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"No. Never. Rude. Make a plan and stick to it. I'd never do that to anyone regardless of whether it be meeting friends or a sex thing. Women who dump their mates in favour of a bloke lose all of my respect in an instant. " | |||
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"Ok, I've already posted it on the rant thread but it just got me thinking, how many hesitate to confirm a meet in the hopes that a better offer will come alone, I suspect guys do this the most, going from past experience from our couples profile and what the Mrs has told me. They seem to be all up for it the the day or day before then just ignore your message but then mail you when it's too late. " yes I've heard that that goes on but it doesn't happen with reliable people like myself if I make a date I stick to it which can't be said of a few I've organised dates with | |||
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"Ok, I've already posted it on the rant thread but it just got me thinking, how many hesitate to confirm a meet in the hopes that a better offer will come alone, I suspect guys do this the most, going from past experience from our couples profile and what the Mrs has told me. They seem to be all up for it the the day or day before then just ignore your message but then mail you when it's too late. " I wouldn't dream of doing that and have always turned up to meets as I would do to any appointment or arranged meeting in any walk of life. It's good manners on Fab and good manners in life in general. | |||
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"No. Never. Rude. Make a plan and stick to it. I'd never do that to anyone regardless of whether it be meeting friends or a sex thing. Women who dump their mates in favour of a bloke lose all of my respect in an instant. " +1 | |||
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"We don't do it. I like the buildup to a meet and I am a firm believer in sticking to plans already made. If I said I will meet you, for sex or a social, it was because I wanted to and I will follow through. I don't even look after we plan something and we've had offers for days when we've had planned meets and we never cancel for the new offer. On the other hand, single guys have done this to us. One memorable example explained how his grandfather was ill in the hospital. Judging by his verification the next day, he found a very beautiful single woman to kiss away the pain so right plonker he was then ? -Courtney " | |||
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"No. Never. Rude. Make a plan and stick to it. I'd never do that to anyone regardless of whether it be meeting friends or a sex thing. Women who dump their mates in favour of a bloke lose all of my respect in an instant. " This from my point of view too! However - I know a lot of guys on here who do as the op suggested! Not necessarily for something better - but I think many guys are constantly on the hunt for a new challenge or a 'shiny new fuck' as I call it - particularly on this site! A couple of times guys I have seen before have been very keen to meet up again - only to develop 'flu' the day before or on the day! Then the new veri goes up! I don't rant or block - I just hope for their sake that the shiny new fuck was a REALLY good one - because I obviously don't see them again and they've lost my friendship too!! xx Ps - I know there ARE nice guys on here too - or I wouldn't still be here! | |||
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"No. Never. Rude. Make a plan and stick to it. I'd never do that to anyone regardless of whether it be meeting friends or a sex thing. Women who dump their mates in favour of a bloke lose all of my respect in an instant. " This! | |||
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"I'm actually at a social meet location waiting in anticipation " Aw hope it goes well lovely! | |||
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"I've never done that and I would hate anyone to do it to me " love that avatar pic your best yet | |||
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"I've never done that and I would hate anyone to do it to me love that avatar pic your best yet " thank you x | |||
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"No. Never. Women who dump their mates in favour of a bloke lose all of my respect in an instant. " Mine too! | |||
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" To assume someone is not confirming because 'they are waiting for something better to come along'.. Says more about you than the other person... There could be many reasons.. And if that's what you think.. Then what is to say they won't drop you when someone' better ' comes along anyway. Until a meet is confirmed.. It is not a meet.. So stop stressing.. " It was confirmed I was checking they remember my address, but just had a message, indirectly telling me that te person I was waiting on has actually just confirmed with them, still not had a reply but deleted it all now and moving on, ah well, onwards and upwards as they say. | |||
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"No. Never. Rude. Make a plan and stick to it. I'd never do that to anyone regardless of whether it be meeting friends or a sex thing. Women who dump their mates in favour of a bloke lose all of my respect in an instant. " Grown ups actually do that? | |||
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"No. Never. Rude. Make a plan and stick to it. I'd never do that to anyone regardless of whether it be meeting friends or a sex thing. Women who dump their mates in favour of a bloke lose all of my respect in an instant. Grown ups actually do that? " Should we drag our mates with us when we visit our boyfriends? | |||
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" To assume someone is not confirming because 'they are waiting for something better to come along'.. Says more about you than the other person... There could be many reasons.. And if that's what you think.. Then what is to say they won't drop you when someone' better ' comes along anyway. Until a meet is confirmed.. It is not a meet.. So stop stressing.. It was confirmed I was checking they remember my address, but just had a message, indirectly telling me that te person I was waiting on has actually just confirmed with them, still not had a reply but deleted it all now and moving on, ah well, onwards and upwards as they say. " Oh.. Well that's not what your original post says.. It's says they where hesitating to confirm..... But yes onwards | |||
