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Being referred to as a "female."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It *is* objectification. It's referring to someone as a female animal, not a human woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification."

Laydee then...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why?.. It's what we are... Genuine question. Not being funny...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification."
you could always use it as a filter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why?.. It's what we are... Genuine question. Not being funny... "

I just think that woman or lady sounds nicer. I agree with Wasp Hunter's point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification.you could always use it as a filter "

I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It *is* objectification. It's referring to someone as a female animal, not a human woman."

I don't understand how identifying the sex of someone is objectifying them? Why isn't it classification?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I am a female of the species....and of course more deadly than the male....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are you then op...a man

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"It *is* objectification. It's referring to someone as a female animal, not a human woman."
I thought humans where animals

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What are you then op...a man"

Yep, I just hide my winkie well.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

It doesn't bother me in the slightest. I've used it myself on occasion.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Why?.. It's what we are... Genuine question. Not being funny...

I just think that woman or lady sounds nicer. I agree with Wasp Hunter's point."
but some think lady is objectifying women as the weaker sex. So you can't have the word lady.

We should all just be called things.

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen


"It *is* objectification. It's referring to someone as a female animal, not a human woman.

I don't understand how identifying the sex of someone is objectifying them? Why isn't it classification? "

I agree, it's just a term to denote gender, same goes for male.

Obviously if there is some pejorative context, that is different, but then the same would apply to any other gender label such as woman or man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

V here.

"Female" is a scientific term that refers to the sex of a species that is capable of producing children. The term "woman" refers specifically to human beings, while "female" could refer to any species.

I dislike "lady" but that's just my personal opinion. Lady is a title.

Vxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"V here.

"Female" is a scientific term that refers to the sex of a species that is capable of producing children. The term "woman" refers specifically to human beings, while "female" could refer to any species.

I dislike "lady" but that's just my personal opinion. Lady is a title.

Vxx"
so humans are females?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but not with you on this one! Very few of the 'little things' in life offend me - which is why I'm usually so happy!

Really can't see how the word female is offensive to anyone - unless a male gets called one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So perhaps we shouldn't have or seek mmf or ffm

Perhaps ggl or llg (gentleman and lady? )

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"It *is* objectification. It's referring to someone as a female animal, not a human woman."

Eh? Of all the people to muddle sex and gender, I never thought it would be you!

OP your sex is female, your gender is for you to define.

I was brought up that a 'woman' worked whereas a 'lady' didn't. If one was unsure one could never go wrong by calling someone a 'lady' - but there have been threads on here even complaining about that. Basically, men can't win.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also not at all bothered by being called female. Or fem. Or woman. Or lady. Lots more things to be offended about in my opinion x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I really don't care what someome calls me as long as its not ment in a derograty way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd prefer to be described as a woman, but I think it's possible to overthink it.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification."

First world problems eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy messaged me calling me slag or ho or bitch I'd probably be offended but I don't think anyone intends to offend by using the term "female" xx

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"So perhaps we shouldn't have or seek mmf or ffm

Perhaps ggl or llg (gentleman and lady? )"

I'm no gentleman

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I always refer to females on here as "ladies", whether they are or not

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere

So is being called a Lady complimentary or derogatory ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I really don't care what someone calls me as long as its not meant in a derogatory way

"

^^ I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification.

First world problems eh?"

Cute...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It *is* objectification. It's referring to someone as a female animal, not a human woman."

You can't simply denigrate a word - because in doing so you risk a precedent for other terms and meanings to be equally dismissed or treated in a derogatory fashion by those who don't agree with them. Certain groups in society are co-opting words for their own devises almost daily - should we decry them their use?

Context is everything. It doesn't have to be the word, but how you wield it that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with."

So what's "wrong" with wanting to have sex with a female?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"So is being called a Lady complimentary or derogatory ? "
neither for me its just my title seriously, it might get to the stage where a guy has to be given a check list before he talks to someone of the opposite sex so they know who !likes and doesn't like what.

There was a new one on here the other day that someome was offended by that I hadn't heard before

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification.

First world problems eh?

Cute..."

not so much,I am male and proud of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification."

I'd call you a woman ... nice and simple, nothing complicated about that - apart from the fact that you're a woman hahaha - btw the masks on Dogging tales were scary

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

So what's "wrong" with wanting to have sex with a female?"

Do you not think that woman sounds better than female?

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"We should all just be called things.

"

Goddess-Thingy has a certain ring about it though don't you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

So what's "wrong" with wanting to have sex with a female?

Do you not think that woman sounds better than female?

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified."

Why objectification? Wasp Hunter hasn't explained it, could you?

