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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering

Have you ever been publicly "outed" as a swinger to friends / family / work colleagues and if so how did you deal with it?

Look forward to hearing your true stories on this very delicate subject.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

No, thankfully.

Though I did tell my family, myself, when I was doing something that could have been used to apply pressure to me. I decided I'd rather they heard it from me, even if the risk of them finding out was small.

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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering

Wow that was a brave thing to do, respect to you for that ????

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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering

Those question marks were a smiley face that didn't appear properly x

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By *orneyashell87Couple
over a year ago

stockotn on tees

Yes my cousin seen my phone one day and thought it would be hilarious to tell the whole family... I myself laughed it off and answered all questions of them but simon on the other half was devasted he's so shy lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have made sure that those close to me know so can never be used against me X they weren't terribly shocked to be honest lol have you had this happen to you op ? Would love to know your story ??????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, my friends and family already know I have sex with multiple people and that I like kink.

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By *hoenixmanMan
over a year ago

Where men are men, and sheep are nervous...!

Yes. By my ex partner... with whom I was swinging as a couple and had a profile on here! And it was to all our friends.... Needless to say, we're not together any more....

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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good question mulberry.

A few years ago I was in a potentially disastrous situation. As a senior Director of a large company I was seeing a female work colleague very discreetly (she was married) and she did some extensive google searching of me.

She found a very very old swinging advert my ex wife and I had posted on a site that we had used (I had used my real name email address)

If she had blabbed I would have lost a very highly paid job for sure, but thankfully she kept it to herself.

Took me 6 months to get Google to remove the link and stop it appearing in searches.

Phew is a mild word for my relief !!! "

The phrase 'don't dip your pen in the company ink' comes to mind.

Hopefully you learned a bit of a life lesson there. (And it's worth considering - just because Google has removed it, doesn't mean it's not still out there and available to be found.)

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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering

People love exposing a good "scandal", sounds like you handled a potentially very awkward situation really well x

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"Good question mulberry.

A few years ago I was in a potentially disastrous situation. As a senior Director of a large company I was seeing a female work colleague very discreetly (she was married) and she did some extensive google searching of me.

She found a very very old swinging advert my ex wife and I had posted on a site that we had used (I had used my real name email address)

If she had blabbed I would have lost a very highly paid job for sure, but thankfully she kept it to herself.

Took me 6 months to get Google to remove the link and stop it appearing in searches.

Phew is a mild word for my relief !!! "

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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering

I certainly did learn a big lesson yes, in fact a number of them from that experience!!

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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering

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By *hoenixmanMan
over a year ago

Where men are men, and sheep are nervous...!


"I certainly did learn a big lesson yes, in fact a number of them from that experience!! "

Like all of us, you wised-up to the realities of the internet, that's all. At least you were able to sort it in time...

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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"I have made sure that those close to me know so can never be used against me X they weren't terribly shocked to be honest lol have you had this happen to you op ? Would love to know your story ??????????"

A few years ago I was in a potentially disastrous situation. As a senior Director of a large company I was seeing a female work colleague very discreetly (she was married) and she did some extensive google searching of me.

She found a very very old swinging advert my ex wife and I had posted on a site that we had used (I had used my real name email address)

If she had blabbed I would have lost a very highly paid job for sure, but thankfully she kept it to herself.

Took me 6 months to get Google to remove the link and stop it appearing in searches.

Phew is a mild word for my relief !!!

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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"I certainly did learn a big lesson yes, in fact a number of them from that experience!!

Like all of us, you wised-up to the realities of the internet, that's all. At least you were able to sort it in time..."

Ohhhhh ouch, that's a really mean way to lash out at you in an already bad situation. Better off without her I reckon matey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good question mulberry.

A few years ago I was in a potentially disastrous situation. As a senior Director of a large company I was seeing a female work colleague very discreetly (she was married) and she did some extensive google searching of me.

She found a very very old swinging advert my ex wife and I had posted on a site that we had used (I had used my real name email address)

If she had blabbed I would have lost a very highly paid job for sure, but thankfully she kept it to herself.

Took me 6 months to get Google to remove the link and stop it appearing in searches.

