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"I've played with several subs who have commented afterwards how much I smile and how surprised they were at how little I shout. Kink is supposed to be fun. There's nothing wrong with enjoying it!" A lot of people seem to frown on the fun side. I have to giggle. Been told off for it before. | |||
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"I don't know about "the scene" but if your domination doesn't reflect your personality isn't it just role play? I might be talking rubbish due to the fact that I'm a little ignorant about these things " *nod* Essentially, in a way, yes... But often an extended "role play", that sometimes can bleed into "real life". In my experience, the safest and best D/s relationships I have had have been where we both enjoy being that "role" during play, but we're not necessarily that in real life. So, I'm a sub during sex, but have been described as being really dominany and confident in real life. I'm aware that I love the feeling of being dommed in sexual situations, but in real life, I don't want to be "sub" to my everyday contacts. lol. 1. I'm not a walk over, and 2. it's a sex thing, so not life. lol Hope that makes sense. What a ramble! lol | |||
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"I don't know about "the scene" but if your domination doesn't reflect your personality isn't it just role play? I might be talking rubbish due to the fact that I'm a little ignorant about these things " So, sorry, in short - there's a difference between "personality" and "sexual preferences". | |||
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"I don't know about "the scene" but if your domination doesn't reflect your personality isn't it just role play? I might be talking rubbish due to the fact that I'm a little ignorant about these things So, sorry, in short - there's a difference between "personality" and "sexual preferences"." Thanks Happy you do make me smile I prefer to be with dominant men as I'm sexually more submissive but I can't say I've ever been with a Dom. In real life I'm assertive and exceptionally confident. | |||
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"I don't know about "the scene" but if your domination doesn't reflect your personality isn't it just role play? I might be talking rubbish due to the fact that I'm a little ignorant about these things So, sorry, in short - there's a difference between "personality" and "sexual preferences". Thanks Happy you do make me smile I prefer to be with dominant men as I'm sexually more submissive but I can't say I've ever been with a Dom. In real life I'm assertive and exceptionally confident." Ohhh and fricking hilarious (but only I think so) | |||
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"Ok kinky people, as a Dom I've been accused in the past of being too light hearted, my last girlfriend and submissive said when we first met, that she thought I was to funny to take seriously (I know, me, funny?) She soon changed her mind though. Who says that a Dom can't have a sense of humour, I've spoken to other Doms that never crack their face, because they think that that's how a dom behaves, that in my opinion, is a load of pretentious bullshit, if your light hearted and chatty, why would you be different, just because you are in a scene, I mean its not like I'm like it all the time, but some people are serious, from first meeting right through to the duration. What are your thoughts? " I'm a Domme only when in play mode: I would not want a D/s relationship. For me being in character would be exhausting and I'm rather gregarious. However, I'd be arrogant and dismissive to call how others conduct their life as pretentious because it differs from my own. | |||
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"I don't know about "the scene" but if your domination doesn't reflect your personality isn't it just role play? I might be talking rubbish due to the fact that I'm a little ignorant about these things So, sorry, in short - there's a difference between "personality" and "sexual preferences". Thanks Happy you do make me smile I prefer to be with dominant men as I'm sexually more submissive but I can't say I've ever been with a Dom. In real life I'm assertive and exceptionally confident. Ohhh and fricking hilarious (but only I think so)" Well, you *are* the only one you ever need to worry about. Yeah, I know what you mean. Most relationships I've been in have been with dominant men, but I've not really had a Dom for any significant length of time. It's because I'm not really into the relationship side of it outside of the bedroom. I've got a life, I don't want to be doing "tasks". | |||
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"I just don't really get the whole full-on D/S thing and the main reason for that is it does sometimes just all seem incredibly serious. For me, sex and all that goes with it is not supposed to be serious so I just can't relate to it. " Even the full on D/s thing doesn't have to be serious. Some Dom(me)s seem to make it so, but it doesn't have to be. | |||
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"But there is a big difference between D/s and master/slave, and people think they are the same animal, I do like to inject a bit if humour into a scene, that's just me, but if I'm going full on sadist, she won't be laughing " | |||
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"I thoroughly detest the god complex some have.. If I know theres a meet planned and I have the inclination the 'master' might turn out to be a glum serious demanding cunt..I simply wouldt join..regardless of how hot his sub is." Well you know, a 'Master/Slave' relationship will tend to have the master making demands. So if you don't want to meet people who are serious and demanding within their dynamic, then perhaps you shouldn't meet people who identify as 'Master'? | |||