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

I guess the things that uopset some people are pretty insignificant to others,I would be more pissed off if someone were abusive to a female (oops I mean a girl/woman/lady/xx chromosome person) that if someone were to refer to them as female whether in a sexual or non sexual way but everyone has their own tolerance level some are set lower than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

So what's "wrong" with wanting to have sex with a female?

Do you not think that woman sounds better than female?

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified."

No I don't. I am a female. I really don't care which word is used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hosting a 10 guy gangbang and have a female ready

hosting a 10 guy gangbang and have a woman ready

now if I had said 10 males it might not have sounded objectifying I guess..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought that while watching the same documentary and I see where you're coming from with this. I think it was the way it was used. The guy who says it doesn't really seem to give any credence to the fact those 'females' are thinking, feeling human beings.

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with."

Then I think the issue lies with you, not the word...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"V here.

"Female" is a scientific term that refers to the sex of a species that is capable of producing children. The term "woman" refers specifically to human beings, while "female" could refer to any species.

I dislike "lady" but that's just my personal opinion. Lady is a title.

Vxxso humans are females?"

Yup xxxx

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere


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Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified."

I prefer to refer to females as Ladies as I think it is more respectful I am I right ?

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

Then I think the issue lies with you, not the word..."

ding ding ding we have a winner lol (joking)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

I prefer to refer to females as Ladies as I think it is more respectful I am I right ?"

Lady is a title.

Woman is the best word (in my opinion but I'm sure it's different for others).

V xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought that while watching the same documentary and I see where you're coming from with this. I think it was the way it was used. The guy who says it doesn't really seem to give any credence to the fact those 'females' are thinking, feeling human beings.

"

I would guess that if he doesn't see them as sentient beings, the issue goes beyond semantics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

I prefer to refer to females as Ladies as I think it is more respectful I am I right ?"

Nah, us birds like to be called wimmin or girly chicks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

I prefer to refer to females as Ladies as I think it is more respectful I am I right ?"

Eh, it's pretty meaningless if you're going to apply it across the board.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

So what's "wrong" with wanting to have sex with a female?

Do you not think that woman sounds better than female?

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

Why objectification? Wasp Hunter hasn't explained it, could you?"

I'm going to be utterly shit woth trying to explain this... bear with me.

I feel like it's quite a cold clinical way to refer to as a woman, almost a detached way - and, on Fab, I don't mean detached in an unattached NSA way, I mean detached way as in no emotional or mental connection, as in the untitled female is below the person who they're having sex with... if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

Then I think the issue lies with you, not the word..."

How so?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I thought that while watching the same documentary and I see where you're coming from with this. I think it was the way it was used. The guy who says it doesn't really seem to give any credence to the fact those 'females' are thinking, feeling human beings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

So what's "wrong" with wanting to have sex with a female?

Do you not think that woman sounds better than female?

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

Why objectification? Wasp Hunter hasn't explained it, could you?

I'm going to be utterly shit woth trying to explain this... bear with me.

I feel like it's quite a cold clinical way to refer to as a woman, almost a detached way - and, on Fab, I don't mean detached in an unattached NSA way, I mean detached way as in no emotional or mental connection, as in the untitled female is below the person who they're having sex with... if that makes sense?"

Sorta. Does it bother you when it appears on forms too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt bother me one jot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

So what's "wrong" with wanting to have sex with a female?

Do you not think that woman sounds better than female?

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

Why objectification? Wasp Hunter hasn't explained it, could you?

I'm going to be utterly shit woth trying to explain this... bear with me.

I feel like it's quite a cold clinical way to refer to as a woman, almost a detached way - and, on Fab, I don't mean detached in an unattached NSA way, I mean detached way as in no emotional or mental connection, as in the untitled female is below the person who they're having sex with... if that makes sense?

Sorta. Does it bother you when it appears on forms too?"

Hmmm... not so much. As it's been previously mentioned on this thread I tend to use it as an extra filter.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

So what's "wrong" with wanting to have sex with a female?

Do you not think that woman sounds better than female?

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

Why objectification? Wasp Hunter hasn't explained it, could you?

I'm going to be utterly shit woth trying to explain this... bear with me.

I feel like it's quite a cold clinical way to refer to as a woman, almost a detached way - and, on Fab, I don't mean detached in an unattached NSA way, I mean detached way as in no emotional or mental connection, as in the untitled female is below the person who they're having sex with... if that makes sense?"
but there is a different between you not liking a word and the words meaning. are two different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

So what's "wrong" with wanting to have sex with a female?

Do you not think that woman sounds better than female?

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

Why objectification? Wasp Hunter hasn't explained it, could you?

I'm going to be utterly shit woth trying to explain this... bear with me.

