FabSwingers.com forum: No thanks...

By *odareyou OP Man
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

So it's often mentioned by some folk on here they'd like a no thanks...

On the fishy site I m on I get a few messages ...

As a general rule I send a no thanks message if the lady isn't for me. ...it's makes me feel a bit crappy sending them to be honest.

So would you like a no thanks or a blank box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather have a nice 'no thanks' message than wait around for ages for a reply that will not come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite the the brutality of being blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops ! I left a blank box

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

once had a polite no thanks

I then messaged back thanking the lady for letting me know,

from that we started a conversation that over a few weeks ended up in a great meet

so guys if you get a no thanks be polite and say thanks for letting me know,

you never know where it may end

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It amounts to the same thing in the end, we recently had a "blank box" we got the picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd appreciate a reply of any kind but I know most here don't feel obliged to, if my message is deleted, that's fine with me, I just block them so I don't mistakenly mail them again a few months down the line.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I no longer send preemptive messages, that way I know a blank box means I have been successful

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A non reply to a message is pretty bloody obvious - unless it's me and then I probably will reply at some point or wait for the sender to send another as I have a social fab horror of appearing to be too keen and contacting too much.

So a non reply to my initial message is fine, but don't worry if you don't get a reply from me if you've sent one: send another.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I no longer send preemptive messages, that way I know a blank box means I have been successful

Re: your pm...no I won't you filthy beast!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"once had a polite no thanks

I then messaged back thanking the lady for letting me know,

from that we started a conversation that over a few weeks ended up in a great meet

so guys if you get a no thanks be polite and say thanks for letting me know,

you never know where it may end

I sincerely hope no one listens to this 'advice'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually send a pleasant not for us sorry not had many negative responses to it either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply and delete for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a 'no thanks' but maybe that's because I only ever message people on face pic friday

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By *MF lover69Man
over a year ago

bridgend

It's nice to get a reply even if it is a no thanks, especially after making an effort to write something that I thought was appealing, but then I add a face pic and no reply,lol.glad I've got thick skin or could have a serious complex on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"once had a polite no thanks

I then messaged back thanking the lady for letting me know,

from that we started a conversation that over a few weeks ended up in a great meet

so guys if you get a no thanks be polite and say thanks for letting me know,

you never know where it may end

I sincerely hope no one listens to this 'advice'.

I have had a few back that have said no thanks but a bit more to it, I will send a polite thanks for letting me know and leaving them to it, I'd certainly never try and fish for a meet from a no thanks, just don't see how that is possible if they've already said no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"once had a polite no thanks

I then messaged back thanking the lady for letting me know,

from that we started a conversation that over a few weeks ended up in a great meet

so guys if you get a no thanks be polite and say thanks for letting me know,

you never know where it may end

I sincerely hope no one listens to this 'advice'.

What's wrong with being polite and decent rather than sending a torrent of abuse that some people seem to like sending

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

No answer always gives the folorn faint hope

C...

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

"once had a polite no thanks

I then messaged back thanking the lady for letting me know,

from that we started a conversation that over a few weeks ended up in a great meet

so guys if you get a no thanks be polite and say thanks for letting me know,

you never know where it may end

I sincerely hope no one listens to this 'advice'.

to be clear it was the lady who messaged me back as she was surprised by the "thank you", she was not used to guys being polite, so my point of being polite still stands.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Seeing as I'm a serial non-replier it would be tad presumptuous of me to expect a 'no thanks'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would much prefer a no thanks, but then I usually forget who I message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"once had a polite no thanks

I then messaged back thanking the lady for letting me know,

from that we started a conversation that over a few weeks ended up in a great meet

so guys if you get a no thanks be polite and say thanks for letting me know,

you never know where it may end

I sincerely hope no one listens to this 'advice'.

What's wrong with being polite and decent rather than sending a torrent of abuse that some people seem to like sending

Missed the point somewhat.

I used to say 'thanks but no thanks' but many seem to take this as 'please message me more' instead of moving swiftly on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be polite and so no thanks instead of deleting but they just keep messaging asking why !

Yet when delete - get called ignorant and up my own arse!! Can't win!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to be polite and so no thanks instead of deleting but they just keep messaging asking why !

Yet when delete - get called ignorant and up my own arse!! Can't win!!!! "

if that's not an invitation to block someone, I don't know what is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"once had a polite no thanks

I then messaged back thanking the lady for letting me know,

from that we started a conversation that over a few weeks ended up in a great meet

so guys if you get a no thanks be polite and say thanks for letting me know,

you never know where it may end

I sincerely hope no one listens to this 'advice'.

nothing wrong with someone saying thanks for your reply when theyve been told no thank you.... please dont discourage the minority on here who are polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any reply should be welcomed. There is nothing worse than seeing your message deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Old school here , manners mean a lot so a polite no thanks is always appreciated

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By *ullbackbuttMan
over a year ago

Purton

"I've never had a 'no thanks' but maybe that's because I only ever message people on face pic friday

Who in their right mind would send you a no thanks. I for one would be a big yes please....

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By *inkylouiseWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Some people get alot of mail so its quicker to just delete and people should accept and move on.if its quite a decent email then a no thanks is a worthy reply.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd like to send and receive an easy no thanks, rather than leave people in the dark or possibly be thinking a meet's on, when the others have changed their minds.

A simple automated no thanks type message, coupled with or without a blocking, would work very nicely for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very much appreciated when a woman takes the time to not only respond with a polite "No thanks", but explain why. This has only happened once though. I messaged back thanking her for her manners and honesty.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Makes not the slightest bit of difference to me it means the same thing, but I have met a guy on the back of me sending a no thanks message, I loved his reply to it, saw him for a few years until he moved away.

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By *unCoupleTXCouple
over a year ago

Longview

I have read many on here say that the general rule is no reply= not interested. But we always reply back if even just to say No, thanks. I guess it's just the Texas girl in me believing in nice manners.

Likewise, I would always appreciate some sort of reply rather than being ignored. Rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no nice way to let someone know they aren't what you're attracted to. It's in the jaws and the eyebrows for me I just know a what I consider handsome face when I see it. Rejection of any kind is horrible and I genuinely don't like being a person that could make another person feel bad even if it's just for a second.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does nobody like the will they wont they wait for a reply ? - and heres me thinking anticipation adds to the arousal

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