FabSwingers.com forum: He's back and I'm an idiot

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...how high?? Dance monkey dance.

How often you been in this situation. I'm wide awake to it just not able to make the right decision.

This is not a woe is me thread btw.

So go on let's hear about anyone else's similar storiesif you have them. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you on about?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Could you elucidate a bit? Dunno wot you mean....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That guy" that says jump and i go "how high"

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"What you on about?"

I was waiting for someone to ask this first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you talkin about Willis?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm guessing this is something along the lines of 'jump' and you ask how high?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha didn't mean to confuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have not got a Scooby what your on about

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"...how high?? Dance monkey dance.

How often you been in this situation. I'm wide awake to it just not able to make the right decision.

This is not a woe is me thread btw.

So go on let's hear about anyone else's similar storiesif you have them. X

Yep. There's one person who can make me behave like an absolute idiot.

I stay away now but it's difficult.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I don't know who's back... I'm feeling a bit of an idiot not understand ing the post though..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"What you talkin about Willis? "

D'ffrent strokes!!!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I'm guessing this is something along the lines of 'jump' and you ask how high? "

If this is the case it has been years since I have been in that situation....and I mean years lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get you OP!! There's just that one man sometimes who you can't say no to!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah,right. Fuck him off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There's truth in saying you always want what you can't have. Treat n mean n all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know your value, stick to your worth, stand by your principles...

He'll be crawling by your feet really damn soon with a surprisingly renewed attitude. (;

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there used to be someone but he no longer has the power

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you like jumping and dancing like a monkey,stick around. Might keep you fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear ya OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to happen many moons ago but not now I prefer to be high value but easy to lose.

There's only one man I let have control over me and that's my friend and PT simply because I know he has my interests at heart....even then I sometimes dig my heels in lol

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By *ylonesqueMan
over a year ago

Near Aberystwyth

Find someone more reliable, who wants you for who you are, not what they want you to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you like jumping and dancing like a monkey,stick around. Might keep you fit

Could do with motivation to be fitter

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get you OP!! There's just that one man sometimes who you can't say no to!!!! "

Ahhhh a fellow chezzer....

Shit night out sat x

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Nope... I'm way too lazy for that shit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...how high?? Dance monkey dance.

How often you been in this situation. I'm wide awake to it just not able to make the right decision.

This is not a woe is me thread btw.

So go on let's hear about anyone else's similar storiesif you have them. X

You can't control other peoples' behaviour but you can control your reaction to it x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't do monkey dancing any more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...how high?? Dance monkey dance.

How often you been in this situation. I'm wide awake to it just not able to make the right decision.

This is not a woe is me thread btw.

So go on let's hear about anyone else's similar storiesif you have them. X

You can't control other peoples' behaviour but you can control your reaction to it x"

Yup....always that "what if" though isn't there. I hate that b*tch "what if"

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"He's back"

I hadn't even realised I had left?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Treat n mean n all that."

There you go then. Treat HIM mean for a while.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Treat n mean n all that.

There you go then. Treat HIM mean for a while."

Giving it a go....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im to old for all that shit, i like a quite life but if your happy dancing and jumping like a monkey then go for it

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

In my teens, yes. Then I hit my 20s and realised I was tired of his manipulations.

It's taken me a long time but my confidence has gone through the roof since I met C, and I know my value now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Treat n mean n all that.

There you go then. Treat HIM mean for a while.

Giving it a go....

Do this for the rest of your life. He'll fuck off for good when he has to make some effort.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Men don't actually like the women they can make jump.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore him - completely ! If someone doesn't add to your life , be it just sexually or otherwise - show them the door !! I've learnt that the hard way, as I've been where you are now. It's much less exhausting letting them go.

Sarah

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth

"Men don't actually like the women they can make jump."

Unless they are parachute instructors?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Men don't actually like the women they can make jump."

We all know this. Like i said I'm totally awake to it but just an absolute dufus.

But like i said there's still a part of me that thinks...maybe.

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Belfast

Accept him for what he is and the limitations he comes with,if you can live with him after doing that, Good luck.

many women/ men spend too much time trying to change unsuitable partners; It doesn't work...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...how high?? Dance monkey dance.

How often you been in this situation. I'm wide awake to it just not able to make the right decision.

This is not a woe is me thread btw.

So go on let's hear about anyone else's similar storiesif you have them. X

I have a similar story what is the story oh yes he's back and raring to go but some idiots threatened to jump off a signal gantry so I'm not going anywhere fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely with you. I've been chasing a guy for some time now. Don't know what it is about him but he has a real hold on me. He gets my hopes up then crush them! ! Wish I could ignore but as soon as he clicks his fingers I go running...hate myself for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you like jumping and dancing like a monkey,stick around. Might keep you fit

Could do with motivation to be fitter

It does give you incentive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Accept him for what he is and the limitations he comes with,if you can live with him after doing that, Good luck.

many women/ men spend too much time trying to change unsuitable partners; It doesn't work...