I feel like it's quite a cold clinical way to refer to as a woman, almost a detached way - and, on Fab, I don't mean detached in an unattached NSA way, I mean detached way as in no emotional or mental connection, as in the untitled female is below the person who they're having sex with... if that makes sense?"

What about if you're using the term as a means of gender identity?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


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Lady is a title.

Woman is the best word (in my opinion but I'm sure it's different for others).

V xx"

'Lady' as in 'Lord' IS a title.

'lady' (no capital) as in 'gentleman' isn't.

Some socialists get offended when called a lady because of a perceived class distinction.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

I prefer to refer to females as Ladies as I think it is more respectful I am I right ?

Nah, us birds like to be called wimmin or girly chicks "

Awww shurruppp ya tart

Crikey, I'm begining to sound like Bladey now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

So what's "wrong" with wanting to have sex with a female?

Do you not think that woman sounds better than female?

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

Why objectification? Wasp Hunter hasn't explained it, could you?

I'm going to be utterly shit woth trying to explain this... bear with me.

I feel like it's quite a cold clinical way to refer to as a woman, almost a detached way - and, on Fab, I don't mean detached in an unattached NSA way, I mean detached way as in no emotional or mental connection, as in the untitled female is below the person who they're having sex with... if that makes sense?

What about if you're using the term as a means of gender identity? "

As I've previously mentioned on this thread, that doesn't bother me.

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

Then I think the issue lies with you, not the word...

How so? "

Because in and of itself, the term is a simple label to denote gender.

It's you that is projecting your perception of the intent of its usage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't care what someome calls me as long as its not ment in a derograty way

"

My long term partner calls me bitch,he says it in a most endearing way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to make a point... I only don't like being called a female where sexual activity is concerned... Ie say, if someone says that they want to have sex with a female, or if someone says that they want to go out to meet females for sex, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge.

Other terms, such as female students or female workers and so on, I'm fine with.

So what's "wrong" with wanting to have sex with a female?

Do you not think that woman sounds better than female?

Once again... ~I~ think that "female" sounds like that woman is being objectified.

Why objectification? Wasp Hunter hasn't explained it, could you?

I'm going to be utterly shit woth trying to explain this... bear with me.

I feel like it's quite a cold clinical way to refer to as a woman, almost a detached way - and, on Fab, I don't mean detached in an unattached NSA way, I mean detached way as in no emotional or mental connection, as in the untitled female is below the person who they're having sex with... if that makes sense?

What about if you're using the term as a means of gender identity?

As I've previously mentioned on this thread, that doesn't bother me."

So, not the word. Just the context then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why?.. It's what we are... Genuine question. Not being funny...

I just think that woman or lady sounds nicer. I agree with Wasp Hunter's point."

Oh Ok

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Nothing related to this but I have a kind of word phobia over a certain word, I go hot cold start sweating and feel sick when I hear it. Unfortunatly its a very common word and I have to try and find ways of dealing with it.

Maybe try and find out why it makes you feel how you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like I said in my previous post, its how its termed when differentiating between the sexes.

we could say equal amounts of males and females use fab,but if I said lots of women use fab as well as males or vice versa, then I think that would be some sort of derogatory view on men.

I'd say guys/men and women/girls in lots of cases..I think I wouldnt use language that refers to them in a more scientific manner.Likewise I'd never say I'm really wanting to lick a vagina, I'd say pussy....but I know cats find this offensive too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing related to this but I have a kind of word phobia over a certain word, I go hot cold start sweating and feel sick when I hear it. Unfortunatly its a very common word and I have to try and find ways of dealing with it.

Maybe try and find out why it makes you feel how you do.

"

I think I know why... it goes back to a time where I was sexually objectified & that's where my whole dislike of being objectified comes from.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Nothing related to this but I have a kind of word phobia over a certain word, I go hot cold start sweating and feel sick when I hear it. Unfortunatly its a very common word and I have to try and find ways of dealing with it.

Maybe try and find out why it makes you feel how you do.

"

I've been called all sorts over the years. Sticks & stones and all that eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification."

Try being a single male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification.

Try being a single male"

its persecution lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing related to this but I have a kind of word phobia over a certain word, I go hot cold start sweating and feel sick when I hear it. Unfortunatly its a very common word and I have to try and find ways of dealing with it.

Maybe try and find out why it makes you feel how you do.

I think I know why... it goes back to a time where I was sexually objectified & that's where my whole dislike of being objectified comes from."

Cant think of one period in histoey where women were regularly refered to as females?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Like I said in my previous post, its how its termed when differentiating between the sexes.

we could say equal amounts of males and females use fab,but if I said lots of women use fab as well as males or vice versa, then I think that would be some sort of derogatory view on men.