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"I thoroughly detest the god complex some have.. If I know theres a meet planned and I have the inclination the 'master' might turn out to be a glum serious demanding cunt..I simply wouldt join..regardless of how hot his sub is. Well you know, a 'Master/Slave' relationship will tend to have the master making demands. So if you don't want to meet people who are serious and demanding within their dynamic, then perhaps you shouldn't meet people who identify as 'Master'?" Demanding and serious is ok. Being miserable and feeling that cracking a smile or making a joke isn't Domly isn't much fun though. | |||
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"I thoroughly detest the god complex some have.. If I know theres a meet planned and I have the inclination the 'master' might turn out to be a glum serious demanding cunt..I simply wouldt join..regardless of how hot his sub is. Well you know, a 'Master/Slave' relationship will tend to have the master making demands. So if you don't want to meet people who are serious and demanding within their dynamic, then perhaps you shouldn't meet people who identify as 'Master'?" he would be the master of HIS slave..not me. I've known a few couples over 10 years,who have master/slave relationships..without the need to act like arrogant alpha male twats to others. | |||
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"But there is a big difference between D/s and master/slave, and people think they are the same animal, I do like to inject a bit if humour into a scene, that's just me, but if I'm going full on sadist, she won't be laughing " Thats how you like to play and obviously fine, but why is it "pretentious bullshit" if someone plays a different way to you? | |||
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"But there is a big difference between D/s and master/slave, and people think they are the same animal, I do like to inject a bit if humour into a scene, that's just me, but if I'm going full on sadist, she won't be laughing Thats how you like to play and obviously fine, but why is it "pretentious bullshit" if someone plays a different way to you?" I know what he means. Some Dom(me)s/Masters can be very pretentious. They tend to think they are "genuine" and "true Dom(me)s", and anyone who doesn't have a M/s 24/7 life or who dares to crack a smile isn't Domly enough and is a pretender. They often wear leather waistcoats, wolf t-shirts and have an array of implements hanging from their belt. They're commonly known as Twoos on a fet site I use. Their attitude and behaviour makes them pretentious, not how they choose to play. | |||
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"To be fair, he didnt say any of that in his OP." No, he didn't. I know the type he means but I realise that lots won't. | |||
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"But there is a big difference between D/s and master/slave, and people think they are the same animal, I do like to inject a bit if humour into a scene, that's just me, but if I'm going full on sadist, she won't be laughing Thats how you like to play and obviously fine, but why is it "pretentious bullshit" if someone plays a different way to you? I know what he means. Some Dom(me)s/Masters can be very pretentious. They tend to think they are "genuine" and "true Dom(me)s", and anyone who doesn't have a M/s 24/7 life or who dares to crack a smile isn't Domly enough and is a pretender. They often wear leather waistcoats, wolf t-shirts and have an array of implements hanging from their belt. They're commonly known as Twoos on a fet site I use. Their attitude and behaviour makes them pretentious, not how they choose to play." painted the picture well enough in my head lol... it might sound like a caricature, but I've seen it many times. | |||
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"To be fair, he didnt say any of that in his OP. No, he didn't. I know the type he means but I realise that lots won't." Hopefully he will come along and say what he meant then as to be fair, you don't know | |||
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"Ok kinky people, as a Dom I've been accused in the past of being too light hearted, my last girlfriend and submissive said when we first met, that she thought I was to funny to take seriously (I know, me, funny?) She soon changed her mind though. Who says that a Dom can't have a sense of humour, I've spoken to other Doms that never crack their face, because they think that that's how a dom behaves, that in my opinion, is a load of pretentious bullshit, if your light hearted and chatty, why would you be different, just because you are in a scene, I mean its not like I'm like it all the time, but some people are serious, from first meeting right through to the duration. What are your thoughts? " Your post came across to me as talking about Dom/ sub play as a sexual roleplay rather than a 24/7 thing. Is that what you meant? | |||
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"To be fair, he didnt say any of that in his OP. No, he didn't. I know the type he means but I realise that lots won't. Hopefully he will come along and say what he meant then as to be fair, you don't know " Yes, maybe I misunderstood. | |||
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"To be fair, he didnt say any of that in his OP. No, he didn't. I know the type he means but I realise that lots won't. Hopefully he will come along and say what he meant then as to be fair, you don't know Yes, maybe I misunderstood." Dee you got me absolutely spot on, I couldn't say it better myself, and.maybe that's why I didn't say it to begin with. How you play is individual, there is no doubt about that, but there are people who kind of try to shame people into their way if thinking, using language like "you're not a true sub because you don't do this. Your not a true dom because you don't do that" they call themselves dom but think they have to act like an un feeling caricature if a 1970s movie vampire. Someone might be serious because, like when I first went down the rabbit hole, they are shiting themselves, or it might be their personality, but there are so.many that adopt a persona because they don't know enough about what they are doing to express themselves as an individual. | |||
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"If I was to sub for someone I'd want them to be a friendly soul, otherwise I just wouldn't trust them." Kopite. You are stunningly beautiful. | |||
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