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"I've been best friends with her for over 11 years but I would like to be more than that but she wants to be Friends. I drive her everywhere and if she is in trouble I'm there for her . Her last 4 partners used cocaine or hit her or abused her ! Should I just walk away ???? " Fella it's better to have her in your life than not at all, And maybe one day it happens!! | |||
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"I've been best friends with her for over 11 years but I would like to be more than that but she wants to be Friends. I drive her everywhere and if she is in trouble I'm there for her . Her last 4 partners used cocaine or hit her or abused her ! Should I just walk away ???? " Just from what you're saying, you're far too useful in the friend zone for her to consider anything else. If she wanted you, she'd have had you by now. You're either going to have to deal with stealing longing glances and wondering what if, or you could firm it, move on, find someone who reciprocates your affection, and let her crack on with her idiotic bad boys. At some point she'll realise where she went wrong, and you'll realise where you went right. | |||
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"For Christmas I brought her shopping to jane norman and got 2 dresses for her and purfume a new phone and some other stuff but I didn't want anything in return ." You ever thought of talking to her and expressing your feelings? | |||
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"For Christmas I brought her shopping to jane norman and got 2 dresses for her and purfume a new phone and some other stuff but I didn't want anything in return ." really not sure what to say to this so I won't ! | |||
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"I've been best friends with her for over 11 years but I would like to be more than that but she wants to be Friends. I drive her everywhere and if she is in trouble I'm there for her . Her last 4 partners used cocaine or hit her or abused her ! Should I just walk away ???? " Are you only her friend so that you can one day insert your penis into her vagina? If so, then you should fuck off out of her life because she deserves better. IF you're actually her friend and it doesn't matter if you have sex or not - then I can't see why you'd walk away. | |||
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"Do you know what's worse than being friendzoned? Realizing that someone who appeared to be your friend for however long (in this case 11 years) and realizing it was all a ruse so you could get with her. Friendship with a woman is not a consolation prize. " Yes, OP reads as "how much more do I put up with for the prospect of a shag" | |||
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"For Christmas I brought her shopping to jane norman and got 2 dresses for her and purfume a new phone and some other stuff but I didn't want anything in return . " If you didn't want anything in return, why are you saying it as if you did want something in return? | |||
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"For Christmas I brought her shopping to jane norman and got 2 dresses for her and perfume a new phone and some other stuff but I didn't want anything in return ." that's a bit excessive is it not..... if she doesn't love you in the way that you want, you know the answer | |||
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"I've been best friends with her for over 11 years but I would like to be more than that but she wants to be Friends. I drive her everywhere and if she is in trouble I'm there for her . Her last 4 partners used cocaine or hit her or abused her ! Should I just walk away ???? " The fact that you want it to be more than friendship and she doesn't makes it a simple decision to make . Walk away , for her sake and yours . Nothing but heartache ahead ....... | |||
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"Do you know what's worse than being friendzoned? Realizing that someone who appeared to be your friend for however long (in this case 11 years) and realizing it was all a ruse so you could get with her. Friendship with a woman is not a consolation prize. Yes, OP reads as "how much more do I put up with for the prospect of a shag"" I think it reads as i think i really like her i dont think she likes me...im pretty sure shes using me for stuff... | |||
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"She is going down a road which will destroy her and I don't want that to happen to her as for sleeping with her I have a few times but I don't want to see her this way ." You can't control other peoples' behaviour, only your own | |||
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"Do you know what's worse than being friendzoned? Realizing that someone who appeared to be your friend for however long (in this case 11 years) and realizing it was all a ruse so you could get with her. Friendship with a woman is not a consolation prize. Yes, OP reads as "how much more do I put up with for the prospect of a shag" I think it reads as i think i really like her i dont think she likes me...im pretty sure shes using me for stuff..." And he puts up with it to get a shag. Nobody can "use" you without your compliance. | |||
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"She is going down a road which will destroy her and I don't want that to happen to her as for sleeping with her I have a few times but I don't want to see her this way ." It's not your job to save her. What you have here is a co-dependent relationship, she is using you, you allow it in the hope it will get you what you want from her. Ultimately a lose-lose. | |||