I'd say guys/men and women/girls in lots of cases..I think I wouldnt use language that refers to them in a more scientific manner.Likewise I'd never say I'm really wanting to lick a vagina, I'd say pussy....but I know cats find this offensive too."
I wouldn't even know how I refer to people. I don't stop and think what I'm saying.

I don't generally say male or female think it's usually boys, guys girls ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to be sexually objectified while swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Lady is a title.

Woman is the best word (in my opinion but I'm sure it's different for others).

V xx

'Lady' as in 'Lord' IS a title.

'lady' (no capital) as in 'gentleman' isn't.

Some socialists get offended when called a lady because of a perceived class distinction."

Lady (no capital) and "gentleman" go together. As in "the lady and the gentleman". It is a descriptor (lady-like) and describes behaviour or perception of behaviour appropriate to the female human. There's nothing really wrong with it. Some see it as more polite others will see it as demeaning.

I just prefer woman. It is what I am.

V xxx

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen


"

I think I know why... it goes back to a time where I was sexually objectified & that's where my whole dislike of being objectified comes from."

And there you have it. You have a negative association with the term which you project on to it. There's nothing wrong or pejorative about the word itself, just your perception of it.

You can't really expect the whole world to change because of your negative experience.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I tick 'female' on forms. But I am a woman; definitely not a lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female on forms is correct as it is usually paired with male.... Male/female. If it was "man" then the accurate pairing would be "woman".

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By *ullbackbuttMan
over a year ago

Purton


"If a guy messaged me calling me slag or ho or bitch I'd probably be offended but I don't think anyone intends to offend by using the term "female" xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the mind boggles

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"the mind boggles "

What's new on here

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

looser underwear might help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Lady is a title.

Woman is the best word (in my opinion but I'm sure it's different for others).

V xx

'Lady' as in 'Lord' IS a title.

'lady' (no capital) as in 'gentleman' isn't.

Some socialists get offended when called a lady because of a perceived class distinction.

Lady (no capital) and "gentleman" go together. As in "the lady and the gentleman". It is a descriptor (lady-like) and describes behaviour or perception of behaviour appropriate to the female human. There's nothing really wrong with it. Some see it as more polite others will see it as demeaning.

I just prefer woman. It is what I am.

V xxx"

Oi,woman! Get my dinner!

Better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't bear this type of 'new-age constantly-offended-feminist' nonsense. I am female and see no reason to get offended by it.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"I can't bear this type of 'new-age constantly-offended-feminist' nonsense. I am female and see no reason to get offended by it. "

the voice of reason I would turn my chair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought that while watching the same documentary and I see where you're coming from with this. I think it was the way it was used. The guy who says it doesn't really seem to give any credence to the fact those 'females' are thinking, feeling human beings.

I would guess that if he doesn't see them as sentient beings, the issue goes beyond semantics."

I'm quite sure he does have some awareness of the fact women are sentient beings, but his manner of conveying his wishes suggests not the human variety.

Discourse is an important part of how we connect with some people and not others. Personally I avoid those who simply wish to fuck 'A. Female'. As ever, context is everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Lady is a title.

Woman is the best word (in my opinion but I'm sure it's different for others).

V xx

'Lady' as in 'Lord' IS a title.

'lady' (no capital) as in 'gentleman' isn't.

Some socialists get offended when called a lady because of a perceived class distinction.

Lady (no capital) and "gentleman" go together. As in "the lady and the gentleman". It is a descriptor (lady-like) and describes behaviour or perception of behaviour appropriate to the female human. There's nothing really wrong with it. Some see it as more polite others will see it as demeaning.

I just prefer woman. It is what I am.

V xxx

Oi,woman! Get my dinner!

Better? "

MUCH!

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

SOOOOOOOOO anyhoo how are all the lovely girlies?

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"SOOOOOOOOO anyhoo how are all the lovely girlies?"

I use girl and girlie too

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"SOOOOOOOOO anyhoo how are all the lovely girlies?

I use girl and girlie too "

but not female girl or girlies

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"SOOOOOOOOO anyhoo how are all the lovely girlies?

I use girl and girlie too

but not female girl or girlies "

Nope.....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

fuck me, every term seems to cause some sort of offense or bother....its a wonder people can communicate these days....jesus christ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fuck me, every term seems to cause some sort of offense or bother....its a wonder people can communicate these days....jesus christ "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fuck me, every term seems to cause some sort of offense or bother....its a wonder people can communicate these days....jesus christ "

God and Grammar are both offended by this.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"fuck me, every term seems to cause some sort of offense or bother....its a wonder people can communicate these days....jesus christ

God and Grammar are both offended by this."

god and grammar can kiss my spotty fat arse...being offended is not a terminal illness, no one will die from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say it bothers me as I am female as opposed to male.

On here though the word Fem makes me cringe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now you're offending airports.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Now you're offending airports."