Phew is a mild word for my relief !!! "
a director and a work colleague op your naughty of to the broom cuboard u go and just think how lucky you were lol

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Oh, my ex- bf told his new gf about what I get up to.

She thought it was hilarious to regale me with the details and tried to tease me about it. That fell flat because I'm not embarrassed.

I refrained from telling her a few things that he still finds absolutely mortifying in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My boss knows and my ex partner knows I'm on here.

They like hearing about what I get up to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever been publicly "outed" as a swinger to friends / family / work colleagues and if so how did you deal with it?

Look forward to hearing your true stories on this very delicate subject.

"

Swinging is just another label to have loads of sex with lots of different people with our been branded sluts, slags etc.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Have you ever been publicly "outed" as a swinger to friends / family / work colleagues and if so how did you deal with it?

Look forward to hearing your true stories on this very delicate subject.

Swinging is just another label to have loads of sex with lots of different people with our been branded sluts, slags etc. "

What about the men?

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By *hoenixmanMan
over a year ago

Where men are men, and sheep are nervous...!


"I certainly did learn a big lesson yes, in fact a number of them from that experience!!

Like all of us, you wised-up to the realities of the internet, that's all. At least you were able to sort it in time...

Ohhhhh ouch, that's a really mean way to lash out at you in an already bad situation. Better off without her I reckon matey"

Errr,... not sure what you're getting it...??

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By *ipswingCouple
over a year ago

portrush

one night a friend was staying the night, and got an invite to join us ... in the understanding that this is between us ..and no one else ...

within a week sweet lady was being propositioned, in not very subtle ways, by so many so called male friends .. ...and a few married friends? started being distant ...

we just lost the false friends ..as the friends we have today have shown their worth ....

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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"Yes. By my ex partner... with whom I was swinging as a couple and had a profile on here! And it was to all our friends.... Needless to say, we're not together any more...."

That was a proper mean thing done to hurt you at a difficult time, I think you are better off without her matey

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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"I certainly did learn a big lesson yes, in fact a number of them from that experience!!

Like all of us, you wised-up to the realities of the internet, that's all. At least you were able to sort it in time...

Ohhhhh ouch, that's a really mean way to lash out at you in an already bad situation. Better off without her I reckon matey

Errr,... not sure what you're getting it...??"

Sorry I was replying to an earlier comment

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By *hoenixmanMan
over a year ago

Where men are men, and sheep are nervous...!


"I certainly did learn a big lesson yes, in fact a number of them from that experience!!

Like all of us, you wised-up to the realities of the internet, that's all. At least you were able to sort it in time...

Ohhhhh ouch, that's a really mean way to lash out at you in an already bad situation. Better off without her I reckon matey

Errr,... not sure what you're getting it...??

Sorry I was replying to an earlier comment "

Ah got it now...

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Not in swinging but I used to have a friend who was a working girl and I knew all about it and her boyfriend/pimp kept hitting on me and trying to persuade me to pack in the day job and work for him

When he didn't get anywhere he tried blackmailing me and threatened to tell my family and my work that I was doing it anyway. So I faced him out and told my HR department I was being stalked and threatened. I didn't bother to tell my family anything because I had every confidence that they would have seen him for the abusive manipulative shit that he was and laughed in his face!

He couldn't understand why I wasn't bothered by his threats.

As for the swinging some of my friends and family know, those that don't probably wouldn't be surprised so I'm not outable or blackmailable.

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By *assageGiver OP   Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"Not in swinging but I used to have a friend who was a working girl and I knew all about it and her boyfriend/pimp kept hitting on me and trying to persuade me to pack in the day job and work for him

When he didn't get anywhere he tried blackmailing me and threatened to tell my family and my work that I was doing it anyway. So I faced him out and told my HR department I was being stalked and threatened. I didn't bother to tell my family anything because I had every confidence that they would have seen him for the abusive manipulative shit that he was and laughed in his face!

He couldn't understand why I wasn't bothered by his threats.

As for the swinging some of my friends and family know, those that don't probably wouldn't be surprised so I'm not outable or blackmailable. "

Now that's guts, and a great example of how to deal with a potentially really bad situation.

Big respect to you x

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