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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

should you forgive?

after a 2year r/ship she found herself pregnant,you were so happy and thought life was ever so sweet,planned to move in 2gether and be a real family, then after a row over giving the said child a second name, she vanishes into thin air? no address phone number no longer in use, then after 6mths a tex! wanting to talk

any help full tips on how to handle that would be very greatfull!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

listen to what she has to say

hope it works out for you, perhaps pregnancy just got to her and she needed space

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ardybumsCouple
over a year ago

peekin under duvet is it safe?

do you forgive ?

sounds as if she is the guilty party and has been condemned already !

2 sides to every story,surely theres more to it than a middle name for a child ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

truthfully no i wanted the child to have my last name, and she wanted to give the child her last name which is her x husbands name! i dont hate her and havnt condemed her at all, im still very found of her but the trust has gone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are you on the childs birth certificate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was just her I'd say ignore her, but there's a child involved. I believe a child should have contact with both parents and you also have a financial obligation.

I'd be wary of her, but hear her out and be involved in your child's life.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

no im not, i was going to go with her to do it when i got back from working away by then she had gone ! 3days into me working away the contact stopped didnt no what was going on till i got back and found shed gone!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

what trust?

if she left 6 months ago.. you had been on here for 2 months by then .

I would give her a chance, we all make mistakes. Meet up and talk it thro. You both owe it to the child to at least try.

good luck and hope it all works out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The person to consider is the child.

Get proof the child is yours.

Get you name on the birth cert.

Be prepared to be a father 24/7

No one walks away over a name. There were definitely deeper issues.

Listen to what she has to say.

Play it carefully , freindly and legally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what trust?

if she left 6 months ago.. you had been on here for 2 months by then .

I would give her a chance, we all make mistakes. Meet up and talk it thro. You both owe it to the child to at least try.

we were both on this site to start with, so the trust was never an issue, when i say trust i mean if i was to be involed with her again for the childs sake will she vanish again!

good luck and hope it all works out"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Uhmmmmmmmm you sure it's six months since you saw her ?

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

the bairn matters NOT the name!!!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

Get proof the child is yours.

"

Indeed

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"what trust?

if she left 6 months ago.. you had been on here for 2 months by then .

I would give her a chance, we all make mistakes. Meet up and talk it thro. You both owe it to the child to at least try.

we were both on this site to start with, so the trust was never an issue, when i say trust i mean if i was to be involed with her again for the childs sake will she vanish again!

good luck and hope it all works out"

meet up and talk to her. if you don't, yu may live to regret it.

really hope it resolves itself for the best for all 3 of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so either she has had to register the child's father as unknown or have her ex's name on the certificate, I would arrange a meet with her and talk, see what she has to say and go from there, not for her or your sakes but for the child

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

no proof, but as has been said i think i need to get that.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Dna test, long chat, big decision.....good luck xx

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol


" perhaps pregnancy just got to her and she needed space"

That is NO excuse for depriving a child of their father and a father of the first 6 months of his childs life! Nothing will ever get that time back.

We don't know both sides of the story, but if we're taking the OP at face value, she needs a bloody good kick up that arse to realise what damage she's done to 2 people.

I can't stand women who use their children as weapons, they shouldn't be allowed to breed

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has she had the baby yet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

was just an opinion... easy tiger

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

Sorry OP, forgot to say, I hope it all works out.

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

just like to say thankyou to everyone for your advice, just wanted to have a wider opion on things as family can be just one sided abt things, had my little sad moment now, so will let you all get back to the filth

thankyou

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

sorry gc yeah a baby boy 7an ahlf pound

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"sorry gc yeah a baby boy 7an ahlf pound "

CONGRATULATIONS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry gc yeah a baby boy 7an ahlf pound "

congratulations!

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