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Definitely female, just checked!

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"SOOOOOOOOO anyhoo how are all the lovely girlies?

I use girl and girlie too

but not female girl or girlies

Nope..... "

hmmm I'm flummoxed

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Definitely female, just checked! "

could be a tiny willy masquerading as a clitoris???

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"fuck me, every term seems to cause some sort of offense or bother....its a wonder people can communicate these days....jesus christ

God and Grammar are both offended by this.

god and grammar can kiss my spotty fat arse...being offended is not a terminal illness, no one will die from it "

Everyone has the right to be offended but NOBODY has the right to never be offended

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"SOOOOOOOOO anyhoo how are all the lovely girlies?

I use girl and girlie too

but not female girl or girlies

Nope.....

hmmm I'm flummoxed"

That sounds like fun

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Definitely female, just checked!

could be a tiny willy masquerading as a clitoris???"

Mm, no, definitely no willy lurking there, cos then I'd be a male!

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

OMFG this is a massive pet hate for me.

It generally turns me off any guy completely and immediately if he uses it.

(Haven't read all the other responses, just wanted to put in my support for the OP)

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Personally, I could live with it.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"SOOOOOOOOO anyhoo how are all the lovely girlies?

I use girl and girlie too

but not female girl or girlies

Nope.....

hmmm I'm flummoxed

That sounds like fun "

only with fresh cream

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification."

Females are easily niggled,it's a female thing.

At certain times of the month,any word can be niggling for Mrs saucy.

were I not perfect,at times I would suspect it wasn't the word that niggled,it was me,phaah!!.

Now tell us more about dogging tales,sounds a wee bit like good masterbation material,is it??

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Definitely female, just checked!

could be a tiny willy masquerading as a clitoris???

Mm, no, definitely no willy lurking there, cos then I'd be a male! "

well to be fair I guess I need proof

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"OMFG this is a massive pet hate for me.

It generally turns me off any guy completely and immediately if he uses it.

(Haven't read all the other responses, just wanted to put in my support for the OP) "

We should get all the males and females to do a poll (howdy stranger)

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere

So just to mix the conversation up a bit.

What is the women's or ladies opinion on being called Luv ?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"fuck me, every term seems to cause some sort of offense or bother....its a wonder people can communicate these days....jesus christ

God and Grammar are both offended by this.

god and grammar can kiss my spotty fat arse...being offended is not a terminal illness, no one will die from it

Everyone has the right to be offended but NOBODY has the right to never be offended"

and nobody has the right to expect me to give a flying one

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"OMFG this is a massive pet hate for me.

It generally turns me off any guy completely and immediately if he uses it.

(Haven't read all the other responses, just wanted to put in my support for the OP)

We should get all the males and females to do a poll (howdy stranger) "
can I be referred to as chromosomes xx please

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"OMFG this is a massive pet hate for me.

It generally turns me off any guy completely and immediately if he uses it.

(Haven't read all the other responses, just wanted to put in my support for the OP)

We should get all the males and females to do a poll (howdy stranger) "

Hey hottie.

All the male and female whats? You'll have to specify the species.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Definitely female, just checked!

could be a tiny willy masquerading as a clitoris???

Mm, no, definitely no willy lurking there, cos then I'd be a male!

well to be fair I guess I need proof "

You'll just have to take my word for it!!

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"OMFG this is a massive pet hate for me.

It generally turns me off any guy completely and immediately if he uses it.

(Haven't read all the other responses, just wanted to put in my support for the OP)

We should get all the males and females to do a poll (howdy stranger)

Hey hottie.

All the male and female whats? You'll have to specify the species. "

male and female giraffenocesorosses,

hows you keeping hun bun?

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Definitely female, just checked!

could be a tiny willy masquerading as a clitoris???

Mm, no, definitely no willy lurking there, cos then I'd be a male!

well to be fair I guess I need proof

You'll just have to take my word for it!! "

can't I gots the OCD goin on

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"So just to mix the conversation up a bit.

What is the women's or ladies opinion on being called Luv ?"

I really don't mind what I'm called, as long as it is not an offensive word, but is endearing and not said in a condescending way!

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"So just to mix the conversation up a bit.

What is the women's or ladies opinion on being called Luv ?

I really don't mind what I'm called, as long as it is not an offensive word, but is endearing and not said in a condescending way! "

awwww that's so cute pet x x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Definitely female, just checked!

could be a tiny willy masquerading as a clitoris???

Mm, no, definitely no willy lurking there, cos then I'd be a male!

well to be fair I guess I need proof

You'll just have to take my word for it!!

can't I gots the OCD goin on

"

Oh dear, never mind, I'm sure you'll feel better in the morning, take a paracetamol

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By *otswoldMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"But I am a female of the species....and of course more deadly than the male.... "

But that, according to the poet, is in defence of your young

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"So just to mix the conversation up a bit.