I'd never dream of changing him. Just wish i could change the situation and my weak will.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Accept him for what he is and the limitations he comes with,if you can live with him after doing that, Good luck.

many women/ men spend too much time trying to change unsuitable partners; It doesn't work...

I'd never dream of changing him. Just wish i could change the situation and my weak will.

Do you want to change it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Accept him for what he is and the limitations he comes with,if you can live with him after doing that, Good luck.

many women/ men spend too much time trying to change unsuitable partners; It doesn't work...

I'd never dream of changing him. Just wish i could change the situation and my weak will.

Do you want to change it? "

Maybe just go back in time and prevent it because in reality no...its not really possible.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

My advice is don't dance, don't jump and don't be an idiot, I'd rather dance alone than wait for someone to tell me I can dance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My advice is don't dance, don't jump and don't be an idiot, I'd rather dance alone than wait for someone to tell me I can dance "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Accept him for what he is and the limitations he comes with,if you can live with him after doing that, Good luck.

many women/ men spend too much time trying to change unsuitable partners; It doesn't work...

I'd never dream of changing him. Just wish i could change the situation and my weak will.

Do you want to change it?

Maybe just go back in time and prevent it because in reality no...its not really possible. "

Well you're aware of the situation and have your eyes wide open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""That guy" that says jump and i go "how high"

"Bullet in the head" fucking tune man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My advice is don't dance, don't jump and don't be an idiot, I'd rather dance alone than wait for someone to tell me I can dance

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hey beautiful if you have feeling theirs always going to be someone playing your heart strings

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Don't get involved, just swing, there's a site called fabswingers, you could go on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have not got a Scooby what your on about"

What's a Subaru Impreza got to do with it

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Just wish i could change the situation and my weak will."

You can.

You just don't want to.

When you do want to, you will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Army guy I dated in 2014 when he went away in the October he said it was best we don't see each other again when he gets back. Gets back in December and contacts me to say he was back but didn't want to meet, just asked if I had found anyone. Went away again in January '15 came back in May, contacts me and I nag him to see me and even though he says it's not a good idea meet him anyway, end up begging him if I can suck his dick and he finally gave in and let me, he went away again and came back in December and contacts me to let me know he's back and if I'm with anyone, doesn't ask to see me or give any indication that he wants to meet me at all and that's that. Think I'll alway think of this guy as the one I couldn't get!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Army guy I dated in 2014 when he went away in the October he said it was best we don't see each other again when he gets back. Gets back in December and contacts me to say he was back but didn't want to meet, just asked if I had found anyone. Went away again in January '15 came back in May, contacts me and I nag him to see me and even though he says it's not a good idea meet him anyway, end up begging him if I can suck his dick and he finally gave in and let me, he went away again and came back in December and contacts me to let me know he's back and if I'm with anyone, doesn't ask to see me or give any indication that he wants to meet me at all and that's that. Think I'll alway think of this guy as the one I couldn't get!"

I could bloody slap you with that army guy....delete delete delete!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could bloody slap you with that army guy....delete delete delete!!!!

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hey seawitch I'm a psychiatrist if you want to book an appointment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never make any guy a priority when all you are to him is an option x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could bloody slap you with that army guy....delete delete delete!!!!

I know, now times that by about 100 and that's how my best friend feels! Honestly never met a guy that made me feel like he did, dunno if that was military instilled or just him but his mannerisms and the way he held himself and just being around him.

Think the last thing I said to him was he'd end up that old man living alone where the kids post dog shit through his letterbox!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My advice is don't dance, don't jump and don't be an idiot, I'd rather dance alone than wait for someone to tell me I can dance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh god...mines a marine!!! Exactly same thing xx

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By *avebabeWoman
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My advice is don't dance, don't jump and don't be an idiot, I'd rather dance alone than wait for someone to tell me I can dance "

One day you'll break the cycle - easier said than done though.

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

How many times has he clicked & you jumped?

Why is he back now? As the last monkey resigned or give him the elbow?

Personally i think men & women like this play a big power trip. But they only have the power while you give it them

Good luck

Mrs _d40

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So we've had a cordial conversatio n....feeling better about stuff. Quite platonic. Got some answers i wanted.

Thanks for your help guys x

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"So we've had a cordial conversatio n....feeling better about stuff. Quite platonic. Got some answers i wanted.

Thanks for your help guys x"

That sounds positive and don't be down on yourself we've all got or had that 'one' guy!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

How High is a Chinaman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could bloody slap you with that army guy....delete delete delete!!!!

same but hugs anyway - reckon we all there at some point over someone or something xxx

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