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"She is going down a road which will destroy her and I don't want that to happen to her as for sleeping with her I have a few times but I don't want to see her this way ." Then dont! Either you want to be her friend or you dont. We seek the love we feel we deserve, obviously she has low self esteem and personal issues and knows she can use you either maliciously or not. If you're her friend then help her see herself as more, that means dont shag her just because you think she should | |||
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"Do you know what's worse than being friendzoned? Realizing that someone who appeared to be your friend for however long (in this case 11 years) and realizing it was all a ruse so you could get with her. Friendship with a woman is not a consolation prize. " ^ Fucking THIS. "For Christmas I brought her shopping to jane norman and got 2 dresses for her and purfume a new phone and some other stuff but I didn't want anything in return ." Then why mention it at all? What is the point? You obviously want some kind of recognition of that, which isn't "nothing". "I've been best friends with her for over 11 years but I would like to be more than that but she wants to be Friends. I drive her everywhere and if she is in trouble I'm there for her . Her last 4 partners used cocaine or hit her or abused her ! Should I just walk away ???? Are you only her friend so that you can one day insert your penis into her vagina? If so, then you should fuck off out of her life because she deserves better. IF you're actually her friend and it doesn't matter if you have sex or not - then I can't see why you'd walk away." Wasp - once again saying what I want to say with fewer and better words. lol. | |||
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"I've been best friends with her for over 11 years but I would like to be more than that but she wants to be Friends. I drive her everywhere and if she is in trouble I'm there for her . Her last 4 partners used cocaine or hit her or abused her ! Should I just walk away ???? " I love how your options seem to be "be more than friends" or "walk away". The former is no reason to be friends with someone. Having sex with someone is not the "level up" from friendship; sex is not a transactional activity in exchange for friendship. | |||
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"I think the best solution is to finish been friends with her ! It's her life and I need to go in a different direction and thanks everyone xx" Obviously only friends with her to get into her pants. Which is a shit reason to be friends with someone. | |||
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"I'm not a ugly bloke and I have a great job and I'm good to her kids .everytime she break up with a partner she calls me and cries and I can't take much more than this . " Does she know how you feel? Talk to her. I married my best friend. | |||
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"For Christmas I brought her shopping to jane norman and got 2 dresses for her and purfume a new phone and some other stuff but I didn't want anything in return ." Uh, yes you did want something. She wants your friendship. You have to decide if that's enough because it's all that's on offer. It sounds rather one-sided to me. | |||
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"She is going down a road which will destroy her and I don't want that to happen to her as for sleeping with her I have a few times but I don't want to see her this way . It's not your job to save her. What you have here is a co-dependent relationship, she is using you, you allow it in the hope it will get you what you want from her. Ultimately a lose-lose." This.... She knows you will be there for her, get her what she needs etc, because you want more from her, and she already has an emotional hold on you I would tell her how you feel you want more, otherwise this its not going to end well. Her stringing you along isn't healthy | |||
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"I've been best friends with her for over 11 years but I would like to be more than that but she wants to be Friends. I drive her everywhere and if she is in trouble I'm there for her . Her last 4 partners used cocaine or hit her or abused her ! Should I just walk away ???? Just from what you're saying, you're far too useful in the friend zone for her to consider anything else. If she wanted you, she'd have had you by now. You're either going to have to deal with stealing longing glances and wondering what if, or you could firm it, move on, find someone who reciprocates your affection, and let her crack on with her idiotic bad boys. At some point she'll realise where she went wrong, and you'll realise where you went right. " This. | |||
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"I think the best solution is to finish been friends with her ! It's her life and I need to go in a different direction and thanks everyone xx" Try only being friends with people you don't find sexually attractive. Clearly you can't separate your penis from your brain when it comes to friendship. (I fancy loads of my friends, but I don't sulk and get all upset because they don't want to have sex with me. I'm still a good friend to them.) | |||
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"She is going down a road which will destroy her and I don't want that to happen to her as for sleeping with her I have a few times but I don't want to see her this way . It's not your job to save her. What you have here is a co-dependent relationship, she is using you, you allow it in the hope it will get you what you want from her. Ultimately a lose-lose." This | |||