What is the women's or ladies opinion on being called Luv ?

I really don't mind what I'm called, as long as it is not an offensive word, but is endearing and not said in a condescending way!

awwww that's so cute pet x x "

Thanks hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female of the species is more deadly lol

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"male and female giraffenocesorosses,

hows you keeping hun bun?"

I heard they hold some pretty contentious views, when polled.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Definitely female, just checked!

could be a tiny willy masquerading as a clitoris???

Mm, no, definitely no willy lurking there, cos then I'd be a male!

well to be fair I guess I need proof

You'll just have to take my word for it!!

can't I gots the OCD goin on

Oh dear, never mind, I'm sure you'll feel better in the morning, take a paracetamol "

Oh no my body is my temple no drugs going into me

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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago

NeverWhere


"So just to mix the conversation up a bit.

What is the women's or ladies opinion on being called Luv ?

I really don't mind what I'm called, as long as it is not an offensive word, but is endearing and not said in a condescending way!

awwww that's so cute pet x x

Thanks hun "

That's a relief I have a terrible memory and i use it a lot at work and i always try to be respectful

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"male and female giraffenocesorosses,

hows you keeping hun bun?

I heard they hold some pretty contentious views, when polled. "

yup them goddamn giraffenocesorosses have some neck and stick their big noses in everywhere

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"So just to mix the conversation up a bit.

What is the women's or ladies opinion on being called Luv ?

I really don't mind what I'm called, as long as it is not an offensive word, but is endearing and not said in a condescending way!

awwww that's so cute pet x x

Thanks hun "

ah sure you're only pure welcome

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"So just to mix the conversation up a bit.

What is the women's or ladies opinion on being called Luv ?

I really don't mind what I'm called, as long as it is not an offensive word, but is endearing and not said in a condescending way!

awwww that's so cute pet x x

Thanks hun

That's a relief I have a terrible memory and i use it a lot at work and i always try to be respectful "

Any word can be offensive if used aggressively. Been called lots of nasty names when I was working, so pretty hardened to it .

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"So just to mix the conversation up a bit.

What is the women's or ladies opinion on being called Luv ?

I really don't mind what I'm called, as long as it is not an offensive word, but is endearing and not said in a condescending way!

awwww that's so cute pet x x

Thanks hun

ah sure you're only pure welcome "

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

So I'm guessing the general consensus is with a few exceptions "suck it up" it's only a word.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"So I'm guessing the general consensus is with a few exceptions "suck it up" it's only a word."

Yes, I would agree with that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did i miss this! Pure. FAB. gold! I mean SERIOUSLY! Right?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"How did i miss this! Pure. FAB. gold! I mean SERIOUSLY! Right?

"

Great, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" ...from the people who brought you "when is a tstgtvcd not a tstgtvcd" we bring you when is a female human NOT a human female..and it's about dammed time!"

"It's woman's own, not female's own!"- woman's own magazine

"We're really sorry but woman didn't fit the lyric"- Space. (Popular beat combo 1996 Gut records).

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

a female complaining about being called/termed/referred to as 'female'

Alarm bells

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

On here where people regularly refer to male profiles, the male or female of an MF couple? Absolutely no problem referring to me as a female in that context. In most others it just makes me think of the dad in Friday Night Dinners. And he amuses me. So no issue here. Obviously, I would prefer to be referred to as a fellow human being and member of the distaff element but that's not going to happen, plus it's a bugger to type.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"So I'm guessing the general consensus is with a few exceptions "suck it up" it's only a word."

Or "use it as a filter".

If someone speaks in a way you're not comfortable with, you're probably not going to be comfortable meeting and playing with them.

Personally, when men refer to a "female" and it sounds as though they are just looking for a warm object with the requisite holes, rather than a person, it puts me off. If it doesn't sound like that, no problem.

If men feel female is the right way to express what they mean and accept it may put some women off, fair enough.

It's just another of the ways we can use to work out who we may get along with and who we probably won't.

Over the years I've heard women object to female, girl, lady, bird, chick and all sorts of other terms. Using "woman" seems safest to me, since that definitely denotes a human, female person.

A "female" could be a dog, a duck, a holly bush...

"Female" describes as aspect of me but it doesn't necessarily mean a person.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Interestingly the word 'female' has its own distinct derivation, totally separate from the word 'male' whereas 'woman' isn't separate from the word 'man', and is instead linked to the word 'wife', with its connotations of 'ownership'.

That said, let's face it, that whole documentary, with the animal masks, was a bit odd. I was always disapponted that they didn't have a beaver...

