FabSwingers.com forum: What the heck?!?!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you were a single woman chatting to a single man work colleague and you both mentioned crap ex's, and how crap dating sites are for finding someone... Then a while later he mails and says something like 'when you're free sometime, I'll take you out for a night out'...

Would you think he was suggesting a date, or a night out as mates?

And would you ask him for clarification or just go along and see what happened?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you were a single woman chatting to a single man work colleague and you both mentioned crap ex's, and how crap dating sites are for finding someone... Then a while later he mails and says something like 'when you're free sometime, I'll take you out for a night out'...

Would you think he was suggesting a date, or a night out as mates?

And would you ask him for clarification or just go along and see what happened?

Date, and confirm back what he had in mind

What he replies will fully show you his intent

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Go along and see what happens x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you think he was suggesting a date, or a night out as mates?

And would you ask him for clarification or just go along and see what happened?

Date, and confirm back what he had in mind

What he replies will fully show you his intent "

This exactly

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Confirm what they mean, go out as mates and shag them anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would think night out as mates.

But that would depend on where you would be going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confirm what they mean, go out as mates and shag them anyway "

Classic man comment

Women don't always think like us!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I'd think date given the context of the conversation.

But I would probably ask in a jokey way just to be sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not live on the edge - too much of our life is controlled with a need to know every aspect of what's coming next.

Take a chance, use your intuition and enjoy a night out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yet coat, sounds like you've pulled!

If you've not gone out before then he's clearly asking you on a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Date.

Go play with his willy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds great whatever the outcome.

Good company is good company. Go enjoy yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go,enjoy the evening and see what happens after.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I chickened out of asking what he meant and asked what his taste in women is like so I could point some out for him.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

"I would go,enjoy the evening and see what happens after. "

^^ this. Enjoy

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I chickened out of asking what he meant and asked what his taste in women is like so I could point some out for him.

Honestly woman!! Did you do the 'would/wouldn't' thing in your head when he emailed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I chickened out of asking what he meant and asked what his taste in women is like so I could point some out for him.

Clearly it's you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'd just go out and not read anything into it unless there was some kind of suggestion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a date...you've been asked out !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He just wants you to read him a bedside story and maybe tuck him in. You never know....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% a date. He'd like to take you out.

If he said "lets go out" as in 'together' you are going somewhere then maybe it's just friendly. What he said was he wanted to take you out which is standard asking you out on a date phrasing, him leading the date and taking you somewhere.

That's my take on it anyway.

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

Absolutely no doubt he wants you make sure you are prpared.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I chickened out of asking what he meant and asked what his taste in women is like so I could point some out for him.

Honestly woman!! Did you do the 'would/wouldn't' thing in your head when he emailed?

Oh I would, I just don't know if he would! I'm so crap. On here it's easy.

How do I ask? I'll look a tit either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you think he was suggesting a date, or a night out as mates?

And would you ask him for clarification or just go along and see what happened?

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just go out and go with flow ,you're overthinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go and see what happens, if anything happens at the end of the night then you will know, to me it sounds like he asked you out on a date but then I know nothing!!

G x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go along and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a trap!

Actually, probably a date. But ask him...then you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like he's asked you on a date to me too. Just accept and go with the flow. What ya got to lose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Date

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a trap!

Actually, probably a date. But ask him...then you know!"

It might be a trap.

My advice to anyone else would be to ask. If he says no it's just mates I'll feel such an utter knob.

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By *adystephanieTV/TS
over a year ago

glos

"I chickened out of asking what he meant and asked what his taste in women is like so I could point some out for him.

Just say yes thank you, have a night out and go with the flow

Have fun X

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. THE MOORLANDS. BARMOUTH.

"Confirm what they mean, go out as mates and shag them anyway

Classic man comment

Women don't always think like us!"

I do..... that's exactly how I think, and exactly what I'd do xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the way I see it, you have two options!

1) do what I'd do...not say anything, then over think it and spend the evening totally confusing yourself trying to read his signals!

2) do the sensible thing....just relax, enjoy his company and go with the flow!

Ps this forumite takes no responsibility in option 1 resulting in a headache!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a trap!

Actually, probably a date. But ask him...then you know!

It might be a trap.

My advice to anyone else would be to ask. If he says no it's just mates I'll feel such an utter knob.

Schrodingers cat.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I would treat it as a social, ie don't assume anything, just spend some time alone together as friends and see if there's chemistry for more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if hes good company go as a night out with a mate- see how it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds great whatever the outcome.

Good company is good company. Go enjoy yourself x"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Would you think he was suggesting a date, or a night out as mates?

And would you ask him for clarification or just go along and see what happened?

Don't over think it, just go along and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mix business with pleasure,if it goes tits up,it could be awkward.. if you hit it off...day and night together

No never mix business with pleasure

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