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"Wow, some pretty harsh responses. From what you've said I'd say she's using you to be honest. Maybe try putting a little distance between you for a while and see how it goes?" everyone's being so harsh in the OP.. all I can see is a woman who knows how besotted he is with her and is using that to get whatever she wants off him whilst keeping him just close enough to make him think she's interested in more! | |||
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"Wow, some pretty harsh responses. From what you've said I'd say she's using you to be honest. Maybe try putting a little distance between you for a while and see how it goes?" Only because he's letting her because he's hoping to get into her knickers. | |||
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"Wow, some pretty harsh responses. From what you've said I'd say she's using you to be honest. Maybe try putting a little distance between you for a while and see how it goes? Only because he's letting her because he's hoping to get into her knickers." I think he wants more than that.... | |||
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"Wow, some pretty harsh responses. From what you've said I'd say she's using you to be honest. Maybe try putting a little distance between you for a while and see how it goes? Only because he's letting her because he's hoping to get into her knickers." She's his best and he loves her, of course he wants to get into bed with her. The feminists smelt blood again and went for the jugular | |||
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"I've been best friends with her for over 11 years but I would like to be more than that but she wants to be Friends. I drive her everywhere and if she is in trouble I'm there for her . Her last 4 partners used cocaine or hit her or abused her ! Should I just walk away ???? " no don't walk away friends are there for you and you them | |||
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"Wow, some pretty harsh responses. From what you've said I'd say she's using you to be honest. Maybe try putting a little distance between you for a while and see how it goes? Only because he's letting her because he's hoping to get into her knickers. She's his best and he loves her, of course he wants to get into bed with her. The feminists smelt blood again and went for the jugular " I care deeply about some of my best friends and manage to not want to get into bed with them. Some of them I even fancy and still don't turn into a sullen child if they say 'no'. | |||
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"Wow, some pretty harsh responses. From what you've said I'd say she's using you to be honest. Maybe try putting a little distance between you for a while and see how it goes? Only because he's letting her because he's hoping to get into her knickers. She's his best and he loves her, of course he wants to get into bed with her. The feminists smelt blood again and went for the jugular I care deeply about some of my best friends and manage to not want to get into bed with them. Some of them I even fancy and still don't turn into a sullen child if they say 'no'." There is a world of difference between caring deeply and being in love. | |||
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"I've been best friends with her for over 11 years but I would like to be more than that but she wants to be Friends. I drive her everywhere and if she is in trouble I'm there for her . Her last 4 partners used cocaine or hit her or abused her ! Should I just walk away ???? " No, don't walk away but I suggest you distance yourself. Maybe explain how you feel say you'll be there if she needs you then try and build a life that doesn't revolve around the hope that you two will get together. At the moment you're enabling her to continue in abusive relationships. Good luck however things turn out. | |||
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"I've been best friends with her for over 11 years but I would like to be more than that but she wants to be Friends. I drive her everywhere and if she is in trouble I'm there for her . Her last 4 partners used cocaine or hit her or abused her ! Should I just walk away ???? Are you only her friend so that you can one day insert your penis into her vagina? If so, then you should fuck off out of her life because she deserves better. IF you're actually her friend and it doesn't matter if you have sex or not - then I can't see why you'd walk away." | |||
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"I've been best friends with her for over 11 years but I would like to be more than that but she wants to be Friends. I drive her everywhere and if she is in trouble I'm there for her . Her last 4 partners used cocaine or hit her or abused her ! Should I just walk away ???? " Seriously, what is the matter with people on here?!?! The guy had only asked a question. I don't understand why the guy needs to be attacked for that! Anyway, regarding the question... Be honest with her and tell her how you feel! At the end if the day, if she doesn't want to change, you can't force her. Just let her be. If you've banged her or not, want to or not, to me, that's entirely irrelevant. The last is the past. Explain how you feel, try to get a heartfelt response and accept it. That's my opinion anyway. Ignore the idiots above who are attacking you. | |||
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