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On here where people regularly refer to male profiles, the male or female of an MF couple? Absolutely no problem referring to me as a female in that context. In most others it just makes me think of the dad in Friday Night Dinners. And he amuses me. So no issue here. Obviously, I would prefer to be referred to as a fellow human being and member of the distaff element but that's not going to happen, plus it's a bugger to type."

"Shit on it! Shit on the shitting thing!"

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By *hrissyjezCouple
over a year ago

kingswinford


"It really niggles me... not in everyday conversation, but in sexual situations - I noticed it while watching Dogging Tales (don't judge me ) last night & I notice it on here quite a bit too. It just comes across to me as objectification."

Female is too generic and lacks intimacy. I know that (most) people on here are looking for NSA fun and friendship but I prefer to have sex with a woman not a female

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"So I'm guessing the general consensus is with a few exceptions "suck it up" it's only a word."

I think we should "suck it up" in the same way all those dudes who use it should "suck it up" that no one will then meet with them.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"So I'm guessing the general consensus is with a few exceptions "suck it up" it's only a word.

I think we should "suck it up" in the same way all those dudes who use it should "suck it up" that no one will then meet with them. "

Technically 'the same' would be telling men they shouldn't mind being called men, males, blokes, guys, boys, lads, dudes, etc. But then, generally, it never seems to be an issue. Admittedly the first time a bloke called me "mi-duck" I was a bit , but I soon grew accustomed to it.

I honestly don't believe this is sexism, just an honest inability to see the issue. (Especially when there is no general consensus amonst women)

Mr ddc

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"So I'm guessing the general consensus is with a few exceptions "suck it up" it's only a word.

I think we should "suck it up" in the same way all those dudes who use it should "suck it up" that no one will then meet with them.

Technically 'the same' would be telling men they shouldn't mind being called men, males, blokes, guys, boys, lads, dudes, etc. But then, generally, it never seems to be an issue. Admittedly the first time a bloke called me "mi-duck" I was a bit , but I soon grew accustomed to it.

I honestly don't believe this is sexism, just an honest inability to see the issue. (Especially when there is no general consensus amonst women)

Mr ddc"

Oh, no, my comment wasn't one supporting the sexism bit of this.

Just pointing out that when people say "suck it up" it generally means "you shouldn't complain about this, you must accept that this is OK, and your objections are pointless". Which is exactly what I want to say to the dudes who use the term but then complain they have no meets.

Sure, use it if you want, no one can tell you you can't (just like no one can tell us not to be offended by it), but just accept the consequences of your actions (i.e. women not wanting to meet you because you sound like a fuckboi. Lol).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind at all being called female.

I'm more insulted when I get called a lady because I'm definitely not a lady, I fart, burp, drink pints not halfs, live in trainers everything a lady shouldn't do x

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"So I'm guessing the general consensus is with a few exceptions "suck it up" it's only a word.

I think we should "suck it up" in the same way all those dudes who use it should "suck it up" that no one will then meet with them.

Technically 'the same' would be telling men they shouldn't mind being called men, males, blokes, guys, boys, lads, dudes, etc. But then, generally, it never seems to be an issue. Admittedly the first time a bloke called me "mi-duck" I was a bit , but I soon grew accustomed to it.

I honestly don't believe this is sexism, just an honest inability to see the issue. (Especially when there is no general consensus amonst women)

Mr ddc

Oh, no, my comment wasn't one supporting the sexism bit of this.

Just pointing out that when people say "suck it up" it generally means "you shouldn't complain about this, you must accept that this is OK, and your objections are pointless". Which is exactly what I want to say to the dudes who use the term but then complain they have no meets.

Sure, use it if you want, no one can tell you you can't (just like no one can tell us not to be offended by it), but just accept the consequences of your actions (i.e. women not wanting to meet you because you sound like a fuckboi. Lol). "

I sound like a 'fuckboi'?

(I'm not even sure if that's bad or not )

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"

I sound like a 'fuckboi'?

(I'm not even sure if that's bad or not )

"

Yeah....... a bit.

Lol.

Soz

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

There's definitly times when men using 'female' comes across as 'thing I want to fuck' (whether they intend it to or not).

It can be a bit dehumanising in some circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's dehumanising... it's referring to a woman as an animal. Even, as an object.

It also often indicates when people don't have such a good grasp of how to use English. It's either poor language skills or deliberate dehumanisation - and both of those things are pretty unsexy to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Technically 'the same' would be telling men they shouldn't mind being called men, males, blokes, guys, boys, lads, dudes, etc. "

Actually "the same" would be referring to men as "males".

"Men" is the same as "women" - i.e. they are humans who happen to be men.