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"Unless someone has said.. Yes I am definitely going to meet you on such a such day/time.. Then I don't see a problem I have never arranged a meet unless I can guarantee I can make it. Other than emergencies at home I wouldnt cancel.. And never have. I have had people say they can not make it after arranging a meet.. But I don't get in a huff.. It happens.. Not the end of the world. I've also had people nit confirming.. I just leave them to it and don't stress...or keep messaging to try force an answer. To assume someone is not confirming because 'they are waiting for something better to come along'.. Says more about you than the other person... There could be many reasons.. And if that's what you think.. Then what is to say they won't drop you when someone' better ' comes along anyway. Until a meet is confirmed.. It is not a meet.. So stop stressing.. " Says what about me? | |||
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"Unless someone has said.. Yes I am definitely going to meet you on such a such day/time.. Then I don't see a problem I have never arranged a meet unless I can guarantee I can make it. Other than emergencies at home I wouldnt cancel.. And never have. I have had people say they can not make it after arranging a meet.. But I don't get in a huff.. It happens.. Not the end of the world. I've also had people nit confirming.. I just leave them to it and don't stress...or keep messaging to try force an answer. To assume someone is not confirming because 'they are waiting for something better to come along'.. Says more about you than the other person... There could be many reasons.. And if that's what you think.. Then what is to say they won't drop you when someone' better ' comes along anyway. Until a meet is confirmed.. It is not a meet.. So stop stressing.. Says what about me?" It was not directed at you.. Or anyone for that matter... You asked a general question.. I answered with my opinion like every body else has You didn't ask us our opinion on your situation.. And I don't know it.. . You said if people are hesitating to confirm ..that to me is not a confirmed meet.. So I stand by my answer to that. And the person stressing over an unconfirmed meet, thinking the other person is waiting for something better to come along, is presumptuous and likely to do it themselves in my opinion. To clarify...you did not say anything about your own situation in original post.. So I don't know why you think I was directing my answer specifically at you.. It Was in relation to a post you made | |||
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"Unless someone has said.. Yes I am definitely going to meet you on such a such day/time.. Then I don't see a problem I have never arranged a meet unless I can guarantee I can make it. Other than emergencies at home I wouldnt cancel.. And never have. I have had people say they can not make it after arranging a meet.. But I don't get in a huff.. It happens.. Not the end of the world. I've also had people nit confirming.. I just leave them to it and don't stress...or keep messaging to try force an answer. To assume someone is not confirming because 'they are waiting for something better to come along'.. Says more about you than the other person... There could be many reasons.. And if that's what you think.. Then what is to say they won't drop you when someone' better ' comes along anyway. Until a meet is confirmed.. It is not a meet.. So stop stressing.. Says what about me? It was not directed at you.. Or anyone for that matter... You asked a general question.. I answered with my opinion like every body else has You didn't ask us our opinion on your situation.. And I don't know it.. . You said if people are hesitating to confirm ..that to me is not a confirmed meet.. So I stand by my answer to that. And the person stressing over an unconfirmed meet, thinking the other person is waiting for something better to come along, is presumptuous and likely to do it themselves in my opinion. To clarify...you did not say anything about your own situation in original post.. So I don't know why you think I was directing my answer specifically at you.. It Was in relation to a post you made " Ah ok | |||
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"I've had guys do this to me before, especially if you've just arranged a social then a guaranteed fuck comes along. For me I either want to meet someone or I don't, and if plans are made I'll stick to them. " | |||
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"Ok, I've already posted it on the rant thread but it just got me thinking, how many hesitate to confirm a meet in the hopes that a better offer will come alone, I suspect guys do this the most, going from past experience from our couples profile and what the Mrs has told me. They seem to be all up for it the the day or day before then just ignore your message but then mail you when it's too late. " this is something I've only experienced with couples who post a meet and are commonly already in a hotel | |||
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"I've never done that. If I arrange to meet I'll be there unless I have to take care of one of my kids. It's happened to me though. I was waiting for confirmation for the following day. Didn't hear anything so I text him to find out he'd met a woman from 'the real world' and wanted to give it a go. I thought that was quite sweet and I was pleased for him. I told him so, however, I also told him that even though this is fab he should have grown a set of balls by now and should have let me know!!!! I then got a message a couple of weeks later saying it hadn't worked out and would I meet him after all. Cheeky fucker eh???!!!! " Did you meet him? | |||
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"I've never done that. If I arrange to meet I'll be there unless I have to take care of one of my kids. It's happened to me though. I was waiting for confirmation for the following day. Didn't hear anything so I text him to find out he'd met a woman from 'the real world' and wanted to give it a go. I thought that was quite sweet and I was pleased for him. I told him so, however, I also told him that even though this is fab he should have grown a set of balls by now and should have let me know!!!! I then got a message a couple of weeks later saying it hadn't worked out and would I meet him after all. Cheeky fucker eh???!!!! Did you meet him?" Christ no. No need to be anyone's plan b when you're on Fab | |||
