meet just off a couple of messages on here .... And don't even get their phone number."

we ask for a fem to fem phone call - most will but some wont with various reasons why not to - we are happy to do a club meet without and using common sense - verifications are good

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By *appyprivateMan
over a year ago

Blackburn

Bah! He missed out! It's happened a few times on the rare occasions I've managed a meet with a female - I've set off and found myself blocked either as I'm getting to the meeting point, or as I get there.

Had a number of couples who arrange a meet, to then find it's just the guy or the account vanishes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is real bad manners. Should mot be allowed. The penalty should be three months suspension, second time for life. Report him anyway. At least Admin will be aware.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is real bad manners. Should mot be allowed. The penalty should be three months suspension, second time for life. Report him anyway. At least Admin will be aware."

Banned for life? - back with a new profile within minutes

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By *rs TootyWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Did he not show up?

It may have been a case of he came, he saw, he didn't like so found it easier to block you than to be honest and say there was no attraction.

There's no commitment to follow through with meets but manners cost nothing :-/

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

If you have an issue with a specific user then report the profile to Admin.

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