"Males" is the same as "females" - i.e. they are objects/things/animals who carry the data needed to fertilize the female version of themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like male.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I like male. "

I know

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

How are all the lovely female fabbers tonight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have received messages which have said something along the lines of 'the fem is gorgeous' or similar type of thing. Im not keen on it, my name is on my profile and I do think it's very impersonal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have received messages which have said something along the lines of 'the fem is gorgeous' or similar type of thing. Im not keen on it, my name is on my profile and I do think it's very impersonal.

"

"I like having sex with females"

Female what? Female dogs? Female orchids?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How are all the lovely female fabbers tonight?"

Think you're missing the point. Female as an adjective rather than female as a noun. "Hi female fabbers" is different from "hi females".

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I hate 'fem' more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How are all the lovely female fabbers tonight?

Think you're missing the point. Female as an adjective rather than female as a noun. "Hi female fabbers" is different from "hi females". "

Burned!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm offended by how easily people take offence. Are people these days really that fragile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's dehumanising... it's referring to a woman as an animal. Even, as an object.

It also often indicates when people don't have such a good grasp of how to use English. It's either poor language skills or deliberate dehumanisation - and both of those things are pretty unsexy to me."

Humans are animals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the way I hear it, when its obviously a derogative term is(picture the scene):-

A group of gentlemen scholars are discussing the implications of using random light technology particle accelerates.A maid overhears and comes up with a radical suggestion.The men obviously ridicule her in their pomposity by uttering something like:-

"Scientific discovery is a mans world, a female should know her place"

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"How are all the lovely female fabbers tonight?

Think you're missing the point. Female as an adjective rather than female as a noun. "Hi female fabbers" is different from "hi females".

Burned!"

Hardly,I am merely showing the absurdity of first world problems such as being called being castigated as "objectifying" especially when posted on a swingers site,I do think the human female has more to worry about than being called female in a supposedly derogatory way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How are all the lovely female fabbers tonight?

Think you're missing the point. Female as an adjective rather than female as a noun. "Hi female fabbers" is different from "hi females".

Burned!

Hardly,I am merely showing the absurdity of first world problems such as being called being castigated as "objectifying" especially when posted on a swingers site,I do think the human female has more to worry about than being called female in a supposedly derogatory way."

I'm not offended by it, I just think it makes the addresser sound a bit cunty. Not something that overly bothers me.

And yes, you did miss the point, by saying something entirely different to what the thread is actually about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's dehumanising... it's referring to a woman as an animal. Even, as an object.

Theres plenty of women that refering them to a animal would insult the animal. Rose west. M hindley to name 2

It also often indicates when people don't have such a good grasp of how to use English. It's either poor language skills or deliberate dehumanisation - and both of those things are pretty unsexy to me."

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"How are all the lovely female fabbers tonight?

Think you're missing the point. Female as an adjective rather than female as a noun. "Hi female fabbers" is different from "hi females".

Burned!

Hardly,I am merely showing the absurdity of first world problems such as being called being castigated as "objectifying" especially when posted on a swingers site,I do think the human female has more to worry about than being called female in a supposedly derogatory way.

I'm not offended by it, I just think it makes the addresser sound a bit cunty. Not something that overly bothers me.

And yes, you did miss the point, by saying something entirely different to what the thread is actually about. "

read my earlier posts,I guess i got bored by the topic and its whining nature

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Belfast

Pro nouns should be wielded carefully , they can very easily turn into diminutive patriarchal slurs.. That demean and put at ill ease..

It's ignorance in most cases rather than intentional.. Assuming the laat thing any ordinary decent guy wants to do is come across as an insulting misogynist. Unfortunately society is still very centred around stereotypes and gender roles, especially between the sheets when primal behaviours come into play.

Know what you mean though. Xx.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How are all the lovely female fabbers tonight?

Think you're missing the point. Female as an adjective rather than female as a noun. "Hi female fabbers" is different from "hi females".

Burned!

Hardly,I am merely showing the absurdity of first world problems such as being called being castigated as "objectifying" especially when posted on a swingers site,I do think the human female has more to worry about than being called female in a supposedly derogatory way.

I'm not offended by it, I just think it makes the addresser sound a bit cunty. Not something that overly bothers me.

And yes, you did miss the point, by saying something entirely different to what the thread is actually about.

read my earlier posts,I guess i got bored by the topic and its whining nature"

I read a few, I got bored by them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm offended by how easily people take offence. Are people these days really that fragile?"

Some forumites are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some may well be offended - but there's a difference between being offended by something and just disliking it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm offended by how easily people take offence. Are people these days really that fragile?"

This. Can't open your mouth these days with all this butthurt 'gender neutral' bollocks. GET IN THE SEA.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get in the sea is even more annoying than Bill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get in the sea is even more annoying than Bill "

I love it

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