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"I've never done that. If I arrange to meet I'll be there unless I have to take care of one of my kids. It's happened to me though. I was waiting for confirmation for the following day. Didn't hear anything so I text him to find out he'd met a woman from 'the real world' and wanted to give it a go. I thought that was quite sweet and I was pleased for him. I told him so, however, I also told him that even though this is fab he should have grown a set of balls by now and should have let me know!!!! I then got a message a couple of weeks later saying it hadn't worked out and would I meet him after all. Cheeky fucker eh???!!!! Did you meet him? Christ no. No need to be anyone's plan b when you're on Fab " sorry but that is quite a naive answer of course you are always ABCDE etc its a swinging site you are always one of many | |||
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"I've never done that. If I arrange to meet I'll be there unless I have to take care of one of my kids. It's happened to me though. I was waiting for confirmation for the following day. Didn't hear anything so I text him to find out he'd met a woman from 'the real world' and wanted to give it a go. I thought that was quite sweet and I was pleased for him. I told him so, however, I also told him that even though this is fab he should have grown a set of balls by now and should have let me know!!!! I then got a message a couple of weeks later saying it hadn't worked out and would I meet him after all. Cheeky fucker eh???!!!! " Similar here. Pestered for a meet but never confirmed one then saw his status about the most wonderful women he'd met. Stopped messaging me then all of a sudden starts messaging again. So I asked him about her and he said she turned out to be a nut job so thought he try me again!!! He got his answer!!! | |||
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"I've never done that. If I arrange to meet I'll be there unless I have to take care of one of my kids. It's happened to me though. I was waiting for confirmation for the following day. Didn't hear anything so I text him to find out he'd met a woman from 'the real world' and wanted to give it a go. I thought that was quite sweet and I was pleased for him. I told him so, however, I also told him that even though this is fab he should have grown a set of balls by now and should have let me know!!!! I then got a message a couple of weeks later saying it hadn't worked out and would I meet him after all. Cheeky fucker eh???!!!! Did you meet him? Christ no. No need to be anyone's plan b when you're on Fab sorry but that is quite a naive answer of course you are always ABCDE etc its a swinging site you are always one of many " I don't believe that is the case for everyone on here for a minute | |||
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"I've never done that. If I arrange to meet I'll be there unless I have to take care of one of my kids. It's happened to me though. I was waiting for confirmation for the following day. Didn't hear anything so I text him to find out he'd met a woman from 'the real world' and wanted to give it a go. I thought that was quite sweet and I was pleased for him. I told him so, however, I also told him that even though this is fab he should have grown a set of balls by now and should have let me know!!!! I then got a message a couple of weeks later saying it hadn't worked out and would I meet him after all. Cheeky fucker eh???!!!! Did you meet him? Christ no. No need to be anyone's plan b when you're on Fab sorry but that is quite a naive answer of course you are always ABCDE etc its a swinging site you are always one of many I don't believe that is the case for everyone on here for a minute " well you have a few partners that you see semi regular do you not ? | |||
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"I've never done that. If I arrange to meet I'll be there unless I have to take care of one of my kids. It's happened to me though. I was waiting for confirmation for the following day. Didn't hear anything so I text him to find out he'd met a woman from 'the real world' and wanted to give it a go. I thought that was quite sweet and I was pleased for him. I told him so, however, I also told him that even though this is fab he should have grown a set of balls by now and should have let me know!!!! I then got a message a couple of weeks later saying it hadn't worked out and would I meet him after all. Cheeky fucker eh???!!!! Did you meet him? Christ no. No need to be anyone's plan b when you're on Fab sorry but that is quite a naive answer of course you are always ABCDE etc its a swinging site you are always one of many I don't believe that is the case for everyone on here for a minute well you have a few partners that you see semi regular do you not ? " Not really atm but if I did and had made arrangements I would expect them to stick to it rather than waiting for a b,c,d or whatever to come along!!! | |||
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"I've never done that. If I arrange to meet I'll be there unless I have to take care of one of my kids. It's happened to me though. I was waiting for confirmation for the following day. Didn't hear anything so I text him to find out he'd met a woman from 'the real world' and wanted to give it a go. I thought that was quite sweet and I was pleased for him. I told him so, however, I also told him that even though this is fab he should have grown a set of balls by now and should have let me know!!!! I then got a message a couple of weeks later saying it hadn't worked out and would I meet him after all. Cheeky fucker eh???!!!! Did you meet him? Christ no. No need to be anyone's plan b when you're on Fab sorry but that is quite a naive answer of course you are always ABCDE etc its a swinging site you are always one of many I don't believe that is the case for everyone on here for a minute well you have a few partners that you see semi regular do you not ? Not really atm but if I did and had made arrangements I would expect them to stick to it rather than waiting for a b,c,d or whatever to come along!!! " I'm not saying you would let anyone down but I imagine you had or have had favourites you would prefer to see | |||
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"We've been kept waiting for confirmation and then days after being told they would reply, find out they were busy with work and couldn't message us despite being online regularly. This was a couple but we have also had lots of ignored confirmations from other groups so it's universal. As for waiting for better meets, we find there are no better or worse meets. They are all unique and carry their own memories. I think this is where some may go wrong, they have expectations and we go into them open mindedly and not in comparison with others. If we keep this in mind, we never feel the need to hang on for others in the hope they might be better, cos they're all good!" Sorry to hear this. People can be so unreliable. I hope your next meet gose well | |||
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